Archive for December 2015


Moment by Moment


Someone wrote…

I know my dad won’t understand if I come out, and I know his opinions on gender seem to stem from a place of fear– but I feel peace.

Step by step, moment by moment I can live, and come out, and perhaps he’ll slowly understand me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Birth Control & Dysphoria


Tove asks…

I’m a non-binary AFAB person with an angry reproductive system. This week I was diagnosed with an ovarian cyst, then referred to a gynecologist who thinks that I’m not responding well to the Nexplanon progestin implant I’ve been using for birth control for the past two years.

Taking the daily pill triggered my dysphoria, and I’m afraid of the side effects of copper IUDs and the Depo Provera injection. I’m in pain right now, but my quality of life has been better overall since moving from the pill to the implant.

Would any period-having folks mind sharing their experiences with birth control? What works best for you? How do you balance reproductive health and mental/emotional health?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on December 5th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Dead-Named


Someone wrote…

Dead-named at work by Microsoft Exchange for over 5 years because they made it too difficult to update.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sara


You can call me… Sara (I would actually prefer something more neutral but it just seems inconvenient to think of atm)

I identify as… Genderqueer. I think.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care. As long as nothing is said disrespectfully

I’m attracted to… Men and women. Usually more attracted to men though, or androgynous women

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect me, and not just see me as a female or something like that. I want people to SEE me. Not just superficially. Of course that’s impossible, everyone judges, myself included, it’s in human nature but yeah. I want people to look beyond gender.

I want people to understand… That I’m a free person.. I’m actually not really sure I care. It all really depends on what person we are talking about. There are some people where I would care, but mostly I’d say I don’t really. I guess it would be nice in general if everyone would be more accepting of each others lifestyle.

About Sara
I feel like I’m applying for a job application. Very nervous about it. And it looks kinda bad. Well hi anyways. I don’t understand how this works.. I’m confusing, sorry.

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Posted by on December 3rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The Holidays


Someone wrote…

I hate the Holidays.

My parents are divorced so I have to split them. They are the only time I see my dad so it’s rough. He doesn’t know I’m bi-gender and pan sexual. He doesn’t know I use the pronouns they/their and I go by JayCee. I couldn’t never tell him or his family. And I have to go.
At least I’m 17, so it’s the last year custody applies to me. So for one day, I dress completely masculine, act like a boy and go by male pronouns. I just treat it as an act. That’s what it is. It is not me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Underwear


Gabriel asks…

Hi there!

I identify and have recently begun to come out as agender. I am male and have trouble picking out underwear. I’m wondering if you have any recommendations for websites or stores that sell more “femmy” or feminine underwear for males? Or maybe something that helps bind your bulge (rather than enunciate it).

Thanks so much!

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on December 1st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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