A Good Gender Day

Someone wrote…

I am neutrois and this is rarely acknowledged by strangers and people in my life. I can’t bind when I’m at home because I am closeted, but the Fall semester just started and I’m back in school!

Today I wore a unisex t-shirt with a sloth on it and floral print jeans. For the first time in months, I put on my best binder because it was finally cool enough to wear it. My hair was tied up in a ponytail and I wore a new beanie. Lipstick is the best thing to happen to my face, so of course I wore my favorite shade.

After months of presenting as female, I look like myself. Today is a good gender day.

I went to a music festival with a friend and classmate named Kevin. He is a very friendly and talented artist who rarely falters on my pronouns. He is aware of my sensory processing problems and was willing to leave early because the concerts got very loud after the sun went down. There was a cool ally guy who supported my queerness and didn’t misgender me. We went out to eat at a nice cafe. I painted a quick painting of a cat I had who passed away this year on a wooden panel and placed it with other beautifully sloppy drawings made by festival attendees. I pet lots of dogs and met a cute pitbull puppy.

Today was a good day, enhanced by the positivity I felt about myself, my body and how kindly I was treated. Everyone deserves days like this.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on October 7th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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