Be There For Me

Someone wrote…

Even though I’ve felt like I am not a man/woman or male/female for years I’ve been very good at burying it deeply. In the last couple years being around a lot more lgbt people has helped me realize that there are others that experience things similarly and that they feel it as strongly as I do. I’m not alone in that! So, how I see myself isn’t crazy even though it often feels like it doesn’t make sense that has more to do with my culture than me.

A few months ago I shared with my life partner that I don’t identify as a woman or man. Even though it was super awkward and embarrassing for me he was kind. I was really iffy on whether or not I wanted to use different pronouns and when I decided I did he was enthusiastically ready to make a change. He even discussed it with our roommate which made it a lot easier on me.

Now that I have someone in my life who is helping me so much in that arena I don’t feel nearly so bad about my gender and preference for they-pronouns. I’m not ready to talk about all of it but I know that when I am he’ll be there for me and it means the world to me. Now, despite moving to a more conservative part of the country I am more secure in my identity.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on September 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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