Chie wrote…

Recently, I was forced into a four-month stretch without internet. so I used it to do something I’d been doing off and on for the past two years: question my gender, without dismissing the topic in frustration.

And even though I’ve found answers, I feel alone and frustrated, because I don’t know where I fit in; what label suits my non-binary gender. the closest are agender and neutrois, but they’re just wrong.

I feel like I’m staring in at them through a window, those who’ve found their community and like-gendered people, and I’m out here, on the streets, an outcast with no rad people to get sodas with or w/e. it’s very frustrating, and it seems like the internet really has no good resources for helping me to any further understanding.

I just wish I felt like I belonged somewhere.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on March 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Belonging”

  1. XylophoneGender

    Chie, it’s great to have you here! Searching for something that rings true to you can be very painful and isolating at times. There’s no magical shortcut, but you are definitely not alone in that search or in feeling like an outsider. Genderfork is here for you, regardless. And when in doubt, you can always coin your own term :) Language was made to be stretched by those it doesn’t serve:


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