I don’t understand my gender, but I don’t want to change

Someone wrote…

Age and gender are things that are ever on my mind. I appear to most people as a high school boy, and I’m about 10 years past that point. I pass as male most of the time, but there are those occasions 30% of the time where people read me as a really butch lesbian.

I realized that I don’t want to transition. I like my body, and I don’t want to change my voice. It does cross my mind sometimes because I don’t like being misgendered, and every so often, I do wish I had the physical traits of a man, but that changes day to day.

If I were to transition, I feel like it would be only to make it easier on others to read my gender correctly. It would be to make it so there was no ambiguity in my appearance. This doesn’t feel like the right reason to transition. I would resent the permanent changes in my body. This means I have to “come out” often as trans by requesting the correct pronouns and explaining my gender. I don’t mind it most of the time, but sometimes it can get tiring.

All in all I’m me, and sometimes even I don’t understand my gender, but I don’t want to change. :)

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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