I’m Just a Person to Myself

Someone wrote…

I’m just a person to myself, but other people see me as female. When that happens enough I start feeling like I’m trapped in that box of what other people think being female is, and I start feeling icky all over.

I don’t think *being* female is icky, at all! But it’s not a thing that works for me, and I wish I could ask for it to stop happening, but I’m honestly not sure that most people are able to respond to other people without perceiving/assuming gender.

I would really like for people to not assume either that I’m female or that I’m all the things that are expected to go along with being female. Gender feels like an external thing that’s placed on me without my consent.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on May 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “I’m Just a Person to Myself”

  1. Eevee

    Thanks for putting it into words! ^^’

    This sums up a lot of my adolescence for me, before I knew about the term “genderqueer” and the spectrum that goes with it. I am really happy to see stuff like this.


  2. Anonymous

    All of this. Especially the last sentence. Thank you, it’s always encouraging to know that there are more of us out there :)


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