It’s Wearing me Down

Someone wrote…

I know that gender and having gender gives comfort and a sense of identity to a lot of people, but to be honest, it’s wearing me down to present myself as something I am not.

My identity is is something that most people have never even heard of. I am a joke to them. And unfortunately, that means that I do not exist. The queer community is the only place where I am welcomed, yet even in the community, many are ignorant and even say trans*/NB phobic things without realizing it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “It’s Wearing me Down”

  1. Adryrn
    June 6th, 2015 at 4:02 pm |

    I hear you on not existing o__o. I don’t even have to present any specific way for people to read me as something I’m not, and that’s bad enough. Actually presenting as something I’m not on purpose would be incredibly tiresome o__o. It seems like you have a pretty balanced understanding of how gender (as a social construct) affects different people in spite of your negative experiences with the gender binary, though, so that’s something to be proud of. Hang in there =].

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