Last Year of School

Someone wrote…

I kind of want to try and do my last year of school as openly agender, but I’m not sure people would understand if I did. I wish I could, but I don’t know if I’d be safe doing that. Forcing myself to present as female is really stressful for me but the people I’m going to school with are really… not nice.

Considering what happens to the only other openly trans person at my school, I don’t think I’d be able to cope with their actions…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 30th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Last Year of School”

  1. Wrak

    hi there :) it’s cool you want to be out to your people! Identity is a big deal, and it’s important (for many people) to have others around who how how you identify even if they don’t understand it. It’s great to do what you feel is a good next step. It’s also extremely important to put safety first. If being out to your schoolmates means your physical AND/OR emotional safety may be directly compromised because of harassment, bullying, etc, that’s a serious consideration you’ve got to make. There are definite costs and benefits to each option, and you have to think about what you think you would be able to cope with in terms of backlash. There are also other options, like branching out to more than your immediate friends but not the entire school, or bringing up issues of gender in conversation or in classes, to show that you are at least an ally, before solidly stating your identity to the school. I wish you luck!


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