Laying Claims

Someone wrote…

I’ve claimed so many things over the years…bi girl, bi androgynous girl, androgynous lesbian, straight transman, bi transman, pansexual androgynous transman….and every time I claim something I feel like I have to erase the rest or else I’m being phony or something. Everybody already thinks I’m confused. Now I’m confused and feel like I shouldn’t be. I don’t even know anymore. If I am how I was born, then why can’t I just be that? I have no idea what to do or think…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on May 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Laying Claims”

  1. anta

    If you’ve been being true to yourself over your life and all the various stages you’ve gone through, and even if you haven’t, those are all a part of you and embracing them does not make you phony, quit the opposite, I should say.

    I’ve laid some claims over the years, too, and while some were more accurate than others, I feel that those are all a part of my story. People who tell me that I can’t be X now because I before said I was Y, are missing the point because I’ve been Z all along and the other labels were just me trying to get my voice out there to tell people I wasn’t A, B or C.

    I wish we could all just be whatever we are, no pressure.


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