New to me

Someone wrote…

All of this is new to me and I’m completely overwhelmed. I’m gender fluid, but I am physically a male. I have a definite feminine side that I was to bring out more, but I have no idea where to start. I don’t know anyone like me nor have I ever met anyone like me. Part of me is scared and part of me wishes I knew what the hell to do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 4 comments »

4 Responses to “New to me”

  1. Chris

    Start with little things that make you happy.

    My therapist suggested earrings – they’re not necessarily overtly feminine so there’s the plausible deniability too. if you need that.

    p.s. – Nail polish is fun too. Once you start getting more comfortable.

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  2. Riley Alexandr

    I know exactly how you feel, but in the opposite direction (genderfluid, born female). I have absolutely no good advice regarding fashion, but I have one thing that might help with “the bad days.”

    Draw a picture of yourself where you look a bit feminine. Even if you can’t even draw a stick figure, artistically presenting yourself as a stick figure with a skirt helps a lot. It helped for me!

    Good luck, friendo!

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  3. Anonymous

    I try to go one small step at a time. And not to make anything more complicated than it needs to be.

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  4. bi-genderific

    Get a good bra, stuff it (socks work alright) and wear it when you’re going to bed. I don’t know what your living situation is like but because I live with my parents, and only one of them is wise to my goings-ons (I identify as bigender and am usually male but man do I enjoy being a girl when I have the time!) I still have to be secretive about my gender identity. It can be scary but after you start embracing it you feel so much better. Best of luck friend :)

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