Profile: Alan
You can call me… Alan
I identify as… an ‘out, loud & proud’ gay man for most of my adult life, though I’m more comfortable calling myself a butch queen and thinking of myself as genderfluid.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male or female pronouns are welcome, as are ‘they, their, them’. Sometimes, according to mood or situation, i’ll prefer one set over another but I don’t get offended at others’ usage of any of them unless they’re using them derisively.
I’m attracted to… butch gay men & transmen almost exclusively; but in the remote past i’ve occasionally been attracted to butch or strongly assertive women.
When people talk about me, I want them to… be kind and realize that i’m a work in progress, often confused, but trying hard to be my authentic self.
I want people to understand… that although i currently tend to present as more masculine than feminine it’s almost entirely due to choosing to suppress my effeminacy because of a few years of peer abuse that started when i was eleven. At 52, i’m only now just starting to express my genderfluidity without crippling fear & shame.
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December 31st, 2015 at 3:21 pm |
Thanks for sharing your profile with us, Alan!
I’m sending you love, hugs, glitter, dancing, and compassion, from one femme-y gay man to another. Take care of yourself, you’re a beautiful human being.
Radical self-love,
radical/rebel
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