Profile: Alan

You can call me… Alan

I identify as… an ‘out, loud & proud’ gay man for most of my adult life, though I’m more comfortable calling myself a butch queen and thinking of myself as genderfluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male or female pronouns are welcome, as are ‘they, their, them’. Sometimes, according to mood or situation, i’ll prefer one set over another but I don’t get offended at others’ usage of any of them unless they’re using them derisively.

I’m attracted to… butch gay men & transmen almost exclusively; but in the remote past i’ve occasionally been attracted to butch or strongly assertive women.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be kind and realize that i’m a work in progress, often confused, but trying hard to be my authentic self.

I want people to understand… that although i currently tend to present as more masculine than feminine it’s almost entirely due to choosing to suppress my effeminacy because of a few years of peer abuse that started when i was eleven. At 52, i’m only now just starting to express my genderfluidity without crippling fear & shame.

About Alan

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Posted by on December 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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One Response to “Profile: Alan”

  1. radical/rebel

    Thanks for sharing your profile with us, Alan!

    I’m sending you love, hugs, glitter, dancing, and compassion, from one femme-y gay man to another. Take care of yourself, you’re a beautiful human being.

    Radical self-love,


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