Pronoun Limitation

Someone wrote…

Pronouns are hard. You can say you don’t have a preference. You can say you prefer some but not all. But the one thing you can’t do is say, “Any pronouns are fine, but please use different ones every now and again. Please change it up.” I guess people feel awkward with that. Like they’ve got a limit, like ‘refill account by using he/him’. Or they feel pressured to call me what I look like, which is mostly feminine, and therefore they use she/her. I can’t quite call it misgendering, but it still feels that way. It’s more like limitation. Pronoun limitation. Maybe that’s what we can call it – Pronoun Limitation! That’s it!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on October 13th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Pronoun Limitation”

  1. Ravyn

    I wonder sometimes if alternating pronouns could be a thing. Don’t make people keep track of where they left off, but while they’re talking to & about you in one conversation, try to alternate him/her/him/her or at least mix them up a bit. I’ve tried writing stories that way (also changing the spelling of the character’s name every time it’s used), but it’s hard.


  2. Sophie

    Very well said.


  3. Luke

    Same. I’m trying out at the moment using he/her and she/his.


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