Question: Coming Out… again

Matthew/Melisa asks…

So, back in July of 2015 I came out to my mom. She’s the first person in my family I’ve told that I was gender-fluid. I kinda bungled the explanation, and asked her not to tell anyone else. But, as of now, it’s been almost 3 months, and she hasn’t said a word to me about it. The house is emptying, since my sister went to college and my brothers moved out. I want to bring it up again, because now that the house is empty I can crossdress, at least around the house, without fear of consequence, but my clothing options are limited to what my sister has left behind and what my trans friend has that fits me. My mom said she would support me, so is there any way for me to bring up being Gender-Fluid again without shoving it in her face? Or should I just wait another year before I go off to college?

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Posted by on November 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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2 Responses to “Question: Coming Out… again”

  1. Leonie

    Maybe just start mixing your ‘normal’ clothes with the ones from your sister and trans*friend, go for a slightly androgynous look and try carefully making your mom get used to it. Get a feel for her reactions.

    You can do it carefully, but I don’t believe in ‘waiting’. ;) It’s your life after all and you shouldn’t hold back too much as long as you don’t need to be afraid to lose the roof over your head.


  2. Joel

    I say if she’s said she supports you, mention wanting to go to the mall and getting something new that fits a bit better. You don’t have to say “So ya know how I’m gender fluid…? Well, I was thinking (blah blah blah blah).” You don’t have to make it about gender. Just getting new clothes. And if money is tight, you can go small. I’m sure between Christmas and it being winter (Assuming you live somewhere with seasons), finding a cute summer dress for 12 bucks wont be hard. Or if you really want, You ARE 17. Finding your own way to get new stuff is totally up to you. If she said she supports you, and you want to cross dress in the house, just do it. If she asks, well, you can adDRESS that bridge when ya get there. (Haha I am so funny).

    Sincerely yours, Joel


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