Question: If I’m a demigirl am I still a woman?

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I’ve basically just begun my journey of seriously exploring my gender identity and trying to figure who I really am. I’m dfab and I’ve always identified with being a girl/woman, but I guess being just a woman always felt like it was an incomplete definition, like I always felt some kind of otherness in my gender too that was separate?

The label demigirl seems to mesh with a lot of what I’m feeling, but I’m just confused because because I’m trying to acknowledge the part of myself I haven’t before, without denying the part of me that identifies with womanhood.

Has anyone else struggled with this?

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Posted by on July 1st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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4 Responses to “Question: If I’m a demigirl am I still a woman?”

  1. Riley Alexandr

    YES. YES! 100% ME. I feel that feel so hard. Like, I’m personally genderfluid, but I think demigirl basically covers it too.. But I still feel dysphoric from time to time…

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  2. Alicia

    Wow, YES. Lately I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I usually feel female and I usually like feeling female, but sometimes I don’t identify with it as my whole gender… and it REALLY bothers me when people put a lot of focus on it! I guess that’s when it kinda pooped up again was when I noticed that.
    It’s confusing trying to break away from the binary mindset.

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  3. Charlie22

    I would describe myself as non-binary although I’m also questioning a lot and I find this rather relatable. I think the sticking point for me is the cultural expectations placed on me have shaped me to a certain degree. I mean that I’ve always been seen by others as a girl/woman so a lot of the things I experience are through the lens of presumed woman hood. It does make me question whether I still have a place in lesbian/bisexual spaces and if so what the nature of that space is. There’s a lot of similarity in experience or the kinds of resources I look for but just with the addition of “should I actually be here?”. So far, my best guess is that it’s ok to an extent.

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    Anonymous replied:

    I’m going through the same struggle. Sometimes I feel extremely detached from my assigned female identity (and dysphoric about my body) but sometimes I don’t think about it and I feel fine with being called a girl. Demigirl genderflux feels right, but I’m afraid that if I came out to people they’d just think I was a “special snowflake” who wants attention.

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