Question: If I’m a demigirl am I still a woman?
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I’ve basically just begun my journey of seriously exploring my gender identity and trying to figure who I really am. I’m dfab and I’ve always identified with being a girl/woman, but I guess being just a woman always felt like it was an incomplete definition, like I always felt some kind of otherness in my gender too that was separate?
The label demigirl seems to mesh with a lot of what I’m feeling, but I’m just confused because because I’m trying to acknowledge the part of myself I haven’t before, without denying the part of me that identifies with womanhood.
Has anyone else struggled with this?
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July 1st, 2015 at 6:39 pm |
YES. YES! 100% ME. I feel that feel so hard. Like, I’m personally genderfluid, but I think demigirl basically covers it too.. But I still feel dysphoric from time to time…
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August 24th, 2015 at 2:25 am |
Wow, YES. Lately I’ve been thinking about this a lot. I usually feel female and I usually like feeling female, but sometimes I don’t identify with it as my whole gender… and it REALLY bothers me when people put a lot of focus on it! I guess that’s when it kinda pooped up again was when I noticed that.
It’s confusing trying to break away from the binary mindset.
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August 31st, 2015 at 9:14 am |
I would describe myself as non-binary although I’m also questioning a lot and I find this rather relatable. I think the sticking point for me is the cultural expectations placed on me have shaped me to a certain degree. I mean that I’ve always been seen by others as a girl/woman so a lot of the things I experience are through the lens of presumed woman hood. It does make me question whether I still have a place in lesbian/bisexual spaces and if so what the nature of that space is. There’s a lot of similarity in experience or the kinds of resources I look for but just with the addition of “should I actually be here?”. So far, my best guess is that it’s ok to an extent.
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Anonymous replied:
December 3rd, 2017 at 2:09 pm
I’m going through the same struggle. Sometimes I feel extremely detached from my assigned female identity (and dysphoric about my body) but sometimes I don’t think about it and I feel fine with being called a girl. Demigirl genderflux feels right, but I’m afraid that if I came out to people they’d just think I was a “special snowflake” who wants attention.
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December 29th, 2017 at 7:54 pm |
This is exactly how I feel! I have a nice wardrobe for a girl courtesy of my mom, but some days I just feel gross in those things, like I’m a Barbie doll whose curves are all wrong. Other days I’m confident in a crop top. I feel like I”m definitely female, but it’s not my whole story, y’know? I just found a new label.
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Anonymous replied:
June 10th, 2018 at 8:47 pm
Me too. I feel like some days I’m just incredibly girly, crop top, short shorts, but then other days I’m like “excuse me I just want jeans and flannels”. I’m also subconsciously changing my appearance to make myself less female, for example I’m about to cut off all my long hair. I identify as polysexual which means I like more than one gender, in my case all genders except male, so I don’t really have to modify my sexuality label but I’ve always felt so weird as a girl. Like I’m fine we she/her but sometimes I just wish I was nb if that makes sense. I feel like I am a demigirl, like I fit into that mound but will people think I’m just trying to be a “special snowflake”, and what pronouns should I use? My friends at school, even though some of them are lgbt, keep saying there are only 4 genders, male, female, non-binary and agender. I argued with them about this for a while but according to them the “other genders” are just attention seekers, so if demigirl fits, they’ll probably hate me forever, so I can’t exactly come out…
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Anonymous replied:
June 18th, 2018 at 4:51 am
Hi I’m the same person who wrote the last comment uhhh so I came out as demigirl to my friends and most of them hate me now.. :/ they said I’m just attention seeking and that it’s not a real gender and that sucks but yeah just an update
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Liam Dunn replied:
July 2nd, 2018 at 3:05 am
If your friends can’t respect you because of who you are than you deserve better friends. I’m gender fluid and some people hate me because of it. But I don’t get down because of it and neither should you because of what you are
July 2nd, 2018 at 3:08 am |
If anyone needs someone to talk to than I’m always listening and glad to give advice
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June 28th, 2019 at 11:17 am |
How do I tell my friends that I’m demigirl? I’ve just always hated dressing up and wearing makeup. When I was little, I didn’t mind so much, but now I absolutely hate it! I wear men’s clothing sometime when I have to dress up because I hate wearing dresses. But How do I let my friends know about this without making them think I’m just trans?
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March 12th, 2020 at 8:52 am |
Really helpful! I am questioning my gender, and my freind (she has been helping me understand all this LGBTQ+ stuff that I didn’t really know about before) suggested that I might be a demigirl after I said that I feel like Janet from the good place, who I guess is non-binary, but I still kinda feel like a girl, but at the same time not. Thank you.
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