Question: Who Said My Name? (Nobody Yet)

Riley Aiden Alexandr asks…

Ok so I’ll be starting my junior year of high school in the fall. I’m genderfluid and I’ve figured out my preferred name – so happy! – but I need advice on dealing with people.

How do I ask people to call me Riley if they’ve known me as Sarah for two years already?

Also, is there a way for me to ask teachers to call me Riley, without them mentioning it to my parents? I don’t want my parents to know; they don’t even believe in genderfluidity.

And any advice on coming out to my boyfriend would also be appreciated.

Hugs, kisses, and pronouns! xx Riley

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Posted by on December 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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One Response to “Question: Who Said My Name? (Nobody Yet)”

  1. Anonymous

    I don’t know how to answer the first questions, because I’ve never dealt with that before, but I suggest, if dealing with people who ask otherwise about your name, just casually explain it’s your nickname, because, though it’s not the truth, it’s not a lie, either. Like,

    Them: “Hi, Sarah,”

    You: “Hi, but call me Riley.”

    Them: “Why?”

    You: “Oh, it’s just a nickname that I prefer.”

    And for the boyfriend part, I guess my only advice is: break it to him when YOU are most comfortable — your gender is not his nor anyone else’s business to dig into — and just go with the flow. In a nutshell; if he reacts negatively and/or does not easily accept you, I don’t think he’s worth your time. If you think otherwise, just let him adjust and see where it goes.

    Hope this helps :)


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