Silent Reassurance

Someone wrote…

I’m genderfluid, born female, and I have very bad luck. Once, for the entire week of having my period, I identified as male. I cried almost every night, just out of sheer frustration and dysphoria, and I had to remind myself that men can have vaginas, too.

“Besides,” I silently reassured myself, “One thing about periods is that they temporarily boost your levels of testosterone, so technically I’m even MORE of a man.”

It helped. A little. But the dysphoria didn’t vanish for quite some time…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on June 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Silent Reassurance”

  1. Anonymous

    Something Tumblr gave me that has saved my life figuratively and literally:

    from NoGlitterInTheGutter
    Note to men on their periods:
    You are still a man. In fact, you are the manliest of men. Do you know how few dudes there are in the world who could even deal with all the shit involved in menstruation?? You are a studly, ass-kicking, chocolate-murdering motherfucking M A N because people with periods are fucking badass and don’t forget that shit!!!


  2. Riley Alexandr

    *checks the list of ingredients on this post* 100% HELL YEAH


  3. Anonymous

    This is a really old post but as soon as I saw it I had to reply. I always feel more masculine during my period and my dysphoria always gets so much worse. I usually end up wearing a sweatshirt every day of the week and this one pair of baggy-ish pants for a lot of the week too. I will come home at the end of the day and just cry. I am so glad that there’s other people I can relate to on here.


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