There are People out There

Someone wrote…

My family doesn’t harass me about my gender. They use my obscure pronouns. They defend my new name with old friends. And yet, I can’t *bring up* gender. If I ask them to say “your old name” instead of the name itself, or if I want protein shakes or dude’s deodorant, they just scoff. They act like my gender is stupid. They act like my whole entire identity is *just* a hair style, some clothes, and a bunch of words.

Every time this happens, I have literally no one to tell. I feel alone and sad and illegitimate. And I wanted to say to anyone who might be feeling anything like this that your identity is legitimate and important. You choices and your needs and your desires and your everything else is completely valid and super. And I hope you’re able to know that there ARE people out there to tell and to cry with and to comfort and be comforted by, and that I really hope you find them because they’re out there looking for you too.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 9th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “There are People out There”

  1. Able

    I can totally identify with your situation. My family doesn’t talk about my gender. When I bring it up, it seems like they’re zoning out. When I try to discuss my identity with my Dad, he gets irritable and dismissive. They have, however, come to terms with the fact that I will probably never again willingly don feminine clothing unless I’m in drag. It was definitely a process though. Time really helped.

    I think the last half of your message is very sweet and encouraging. We are not terminally unique. There is someone out there willing and eager to listen!


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