To be Able to Talk

Someone wrote…

I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.

It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on February 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “To be Able to Talk”

  1. Q

    I can really relate to this. It took me a long time to figure out that an androgynous/masculine presentation isn’t a necessary component for a genderless identity. I’m femme presenting and agender, and it’s sad that that part of the community isn’t shown or talked about much.


  2. J

    Preach! I agree 100%. It took me years to figure out how to pass as female. Do I have to wait another decade to figure out how to look like me?

    Poster above is right, though. You are what you are.


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