To be Able to Talk
Someone wrote…
I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.
It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.
What’s your experience?
Category: your voice 2 comments »
February 24th, 2015 at 2:43 pm |
I can really relate to this. It took me a long time to figure out that an androgynous/masculine presentation isn’t a necessary component for a genderless identity. I’m femme presenting and agender, and it’s sad that that part of the community isn’t shown or talked about much.
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March 24th, 2015 at 11:58 am |
Preach! I agree 100%. It took me years to figure out how to pass as female. Do I have to wait another decade to figure out how to look like me?
Poster above is right, though. You are what you are.
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