Archive for January 2016


Someone wrote…

I go to a school so small that everyone can come to prom. Otherwise there would only be about 12 kids there. So with talk of prom starting to surface, i have realized a PROMblem. (Haha. Puns) What to wear? There is no way I will be able to predict if i’ll feel masculine or feminine or neither or both in advance. Gender fluidity doesn’t exactly fit a schedule. O.o

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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John, I’m Only Dancing

John, I’m Only Dancing,” in memory of David Bowie. Bowie was probably known for exploring gender expression and identity as much as for his art and music.

Posted by on January 12th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Someone wrote…

My gender timeline in years:
11: tomboy
12: girl
13: IM A MAN
14: agender………?
15: fluid, flustered, fabricated, fabulous, flouncy, feminine-but-never-ever-femine!!!!
16: agender. please don’t mess up my pronouns…
17: agender. but don’t worry if you mess up it’s okay. BUT DONT CALL ME A GIRL
18: I don’t care. BUT DONT CALL ME A GIRL
19: wait that sign said mens? oops I forgot I have a sex… lol thats awkward

My gender timeline in terms of dysphoria:
11: eeew sex O.o
12: hmm thats kind of cool actually :?
13: what the fu/ck is going on :(
14: wow boobs are gross :/
16: get me out of this whole body!!!!! D’:
18: i don’t care. it sucks, but too bad. but it SUCKS SO MUCH it’s killing me. oh well. :(
19: whoa this new chest is great amazing for a tattoo.

You all are cool people – remember you don’t have to know what will happen tomorrow <3

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 11th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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at my receptionist job

You can call me… at my receptionist job

I identify as… agender, gender queer, and angry.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I wish they weren’t gendered because even a gender-neutral term seems to reference a gendered one.

I’m attracted to… fervent and dark senses of humor, people who are uber consensual and not weird about it, people with hard shells and sweet, intelligent inards, strangeness, unconditional understanding. Lately more attracted to my future than to anyone sexually.

When people talk about me, I want them to… practice understanding of the complexity of me, just as they should consider and respect the complexity of everyone.

I want people to understand… That if you use gender to decide how to treat someone, you very likely are being conscending or disrespectful of someone.

About at my receptionist job
After almost 3 decades of feeling like an alien, I recently realized that people in general have their struggles, too. I grew up without much guidance, like many of us do, and have been trying to put myself in positions where I’ll be forced to learn.

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Posted by on January 10th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Need to Tell Them But I Don’t Know How

Someone wrote…

I’m 21, female wanting to be a male.

I fall asleep and wake up thinking the same thing everyday, that I hate myself for who I am, for the body I didn’t choose.

I’m afraid to tell anyone, no one knows. My beautiful girlfriend, worries about me. And so does my family. But I still can’t bring myself to tell them

I see a man and I envy them. All I have ever wanted is to be one, I was given the wrong body.

I feel so alone in this world, I need to tell them. But I don’t know how, my life needs to change.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 9th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Reposted from The unfeminine aesthetic. (via Beastly Bastard.)

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Posted by on January 8th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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A Place in the Middle

a place in the middle

This short documentary also comes with a classroom discussion guide “to help students appreciate the value of inclusion, the strengths they inherit from their cultural heritage, and their own power to create a school climate of aloha—love, honor and respect for all. Based on the true story of a young Hawaiian girl who dreams of leading her school’s all-male hula troupe, and a transgender teacher who empowers her through traditional culture.”

Posted by on January 8th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Innermost Feelings

Someone wrote…

I consider myself to be a rather androgynous person, most of the time, even though I’m “male” “down there”…with some periods of feeling very feminine sprinkled in between. It was very confusing for me all my life (I’m now 64y.o.) growing up never feeling like I really fit into either end of the gender spectrum.

My given name is Christopher, which I love, but when I’m feeling very feminine it doesn’t really “fit” that feeling….I’m out to most of my family and friends as being bi sexual, but only out to a couple of people as being gender fluid. I think it doesn’t matter what age you are discovering yourself, it’s difficult telling people about your innermost feelings.

I’d just like to say to everyone out there that seems to be struggling in some way with their gender identity that, I think you’re ALL the most courageous people!!!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Androgynous CIS?

Shortstack asks…

So I have a strong wanting to be androgynous. But like I don’t want cosmetic surgery or anything like that. I just like the idea of wearing male clothing, but I can’t really try that because of my mom and the money. I’m female, and I’m happy being female, but I still want to look male sometimes…I don’t like feel male, I always feel femme and I’m perfectly fine with that. I just don’t know what I am if I’m happy being a female and identifying cis, but yet still wanting to possibly look and dress like a male? My sexuality isn’t in question, but I guess my gender? I just don’t know and am very confused as to what I classify as. Androgynous Cis girl???

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on January 6th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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An Act of Revolution

Submitted by Vita E, the model and photographer.

“This was a photo I took for a selfie campaign from the Trans Youth Council. We were prompted to take a selfie, list our pronouns, name, and what gender means to us. I decided to do a haiku.

“Gender is to me,
An act of revolution,
Simply cause I live.””

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Posted by on January 5th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Grace and Beauty

Someone wrote…

Each morning (when I catch the right time) I can watch the sky above me Change from black to blue to pink and orange….and to a lighter shade of blue again.

Nobody dare to tell me that it is not natural to transition and that I am ugly when the whole planet is doing it in such grace and beauty every day!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 5th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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