Living in a Cage, or Living in Pain

Someone wrote…

Should I?

Who should I tell? Should I tell anyone?

If I tell them, I’ll be able to live the way I want. I won’t have to hide anymore. I could just be who I am and open up this bonds I’m trapped in. I will be free to express myself, to be me. But telling them would just mean I would have more room to move, there is no guarantee everyone will understand. Some people will hate me for who I am. I will either be seen as something people should cherish, or should throw away. Not someone, something. The cage will just get bigger, it would not go away.

If I don’t tell them, I could just carry out my life in a cage. I’ll be able to live a life, but the cage would always be there. It would follow me around, becoming chains. Becoming tighter with each passing second until the pain becomes unbearable. I will be seen as normal, but I would be the one hurting myself. I would resent myself for not escaping when I had the key.

Tell me, which is better? Living in cage, or living in pain.

Tell me, should I?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on March 1st, 2016 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Living in a Cage, or Living in Pain”

  1. Jordan

    Just a thought but…you don’t have to decide right now. Living in a way that’s true to yourself and your values doesn’t look the exact same every year, day, or even minute. And if you don’t want to tell people about yourself today (maybe you’re still figuring it out yourself? Maybe you’ll always be figuring it out! Nothing wrong with that!), you don’t lose the chance. I got the first inkling that something was “different” about me when I was maybe …14? But I didn’t say a thing to anyone until I was maybe 26 (I’m 32 now and still very much figuring it out!). I don’t feel like I missed my chance. I was just waiting for the right time…when it became my truth undeniably. As Anaïs Nin says: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” That was when I was ready…maybe you will be sooner. But only you know that. And as long as you breathe, it’s never too late.


  2. Jo

    You’re right, there is pain, and my cage has only gotten bigger, but at least I have room to move, if only a little, now


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