Question: questioning gender

Sarah asks…

I’m new to this whole thing.. The other day I started to question my gender.

There’s been times when I thought I wish I could grow a beard. Especially when I was younger. That’s all I wanted was to pee standing up, grow a beard, and be able to shave my face like my dad.

I went out in full boy’s clothes binder and all the other day. I didn’t feel better or worse. I do plan on doing it again next time I leave the house just to keep on getting a feel for it.

I’m just trying to figure out where I belong. I remembered how happy I was when I first came out as pansexual, and I want to find that sense of fulfillment again and figure out where I stand gender wise. Part of me loves being feminine and wearing dresses, but I’ve always felt comfortable in guy’s clothes as well. I don’t know if that’s just because they tend to hide more of my insecurities, or if there’s more to it. I’ve never liked being called by my name either. Like my name is something you’d call me only if I did something bad.

I would really appreciate it if someone could help me find where I belong..


Posted by on March 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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One Response to “Question: questioning gender”

  1. Anonymous

    I can’t label you, but I think that you should just try to find an identity that fits. Just look through some and try to see what clicks at the moment.

    And even if you can’t find a suitable one, you can just go with the flow. Labels aren’t really nesseccary, anyway. I think if you feel like wearing a dress, then wear a dress, no matter the biological sex. I hope this helps a bit (and sorry if it sounds like I’m just beating around the bush).

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