Long before “that” existed…

Someone wrote…

I am 54 and non-binary long before “that” existed. I tried to fit in the TV and/or the TS world when I was younger but was just as alone there as I am now. I’m scared to continue and to lose the life I have now as a rural, red state, grandparent with a spouse I love.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 21st, 2017 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice One comment »

One Response to “Long before “that” existed…”

  1. David

    I think there must be thousands of people who feel the way you do. Although you didn’t directly say so, I’m guessing that your gender presentation (to the world) is masculine, but inside you feel more mixed. At the same time, you don’t feel alienated from mainstream society, so being part of a “fringe” group is not appealing. (Hopefully I got that right). And you already mentioned lots of things that are important to you, that you don’t want to lose.

    Unfortunately, girlish boys living in the United States face major social obstacles whether we are 4, 14, or 54. Some of us have settled on “boy on the outside, girl on the inside” as a compromise between social acceptance and the way we really want to present ourselves. That can apply to clothing, and also to attitudes and everyday actions, like being kinder, gentler, and more polite than the average guy.

    No matter what our age, we can let our feminine side shine through by listening and helping more than any ordinary guy would. And though we might not wear skirts and dresses, maybe we can be a little more colorful than the average dude.

    As for politics, I also live in a “red state”, but there are still lots of people here who think there’s more to life than bourbon and bowhunting. Spending time with forward-thinking, positive people has made quite a difference for me. The “open and accepting” churches are one place they hang out and dream up good works.


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