Profile: Ian

You can call me… Ian

I identify as… a heathen, a metalhead, and brainweird. Gender-wise, the most concise words I can put to is is non-binary femme man. My gender feels like waking up ten minutes before the alarm goes off and drifting in and out of peaceful relaxation before getting up and starting your day as well as the weird, heart-dropping feeling when you climb stairs in the dark and there’s one less step than you thought there was and your foot just… falls.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer xe/xem/xyr, but he/him/his is just fine too

I’m attracted to… kindness and curiosity. I tend to prefer people who are at least a little androgynous or willing to play with their presentation, but that might be because they feel safer than the alternative.

When people talk about me, I want them to… engage in good faith. It’s OK to make mistakes, it’s OK to not like me, and it’s OK to not understand who or what I am. What’s not OK is to assume that my gender is related to my mental health or infer that I’m making this up or doing it for attention.

I want people to understand… that just because you read me as a woman and I’m not interested in transitioning physically, it doesn’t make me any less of a man. You don’t have to understand me to accept me.

About Ian
A baby academic, I am currently unemployed and crying in Texas. I am scared of everything and, unfortunately, very little is scared of me. Very interested in promoting human rights, which shouldn’t be a polarizing thing, but, in this day and age, is.
I’ve got punk politics, goth sensibilities, and metal everything else. (kvlt is a subtype of femme and those who disagree can fight me).
All of my mistakes are developmentally appropriate.

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Posted by on October 11th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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One Response to “Profile: Ian”

  1. Zeke P. King

    I like your lil homeslice of self revelation on genderfork
    Would you consent to be my pen pal, perhaps
    It would be really cool-xciting for me to have someone s far away and yet so close (in some experiences of self? -perhaps, gender?) to bounce minds with
    I am 32 and 5 months. I have lived a lot, you get me …and much struggle
    The reveal of your academic aspirations and fears was what probably made me reach out like this
    Also it’s xmas ?????? and i know a new correspondence would cheer me (not to say I am (or ain’t) Christian but, I mean,dark times in the sense of earth tilt and cold as well as the apparent lurching towards fascism that has me periodically scared shitless along with my personal melee of fear, and all that

    If your interested, as well as the address above
    Happy Winter!?????? wishing you happiness as well as peace and rest, and safety


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