You can call me… Maddy

I identify as… Queer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer the neutral ones but I get ’she’ and ‘her’. If I’m actually listening I’ll feel weird about it but I can mostly tune it out. I wouldn’t mind ‘he’ or ‘him’ either but often when people call me those or ask whether I’m a boy or a girl they’re just trying to be hurtful. Hmm if they only knew…

I’m attracted to… Strong women or people, androgyne, intelligence, wit, awkwardness, shyness, activism, cute smiles. I know someone who I know I could tell anything about myself and they wouldn’t think I was weird, that’s attractive!

When people talk about me, I want them to… not make up things. I’m from a small town… Rumours can get pretty crazy.

I want people to understand… their fellow human beings. Understand that everyone is different and that’s a wonderful thing! Understand that their words and actions can be very hurtful to someone’s heart parts :)

About Maddy
I’m an Australian, living temporarily in Canada with not much of a clue of what I want to do with my life. I really like this site! :)

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You can call me… Alicanto.

I identify as… a female-born boy that feels genderqueer and wants to look like a crossdresser. I feel close to gay men. If I wear a skirt I’m not a girl, I’m a boy wearing a skirt. People doesn’t usually understand it…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like to play with them. They are all wrong. I don’t like people to think that it is obvious that I am a she. Couldn’t even stand the opposite.

I’m attracted to… gay men. Feminine men. Queer boys. And my hyperfeminine girlfriend.

When people talk about me, I want them to… stop considering themselves therapists and stop considering me a girl that wants to be a boy. It’s the opposite.

I want people to understand… I am not a genderqueer girl less than a genderqueer boy. And sometimes I’m only genderqueer.

About Alicanto
I was born as a girl. I suppose that when it was time to take a decision and I was just a small fetus, I crossed the box “female” because I am very effeminate. But now I realise that I am an effeminate person, not an effeminate girl. So I can’t stand anymore to be considered a girl. And maybe I’ll go on T.

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You can call me… Em

I identify as… a human being, minus a gender. I am not male, I am not female. I’m neither, yet not both. I would rather have a flat chest and more muscle, but my vagina can stay.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Anything! Go for it. Surprise me. Pronouns are silly to get hung up over, in my opinion. Call me as you see it.

I’m attracted to… Other non-gendered people. Preferably those with female nether-regions, but only for sexual reasons. I’m more attracted to humor and compassion.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Relax. I am not easily offended. If you think of me as male, go for it. Female? Sure. I know how I’m comfortable, and how other people see me isn’t hugely important. Also, I like when people talk to me and no longer feel like they need to fit a stereotype. Comfort in your own skin. That’s what I’m here for.

I want people to understand… gender is all in our heads. You don’t have to be what they say you should be. Appear how you want. Do it. I dare you.

About Em
I like to swim and read and collect leaves. I am oh so happily taken, and I love me some chocolate ice cream on a rainy day.

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You can call me… (*), though some people spell it out as “Asterik.” You can also call me Mykel or Chris.

I identify as… Both and neither gender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use gender-neutral “them” and “their.”

I’m attracted to… People who can love people for who they really are. People who can see through masks — even masks of society and gender.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Take the whole picture, not look at just parts.

I want people to understand… Being different can be good. Not everyone is gender-binary, not everyone is thought-binary. There’s no clear black or white, there’re a million shades of grey.

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You can call me… whatever you’d like

I identify as… I’m figuring it out more and more each day. I was a tomboy as a kid and then tried to do the whole feminine thing. I’ve gone from claiming I’m androgynous to butch to now I just refuse to conform to the definitions and enjoy being Genderqueer/Genderfucking… Everything is just another label.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … for now I’m sticking to she and her although it doesn’t bother me when someone mistakenly calls me Sir or He. I find a sense of pride in it that I can skew my gender in that way.

I’m attracted to… Feminine Women. Although I definitely enjoy the odd androgynous woman (something really hot about blurring gender lines) and I can find feminine men cute but physically am not attracted to men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not define me by my skin colour or gender or any other physical appearances. I also don’t want them to make judgements on me by putting different parts of my identity together. I’d like them to respect me and get to know me before they make their opinions because then I can respect their thoughts of me.

I want people to understand… that Gender is not the same as Sex. That society defines what masculine/feminine is and it should not be equal to an individual’s sex. That we are all beautiful individuals and should be loved for our differences instead of being judged.

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You can call me… Bridget is good, but otherwise I don’t care much.

I identify as… A gay male, but with some female qualities too. Sorta half and half, I guess. I suppose I also identify as a bit confused about many things. My own gender identity, for one.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … If someone uses “he,” that’s fine and all. If they use “she,” though, I tend to take it as a compliment… Says to me that I’m doing something right. Just makes my day. I’m not really too picky about this one though.

I’m attracted to… Somewhat feminine or androgynous guys, but not always. Sometimes a more “boyish” or “rogue” quality can be really nice too. And also, someone that is friendly and understanding.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that what they say can hurt, but at the same time, that I prefer total honesty over anything else. If you’re gonna say something about me, don’t try to cover it up with politeness… Just be blunt, and let me know what you really think.

I want people to understand… that just because I may not fit the usual definition of a male, that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with me. It doesn’t make me some sort of weirdo. If I’m a bit on the girly side, well, that’s just how I am… It’s not like it hurts anyone, so please don’t attack or laugh at me about it. That type of thing hurts more than most could know.

About Bridget
I’m a bit of a girly-boy, but I guess I kinda like that. The whole idea of androgyny appeals to me, though I don’t really understand it… I wish I did. I’m also a total and complete geek; computers and gaming and anime and Star Trek and everything of that nature. If it’s amazingly geeky, chances are, I’m totally into it! I really love nature and animals. I guess I’m also a bit lazy, but I try not to be. I’m really absentminded, but I do my best to be courteous to everyone I meet. I think if more people did the same, the world really would be a better place.

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You can call me… Kelly, Jess, Remi or anything really.

I identify as… a human. I identify as me, I fit into no box you’ll ever find. I wake each morning knowing what am that day, male, female or none of the above. Each day is different.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t care what you call me, it doesn’t matter really.

I’m attracted to… anyone with a beautiful soul and a great personality. Anyone who is intelligent, and knows there is a time and place for everything.

When people talk about me, I want them to… ignore my appearance and see the real me and my actions. I want people to see the good I do instead of focusing on how I might identify my gender or sexuality, I’m more than that.

I want people to understand… that there is more to people than their gender and sexuality. That it’s not just black and white, there’re many shades of gray.

About Remi
I’m a 16 year old bio fem living in small town in Cali. I plan to major in Graphic Design. I’m an artist who wants to try all mediums possible. Check my stuff out a: simplydesigned.deviantart.com.

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You can call me… anything but baby…

I identify as… just me. I’ve never tried to put myself in a certain box, but most people have. I don’t feel 100% boy or girl.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I was a bit embarrassed once when a girl I was into thought I was a boy… oops. From then on I’ve felt more comfortable with her/she.

I’m attracted to… Attitude. Mystery. Geeks. masculinity in women. femininity in men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not focus on the physical. Realize that I am dynamic and so are they. We don’t have to behave in a certain way, just because that’s the accepted way.

I want people to understand… being queer is not “cool” (even if it is fun at times).

About -
uber shy but outspoken, dykeboi, with interests in environmental re-education. 18 years of experience in suburban living, which have taught me to speak up, be geeky, and always be prepared.

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You can call me… Otis

I identify as… ..a severly confused individual. Genderqueer at heart. Female for my family and coworkers. Lesbian to my friends and girlfriend. Society haunts me. I care too much about the people who care about me. I am afraid to break their hearts… even though it is breaking mine.

I’m attracted to… Girls. Femmes, bois and genderqueers.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about my art. And how I am such a critic, to everyone but myself.

I want people to understand… That I fight with myself everyday. I want so bad to move to somewhere where I can create a clean slate. I moved around a lot as a kid and was able to change myself periodically… Now that I am old enough and have the job, life, girlfriend… I feel trapped.

About Otis
I’m a young photographer. Obsessed with sex and sexuality. Frustrated with the paths I have chosen. Too weak to steer away. Logic seems to rule over my beloved spontaneity. I want to be a cowboy when I grow up.

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You can call me… Kat, usually.

I identify as… queer in all senses of the word — sexuality, gender, and being an oddball.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I think they’re a nice idea, but they just confuse the average not-well-versed-in-genderfuckery human and I don’t like having to constantly explain things. I don’t really care what pronouns you throw at me, they’re probably all applicable. I do like being called “sir,” though.

I’m attracted to… other androgynous queers. People who can make me laugh. Self-confidence. Women with interesting tattoos and/or piercings. Women wearing men’s clothes. Sharp dressers in general. David Bowie circa “Low”.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that whatever I’m presenting as on a particular day, it’s not for you. Life is short and I’m here to enjoy myself as much as possible, so I don’t have time to pander to societal bullshit.

I want people to understand… that most of the time I don’t really mind being mistaken for a fifteen-year-old boy.

About Kat
21-year-old illustrator-in-training at Syracuse University. My kitchen is painted fuchsia. I like giant squid, comics, bacon (both Francis and the meat), gin, history, and twirly moustaches, amongst other things.

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You can call me… Argo

I identify as… a wanderer. I wake up each day someone new. Sometimes I am a woman. Sometimes I am genderqueer. Sometimes I do not fit anywhere and am my own definition. I am a boy wearing a skirt. I am a girl wearing a tie.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Usually people refer to me with feminine pronouns. But if someone uses “he,” I do not correct them.

I’m attracted to… women who don’t take shit from nobody.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see past my gender travels and journeys, because there is so much more.

I want people to understand… where I am coming from, and that I am not crazy or a poser or a wannabe. I am just me, plain and simple.

About Argo
I am a wanderer, voyageur, lover, reader, activist, cuddle whore, runner, swimmer, canoer, backpacker, nature freak, tree hugger, hippie freak, nerd, observer, scientist, guide.

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You can call me… Jesse Sparkles

I identify as… a constantly changing, alternating, and evolving animal… I have identified as female most of my life and went to great lengths to “prove” how female I was when I was younger. I think I was afraid of being less average than my already abnormal self and I also didn’t understand that there were more than two genders. I haven’t figured out what to call myself yet. All I know is that sometimes I feel feminine, but most of the time I feel like being in an exclusively female form is unfitting for me.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I have been called she, he, and ze. I am not attached to any of them and usually find that trying to figure out what to call me is far more uncomfortable for others than it is for me. Usually, female or neutral pronouns seem to fit me best.

I’m attracted to… Everyone. Before I found the more radical queer community, I was afraid people would think I was confused. I love beautiful people, whether they are femme females, masculine males, FTM, MTF, genderqueer, feminine men, butch women, or anything else one can think of. I won’t say the outside doesn’t matter because I do like to look, but what really gets me is a big brain with a big heart to match. Someone willing to stand beside me in battle, actual or metaphorical, is someone who I will often find something sexy in.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be honest. I hope to learn from others. People can often present a mirror image that I otherwise would not see.

I want people to understand… That I am constantly changing, and while this often results in confusion, that is not the sum of it, only a symptom. I have an easy time accepting others but not as easy a time accepting myself. If I am talking to you, there is a very good chance I value your experience, wisdom, and opinion. Feel free to share it.

About Jesse Sparkles
I am an anarchist for total liberation. Much of my focus is on nonhuman animal liberation simply because it calls to me. I work within many other sub-movements as well. My journey through life has hit some really bumpy roads but these experiences have better taught me about suffering, needs, desires, and change. I see life as a constant rewarding struggle that often leaves me feeling like a child again, learning everything anew. While this can be intimidating, I wouldn’t give it up for the world.

I think I made this profile more to help myself accept the changes I am going through, or realizations I am having. When I hit send, I will have accomplished something, whether or not this is published. Thank you for that.

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You can call me… Persephone 66

I identify as… Just me. If something more detailed is required, well then an androgynous cyberpunk goddess.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m rather impartial, but do prefer the feminine ones. It also depends on how I’m presenting myself.

I’m attracted to… brains.

When people talk about me, I want them to… See me for who I am rather than what I am.

I want people to understand… We are not all the same, so why should we all fit into the same norms? It’s better to question before making judgement calls.

About Persephone 66
I’m a drag queen, artist, musician, student, substitute teacher and geek in general.

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You can call me… NG

I identify as… queer and a woman, but that doesn’t mean I’m altogether feminine. In my opinion there are a thousand ways to be a woman; whether you wear suits and baggy jeans and paint a moustache, or you wear heels and dresses and flowers in your hair. It’s just clothes. Whether you know how to fix a car, or a lamp, or you just love to knit and cook. It’s just things to do.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use female ones. But I enjoy being called a handsome guy.

I’m attracted to… Androgynes. Mostly those who are born females. Occasionally I fall for pretty girls, but only if they have a twist of something undefinable.

When people talk about me, I want them to… forget all about my gender, and all those prejudices that follow, and just see me for what I can be and am.

I want people to understand… that everybody should be allowed to define their identity themselves, not have it formed for them.

About NG
I’m a Scandinavian singer/songwriter, drawn to the queer side of life.

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You can call me… pfff. Many names. Jai/J/Jonni/Jaiden. Why do GV people like names beginning with a J?

I identify as… Neutrois mainly, but generally speaking, as fluid as can be. At the moment though, I am quite unsure and confused about my gender. But each day I strive to be more positive about it.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer gender neutral ones, such as “ze/hir” and “it,” but also I like pronoun mixing with “she” and “he.”

I’m attracted to… masculine people. And metalhead dudes.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be cool and have a good sense of humour!

I want people to understand… that binary gender is not the be all and end all, and there are many beautiful things in between and everywhere, each as valid and logical as the next.

About Jai
Jai is a radically genderfluid asatru pagan, who is a metal obsessive and is in love with hir husband. He also likes history and hir faith, along with history — especially ancient history! Ze also writes fanfiction. Yes.

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You can call me… Loan

I identify as… Andro/genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “She” normally works fine. I really don’t care.

I’m attracted to… Intelligence, confidence, sarcasm and humor. Someone who could be gentle and sweet, but aggressive and piss me off at the same time.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Laugh and smile, and disregard how I look or how I identify myself.

I want people to understand… That no matter how firm my standpoint is, how aggressive I can get, and how brutally honest I can be, I’ll always be me and my gender will always be the littlest thing about me. About anyone.

About Loan
I’m a writer by day, lover by night. Striving for a risky existence, thrill and adventure. I’m always awake, not to be creepy. Okay, I’m lying, I’m not always awake, but I’m awake. Most of the time.

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You can call me… Shane

I identify as… a Queer transgendered boi, if I’m putting a label on it.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, him, his. I get female ones as well from my family who refuse to say anything different and sometimes the general public. It comes and goes.

I’m attracted to… Nerdy people, intelligence, offbeat dreamers, tattoos, fans of Harry Potter, bookworms, self-confidence. I like odd little things about people that are unique to the person, like being super bad with directions, rare hobbies, fantastic sarcasm, etc. Mostly women and transmen.

When people talk about me, I want them to… think about what this means for me once in awhile, how I feel about it, not what have I done to them, or why… that deciding to finally present how I feel and just be who I am is not a nefarious scheme I came up with to cause them trouble. Ohhh and notice my mad skills… whatever they may be.. ;)

I want people to understand… that I don’t want a party, a mob, or a parade. I just want to do my thing: read books, take pictures, listen to music, have good times with great friends and carry on.

About Shane
Just a dorky mid-west boi going to school to be a librarian. Likes to bake, play rugby, hike, bike (that rhymed! ha!) and burrow under blankets with a good book or movie :)

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You can call me… Frankie

I identify as… a woman, a man, we’re all just modern monkeys. I like girls and I like guys. My bits like both boys and babes. All this I have said, all this has been misunderstood as “confusion.” I am NOT confused.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer to be “Her” when I’m feeling feminine, and I like to be “Him” when I’m feeling masculine.

I’m attracted to… ruthless and shameless people. Girls who act like guys, and vice versa. Feminine females and masculine males. Or sometimes, just plain old good looks and personality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Know that I take their opinions personally, that even the tiniest criticism can affect me deeply. I would also like them to appreciate me… though I understand that sometimes I make it hard for them to do that.

I want people to understand… that just because I like to change partners somewhat frequently, it doesn’t make me a “slut” (in the negative sense of the word).

About Frankie
Bisexual teenager, introverted extrovert, positive promiscuity…

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You can call me… Madt.

I identify as… Madt, the human boy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer masculine or gender-neutral ones.

I’m attracted to… Everyone! I’m getting better at identifying the most beautiful traits in the people around me.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be honest but try to see my worth, as insignificant as I may be.

I want people to understand… There are a ridiculous number of ways to be human.

About Madt
I’m a syntax-loving faggot who spends most of the time writing about sad things and falling in love. I’m not overly optimistic but, goddammit, life is beautiful.

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You can call me… Arie or Ari

I identify as… Asexual, neutrois/genderqueer who is open to change. Labels are descriptive, not prescriptive.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … You can call me whatever you want, but I prefer sir to ma’am or madame. I just like how it sounds. (Also, as long as you don’t specifically use one set of pronouns just because you’ve assumed I’m trying to pass for the opposite gender. ‘Cause it just sucks when people do that.)

I’m attracted to… People. I don’t care what’s between your legs, I want what’s between your ears. And what’s between your ribs. Kinda in the middle left part of your chest cavity.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Use my actions as a basis for what they say rather than my appearance. I’m much more interesting than the way I dress or the way I express my gender that day! :D

I want people to understand… Not all people are like them, like the things that they like, or think the way that they do. People are different from each other and making assumptions can range from annoying to painful.

About Arie
I’m just a college student living on campus and trying to get a job. I have a wonderful girlfriend back home and I want to make him the happiest man in the world.

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