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Question: Afraid


A reader asks…

For a while now I have been getting more and more comfortable with myself the more masculine I allow myself to be, but I am afraid. I am afraid to analyze this and then realize that I will have to change my life and myself in order to be happy. What should I do?

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Posted by on July 1st, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Relationships


Jessica asks…

What do you do when your partner, of many years, says she is done with this genderqueer nonsense? Either you give it up, get top surgery and never mention it again, or you lose her. Choose.

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Posted by on June 28th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Can a feminine woman be a dad?


Blookulele asks…

I got into an argument with my friends at school the other day, because they didn’t agree that I could be a father. I’m biologically female with a splash of genderqueer. I believe that any kind of person can fulfil any gender role, disregarding biological factors. Can a (mostly) feminine woman be a dad?

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Posted by on June 25th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Removing Facial Hair


A reader asks…

Even freshly shaved, it’s obvious that I have the ability to grow facial hair. And with that comes being called “he” and “sir”. Any Tips for shaving the face?

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Posted by on June 24th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Female Genderqueer


A reader asks…

I’m female-bodied. After not thinking about gender much for most of my life, I’m beginning to wonder if part of me is genderqueer. But the other part of me still feels like a girl. Is that even possible? Am I just a girl who’s overreacting/seeking attention/trying to be different?

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Posted by on June 22nd, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Dealing with Dad


Jack asks…

I’m a 17 year old genderqueer bio-female living with my very strongly opinionated father. I came home from a weekend at my mother’s house to find almost my entire male wardrobe gone. My father said that I needed to ‘stop playing dress-up’ and ‘be who I really am’. Now, I’m forced to dress completely feminine. I don’t know what to make of myself any more. Have any of you been in this situation? I could use some advice.

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Posted by on June 20th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: What term should I use?


Dakota asks…

I am biologically female and I am androgynous (except for my boobs). I like to dress feminine and masculine, depending on how I feel. The term “girl” just doesn’t feel right to me. But I know I’m not a “boy”.
What (if there is any) term is commonly associated with this?

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Posted by on June 16th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: How to not get mistaken for a boy?


K.C asks…

I get mistaken for a boy all the time and it bothers me a bit because I identify as female, but at the same time I don’t want to change my style. What would be a subtle way to pass more as female?

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Posted by on June 13th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Sudden Identity Changes


Avery asks…

In the past three months, I’ve gone from identifying as a cisgender girl to maybe genderfluid, and now I have no idea. I wonder if I might be transmasculine. I didn’t know identity could change that much in just a few months. What are good ways to try and actually figure all this stuff out?

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Posted by on June 10th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Dysphoria support


A reader asks…

How can I help a genderqueer friend cope with gender dysphoria?

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Posted by on April 13th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: How do I know if it’s just a phase?


A reader asks…

I am in my early twenties but I have had gender confusion for several years now. A great concern of mine is the possibility that my parents are right, and this is all just a phase of my development that I will grow out of. How do I know this is for real?

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Posted by on April 10th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Clashing identities?


rivkele asks…

I am a queer femme who is dating a transguy who identifies as heterosexual male. Recently he has been expressing difficulty with my identity, because of its potential to invalidate his masculinity. He’s not comfortable with me expressing my queer identity. Is there a better term for myself that would allow for both of our identities?

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Posted by on April 4th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Not so pro with pronouns.


Jesse asks…

I feel like a male in a female body but have a major mental block with pronouns.

Even though I feel uncomfortable with female pronouns, the idea of asking people to switch to male feels terrifying. When someone calls me ‘he’ or ‘sir’ out of the blue I love it, but I can’t bring myself to actually ask people to switch. I just feel consumed by insecurity. It’s like the point of no return.

Why is my brain is shouting ‘yes!’ and ‘no!’ at the same time?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on March 31st, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Relationship Advice


Meandering asks…

My girlfriend (soon to be boyfriend) recently came out as trans and is starting T in a few weeks and getting top surgery in a few months. It really was no surprise and I am sure that this will help make both of us happier and more complete. However we are both concerned about how this will affect our relationship. He is concerned that once he begins to change outwardly that my feelings will wane. I am a lesbian but I am not really worried about losing my attraction for him. Is this naïve of me?

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Posted by on March 27th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Trans enough


Alex asks…

I just discovered my desire to be male at age 18 – unlike the ‘always known’ crowd. How can I deal with the doubts of not feeling trans enough?

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Posted by on March 23rd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: My Boifriend


A reader asks…

My boifriend identifies as genderqueer but I find it difficult to view her as anything but female. Her hair is long, her voice is high, she has large breasts and dresses very feminine. I respect her gender and I love and support everyone who challenges societal norms. So why do I feel so confused and so judgmental?

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Posted by on March 17th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Titles


Regen asks…

I’ve been filling out all sorts of applications for college lately and they all ask for some kind of Mr./Mrs./Ms. title in front of your name. I haven’t had to use these a lot before and I’m having trouble determining what a good androgynous title would be… any ideas?

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Posted by on March 15th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Question: Post-transition boredom?


Gib asks…

I am pre-T but living as a male, and I’m…. bored. I have a strange nostalgia for how thrilling it was to first wear boxer shorts or to swipe my brother’s deodorant. I was so sure that what I wanted was to be living as a guy, and it’s a little bit frightening to wonder: is that really what I was after?

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

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Posted by on February 8th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: What if they don’t get it?


Gib asks…

I just came out to a friend and now they have lots of questions that I either don’t want to answer or am not ready to answer yet. What can I do?

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Posted by on February 7th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: An attack.


A reader asks…

How can I make people understand that my transition is not an attack on their gender identities?

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Posted by on February 5th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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