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Profile: Sylvan

Woman with pale skin wearing a red button down shirt and a black vest. Her hair is cut short and uneven, dyed red. She is looking at the camera with her chin tilted up.

You can call me… Sylvan

I identify as… a woman. with trans history. who is genderqueer in a m2f2m2f2wtf sort of way.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her/hers is great.

I’m attracted to… wicked smart badass femme ladies of all persuasions, faggoty boys who are not cis. androgynous type folk who have genders as mercurial as my own.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that I’m a transwoman and forget that I am a transwoman at the same time. I am a lot stronger than you imagine.

I want people to understand… that transwomen have an equal right to badass feminist spaces, I’m tired of feeling so damned outnumbered.

About Sylvan
I do a lot of things I don’t want to talk about here. I’m not particularly interested in being remembered or known.

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Posted by on July 22nd, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Lou

Pale person with short brown hair, wearing red-framed glasses and a black dress shirt with a red plaid tie. They are smiling happily.

You can call me… Lou. pup. Lou-dog. Leti.

I identify as… A poly, kinky genderqueer.
A social misfit.
Restless, lone-wolf bastard.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Zhe, hir… I like ’em neutral. Lately, I’ve been using male pronouns when I write stories.

I’m attracted to… Androgyny.
High femmes of all genders.
Butch wimmin and faggy men.
Perfect grammar.
Folx who can spell.
Folx who can make me laugh uncontrollably.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Wonder how I get so much action!
My friends call me a bit of a mack. How’s that for modesty?

I want people to understand… Self love is radical.

About Lou
Born in Hell-A, grew up in Belgium and Germany. Been ramblin’ or dreamin’ about it ever since.

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Posted by on July 22nd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jay

Black transmasculine person with medium-length dreadlocks wearing a grey tanktop, dogtags, and a brimmed cap, taking a picture of himself in a mirror with a cellphone.

You can call me… jay.

I identify as… genderqueer, transboi, jay.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … him, he, his, they, their, jay.

I’m attracted to… femmes, non-femmes, genderf#ckers, other transbois, queers, intelligence, wit, binary fighters, humor, bike punks, and nerds.

love nerds.

When people talk about me, I want them to… one: keep it real – don’t talk negatively about me and then pretend everything is “okey dokey” when I’m around.

two: keep it peaceful – negative energy is bad juju, for everyone.

three: keep it judgement free – if someone tries to walk a mile in my shoes, i’ll try to walk a mile in theirs.

I want people to understand… the concept of “normal” does not exist. the concept of gender does not exist. most concepts don’t exist – everything is impermanent, everchanging, and evolving.

my gender/sexuality/life choices are about me, whatever reactions people have about those choices, well, that’s about them.

About Jay
i’m a student, a former soldier, and a buddhist. i’m a paradox – complex, but simple. unique. outside of the box. i live in minneapolis. i live like there’s no tomorrow. i love bikes, food, books, music, art, and inner peace.


Everything else is trivial.

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Posted by on July 20th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: James/JD

A young, pale-skinned trans guy with buzzed brown hair, facial piercings, and what appear to be stretched earlobes. He is wearing a black t-shirt and looking at the camera.

You can call me… James or JD. Sometimes Turd Ferguson.

I identify as… A boy. I’d like to say a man but that’s something I’ll never be. I’m an ex-lesbian, queer loving, feminine tranny boy that would rather pick apart computers then watch football.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male pronouns still make me giddy even after years of usage. A constant reminder of what I’m not and what I am really has an impact. That didn’t make sense.

I’m attracted to… Queer women. Intelligent, strong women who don’t give a fuck about gender or sexuality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Realize that I’m still me. My choice of taking permanent hormones does not affect who I always was. I’m still Rebecca, the nationally ranked swimmer, video game fanatic, Apple loving dork. I’m just happy now.

I want people to understand… That I wish I didn’t have to do this. I wish I didn’t have to physically alter my body to feel at peace. I wish I didn’t have to fight with health insurance to cover who I am, to change birth certificates and legal documents. It’s not an easy path, but I’m finding out that the journey is worth the happiness.

About James/JD
I’m a 19 year old trans guy. I’ll be roughly 1 month on testosterone in September. I work at Apple, I like boobs and video games and boxer briefs. That really sums me up.

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Posted by on July 18th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Aidan

Pale-skinned person with short brown hair, wearing red and black rectangular-framed glasses and bright red lipstick, looking at the camera with a half-smile.

You can call me… Aidan!

I identify as… a genderfluid geeky awkward nonmonogamous sarcastic dykey feminazi with the world’s best/worst sense of humor.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her is totes fine, but lord almighty don’t call me ma’am. i’ll take sir any day.

I’m attracted to… Twitter, activism, androgyny, Doctor Who, high speed rail transit, queerness, grocery shopping at midnight, mixtapes, & honesty – to yourself & to the world.

When people talk about me, I want them to… express that I am hella hot no matter what my gender expression (or lack thereof) is today & damn did you hear her take down that misogynist kid earlier today?

I want people to understand… that asking questions is perfectly fine. that lipstick doesn’t make me female. that loving a person with XY chromosomes doesn’t mean I am heterosexual. that being nonmonogamous does not equal slutty.

About Aidan
Aidan has been told all her life what her sexual orientation is & what her gender expression is. She has only realized recently that those motherfuckers were wrong. Divides her time between loving Mpls and getting the fuck out of dodge. Has an iTunes music library exceeding 13000 mp3s. Would make you a mix tape, if you asked.

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Posted by on July 14th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Madison

You can call me… Madison.

I identify as… a gender mutt. I’ve tried all manners of being specific about it, and this works better than any of them.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male pronouns and sir will make me sqeal and hug you. Anything else, and I’ll still probably smile and want to be friends.

I’m attracted to… I could say boys and girls, but it’s usually more of someone in between. Artists, sufferers, and those who see beauty in the creative and unique.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be completely honest with me. I’ll decide if what they have to say is too offensive for me to listen to.

I want people to understand… that they can ask me any questions if they’re curious. It’s really not offensive unless they try to be, and educated people are less likely to be judgemental than confused ones.

About Madison
Madison is a small-town kid with big city dreams. She wants to be the boy you see strumming along on an acoustic guitar sitting in Haight Ashbury. The girl with the funky hair in the record store. The person you never would have imagined, but now that you met you realize they’re just perfect for you.

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Posted by on July 13th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Spectra

Pale-skinned person wearing black rectangle-framed glasses and a grey striped button-down, with their hair spiked into an exceptionally long blue mohawk. They are looking at the camera and smiling slightly.

You can call me… Spectra

I identify as… …a human? I’d rather not have to identify as anything. The closest I can think of would be a femme genderqueer punk, I suppose.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … It doesn’t really matter. I’m used to the male ones, but prefer the female.

I’m attracted to… Physically? Those of whichever gender or lack-there-of in possession of male genitalia. Mentally and Spiritual? I connect more to the feminine, but more attracted to the masculine (of whichever/lack-there-of gender.)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Realize that I’m a whole lot more than what’s on the exterior. I do have a multi-faceted personality, as do we all, and I would like for people to get to know a little of that before passing any judgement on me, or others.

I want people to understand… that I am, in fact, a hominid of the human variety, and nothing more. Everyone is so conditioned to believe this or that is the norm, and everything else is anomalous and wrong. It’s absurd. People are unique, period. Society as a whole would have us believe that certain pieces of diversity are deemed negative, and others acceptable, but in reality it’s all irrelevant.

About Spectra
I enjoy books, writing, anime, fashion designing, dying my hair, meditating, and creeping people out with my randomness. ^_^

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Posted by on July 12th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Elyse

Pale-skinned person with short dark hair, wearing a cap and a t-shirt. She is looking at the camera and raising one arm to show a stylized star on the inside of her elbow.

You can call me… Elyse

I identify as… futch/dyke/gay

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Usually stick to the female ones, but am frequently called “dude/man/bro” by male friends and am quite content with it

I’m attracted to… androgirls, wit, and facetious humor

When people talk about me, I want them to… know me and know what they’re saying is true

I want people to understand… Ignorance can be changed, but arrogance is a whole new story. You have to have an open mind to move forward.

About Elyse
I love girls, caffeine, thrash metal and plaid shirts. There’s so much that can be changed with love.

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Posted by on July 11th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Lyddy

Pale-skinned person with long dirty blonde hair, wearing a toque that says Bowling For Soup on the front which is pulled down over their eyes. They are giving a tight-lipped smile to the camera.

You can call me… Lyddy. I also answer to Bob, because everybody is called Bob.

I identify as… I guess I identify as female. I was born female, and it’s not like I wish I’d been born male. I don’t really think of myself as a ‘girl’ or a ‘woman’; I’m just female. Not that I mind those words, I just don’t know why we’re so gender specific. I might be genderqueer, I’m not sure. I don’t think gender is as important as we make it. I call everyone dude, mate, and refer to my friend group as guys.

I guess I’m female, but not cisgender female? I have no idea, and I don’t think it’s too important. I got called “sir” in a shop once, and the person was so embarrassed, but I just said, “I’m wearing men’s clothes. I look like a man if you can’t see my face. No biggie.”

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Whatever, I tend to say “they” and “them” more than your average person, but “he”, “she”, “him” and “her” are all good. I’m good with being “she” or “they”.

Liking “ze”, just discovered it, and it’s nice. I don’t know why we’ve always got to mention gender when it’s irrelevant. Sir, Waitress, “Excuse me, miss,” etc. Who cares what’s in who’s pants? It has nothing to do with the letter you’re writing, the way they do their job, or the fact that they are in your way in the street. Bah.

I’m attracted to… People. People with attractive faces, personalities and bodies. I’m maybe not attracted to people with intersex bodies, but that’s my fault, not theirs. A little gender-bending is attractive; drag or crossdressing, feminine men or masculine women, just someone who knows that whole ying-yang thing. It’s not about gender.

I have a boyfriend, and he’s amazing. He’s in touch with his feminine side enough to rest his head on my shoulder as much as I rest my head on his, to let me pay as much as I let him pay, and to be told that he’s cute.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me, not my gender. If I worked in a bar, I’m barstaff, not a barmaid. If they are talking about my clothes, they’re clothes, no matter where I bought them and who they’re designed for. And if the only word that fits the situation is masculine, use it anyway, because saying “she’s a bacholor” is WAY better than the Miss Havosham like “spinster” or the patronising “bacholorette”.

I want people to understand… That it’s not about gender. It shouldn’t be about gender.

About Lyddy
I’m Lyddy, and I write songs.

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Posted by on July 10th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Gaia

Black and white, oversaturated photo of a pale-skinned person with a buzzcut wearing eyeliner and lipstick, looking directly at the camera while tilting their head and smiling slightly.

You can call me… Gaia

I identify as… a pansexual genderqueer/trigender kinky polyamorous free-thinker, but am getting to the point where I’m tempted to just refer to myself as pomosexual and genderfuck.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … most people use female pronouns for me and I’m fine with that, but I feel that genderneutral pronouns (any) are the most representative of how I feel. If you call me by male pronouns, I’ll get a happy, fuzzy feeling in my tummy, though :P

I’m attracted to… intellectuals, passion, knowledge, curiosity, motivation, talent, morbidity, wit, and a good personality. If you can inspire me, make me laugh, and turn me on all at the same time, I’ll grovel at your feel (quite willingly, too, I might add ;P)

When people talk about me, I want them to… try to make as few assumptions about who I am as possible and instead attempt to get to know me before forming their opinions of me. I want people to be open-minded and hear what I have to say. I don’t know everything, no one does, but I think we all have something to teach one another. We just have to listen.

I want people to understand… that getting caught up in labels and superficiality (i.e. concern with our physical selves) is what causes so much chaos and hardship. I hope we can one day get to the place where gender and orientation doesn’t matter so much, but who we are inside as people. Let’s try to forget about this stuff that really doesn’t matter in the end, and think about what does: beauty, art, imagination, creativity, science, knowledge, love, laughter, life. Let’s enjoy it while it lasts, huh?

About Gaia
I’m radical in almost every sense of the word, but I’m also a realist and a pragmatist. I’m working to get my life headed in a direction that I like, but it’s hard with my current circumstances. Attempting to make it through college in the golden state of the USA, trying to discover the meaning in my existence, and hoping to meet people who will change the way I view the world, as well as keep my current relationships healthy and stable. My page: Let’s get to know each other! :)

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Posted by on July 8th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Er-Bear

Pale-skinned person with medium-length curly blonde hair and subtle makeup, wearing glasses and a lavender shirt, smiling at the camera with her head tilted to one side.

You can call me… Erin if you don’t know me that well. But I really like it when people call me Er-Bear.

I identify as… a bigender MTF butch dyke. A boi. A grrrl. I dress vaguely femme-dykey and act vaguely butch, but I’ll often mix that up and see myself as a genderqueer boi.

Oh, and a steampunky nerd.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Female is what I ask for because that’s what I like most of the time. When I’m trying to show my queer side, though, I love gender neutral pronouns of all types except “it.”

I’m attracted to… Women of all shapes and gender histories. Genderqueers who have enough of a feminine side for me to latch on to. Cuddly people who respect my identity.

When people talk about me, I want them to… tremble with despair. I mean, be respectful of my identity and treat me as a person.

I want people to understand… it’s not our parts that make us who they are. Those are just for fun.

About Er-Bear
Er-Bear is a student from upstate NY who likes computers, bunnies, rainbows, and the tears of rude people. She’s a Wiccan and a radical feminist, and zie hopes to become a women’s studies professor or a lawyer someday.

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Posted by on July 6th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Becca/Preston

Androgynous white person wearing smudged rainbow lipstick and equally smudged rainbow facepaint going down from one eye. They have short purple hair and blue eyes.

You can call me… Becca, Preston

I identify as… genderfluid, bisexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … whatever works. i like being female and i like being male.

I’m attracted to… pretty girls and prettier boys with pretty eyes and pretty smiles.
more personality than physical features. i like em funny and smart and respectful.
i like toned girls and built-for-cuddling boys.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about my brain not my body. ultimately our appearance is the shell for what’s important.

I want people to understand… that nature or nurture is irrelevant when talking about the outcome. who cares WHY i’m genderfluid and bisexual? i am who i am and i love me. i wouldn’t have me any other way. not if it’s a choice, not if it’s designed.

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Posted by on July 4th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Rina

White person with short, spiky brown hair, sitting in a car. They are winking and pointing playfully at the camera.

You can call me… Rina, Keena, Carina… hell, call me Joe if you really want.

I identify as… A pansexual dyke. A genderqueer. A cat lover.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I often get mistaken for a young man; I don’t care one way or another. However, being called ‘sir’ while still acting feminine is one of the best ways to make my day.

I’m attracted to… proper grammar, bad puns, nerds, and things on the feminine side of the gender spectrum.

When people talk about me, I want them to… accept the fact that sometimes, I don’t even know the answers to their questions.

I want people to understand… that I am a person, not a sexuality or a gender. Such things can–and often will–change with time.

About Rina
I am fourteen years old, and will be a sophomore in the fall. I plan to become an illustrator and graphic designer when the time comes for me to get a job. Until then, I’ll spend my time catching Pokemon, playing various instruments, and hunting for comfy sweaters.

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Posted by on July 2nd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Bee/Ryan

Close-up of an androgynous white person's face. Their eyes are blue and they have short brown hair. They are looking at the camera with a half-smile.

You can call me… Bee or Ryan

I identify as… a genderqueer/genderfuck/(pre-T) tranny.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Depends. If I’m not binding/not in public you can call me whatever you want. In public its ‘ze/zer’ or just ‘they’.

I’m attracted to… Good personalities, life experience, humor, bright eyes and tattoos. Butch and femme. Tall and short. Always awesome.

A love of comic books and Megaman is always nice.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be honest. That doesn’t mean tell them my life story, but don’t make things up either. The people I associate myself with, will want to understand me as a person. And they have every right to.

I want people to understand… that I am the exact same person I was before I told you I was trans. Personalities are big and physical appearance should come second. If I change at all it’s not because my body looks different. It’s because I am finding myself as a person and the person I was before, didn’t fit right.

About Bee/Ryan
Just a 15 year old kid finding themselves a place in the world where they can be what they what to be.

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Posted by on June 30th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Krisandra

Androgynous pale-skinned person with short brown hair, wearing black rectangle-framed glasses and a pinstripe suit and tie, with matching fedora. They are leaning against a building with their arms crossed and looking off to the side.

You can call me… Krisandra. Some of my closest friends call me Penguin.

I identify as… pansexual, polyamorous, and genderqueer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … people refer to me using female pronouns, although I do not actually identify with either gender.

I’m attracted to… people who are multi-lingual, optimistic, sarcastic, and mischievous.

When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on who I am now and what I am striving to become rather than my past.

I want people to understand… that how one identifies oneself really isn’t all that important. All that is important is being happy with who you are.

About Krisandra
I am a student at Oberlin College. While I am studying languages at the moment, Oberlin is also bringing me perspective on sexual and gender identities and helping me to discover who I really am without the pressure to fit into any stereotypical identity.

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Posted by on June 28th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: —

You can call me… anything you want. I’ll respond eventually. However, sir usually works just fine.

I identify as… lesbian. dyke. genderqueer. asexual. androgynous. (sometimes I consider reproduction by budding)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t care what you call me. I know what I am.

I’m attracted to… intelligence. wit. women. compassion. genderqueer females. androgynous women. if that makes sense at all.

When people talk about me, I want them to… understand that I am not deaf.

I want people to understand… that, just because I am not a certain gender, I am still a human being (most days). I am just as afraid of them as they are of me.

About —
lesbian. writer. lover. smoker. nerd. genderless. godless. friend. activist. pacifist. believer in the power of crossword puzzles.

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Posted by on June 26th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Alex

You can call me… Alex

I identify as… Androgynous, genderqueer, lesbian, black, youtuber, lover… a combination of the aforementioned plus more

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Mostly female are the ones I usually get, the occasional”sir” or “dude” makes my heart smile. My name works just fine as well. Just don’t call me with “yo” or a “you there” and I’m a-ok

I’m attracted to… Feminine masculinity and masculine femininity, preferably in the form of female- bodied people if we’re speaking romantically. I’m attracted artists, healers, intelligence, and the creatives. And of course my gay best friend

When people talk about me, I want them to… leave bullshit at the door. I’m not confused and it’s not a phase; I know who I am and I love it

I want people to understand… that I am different and respect me for it, not shun me for it

I’m not always a girl yet I’m not a boy and I think that is really cool. You shouldn’t associate with me because of my gender, sexuality, or ethnicity; you should because you like the person I am

About Alex
I’m a prodigal son in the best way possible. Exploration, food, and education outside the classroom are my life loves. I live in sunny SoCal working to become someone that runs into burning buildings for a living, I’ll let you know how that turns out
I enjoy a good beer and a beautiful skyline and it seems I have verbal diarrhea now so I’ll stop while I’m ahead

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Posted by on June 23rd, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Avery

You can call me… Avery, but I’m ‘in the metaphorical closet’ about mentally changing my name to Art.

I identify as… Female to non-female as of right now. I get called a tomboy by some people, which I’m trying to avoid altogether. I’m a deeply-considering-it-to-please-end-my-life-if-I’m-not-a trans-guy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Please call me by male pronouns. I want to tell My family is always calling me Miss -last name- and Daughter. It kills me inside whenever I meet new people and then get ‘revealed’ as ‘female’ because of my parents/friends.

I’m attracted to… Primarily cis-men and FtMs, but sometimes I do feel attracted to certain girls. I’m attracted to gamers and fellow techno-lovers.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Stop wondering about whether I am a ‘girl or a boy’. Especially when I haven’t met them before.

I want people to understand… That I’m sensitive, no matter how nonchalant I can appear. I recently reprimanded one of my friends for beginning one of our conversations with ‘guuurl’. I also want people to stop taking our narrow-minded cultural assumptions of gender roles so seriously.

About Avery
Self-promotion, indeed. So uh, on the side, when I’m not being all teenager-y and angsty about gender and biting people’s asses about calling me by the wrong pronouns, I make art from paper and pencils/pens/Photoshop. I have a pet snake which I often forget to feed (they don’t need to eat that often anyways..). Anyways. I do enjoy creating culinary creations (one can attempt to master more than one form of art oho). And I enjoy eating rare steaks. No wait, I’m supposed to be trying to go vegetarian.

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Posted by on June 20th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: raphie

You can call me… raphie

I identify as… gender fluid or gender queer or androgynous or some other kind of gender confused personality. i don’t know what i actually identify as and i’m perfectly okay with that.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … i think of it like spanish. i’m the culmination of a series of genders and because at least a tiny tiny portion of it is completely male, the whole thing goes by masculine pronouns. however, i realize that a lot of the times, i’m uncomfortable with both masculine, feminine, and genderneutral pronouns (especially the latter because i’m not used to them and don’t know how to conjugate them correctly whatsoever). thus, i really have no idea what to go by. the ones who understand my gender identity use masculine pronouns while everyone else uses feminine.

I’m attracted to… intelligence and being able to push me around a bit. i like talking and then saying nothing but a whole conversation has been completed. i like when people manipulate me shamelessly and say sorry but will continue to do it a few minutes later, even when i protest. or at least pretend to. i’m attracted to my closest friends because they’re the kind of people who i want to hang out with. i’m attracted to people who can handle me.

When people talk about me, I want them to… treat me like a person, first and foremost. i don’t want them asking me if i have a penis or if have a vagina or if i have some kind of cross between the two. i don’t want people to assume that i’m going to be stone cold or aggressive or feminine or cutesy. i want people to treat me as me and no one else. as nothing else.

I want people to understand… that i’m not going to be able to fit in your box. or anyone’s box. or even the box that i place myself in. i don’t know what i am to the point of nausea sometimes and i don’t know what i am well enough to explain things to you. i want you to know that i’m uncomfortable in large groups of people and when i say random things, i never mean them. i want you to realize that i’m not a boy and i’m not a girl and i’m not both and i’m not neither. i AM the box.

About raphie
i am raphie in all lowercase. i am god and i am animal. i am art and i am artist. i write freeverse poetry because even when i write, i cannot follow rules. i am sixteen and female bodied and i feel like i’m owned by disney world. i have a blog at and i write about lots of random stuff.

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Posted by on June 19th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Profile: Roxanne

You can call me… Roxanne

I identify as… I am a feminist, egalitarian that recognizes the differences in men and women but also recognizes that those differences are biologically trivial.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like he and him sometimes just because I don’t get to hear that often, I think I’ll start using ze though or hir because that’s pretty neato!

I’m attracted to… My beautiful intelligent, weird, goofy, feminine and masculine soul mate, Thomas.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of me as a human being who’s evolved enough to get past the who hunting, gathering, cave man gender ideology.

I want people to understand… how the gender roles are put in play to oppress men and women. I also like to look at the historical factors that contribute to the way gender roles affect us. I think it’s important to see that the feminine traits have been devalued and pale in comparison to the praise of the masculine. This is why I still wear feminine clothes sometimes. I think people can be strong and still embrace femininity instead of frowning at and laughing at everything female related. Why is it so absurd to see a man in a dress and it’s not so bad to see women in pants? I think it’s because the female clothing is considered more embarrassing and humiliating, where as the masculine is praised.

About Roxanne
When I dress in drag I’m always stumped with one big giveaway to my gender, my breasts. I do not want to try to bind my breasts or draw on a mustache. Instead, I want to embrace the qualities I have and not feel ashamed of them and need to hide them. I do not have to appear male, or like a cross dresser. I can appear as a person comfortable in whatever clothing I like. I can love whoever I want, and I can be whoever I want to be. I want to be respected as a person, not a man or a woman but a person. We need to take a closer look at how these gender norms were originally created and enforced and access whether these norms are destructive or constructive to the human spirit and body.

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