Someone wrote…

I’m 31 and just beginning to figure out who I am. I’ve been living as a woman my entire life but I’ve never been completely comfortable with that and only recently started to put the pieces together. I’m married to an awesome guy that I love so much, and he’s very open minded but I’m terrified that if it turns out I’m trans he won’t stay with me. I don’t know what to do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

@parkermolloy wrote…

So, media outlets: whether you be print, digital, video, podcast, etc., if you’re going to discuss trans people… consult some trans people

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I’m tired of people assuming I identify as a demigender. I’m in my mid-30s, present as female (my birth sex), and I make no claims to the sort of oppression that binary trans people/visibly gender non-conforming people face – I have it easy by comparison. I’m not trying to co-opt that struggle. But that being said, I mentor trans kids, have always been trans inclusive, and have spent my whole life trying to find a way to more easily describe my complicated relationship to my gender. Why do people have to diminish that?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Mars asks…

Hey, I’m afab agender who’s having problems with pronouns. I’m currently using she/her pronouns because it’s what I’m used to and what most people default to anyway, but the truth is I hate it. Unfortunately, I also seem to hate he/him and they/them pronouns. I’ve looked into neopronouns, but while I can use them for other people, they don’t feel right in relation to myself either. Does anybody have any advice to offer about what I should do?

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@fakerapper wrote…

Tip: if you’re not including trans and non binary people as part of your “diversity” initiative you’re losing.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

asks…

Is it normal for your nipples to get extremely swollen/puffy after binding? I’ve been binding since late July last year and it’s been an issue since about September.

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Adrian asks…

Hey, I’m 20 years old, currently female. However, though I’ve always felt neutral/cis about my gender, only recently have I felt like perhaps I’d be happier as male.

I don’t really have /dysphoria/ about my body, exactly, but there isn’t really any love their either. I suppose I was taught to accept what I have before even stopping to think about the possibility that I might not be female after all.

I like feminine things, but growing up, as well as recently, I’ve never really been /feminine/, you know? I’ve always seen myself as more gender neutral, but I’ve only just now stopped to think that maybe I could be trans? Like, it’s only really hit me recently that just because I can be feimine, doesn’t mean that I’m female.

But I feel like I’m too old to only just be figuring this out now. Is there anyone here that only discovered themselves at an older age?

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Someone wrote…

I am going to Disney soon. I just got a swimbinder for the first time and I can’t wait to use it.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

asks…

How did you come out to your parents and loved ones?

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Someone wrote…

I’m a married mother in my thirties. But I know in my heart that I am not a woman. I have known since I was a young child. I secretly called myself a masculine name, and dressed as unfeminine as possible. But I’ve never come out. I will never come out. No one will ever know. It is not an option. I am too scared. I just wanted to tell someone.

I’m a man.

My name is Caleb.

I wish the world could have known me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I flinch every time my family uses my old pronoun, which happens like five times a day. Every single time. I’ve gotta stop that but I don’t know how to have that conversation and I know they’ll complain. I don’t know if I can deal with that. But I can’t deal with this either.

I think they try to be supportive of me, or they wanna be supportive, but they’re bad at it, basically. I wish they were better.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

Growing up with languages that have no gender options outside the binary made it really difficult for me to discover my identity (non-binary/agender).

The lack of words for who/what I am in my native tongue still makes is hard to get a proper sense of self, and I struggle with feeling unreal. I spent a lot of years during my teens and early twenties wondering whether I was transgender, simply because this was the only viable option or explanation for what I was experiencing, yet it never fit properly.

I have spent decades of my life trying to conform sufficiently to my assigned gender to pass as invisible. And invisible is what I became, not just to others, but to myself. If there is no word for you, if no one ever talks about you in language that actually includes you, it is difficult to feel like you are actually present in the world. In order to be seen, you need to be named.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

F asks…

What can I do to help a friend who realized they are genderfluid and don’t really know how to cope with it?

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Someone wrote…

For a long time I was really comfortable with the ambiguity of saying, “I’m just me.” Now, though, I have no clue what I am and I wish I could figure it out.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

Walking down the street, and meeting eyes with a stranger just long enough to see them give you a once-over and look confused.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from glitter.queers, on Instagram.

“thiS IS TOO CUTE ”

Reposted from The Identity Project.

“Wheat Paste Art Project by Nathan (a sophomore in Gender and Women’s Studies and minoring in Social Justice) at The University of Minnesota that was done to fulfill a requirement in a class that would bring focus to queer identities that are marginalized by the mainstream gay movement. These posters were put up around campus for his final project. ”

@shelbytwest wrote…

In other news: people still stare at me like I’m anomaly. Or simply fabulous. #noAutographsPlz #genderQueer

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Reposted from ca_queer on Instagram.

“I can’t wait for this shirt! @selfmadecollective has these and many more! ”

Reposted from lgbtgivesmehope.

“[Image shows various LGBTQ* flags with a hand pointing forward and the text, ‘YOU know who you are, not society.’]

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