You can call me… Rachel

I identify as… I identify as female and present very feminine but I am intersex and proud to be.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her but they/them is fine too

I’m attracted to… I’m an androromantic ace who enjoys people who are very masculine presenting and athletic but also sensitive and romantic

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not speculate about my gentalia. Not attempt to draw conclusions on who I am based on my appearance or relationships.

I want people to understand… Intersex is a real and valid identity. And yes it is a medical condition but I can still have pride in it! I am not straight. I am currently in a relationship with a queer cis man and as I present as female we get told we don’t belong in LGBTQ+ spaces even though we are both part of the community.

About Rachel
22. Graphic design major approaching graduation and engagement! I love anime, fan art, rock music, yoga, and volunteering. I am intersex but was raised as a female and was not aware of my intersexuality until I was 10. My boyfriend is an accountant and has a bearded dragon.

» Define yourself. «

Sophie asks…

I recently (last year) identified as genderfluid, but here’s the thing – I’ve just turned 61! I’d love to know how many ‘older’ genderfluid people you have on this site, as I have so many questions. As much as I love hearing from and about the many beautiful younger non-binary people in the world, for those of us who only got here later in life (although recognising now that we’ve always been that way), it can feel pretty confusing. I was born male, and have presented as male throughout my life, so one of my big questions is how I can ‘feminize’ myself, so that the half of me that is female can show herself a bit more?

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «

Someone wrote…

I have no idea how a woman feels, and I don’t identify with the way a man supposedly feels. I suppose I am an androgyne, because a woman at an old job once remarked that I was androgynous. I accepted that label. It feels ok. Maybe I just enjoy being ambiguous.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by Alyx, the model and photographer.

“I sort of accidentally gave myself a bad haircut (not unusual for me at all) but here I’m trying to uh … ‘rock it’, if you will — pretend it was deliberate. because it …. was…? (shhh)”

Submitted by Chris, the model.

“After arriving in Manchester to introduce my sister to the real me for the first time, I did a full contour in my car! I love my makeup!”

Someone wrote…

As a 63 yr old man that wishes he was female instead of male, I need a way to meet other people like me. What a task! I feel overwhelmed and am very afraid most of the time. Someone please talk to me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Riah

I identify as… bi/pan aro-flux asexual non-binary genderfluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them or ze/hir, or other gender nutral pronouns (that are NOT it/its)

I’m attracted to… nice/cute/cool/fun people :)

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect my pronouns and gender, and talk nicely (make me seem hella awesome :D).

I want people to understand… that i can be quite sensitive when it comes to my gender, that i’m not interested in sex (and might never be), and that i want to be ur friend (if u r nice) :)

About Riah
Into way too many things, such as (tons of) fandoms and shows and books, drama/acting, climbing, exploring/adventure, making/designing (drawing on) clothes (especially for Pride), and cuddles :)

» Define yourself. «

Someone wrote…

I’m AFAB and can’t express my being nonbinary to anyone because I enjoy some woman-coded things and they just think I am and should be a girl.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Else online, Corbin irl

I identify as… A playwright, spouse, friend, seeker, non-political activist (cultural activist?), artist, and good cook.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I do not like language to define me, only support me. To support me, use they/them

I’m attracted to… The combination of fear and honesty that expresses itself through hard work and ambition. Understanding, as both knowledge and compassion. Irreverence in darkness. Thought in action, theory in flesh. Righteously chaotic artists. Myth-makers.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Argue.

I want people to understand… Fear came first, and it piles on. Before identity, before patriarchy, before language, before history, before tribalism, before evolution, before consciousness there was fear. It is the great tool, the mechanism of civilization that brought us out of the woods, that gave us both reason and faith. It is a powerful force, but it only serves to the good if we are afraid for one another, and not of one another.

About Else / Corbin
Else is Corbin’s digital name. It is derived from conditional statements, used in both logic and computer coding, as the undefined alternative to all explicitly defined options. Their plays Boxcar, Three Seconds, and Saving Throw, are available on New Play Exchange, and their company website can be accessed through http://tinyurl.com/renovationists.

You can call me… Jem(ma)

I identify as… a polypanromantic, greysexual feminine man

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He and They in equal measure

I’m attracted to… kind and physically affectionate people

When people talk about me, I want them to… not describe me as “masculine”

I want people to understand… that I wear a beard because I think it looks good on my face, not as an expression of gender

» Define yourself. «

You can call me… Skylar or Sky

I identify as… Transgender ftm and im proud of it

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he him they them NOT IT I AM NOT AN OBJECT

I’m attracted to… mostly girls and non binary

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that i wont change bc of who they want me to be

I want people to understand… my genitalia will NEVER define who i am i am the person who defines who i am

About Skylar or Sky
im a 15-year-old singer and writer…
im proud of my gender and sexuality if u dont like it u can fight me
im falling for someone so hard i dont think i can stop

» Define yourself. «

KC wrote…

I’ve recently come to the realization that I am genderfluid and experience slight to major dysphoria about my breasts on my more male days. I enjoy having them on my more female days though. I was wondering if that feeling of dysphoria ever really goes away. I’m considering saving up for top surgery only I fear that if I did get it, I’d regret it on my female days.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Submitted by Jomo, the model and photographer.

“My classic casual style, with no preoccupation of gender codes.”

Someone wrote…

I love that I live in a world where I can bind and wear skirts and there are people out there who will accept me for me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

i just feel like screaming and crying because i dont have the balls to tell any of my friends or family that im trans… its so frustrating

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I am 29 years old. From childhood I never feel that I am a girl: I always feel that I am a boy. I am a muslim girl.
That’s way I never get any chance to express my true self. Right now my family will force me to marry but I can’t accept any man in my life. I never feel any attraction for men, but feel attraction to women.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?