Alexa/ Alex asks…

Is there a way to make myself androgynous without cutting my hair short and wearing very masculine clothing?

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Guerino asks…

My name is Guerino. I’m genderqueer, and I’m nearly sixteen. I want to come out to my parents, but they’re, erm, not the best parents around. They’ve infantilised every single nickname I’ve ever had, ever since I can remember. They refuse to believe that they/them is a legit non-plural pronoun. And they refer to being transgender as “or whatever.” This hurts, and it makes me feel like I can’t trust them with my identity.

How do I come out to them?

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I’m a gender questioning teen that is currently going through female puberty.

I am dysphoric about my chest, especially since at my age the boys have relatively flats chests with rare prominent pectorals. It makes me feel better having two sports bras on, but my parents (being partially aware of my questioning) have warned me that by constricting my chest it may not develop well. I’m perfectly fine if that means my chest will develop into a small pectoral resembling chest, but I don’t know if it would increase the rates of diseases or disabilities. I am also going swimming soon.

Anyhow, is there anything that I could do that is safe for my stage of development and can also make me feel better about my chest?

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Kat (Forest) asks…

I don’t really know how to phrase it but I guess the simple version is am I transgender? Only a couple years ago did I realize I was jealous of men, that they got to be called he, sir, him. I question who I am everyday, I don’t feel like I am who I am supposed to be, I feel it so deeply it hurts. But I also like my make-up and cute pretty things.

I told my parents I might be trans they just laughed and said I wasn’t because as I child I liked pink, and dresses. . I am so lost right now…

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Sky’sMamma asks…

My kiddo is 13 and would like to get a binder. I’m completely supportive of all of the gender non-binary expression that they’ve explored so far. And I want to support them in this physical way too, however, I’m deeply concerned about the intersection of their developmental age and the long term repercussions. All input is helpful!

Sky’sMamma

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Hayden Reid asks…

Hey so just last week I came out to my dad and step mom and told them I think that I am transgender. Since then I bought two guy shirts and today I got a lot shorter, more masculine haircut. I also just yesterday figured out a name I would like to go by and one of my coworkers started to use it. I felt fantastic being referred to by the name Hayden, with he/his/him pronouns and I got really happy after my haircut.

However, my parents say they are supportive but they are obviously skeptical. A few weeks before I came out, one of my best friends came out as ftm transgender, which I told my parents about. Since I have come out my step mom has on multiple occasions hinted that she thinks I’m delusional and that I’m some sort of LGBTQ hypochondriac.

When my friend came out and posted a video about it on facebook it broke me out of another phase I was going to go through in trying to be girly, I broke it off with a guy I had been seeing and started to research being transgender with all my free time (not the first time I’ve done that).

Is this a common thing for parents to think you are “catching symptoms” of transgenderism online by doing research? Because in my opinion it’s complete idiocy, especially since my small steps to transition are making me feel better and I can also connect things to my childhood.

What are your thoughts?

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dani(ela) asks…

hi, I don’t really know about how this website works or even if I’m using it correctly or not; it’s four in the morning and I’m trying to find help while my family’s asleep. But anyways, I’m thirteen years old and although my assigned gender/sex at birth was female I’ve recently come to terms with myself that I am genderfluid. I know that some of you will say “you’re too young to know” or that I still need time to figure myself out but, I know who I am.

I’ve told some of my closest friends, and most of them have been supportive. My biggest concern is my family though. I live in a lgtbq-phobic home and I’m honestly so terrified about coming out. I don’t know how, or when to do it. I don’t want to wait until I’m in my twenties or in the middle of college. I’m scared crapless of my family, honestly and I live in constant fear of them finding out and kicking me out.

I don’t own any ‘masculine’ clothes that I can wear and I’m just trying to find some ‘unisex’ clothes that my family won’t question. And I really don’t know what to call myself. I’m not a boy, nor a girl. I simply exist as I am and I just want someone that I can talk to about it.

I feel like a disappointment. I really really just want help, and maybe someone that can talk me through this. Please help me, anyone. I don’t know what to do or who to talk to.

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Someone asks…

I’m 23 years old and AFAB, and just this year I started identifying as genderfluid. I’ve never felt like anything other than female all my life, now all of the sudden, this year, there are days and even weeks where I am just definitely not-female before I feel feminine again. I’ve started binding, and it feels great–I look how I FEEL I should look on my not-girl days.

I think I’m genderfluid androgyne/female, and I’m comfortable with that only…is this normal? Most of the narratives I’ve seen seem to have people knowing “something was different” about them in their earlier childhood.

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Cameron asks…

When are there any conventions for the genderqueer community?

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Aelin asks…

I’m genderfluid and 15 but I’m in the process of coming out. I’ve come out to some of my close friends and my 11-year-old brother, but not my parents. My parents are supporters of the LGBT+ community, but don’t believe genderfluidity exists and is ultimately a form of gender-questioning.

I’m unsure how to come out to them, but as I’ll be living with them for a while longer, I feel somewhat uncomfortable keeping it from them. Any advice?

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Liam asks…

Just out of high school, starting to transition from female to male. I have a new name, and I’ve come out to my parents (and close family). I can’t reasonably start therapy since I’ll be moving away to college in August.

But since I’ve told myself that, my dysphoria has been getting worse, and every misgendering instance at work has been driving me insane. I feel like I’m stuck – I can’t do any hormone therapy for another 2-3 years (singing is getting me scholarship money and I can’t risk that). In the meantime, I have no clue on how to feel as though I’m progressing in my transition. I’m caught between barely-supportive parents and college expenses, and I’m completely helpless.

Can anyone offer some advice?

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K. Julian asks…

I am a genderfluid person with a very obviously “female” body (ie. big hips, large breasts, hourglass figure, high/soft voice, small shoulders, short). I have accepted that the world will always see me as a woman who occasionally cross dresses, as I can’t change my height, bone structure and don’t want to commit to top surgery (though I do think about it sometimes). I am lucky to work for an LGBTQ organization that accepts and acknowledges my identity, but I still experience occasional dysphoria about my features.

My question is about Testosterone. If I could begin to grow facial hair that might be enough. I would love a drop in voice but I am a trained singer and I’m afraid it would ruin years of work I’ve put into learning about my specific voice. Could someone with experience and/or knowledge about taking T give me a rundown of treatment options, general cost, pros/cons? I’d really appreciate it.

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Elm asks…

I am Agender and suffer from Gender Dysphoria, a big part of my Disphoria stems from my female cycles, which only serve to remind me of my female body.

I am on the pill, but I have learned quite quickly that it only serves as a control and not an eradication of the problem.

I am interested in getting a hysterectomy. I do not care if I have biological children or not so that is not an issue.

I want to know if this option is available to me? Advice from people who have had the operation? And lastly I want to know the opinion/advice the readers of Genderfork can give me about this?

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¯\_(?)_/¯ asks…

This might sound stupid, but am I transgender/non-binary if I feel the need to look androgynous rather than girly at times? Like, I want to easily give off a genderless, for lack of a better term, at times, and sometimes I want a more masculine vibe, and sometimes I want a more feminine vibe.

Does that mean I’m non-binary?

I hope that doesn’t sound dumb or offensive, I’m just legitimately confused.

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Someone asks…

how do you not only celebrate starting T in the positive way, but also give yourself the space and time to respect the sadness that leaving the female version of you behind brings?

To all FTMs: did you take some time out on your own, or rather spend time with lots of people? Did you feel sad at all? How did you spend your last days on female hormones?

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the german asks…

any creative ideas to document a transition? How do I make a blog or a vlog funny and interesting, should I take pictures as well? What about a good old photo-collage? I get a Little bored by all those similar YouTube Videos, so are there any other ways to record/document and track the whole process of transitioning?

I am not good in making Videos, not good in talking, singing, reading…(to record the voice and how it changes…)and I am not good in photography. As I am a lover of painting and drawing (but again, not good at it) and writing, I can`t really think of something “Special” to follow my own Transition. My head is empty. How do you do it?

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Riley asks…

I’m genderfluid, with (officially) no preference regarding pronouns – or at least, that’s what I tell people. Being dfab (designated female at birth), I’ve responded to she/her for my whole life. I don’t mind this, and in fact I’m used to it, but some variety would be nice.

How could I convince squad to change up the pronouns they use to describe me? (My particular goal is for my best friend at least to use different pronouns.)

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Chrissy asks…

How do I go about dating as a genderqueer individual?

I’m into females… and other genderqueer people…

It’s hard to present the way I want in everyday life… Often I just have to settle for looking like a ‘bloke’ – to avoid issues with family or at work. When I meet new people, whether over the internet or in person, it’s tricky to let people know that they’re not getting into a relationship with a ‘man’ as such.

And then when I do try online dating – like Tinder, I have to tick a box – ‘Male’ or ‘Female’. And then what do I put as my dating photo – the ideal, outside me that I am able to present as every now and again, or the version that’s least likely to get their hopes up that people see at work or around my family…

Thoughts?

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Tory asks…

Hi everyone. I’m 22 and born and raised as a girl. I have always been pretty masculine and dressed more neutral. But I recently realized I have always despised being called she. I took karate and ballet but in both I hung out with the guys and wanted to be them. I thought I was just gay or something but now I think it might be more.

How did you know you were trans? Am I?

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Corey asks…

I’m gender fluid and my parents are against me binding because they think that it will affect my growth (I’m 13) and that the changes that will happen to my breast tissue are a huge problem. Will binding affect my growth? And if not are there any ways to convince my parents that it’s safe?

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