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Someone wrote…
I’m thinking that even with my chest bound, people see me as a female due to my hair and face. But I don’t want to cut my hair. Why can’t I simply be a beautiful person with delicate features and long hair, rather than a woman with a small chest?
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Someone wrote…
Gender is a complicated and amazingly fluid part of human life.
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Someone wrote…
The other day I answered the first survey I’ve ever encountered that offered a fill-in-the-blank option for “Gender.” My excitement at the opportunity to define myself publicly (if anonymously) was met by my continued lack of a defined gender identity. I answered with a vague “Non-binary”, and I feel so free.
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Someone wrote…
Last night, my mom referred to me in conversation as her “man daughter”. I don’t know if I should feel relieved and grateful that she finally acknowledged my masculinity, or frustrated and embarrassed that she can’t just call me her son.
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Someone wrote…
I cut my hair short. I wear loose clothes. I sometimes only wear one earring, so people think I’ve just got the one pierced. But sometimes I need to feel pretty, I need to put on a tight shirt and look at my curves in the mirror.
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Someone wrote…
Every time I’m at work and a child asks me if I am a boy or a girl, I smile and tell them “Yes, I am.”
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Someone wrote…
People try to be polite and not comment on my binder; but given the choice, I’d rather they talked awkwardly about my binder than ignoring my gender completely.
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Someone wrote…
I just want someone to see me for me, I cannot define myself any more than that and I wish other people would stop trying to.
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Someone wrote…
I think it would be nice if EVERYONE was able to be first judged on their character, not what might be under their clothes. I think that androgyny might sometimes be a blessing, that some people should be forced by an absence of gender presentation to consider the PERSON standing before them.
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Someone wrote…
Genderqueer to me today means feeling sensual and gentle enough to shave and wear a cute skirt, yet strong enough to take on the world and tell off anyone who has a problem with it as I go proudly about my day.
Loving the freedom of the middle ground; it’s not either-or, it’s both-neither, and damn it feels beautiful.
Someone wrote…
I’m pretty sure gender doesn’t exist anyway, so why would I limit myself by saying I am only am one gender and I only like one (or two) genders when there are so many!?
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Someone wrote…
It’s difficult to want a penis of your own without making your vagina feel shame. I want to love it too, but sometimes it’s so alien. I want to love myself.
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Someone wrote…
I’m not a woman with facial hair and neckties, and I’m not a man with breasts and a vagina. I’m a little more complex than that, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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Someone wrote…
I find that the more I learn about gender and how I feel about mine, the stronger I become.
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Someone wrote…
Sometimes I feel like an androgynous person. Not knowing which side to choose. I don’t want there to be any border between the sides.
Where I live, the people are not so open-minded. They do not understand things like this. They are old-fashioned.
I feel like I cannot be myself without drawing major attention.
I don’t really know what to do. I hope that, sometime, people don’t have to use a body to live. They should have an avatar. Customizable: their own body, their own representive image.
I hope, by posting this message, I would find people with the same problem that I have.
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Lytche wrote…
Gender confuses me, when it’s presented in binary opposition. My body might be male, but I don’t feel inclined to act masculine, nor do I feel the need to change my sex. I am me and this is my gender – A mixture of psychical strength, compassionate heart, empathy, smiles, kind words and self-reliance. If I could pick my gender, I want it to be pink.
Why people are so obsessed with that box which is being used only to limit one’s choices and to restrain one’s abilities is well beyond me.
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Someone wrote…
I gave in….when they told me I looked better in skirts and make-up than jeans and a loose T-shirt. They like it when I straighten my hair. They like my hair long, not buzzed. They don’t like my gauges. My mother told me I was a bad catholic, and I should go to confessions…and then a therapist. I gave in when they said I look better as a size two than a 9. I gave in…I gave in.
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Someone wrote…
Years ago it would bother me when I read as male while trying to present as female. Now I get frustrated when I pass as cisfemale while trying to present femme drag. Why does it sometimes feel so important to be read “correctly”?
Someone wrote…
I have long hair. I go by a girly name. I have girly mannerisms. Yet all it takes is a glance at my beard shadow for someone to gender me male.
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Someone wrote…
Pronouns make more of a difference than I ever thought they would…I guess you don’t realize how much you need things until you get them.
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