A playful dance routine from M’y.
Here are 35 clever ways that readers “Described Your Gender Presentation On the Autostraddle Reader Survey”
1. Stoner Femme, Gender Confused
2. Insufficiently organised to have a consistent presentation
3. Exhausted college chic/professional physics human
4. Uh. Librarian? What’s the one with no makeup and just regular clothes?
5. Whatever Brandi Carlile is
6. Glitter Queen
7. Fancy Pony Boi
8. Cozy femme
9. I just like docs and dresses ok
10. Hypermasculine camp
11. Softest of butches
12. Executive dysfunction closeted makeup-scared femme?
13. So uncomfortable
14. Femme in the Summer, Butch in the Winter: A Seasonal Fluidity
15. A small cluster of stars
16. 14-year-old boy
17. Leg hair don’t care but actually cares a lot
18. Sloth femme
19. Gay adjunct professor/goth librarian
20. Aunt Dad
21. Granola, self-sufficient, utilitarian, rural spinster
22. Laid-back lesbian farmer
23. DOIN MY OWN FUCKIN THING
24. Athleisure meets sea-witch
25. Comfortable baggy-clothed person
26. My girlfriend likes to (very accurately so) describe me as “pastel butch”
27. Bunny dyke
29. Low Femme
30. Lab Chic
31. Geek? I don’t know, I’m wearing a Wonder Woman shirt and Mickey Mouse shoes, so make of that what you will
33. FUCK I HAVE NO IDEA? USUALLY PEOPLE DON’T RECOGNIZE ME AS GAY, SO FEMME?
35. This whole labeling thing is very American, isn’t it. I’m a woman who owns pants, chucks, skirts and mascara. Now what?
Xylophone Gender recommends…
this will not define me
An excerpt from the zine “Not Trans Enough”
genderqueerness appealed to me because it meant that i no longer had to live like a man. it meant that i no longer had to fall short of the ideal of being a man. it meant that i could start to reject the masculinity that is toxic and violent. it meant that i could be this tiny five foot one and a half tall person trying to live a just life in an unjust world. one thing it didn’t mean was that my male privilege just disappeared once i started to identify as genderqueer.
yes, i still benefit from male privilege even though i identify as genderqueer. this male privilege is complicated and contextual. it’s something i never really thought about or ever needed to consider. i feel genderqueer on the inside but i know that most people read me as a dude. being a genderqueer tomboy femme feels right. although my gender identity challenges gender expectations, i still live in this world that genders people as men or women. as de from my interactions with people that are close to me, i get gendered as a man. even though i identify as femme, i do not experience constnt sexual harassment, gendered or sexual violence.
in my early 20s and before i ever identified as queer in any way, i used to wear women’s pants by goth brands like lip service and tripp. the pants were skinny enough to fit my slim petite figure but were really tight around the crotch area. i also used to wear cyber goth platform sneakers. i had a pair of “swear alternative” shoes that had a 4 inch platform. i only wore them out once. i stopped it all. i couldn’t deal with the looks and i didn’t feel comfortable or confident in what i was wearing so i stopped. i was scared. i stopped expressing this femme aspect of myself to feel safe. i traded aesthetics for security.
From the queer duo Bearcoon.
I identify as… Non-binary transgender queer
As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them
I’m attracted to… Females and faab queer peoples
When people talk about me, I want them to… Not question me about myself.
I want people to understand… We are human too and deserve all the same rights as cisgender/heterosexual people
I’m Rocky from Boston.
Part-time artist, full-time pet care provider, extroverted introvert, dreamer.
» Define yourself. «
You can call me… Lucas
I identify as… semi-masculine genderqueer, probably polysexual
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them, he/him, ze/zir, it/its, any except for
I’m attracted to… anyone queer. a similar sense of humour and outlook on life to myself.
When people talk about me, I want them to… be respectful, not call me “pushy” when correcting them.
I want people to understand… no one is too young to identify differently to how they were born.
» Define yourself. «
our site is looking for more diverse submissions, especially in the profiles section!
Since the founding of Genderfork, we have been actively prioritizing and screening our posts so that we show a robust mix of people, even when most of the material submitted to us has not necessarily skewed in the direction of underrepresented groups. You — our readers have always been quick to let us know when we dip below a certain threshold, because our GF community craves a diverse mix of representation and they want to see themselves reflected in a myriad of ways. We want to continue to deliver that now that our submission stream has dwindled a bit, and we want to fill in any gaps where we may have been lacking, especially as regards with age and ability.
If you are a new visitor, or have a friend who you think would be interested in this site, please pass this link along — we would be super grateful if you did! In the meantime, we will continue to work on inclusion and diversity in our posts, profiles and other sections of the website.
Looking forward to your entries,
the Genderfork Team
You can call me… Between the hours of 8 and 10.
I identify as… Genderless, angry, and finally in a place where I can laugh about it.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … ‘She’ is fine because I can’t really be bothered to remind people and I don’t like making things about me.
I’m attracted to… Sincere kindness and understanding, people who have been through Something, humility, bizarre and dark humor, style, that certain vibe that comes from inside.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Come from a place of love.
I want people to understand… That being aware of something doesn’t absolve you of it, that people don’t reveal integral parts of themselves because they used to have to hide to survive, so have some understanding for the person who’s aloof or timid or ‘too’strange or whatever. I want people to understand the importance of being inclusive.
About Between the hours of 8 and 10.
I haven’t arrived at an amalgamation of theories, but rather a hazy, disjointed set of beliefs. I don’t know who I am really and am trying to not think so much. I’m learning ASL and cobbling and drums, so that’s pretty cool.
» Define yourself. «
I was like, “Oh, my goodness! All of the things that people teased me about or called me names about, or those things that were supposed to be my flaws, were really my strengths!”
Reposted from You Deserve Love Campaign
You can call me… Lee
I identify as… a polyamorous pansexual genderfluid revolving door.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … when it comes down to it I don’t really mind what others call me, but I tend to like gender neutral pronouns because it shows that they gave my identity some thought.
I’m attracted to… an open mind, great sense of humor, easy going personality, and someone who stands for what they believe in.
When people talk about me, I want them to… not feel afraid to ask questions, but be polite. I’m more than happy to answer but I don’t have time for rude and bigoted people.
I want people to understand… that my sexuality, gender, pronouns, etc. doesn’t affect them and they shouldn’t let such things get in the way of possible friendship.
Reposted from Ruch Queer, czyli ruch osób wolnych od stereotypów (approximate translation from Polish: “Queer movement, or the movement of people free from stereotypes”)
Reposted from DapperQ
You can call me… Brandon / Clementine
I identify as… Gender Fluid
As far as third-person pronouns go, … He or She depending on what personality I am currently using.
I’m attracted to… women, especially those who are also gender fluid. My quest to find that special one is something important to me and I’m starting to wonder if it will ever happen.
When people talk about me, I want them to… treat me like I am anybody else and not focus on what I am going to look like the next day.
I want people to understand… that it is difficult always wondering if something bad is going to happen to you just because the way that you are dressed. There is no reason why we shouldn’t be treating each other with respect and love. It also gets to be a bit expensive when you are maintaining two different wardrobes.
About Brandon / Clementine
I am 36 years old and I have been slowly discovering myself for a long time now. Growing up I always knew that I was different and didn’t quite fit into the traditional roles but never had a real idea of who I was. Once I learned what transgender was while in college it put me on the path to really get things figured out. Everyday though I am still learning new things about myself.
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From @thejefferyMarsh: “It’s ok to bring a little sass to your day sometimes.
You can call me… Phoenix
I identify as… An androgynous agender punk
As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them are preferable, but he/him are okay as well
I’m attracted to… Androgynous or masculine women, genderqueer people, honestly if you’re a genuine person who speaks from the heart you’ve probably got a chance.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Focus on who I am as a person rather than my gender. I get that it’s a lot to take in for some people, but it’s important to respect others for who they are. If I do something truly shitty, judge me for that rather than how I present myself and what I am.
I want people to understand… Just because I have a biologically male anatomy and am happy with said anatomy doesn’t mean I’m a guy. And just because I’m not a guy doesn’t mean I’m therefore a girl. Honestly, the world would be a better place if we threw out the ideas of “male” and “female”. They’re outdated societal means of shoving people into boxes to control them (and honestly, most people don’t completely fit into these boxes).
» Define yourself. «