In Her Memory



“In Her Memory,” by Paolo Jara-Riveros With support from St. John’s Well Child and Family Center’s Trans Health initiate.


Posted by on January 22nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Trans Microaggressions


Reposted from Bisexual Women of Color (via GLAAD).

“Every day, trans and gender non-conforming people face overt and subtle discrimination as they try to go about their lives. As part of Transgender Awareness Week, GLAAD created a photo essay to highlight the more subtle forms of oppression trans people experience – often called microaggressions. Microaggressions are subtle verbal or behavioural slights that invalidate a person’s identity or experience.”

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Posted by on January 21st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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if you love beards wear a beard.


Submitted by Mae, the model and photographer.

” I didn’t feel boyish, nor butch, male, nor androgynous that day. But like wearing a beard. And it felt good honestly.”

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Posted by on January 20th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Question: Confused and feeling alone


asks…

I’m not quite sure what I’m feeling currently and it’s really stressful. I have 2 friends that are trans and they recently got binders. I support them 100% but when they told me about getting binders, I got EXTREMELY jealous of them and I don’t know why. I’ve been born a girl and have always been one but after feeling that jealous, I’ve been questioning myself. My gender and sexuality. I’m not sure if maybe I could be trans or what but this feeling won’t leave me alone and I don’t know what to do…

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Posted by on January 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Portraits of Jacob


Reposted from Charisma Moran Photography.

“I sat patiently waiting in Bryant Park, camera in hand, and perfect weather outside.

Jacob walked up from the Subway in their tall black heels and the perfect LBD, looking effortlessly chic. Sure, Jacob is an accomplished writer, public speaker, and advocate but before that, they are the type of person that you immediately want to be best friends with.

Stylish, funny, and charming; Jacob made me feel as if I had known them my whole life when I had only spent five minutes with them.”

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Posted by on January 19th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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The Struggle Bus


Someone wrote…

Why does gender even MATTER?!

I mean, it does. Obviously. We like to have labels, they make us feel affirmed, and like part of a group.

For the past five months, I’ve been riding the Struggle Bus trying to figure out if I’m trans/genderfluid/asexual/an idiot (well, I’m definitely the last one :) ) but to no avail. I want the body of the opposite sex, and that role, and all that, but I still have my doubts and wonder every day if it’s a phase and worth telling le parents.

But why all the bother? Aren’t I myself, an awesome, funny, sarcastic, annoying, athletic, smart, stupid, boring, fun, contradictory person before I’m a boy, girl, or anything in between? Why does gender matter? Why is it that when you go on Omegle the first thing they ask you is your sex? (It’s cos they’re perverts, but do you feel me?)
Isn’t whether you’re a person more important than what’s between your legs? Why do I even give a flying f**ck?!

But I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Kai


You can call me… Kai

I identify as… a Boy

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he/him/they/their

I’m attracted to… feminine men. girls. trans* people from all over the spectrum.

When people talk about me, I want them to… look past my body and other physical attributes and see who I am on the inside.

I want people to understand… that gender isn’t as black-and-white as the pubic sets it out to be.

About Kai

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Posted by on January 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Moment


Someone wrote…

The most amazing moment is when someone asks you how you identify, and after 5 gruelling, awful years of searching for a word, you are at a loss for words because you have moved on from needing a word.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Will binding effect breastfeeding?


asks…

If I bind will I still be able to breastfeed in the future?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on January 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Guy Pants


Someone wrote…

I remember the first time I went to get pants from the men’s section. I was at TJ Maxx and had talked to my mom about getting guy pants “For the sake of REAL pockets” “Because Comfort” and “I’m tall, so finding pants that are actually measured instead of assigned a random number will be easier.” All things I was currently telling myself. Not just my folks.

It was odd because I had never gone to the men’s section before. I had no idea what ANY of the numbers meant. And I had no idea where to look and I was really self conscious entering the Men’s section in front of a father and his son when I was so obviously female. But as I was sifting the racks, finally fonding my way around, I was getting strange looks from a totally different guy.

And I could feel myself thing, deep down, a thought I (at the time) refused to acknowledge say “Yeah. I am a girl in the Men’s section at TJ Max. Whachya gunna do ’bout it? What if I’m not cis? Huh??”

And it was just this overwhelming sense of… victory. And I had no idea why… well. I refused to accept why. Now here I am, owning three pairs of guy pants.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Royce


You can call me… Royce

I identify as… Genderqueer. Not gender neutral. No bigender. More of third gender to it.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir, ze/zir, ey… whatever around those lines, but avoid all masc. and fem. ones.

I’m attracted to… Other genderqueers, androgynous looking people, woman, and veeeeery rarely to men

When people talk about me, I want them to… try to understand my situation

I want people to understand… It’s not only confusing for them, it was confusing for me, too. They weren’t the only ones raised to see just two genders, I was, too. I abandoned many things to be honest about myself. I’m not doing this cause it’s “easier”, I’m doing this, even though it’s harder, because I know hiding the truth never works.

About Royce

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Posted by on January 14th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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PROMlem


Someone wrote…

I go to a school so small that everyone can come to prom. Otherwise there would only be about 12 kids there. So with talk of prom starting to surface, i have realized a PROMblem. (Haha. Puns) What to wear? There is no way I will be able to predict if i’ll feel masculine or feminine or neither or both in advance. Gender fluidity doesn’t exactly fit a schedule. O.o

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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John, I’m Only Dancing



John, I’m Only Dancing,” in memory of David Bowie. Bowie was probably known for exploring gender expression and identity as much as for his art and music.


Posted by on January 12th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Timelines


Someone wrote…

My gender timeline in years:
11: tomboy
12: girl
13: IM A MAN
14: agender………?
15: fluid, flustered, fabricated, fabulous, flouncy, feminine-but-never-ever-femine!!!!
16: agender. please don’t mess up my pronouns…
17: agender. but don’t worry if you mess up it’s okay. BUT DONT CALL ME A GIRL
18: I don’t care. BUT DONT CALL ME A GIRL
19: wait that sign said mens? oops I forgot I have a sex… lol thats awkward

My gender timeline in terms of dysphoria:
11: eeew sex O.o
12: hmm thats kind of cool actually :?
13: what the fu/ck is going on :(
14: wow boobs are gross :/
15: GET THESE BOOBS OFF ME >:/
16: get me out of this whole body!!!!! D’:
17: GET ME OUT OF THIS WHOLE BODY!!!! D’:
18: i don’t care. it sucks, but too bad. but it SUCKS SO MUCH it’s killing me. oh well. :(
19: whoa this new chest is great amazing for a tattoo.

You all are cool people – remember you don’t have to know what will happen tomorrow <3

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 11th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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at my receptionist job


You can call me… at my receptionist job

I identify as… agender, gender queer, and angry.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I wish they weren’t gendered because even a gender-neutral term seems to reference a gendered one.

I’m attracted to… fervent and dark senses of humor, people who are uber consensual and not weird about it, people with hard shells and sweet, intelligent inards, strangeness, unconditional understanding. Lately more attracted to my future than to anyone sexually.

When people talk about me, I want them to… practice understanding of the complexity of me, just as they should consider and respect the complexity of everyone.

I want people to understand… That if you use gender to decide how to treat someone, you very likely are being conscending or disrespectful of someone.

About at my receptionist job
After almost 3 decades of feeling like an alien, I recently realized that people in general have their struggles, too. I grew up without much guidance, like many of us do, and have been trying to put myself in positions where I’ll be forced to learn.

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Posted by on January 10th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Need to Tell Them But I Don’t Know How


Someone wrote…

I’m 21, female wanting to be a male.

I fall asleep and wake up thinking the same thing everyday, that I hate myself for who I am, for the body I didn’t choose.

I’m afraid to tell anyone, no one knows. My beautiful girlfriend, worries about me. And so does my family. But I still can’t bring myself to tell them

I see a man and I envy them. All I have ever wanted is to be one, I was given the wrong body.

I feel so alone in this world, I need to tell them. But I don’t know how, my life needs to change.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 9th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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#boi


Reposted from The unfeminine aesthetic. (via Beastly Bastard.)

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Posted by on January 8th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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A Place in the Middle


a place in the middle

This short documentary also comes with a classroom discussion guide “to help students appreciate the value of inclusion, the strengths they inherit from their cultural heritage, and their own power to create a school climate of aloha—love, honor and respect for all. Based on the true story of a young Hawaiian girl who dreams of leading her school’s all-male hula troupe, and a transgender teacher who empowers her through traditional culture.”


Posted by on January 8th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Innermost Feelings


Someone wrote…

I consider myself to be a rather androgynous person, most of the time, even though I’m “male” “down there”…with some periods of feeling very feminine sprinkled in between. It was very confusing for me all my life (I’m now 64y.o.) growing up never feeling like I really fit into either end of the gender spectrum.

My given name is Christopher, which I love, but when I’m feeling very feminine it doesn’t really “fit” that feeling….I’m out to most of my family and friends as being bi sexual, but only out to a couple of people as being gender fluid. I think it doesn’t matter what age you are discovering yourself, it’s difficult telling people about your innermost feelings.

I’d just like to say to everyone out there that seems to be struggling in some way with their gender identity that, I think you’re ALL the most courageous people!!!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Androgynous CIS?


Shortstack asks…

So I have a strong wanting to be androgynous. But like I don’t want cosmetic surgery or anything like that. I just like the idea of wearing male clothing, but I can’t really try that because of my mom and the money. I’m female, and I’m happy being female, but I still want to look male sometimes…I don’t like feel male, I always feel femme and I’m perfectly fine with that. I just don’t know what I am if I’m happy being a female and identifying cis, but yet still wanting to possibly look and dress like a male? My sexuality isn’t in question, but I guess my gender? I just don’t know and am very confused as to what I classify as. Androgynous Cis girl???

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Posted by on January 6th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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