Melting


Someone wrote…

I’m a male-bodied human who has been wearing about 75% women’s clothes for about 9 months. For the most part, my tastes are pretty ambiguously gendered. (If I could have it my way-and I know, I can-I would be a tomboy-ish female.) So nobody really even recognizes what I’m doing so far. There’s one girl at work who always comments on the way I dress, and the other day she said, “Oh my gosh, WHERE do you shop?? You know, I just want to be you…but like, a girl version.” I just froze for a few seconds, thinking, “Yeah, you and me both.”

And then pretty much felt like just melting all over the floor.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 6th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Layered Black Dresses


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Tear Down the Wall



Fun gender anthem by Kieran Strange.


Posted by on September 5th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Smiles


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My philosophy


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I’m on this journey of exploration in gender and sexuality. Sometimes, I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere. My gender expression is my own, and I hate that I feel this need to fit into a label. I am masculine, and I am feminine. I enjoy sometimes being seen as a man and other times as a woman. That middle ambiguous area really makes me feel comfortable with myself – strong, confident, and more like who I really am. I guess I am gender queer.

But, where does sexuality fit into that? Can someone who is gender queer be gay, or straight? How can you say with any certainty who you are interested in? I envy those people who are so sure of their sexuality that they completely know who they are attracted to. It leaves me feeling inadequate and confused.

My philosophy is to live my life being who I am – never lying to anyone about myself ever again. When I find someone who lights my fire, I am confident that the physical will fall into place. Whoever I fall in love with will win my heart, regardless of gender. I only hope that someone will love me for me like that – for me and not my sexual organs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 4th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Loki


“Lady Loki.”

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Posted by on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: Chest Reconstruction Surgery


Question: Breast Removal Surgery

WolfieKate asks…

I am a 45 year old lady who is, in the main, happy with my lot in life! I am happily married and have 2 great kids. However my life has been affected for the last 30 years in that I have suffered dysphoric reactions to my breasts since puberty. I am OK with being female, just not a very clear female. I think the lines here are vague, I am happy being female but I don’t identify with much that is female culturally or physically especially my chest. Since they grew they have felt completely wrong, like alien objects grafted to me.

I have had counselling galore and I take medication to make me less unhappy. But none of it works. I am so tired of my chest affecting my life so much. It would be so nice to be free. At 45 I feel as if I deserve a break!

I want to find UK surgeon willing to do a chest reconstruction to remove my breasts. If I were looking for a full FTM change it appears this would be possible eventually but as a woman who wants to stay a woman but no breasts apparently it’s just tough. I feel so frustrated. As if society has decided for me that if I am female I must have breasts! I do not know what to do and at my age I am not willing to back down. Does anyone have experience of how I can start approaching this with surgeons or the NHS. Thanks!

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Posted by on September 3rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Fringed


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Posted by on September 2nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Assumptions


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I wrote an article recently and was asked to include a short bio about myself. I chose my words carefully and supplied a bio without using pronouns. For some reason, the editor changed it anyway and the published result identified me using gendered pronouns.

I decided not to raise it with the editor, but I’ve been thinking about it ever since. How do I really want people to see me? I don’t like the assumptions that come with being assigned/presumed female, but if it wasn’t for the assumptions … maybe I wouldn’t mind being identified as female? I guess it’s impossible to know, since gender roles are so deeply ingrained in our culture and how people treat each other. And on top of that, I guess I still feel apprehensive about being very public about identifying as genderqueer, hence my circuitous route of trying to avoid pronouns rather than just choosing ‘they’ or similar.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 2nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Question: Halting Biology


Monster asks…

I’m a FAAB gendermixed/transqueer and I just can’t deal with getting periods anymore. I can’t keep this up, the regression back into a depressed pit of gender dysphoria every month, then re-learning how to build myself back up.

Going on T isn’t an option.

Going on pills or shots that will trick my body into thinking I’m pregnant isn’t an option. (because enhanced feminine features is the last thing that will make the dysphoria go away)

Are there other alternatives?

Thanks so much. So greatly appreciated! :D

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on September 1st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Missing


Someone wrote…

I’m sick of falling asleep to feel whole, only to wake up and find parts missing.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 31st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The Right to be Handsome



Clothing makers breaking barriers. See more at Marimacho, The Handsome Butch, and our sibling site, Genderplayful.


Posted by on August 30th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Rockin’


Someone wrote…

I saw a little boy at a concert on Sunday – probably 5 years old – wearing this rockin’ teal and white chevron ankle-length skirt. Made me remember that I want to dedicate my life to making sure that that’s okay no matter where you live.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 29th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Val


You can call me… Val

I identify as… Bisexual & Gender-Fluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … At the current moment, I don’t have a preference, but if I had to chose one pronoun, then female.

I’m attracted to… All genders&sexes.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect me

I want people to understand…

About Val

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Posted by on August 28th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Restroom


Someone wrote…

I like being able to use the female restroom and not get clocked for being a male in a past life. I never take it for granted because I know others do not have it as easy as I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 27th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: A Map of Gender-Diverse Cultures


Someone recommends…

A Map of Gender-Diverse Cultures

Cross Cultural Gender Deviance
Interactive World Map

This is in promotion of the documentary Two Spirits, about the Navajo Two Spirit gender identity and other non-binary gender identities in the world. The map has blurbs on various identities from all around the world.

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Posted by on August 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Pretty Boi


You can call me… Pretty Boi

I identify as… agender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/she/they. I can’t be bothered to insist.

I’m attracted to… perceptive men, hard women, politically radical people, queerness that deviates from the queer norm, hairy bodies, quiet people, style, openness, confidence and also people who are working on their confidence, simplification, complexity. Artists without an art form.

When people talk about me, I want them to… stop assuming they know anything about who I am and where I come from. I’m guilty too, though.

I want people to understand… you can work hard to get places.

About Pretty Boi
Dog walker, weight lifter, student, ADHD, too many goals, confused, getting there.

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Posted by on August 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Born Slippy


Someone recommends…

Genderbent recasting of an already gender-bending techno song originally written and performed by Underworld.

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Posted by on August 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The slightest alteration


Someone wrote…

It’s interesting how even the slightest alteration to one’s appearance can mean the difference between being read as male or female.

I recently purchased a small messenger bag to carry my phone, wallet, etc., and I am finding that I’m now being read as female. I suspect it’s because the strap goes right down the middle of my chest, accentuating my biological figure. It’s also not much bigger than a purse, but was advertised as a men’s bag. I usually pass as male about 90% of the time, but adding this bag to my ensemble has tilted the scales in the other direction. I feel compelled to get rid of it and continue putting things into my pockets.

I’m sad. I loved that bag. Any suggestions for bags that don’t divide one’s chest would be greatly appreciated. Sometimes backpacks are too bulky.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Drive


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Posted by on August 18th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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