Gender is confusing. It doesn’t really matter, but people put so much weight on it. I never understood people’s obsession with gendered concepts and I grew up as a child who just did whatever I wanted to do,wore whatever I wanted, played with whoever I wanted. I imagined that everybody else thought the same way, but apparently not. Gender got blown up in my face during puberty when physically and hormonally and socially everything started changing around me as well as within me, and I was not comfortable. Even though the world around me hasn’t changed, my understanding of myself has and hey, I’m comfortable without having a gender and I like where I am in this world.
I’m 19 and I was born a female. I’ve always had this feeling that I would of rather been born a boy. But, I kind of pushed it back and went on with my life. But lately, I’ve been depressed.
For about a year now, I’ve been really caught up the fact I might be trans and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t think my mom would accept me, or my sister for that matter. But, I think my dad and my brother would be okay with it.
That being said I don’t even know if I want to “come out” or “transition” because I feel ashamed and embarrassed to be honest. I did tell my dad I was depressed about a month or two ago, and when he asked if I knew why, I just told him I don’t know. We talked about it a bit, I cried the whole time I told him and the rest of the day after.
I just feel like such a disappointment, and he was so supportive. He asked if I wanted to see a therapist or anything, and I told him no at the time, however, I think I should tell him I’ve changed my mind. That being said I would go to a therapist for depression. Will the therapist be able to tell I’m having gender identity issues?
Should I tell them?
I’m really unsure of how to approach any of this and all I’m feeling is upset, stressed and depressed about this situation because I know that transitioning is hard and I know that I would of rather been born a boy, but I don’t know if I would want to transition.
Also, I’m pretty much just attracted to guys, so would that make me gay, as well if I identified as a ftm? And if that’s the case wouldn’t it make sense to just be a female and straight?
I’m 16 and i feel like i have to come out to my all the time. I first came out explaining what i feel and all the information i researched. It has been a year and they still do not get it. I have to “come out” all the time but they dismiss it as a “phase” or a “rebellion” and keep calling me their daughter. It makes me feel rejected or like i don’t know what i am talking about. It makes me feel like a fake or to young to know that I am transgender.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Say only what they know for certain, use the correct pronouns, and keep me in a positive but honest light.
I want people to understand… Gender is different from sex, gender expression does not equal orientation or gender identity, polyamorous individuals are not cheating, people have the right to identify as they wish, respect pronouns and having a Gender and Queer Theory major is completely valid.
A bookstore clerk, a domestic violence prevention and intervention center ambassador, full time student.
Artist, poet, singer.
Gender and Queer Theory major with a Human Rights minor.
They told me I was a girl, but I wasn’t a girl. They told me I was a lesbian, but I wasn’t a lesbian. They told me what to think, but I thought other things.
When I started asking questions, I was told I thought too much. When I started finding answers, they smiled, and waited for me to change my mind. When the answers didn’t change, their smiles faded. When I stood firm with my new definitions, they told me I was wrong.
They tell you so many things about yourself, and expect you to listen. But when you open your mouth, and speak your self, their ears are closed, and they do not hear you.
I identify as… a female, bisexual human being, that would be totally okay to live in both polygamy and monogamy.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like to be referred to as she, her and hers.
I’m attracted to… men and women, both sexually and romantically, but I don’t label myself, I just call myself “bisexual” because I think it fits me and if I ever fall in love with someone who does not identify as a man or woman, i’m totally okay with that as long as it’s my decision.
When people talk about me, I want them to… accept who or what I am. Because it’s not their choice, who or what I am and when they try to control me somehow, they don’t deserve my respect.
I want people to understand… that not every person on this world is automatically born as a heterosexual man / woman.
Sexuality, gender and preferences are spectra.
We are not labelled. You choose how you want to live.
You and only you.
I was born a female but I have a very very strong desire to transition to male. I feel so uncomfortable in a feminine body! My sexual identity is Pansexual, and I feel sexually attracted to any gender. I feel more sexual desire for other females and have often wondered if I was gay, straight, or bi. After settling with Pansexual and feeling a whole lot more at home, my only wish is to learn more about my dream of transitioning to the male gender and the facts of life of it. Thank you so much!
I am a curvy woman. I have huge boobs (which I wish I didn’t have at all) and huge hips and a shapely body.
My whole life I’ve never wanted to present feminine. I feel like I only suit women’s clothes, but I hate myself in them. They just feel like they don’t belong to me. It freaks me out if people say they would consider me femme.
I haven’t presented butch since I was a child and I don’t know how to make my gender presentation feelings fit with my adult body. I work in an office and I need to look presentable. How do I do this? Please help me!
I identify as… Questioning. Probably genderfluid. On occasional days maybe a boy and on other occasional days a girl.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Xe/Xem/Xyr/Xyrs or He/Him/His/His (although I’ve never tried this I want to) and if anyone I know is around She/Her/Her/Hers (Yes her and his are there twice)
I’m attracted to… Guys I think and maybe others. I haven’t had any actual crushes and have never been anywhere near a relationship. and I have no clue about my sexuality.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Use my pronouns but thats the extent to which they should be thinking about my gender when talking about me. And don’t act like I weird or special or different.
I want people to understand… I’m not mad at them if I respond quickly and a bit sharply to a pronoun mess up. And I’m just a kid but that doesn’t make me less understanding of this stuff or anything.
I am a hiker (hope to hike the AT someday) but otherwise Im not considered sporty. I’m very independent. I don’t have a lot of friends and I never hang with them outside of school. I make my own meals for myself and I can be alone. I am part of a GSA but I can’t come out to them or anyone really. Its just too hard when you know them well.
I identify as… ftm trans, homoromantic asexual, fluid expression
As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him/his, or they/them/theirs. He/him/his is my preferred set.
I’m attracted to… no one except Gerard Way. Just kidding, I’m ace. :) But Gerard is a verrrrry pretty person.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of me as a male individual with FEELINGS, and why yes I am wearing a flower crown and a skirt thank you very much. I want them to also know that I will accept anyone and everyone as long as they are being kind and respectful to others.
I want people to understand… I like wearing “girly” clothes sometimes but I am still a guy, and sometimes I refer to other people as “dude” and “bro” and sometimes when I’m being sassy “girl!” but I mean it as a completely genderneutral term.
About Felix Sasha Hartis
Hi! My name is Felix Sasha Hartis, and I am a teenage transboy living in the USA. I like music, and when I say music I mean anything between the ukulele screamo and gentle breezey lyrics of twenty one pilots, to the cymbal crashing, blood-curdling screams and tear-jerking melodies (i.e. WTTBP) of My Chemical Romance. And then the “what even is this” and “OH MY GOD THIS IS SO AMAZING AHHH” of Panic! At The Disco and The Brobecks. Wait, you mean this bio is about me? Not music? Oh. Okay. Well, I don’t really have anything else interesting to say. OKAy BAI.
I identify as… Neither male nor female. I am both and none, like some sort of in between gender. I prefer the term “queer” to anything else.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I was using male for a while even though I am female bodied, but lately I have been introduced to the Swedish gender neutral term “hen”, I like it.
I’m attracted to… Men, but only a certain type, I am not that interested in sex but love to cuddle up to a good man.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of me as anyone else, I know I am different but I’m not an alien. Treat me with respect as they would be expecting to be treated with respect.
I want people to understand… That they will never truly understand what it is like to be queer unless they are themselves. It hurts me to hear people talk as though I don’t know who I am, I do, they don’t. Again, respect.
Forty seven years old, never felt like I belong to either gender but now becoming comfortable with myself for who I am. I have only a few good friends who love me for me and the support of my family is very important.
BIG disclaimer: The Genderfork Team debated posting this video due to one ignorantly-written line*. We decided in favor of posting, due to its other redeeming qualities. We hope you enjoy the other 1:49 of the video!
*The line is “…and those who have yet to make up their minds.” Even if we decide to give them the benefit of the doubt and guess that this was intended as tongue-in-cheek, it still seems in poor taste that it is delivered by two cis people. To make matters worse, it’s followed by “crazy,” an ableist term. We hope the song makes up for these shortcomings!
I identify as… AMAB Gender Neutral/agender – I don’t feel a disconnect from my male body, but I don’t identify with male or female. I love playing with masculinity and femininity.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them or zhe/zhim/zherself pronouns, but I like when people mix it up. Don’t mind Male pronouns
I’m attracted to… Primarily other AMAB or masculine-of-center people, so I guess gay/androsexual. I like guys who are funny, witty and sweet.
When people talk about me, I want them to… recognise me for the person I am and who I want to be. And, above all else, be honest.
I want people to understand… I don’t want my physical body to restrict what and how I can present myself as.
I have only recently come into understanding myself as a non-binary person, formerly identifying exclusively as a gay male. While the gay remains the same, my gender has finally made itself clear. I have always felt the restrictions on what AMAB and AFAB can do was the worst thing, and that people should be allowed at all times to do what they please.
If you every want to talk with me, my tumblr is thekunstisme. I just want to meet other non-binary people and share in that experience.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer “Niko” and “Niko’s”. Like if someone says “He went to his house”, I would like “Niko went to Niko’s house”
I’m attracted to… Men <3
When people talk about me, I want them to… To treat me like any other person.
I want people to understand… That I’m not offended if you make a mistake, and that it gets hard to get used to people with a different gender. I understand it will take time to learn.
Hello :). I am 16 y/o androsexual mascandrogyne. My journey with gender has been a long one, and this is what I have come up with. I also struggle with mental illness, though it isn’t related to my gender.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them please!
I’m attracted to… all or most genders I guess? It’s complicated.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect my identity, use my name and pronouns, and be kind.
I want people to understand… Why misgendering and deadnaming me makes me so upset.
About Gainey Castel H.
I’m a 16 year old college student living in California. I’d really love to be a writer, but my depression interferes with my productivity and creates massive amounts of writer’s block.