I’ve struggled with my assigned gender for the last two years. I’ve tried cutting my hair short, wearing more masculine clothes and copying body language. I’ve realised that I’m still not happy and I still have dysphoria.
The problem is I don’t know how to express what I feel inside on the outside. The truth is I like the nowadays norms of what femininity is supposed to look like but not how its supposed to act like. So I feel androgynous inside but I don’t like short hair or leg hair and I hate how male clothing is boring and uncreative. I want to try contouring make up to make my facial structure look more ‘manish’ while being quite feminine in appearance.
I’m genderfluid, moving from being neutrois almost all of the time, to every now and then male/female. There’s no pattern to the changes. No rhyme or reason to my gender expression. My sexual orientation is difficult to explain without saying pansexual (which I’m not).
I haven’t met anyone like myself before, and so many people on the net seem so much more ‘stable’ in their fluidity than me. Trying to find my place amongst the binary, non-binary, or sometimes in the LGBTQ community, seems so hard. I just don’t fit in a category. And if I every did, I wouldn’t be in it for very long.
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I may be genderqueer, but I’m still not sure. I was born female, but every time I say “I’m a girl” I feel almost like giggling, as though I’m saying a lie, and often I feel completely comfortable saying “I’m a guy”.
One of my friends was recently very rude to me and told me I should be dressing more feminine, and she and her girlfriend actually laughed about the subject of more existing genders other than male and female, which made me die a little inside, so I never told them about my doubts. I just wish I could be me, I feel pushed into a little box labeled “girl” and I just don’t wanna be there.
I’ve basically just begun my journey of seriously exploring my gender identity and trying to figure who I really am. I’m dfab and I’ve always identified with being a girl/woman, but I guess being just a woman always felt like it was an incomplete definition, like I always felt some kind of otherness in my gender too that was separate?
The label demigirl seems to mesh with a lot of what I’m feeling, but I’m just confused because because I’m trying to acknowledge the part of myself I haven’t before, without denying the part of me that identifies with womanhood.
I am genderfluid and often feel dysphoric because I appear very female: high voice, hourglass figure (or so I’ve been told), and an unnecessarily-large chest.
My friend, however, is a cisgender female yet appears very gender neutral: low voice, slim hips, and a small, flat chest. She complains about her body, wishing she had mine, while I complain about my body, wishing I had hers.
We joke about the movie “Freaky Friday,” because if that happened, we would never want to go back.
I identify as… Genderfluid- uh, maybe. Girly ojou prince boy some days, butch girl other days, and more, so much more
As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her or they/them
I’m attracted to… femme guys and femme girls most of all
When people talk about me, I want them to… recognize that I’m probably not a butch lesbian.
I want people to understand… that gender is so not written in stone, especially for me. And don’t even think about making a joke about transpeople. When people laugh at transwomen, crossdressers, talk about “sex changes”, etc. it hurts my feelings. I know I’m weird, but jeez, I’m not a joke.
Southern kid too butch to be a belle. Never expected to be this queer. Skipped school until I was 19, gave college a try and it turns out I’m pretty good at it. I enjoy Marvel movies weight lifting and learning ASL
Being genderfluid is…difficult. You have to constantly explain it, and you have to pass perfectly so people know you’re not just a tomboy or tomgirl. There’s a lot of pressure to prove that you’re legit.
But you also get a lot of freedom, I guess. You don’t feel like a guy today? Cool, you have other options. Maybe you’re a chick. Maybe both. Maybe neither. Who knows? You. Have. Options.