Profile: Jodi


You can call me… Jodi

I identify as… Transgender lady

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She, Her, Maam, Ms,

I’m attracted to… Kindness and Humor.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Smile

I want people to understand… That I conform to societal standards out of need not want. I know I will never be able to be the real me but I can better help people of our community by using the platform that has provide to me.

About Jodi
Father (Mother) of two, Married 32 yrs, corporate executive, on Hormones for over 20 yrs but still living as a male. Don’t want to but it isn’t just about me. Wish I could have the bottom surgery but can’t without RLT. I life as a woman when I can, it truly is the only time I am comfortable with me. I grew up poor and more than anything unwilling to risk my career. My position allows to me to insure that our company does not discriminate against GLBT team members.

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Posted by on September 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Taylor


You can call me… Taylor

I identify as… A polyamorous genderqueer/-fluid. I am physically a male, but I carry my strong feminine side with me every day. There are days when I feel like a woman and days when I feel like a man.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t know. I have had several times, when I have found myself confused when referred as a male, when I have been feeling feminine. Guess a feminine man would be somewhat correct, even though it doesn’t cover it completely through.

I’m attracted to… Women, especially tall and feminine ones, even when I have my female days/times. When it comes to sex, in my female times I don’t want/need intercourse at all, because it would feel weird.

When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on my personality, rather than gender. The people around me know that I act very feminine from time to time, but that’s only half the truth and I’d like to keep it that way.

I want people to understand… that my style of dressing up and my taste about culture are a mixture of my both sides. I’ve always talked up how men can like feminine things, but I don’t want most people around me to know how I actually feel about them inside.

About Taylor
An academic genderqueer with a family.

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Posted by on September 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Derek


You can call me… Derek

I identify as… genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m not particular, really. Weird to say, but I think I would prefer “it”, if it were completely up to me. I realize how “it” can seem insulting, or like you’re a “thing” and not a person, but it just feels neutral, to me.

I’m attracted to… Women. I have a definite tendency towards a more tomboyish vibe, but it’s not a strict rule or anything.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Trust that I know me more than they do. I will in turn trust the same for everyone else.

I want people to understand… The “just want to/trying to be different” thing is the worst kind of catch-22. If you don’t argue against it, they get to stick with their assumptions and misunderstanding, but if you do try to argue, it’s treated as proof that you “just want attention”. You can’t win against this dismissal.

About Derek

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Posted by on September 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sam


You can call me… Sam.

I identify as… an Grilyboy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … please just use the male ones to describe me.

I’m attracted to… both genders. I don’t care about the Gender of the other person. When its Love its Love.

When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on my personality rather then my gender. Just because I have boobs, doesn’t mean i like to have ’em and of course doesn’t give you the right to touch ’em.

I want people to understand… that i’m a person too and if they say i’m disgusting because I’m Transgender that i can get hurt too.

About Sam.
I like
– Reading
– Writing
– Sleeping
– Smoking
and drawing.

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Posted by on September 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jess



You can call me… Jess (or Furby)

I identify as… Demi-woman. Discordian, vegan, lefty, ginger.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/They/FURBY DESTROYER OF THE INNOCENT

I’m attracted to… Girly people, with some exceptions!

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect my identity.

I want people to understand… That I’ve changed a lot in the last few years. That I’m serious about those changes. That my sense of humour doesn’t mean I’m not serious about my beliefs. That we’re all learning.

About Jess (or Furby)
I’m a 25 year old programmer who dabbles in activism and music. I work with a UK organisation called Action For Trans Health which advocates for trans healthcare justice and runs a solidarity fund.

I go by HodgePodge a lot online, including in the Genderfork comments- I’m finally ready to post a profile :)

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Posted by on September 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Theo



“i am a trans masc non binary ftm-ish person. i do fit under the non binary umbrella however i don’t always identify as such… it’s weird.”


Posted by on September 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Angel


You can call me… Angel

I identify as… genderqueer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him/they/them. I rarely enjoy hearing she/her.

I’m attracted to… feminine men, masculine women, genderqueer.

When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on my personality.

I want people to understand… there are more than two genders and a zillion ways to express oneself. I won’t dress the same every day but I’ll be comfortable with each choice and that’s what matters.

About Angel
I am discovering myself daily and feeling so much greater than I’ve ever been. I am starting to buy clothes and accessories that fit my identity better. No outside influences, just myself.

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Posted by on September 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Haru


You can call me… Haru

I identify as… genderfluid.
My gender changes from time to time. In general I am one of the following: Male, Female, unclear mix of Male and Female and Space Marine. The last one is a bit tricky. When I am traveling or working I am focused on something during that time, and I only see the task and noting else. Even if a person I find attractive would walk past me I would not notice it. This goes to the point of not even feeling part of the same species.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I find pronoun difficult. When I am a male a male pronoun is good, but as a female I would feel hurt since that would mean I am not a Women just a Guy in disguise. Since my gender switches and even I do not know from time to time which pronoun would be correct, I prefer the use of no pronoun. Luckily the English language allows the replacement of pronouns with my name.
Example:
Instead of: “How is he/she doing?”
you can use:”How is Haru doing?”.

I’m attracted to… Everything feminine. From feminine men over transgender and gender fluid to cis women.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not talk about me. I am very self conscious and always expect them to talk bad about me.

I want people to understand… that, despite me being gender fluid and having problems expressing and reading emotions I am person who can be loved.

About Haru
About me.
I am 28 years old and am currently finishing my master degree.
I come from a traditional home: man is man and man loves a woman.
I started to embrace my female side 3 years ago when I moved away from my family. Even before I was always a weird person, which man does know how to sew and knows which colors work with each other. Now I can be who ever I want to be.

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Posted by on September 11th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Daily Questions



A silly skit by Chandler about what it’s like to be a non-binary person in public.


Posted by on September 9th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Aiden


You can call me… Aiden

I identify as… A neutral/fem-presenting trans woman

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/Her, please and thank you!

I’m attracted to… Everyone? I think? I don’t tend to be sexually or romantically attracted to any one gender in particular, but that could mean I’m ace/aro or pan. I’ve never really had an interest in relationships before, though I think it could be fun.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about something other than my appearance. I know I look funny. I know I talk funny. I know I act funny. I know, I know, I know, I’ve heard it all a thousand times, so please for Christ’s sake talk about something else about me. And please, use my pronouns.

I want people to understand… Words hurt. I was born with only one hand, and my face was disfigured in a car accident. On top of that, I’ve got frizzy orange hair, I’m too tall for a girl, I can’t pass for crap, and I’ve got any other number of flaws that people are all too willing to point out. My self esteem was in shambles for most of my life. Of course, I’m learning to love myself, but there have been times where one cruel ableist joke has set me back months in terms of my progress. Just, be careful what you say. If it’s easy for you to insult someone, chances are it’s just as easy for everyone else to insult them too.

About Aiden

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Posted by on September 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Daniel


You can call me… Daniel

I identify as… Trans masculine, genderfluid (although without experiencing feminine genders), genderqueer, non binary, boy, human.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer they/them or he/him. On any day, I’m comfortable with both, but some days I prefer one over the other (but either works).

I’m attracted to… Beautiful people, in whatever way that may be interpreted.

When people talk about me, I want them to… See past my aggressive outer, which I put up as a barrier, but can’t seem to remove.

I want people to understand… That I am human before I am gendered, and I am everything but a woman.

About Daniel

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Posted by on September 3rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Three to Infinity


A movie trailer for Three to Infinity.
“Three to Infinity: Beyond Two Genders is the first feature documentary entirely focused on people who are neither male nor female. Agender, gender queer, non-binary and more, they’re redefining gender, challenging the ways we think about masculinity and femininity. This insightful documentary takes you deeply into a provocatively new gender frontier.”


Posted by on September 1st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Aster


You can call me… Aster, or any of my many nicknames. (kitty, Pav, Pavatti, Prince, Orion, Apollo etc)

I identify as… Nothing. Neutrois. Agender. Stuff like that. I like being called a boy, but not a man, though that doesn’t change my sense of genderless void where I always thought a solid identity should be.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/Him is most common. They/them is also fantastic. She/her is the only one off limits.

I’m attracted to… Men, mostly. Taller manlier men than I.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me like I am Nonbinary rather than binary just because I use binary pronouns.

I want people to understand… Each other, or at least try to. I want people to understand that not understanding something can be scary, but learning it can be fun and amazing and magical, no matter what it is or how old you are. We’ll never know everything, but if we keep our minds and arms open, we at least have that going for us.

About Aster, or any of my many nicknames. (kitty, Pav, Pavatti, Prince, Orion, Apollo etc)
I’m a 19 year old artist just trying to live my nonbinary life in this binary world. I’m a total sap, sensitive beyond belief and cry when animals die in movies. I stay a functioning human through a cocktail of coffee and stubborn determination and my face looks empty without dark circles. Yes, my hair IS naturally purple. Thank you for noticing.

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Posted by on August 30th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Chiyoko


You can call me… Chiyoko

I identify as… A cis male who enjoys the feminine aesthetic

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him will do quite nicely. I’ve had people use she/her, and while I honestly don’t mind, it’d be nice if people would just listen. I introduce myself with my pronouns (“Hi, I’m Chiyoko. My pronouns are he/him. It’s nice to meet you!”), and if you don’t use them, well then. Now I know what kind of person you are.

I’m attracted to… Guys with nice voices and interesting hands. Guys who can sing. Guys who are blind and/or use a wheelchair like I do. Guys who are kind and gentle. Looks don’t matter (lol obvi), though if you smell or sound like you don’t take care of yourself, then we might have issues.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Remember than I’m blind, not deaf. Just because I have a handicap doesn’t mean I’m some weirdo you can’t be friends with (I mean I’m not dictating this to a stranger!). Also don’t make jokes about the way I dress or the way I act. I like girly things. Deal with it.

I want people to understand… I’m every bit a man as the one I want to marry someday. Frilly skirts and hair bows and jewelry, honestly, they just feel nice, and if you don’t like it, then you can make like The Man in the movie School of Rock and step off

About Chiyoko
I’m a psych student who’s big into the world of stimming. Things that feel nice are just. So good. It’s actually a bit scary sometimes. I’ve got jars of goo, pieces of embossed paper, stim toys, all sorts of things, and I’m always adding to the pile. I like jpop and scifi, and I’m currently in love with the candle section of Bed Bath & Beyond.

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Posted by on August 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Dancing in the dark


A commercial featuring bodies of many gender presentations


Posted by on August 28th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jade


You can call me… Jade or Jaden

I identify as… Androgynous or bigender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/Him would be great.

I’m attracted to… All Gender identities, but I’m leaning more towards the masculine side.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not make assumptions about me and to just treat me as they would anybody else

I want people to understand… That it isn’t a crime or something horrible to not feel 100% comfortable with your sex or your body. The genders were made as a social construct and don’t equal the truth. Be what makes you feel the best and don’t mind the opinions of other people.

About Jade or Jaden
I am socially really awkward and often very shy.

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Posted by on August 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Why we need gender-neutral bathrooms



A talk by Ivan Coyote.


Posted by on August 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Spencer


You can call me… Spencer

I identify as… A genderfluid, panromantic asexual with a whole load of mental health

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like they/them

I’m attracted to… Any one with a good heart and caring nature

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me as a person, not me as an appearance/sex/gender

I want people to understand… That mistakes are made and we all have a chance to remedy them. Second chances and acceptance are key to being able to live and love.

About Spencer
Okay so I’m like really boring, and really shy, but yeah I have friends, i have family, I have hobbies. Your averge Spencer really

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Posted by on August 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Call for Volunteers


Guess what, you all?! This September, Genderfork will be 9 years old!

First of all, thank you all for being such amazing readers and contributors for so long. You all rock. You deserve a pat on the back. And a hug. And maybe a puppy.
We’ve also been lucky to have had such talented, dedicated volutneers for close to a decade. A lot can happen in nine years and many have had to move on with life’s changes. We’re struggling right now to populate the site with full and varied content. If we’re to keep moving the site alive in its current form, we need new blood, and fast! If you love the site, and you have time to give us, please, get in touch! Have you always loved Genderfork and wanted to help? Now’s a really good time to tell us about it.

Yes, you! Genderfork volunteers contribute a few hours a month (or a week, if you’ve got it to spare), and work to help us maintain a diverse and affirming feed of community content.

Here’s what you need to have:

  • A love of gender all across the spectrum, and a love of our site!
  • Access to a computer and the Internet, and basic knowledge of how to use these things.
  • Time to give! Really, honestly – it doesn’t have to be a LOT of time, an hour or so a week will do it, but you need to be able to give it regularly, every week. We LOVE that you want to help, but if your life is in transition, or just really busy, take care of yourself. Don’t offer what you can’t give.

Here’s what you DO NOT need to have:

  • Any particular identity. You don’t need to be genderqueer or trans or anything other than what you are to help out here. You just need to want to help.
  • A lot of technical knowledge. We welcome it, but we can absolutely train you to do any job that needs doing around here – they’re not hard, and we’re excellent at writing instructions and answering questions.
  • A LOT of time to give. It doesn’t take hours and hours to be of use around here – it’s the consistency we’re after when it comes to time, not the volume. And we DO understand that things come up and some weeks you just can’t fit everything in – if you can drop us a line warning us and come back next soon, we can always work it out.

If you’ve got the time and the desire, please do contact us using this volunteer interest form, which will help us get to know you.

  • What sort of stuff you wanna help out with!
  • Why you wanna help!
  • Any extra experience you think might be handy (tech abilities, forum moderation, blogging skills, etc)
  • Where you live on the Internet (blogs, tumblrs, your band’s old myspace, whatever …)
  • How much time you can to give to us (on an ongoing weekly or monthly basis)
  • ANYTHING ELSE you want to share about yourself (we don’t know what that is yet, but we can’t wait to find out!)

We can’t wait to hear from you and we’re looking forward to meeting you!
<3,

Your Friendly Neighborhood Genderfork Volunteer Team

i want to volunteer


Posted by on August 24th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Queer as Cat



“my name’s Vesper, i’m a 30 year old non-binary pan / biromantic asexual living in Japan. this channel is where i vlog about things like race, gender, sexuality, intersectionality, stuff going on in Japan, body mods– whatever the hell i feel like talking about. enjoy your stay. :)”


Posted by on August 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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