The first time out loud


Someone wrote…

I’m trying to figure out my relationship to gender. I’m biologically female and reasonably comfortable with that. I don’t necessarily think of myself as female, though.

Sometimes I think of myself as male, sometimes female, sometimes without any gender attached. So genderqueer comes the closest to expressing my gender. I’ve had my personality described as a masculine woman and I’m attracted to people who are on the androgynous side of their expressed gender.

This is the first time I’ve said this anywhere.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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A place for me.


“Reposted from FuckyeahLGBTQAsians!.”

“I want to see more people like me represented and visible on stage and in film. I am convinced that there is a place for me as an actor and filmmaker.”

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Posted by on September 12th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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The appreciation of all of me


Someone wrote…

I’m AFAB, but I’ve never felt particularly attached to the notion of myself as a girl/woman, or to the notion of any one particular gender – as applied to myself – at all.

Some days I feel slightly more feminine or masculine, but most of the time I fall somewhere else on the gender spectrum, or completely outside it. However, I find myself attracted mostly to gay men, or bisexual men who tend to lean more towards homosexuality. While I feel completely comfortable with my body and my physical appearance, it is rather discouraging to think that it – being obviously biologically female – lowers the odds of someone I’m attracted to being attracted back to me practically to zero (living in a conservative country where a significant part of the population does not realise or accept that it is possible to be anything other than cishet doesn’t help either).

I just wish that for once, someone could appreciate me in all of my maleness, femaleness and queerness.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Jack


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“I am a non-binary genderqueer individual that goes by both pronouns. I am shown cosplaying as Captain Jack Harkness from Doctor Who/Torchwood.”

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Posted by on September 11th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Happy Queer-mas!


“Submitted by James, the model and photographer”.

“My partner Cai (left), myself (James), and our two pups Blaze and Ari on our first December 25th together”

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Posted by on September 10th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Throw caution to the wind


Someone wrote…

I wish I could sign my name here.

But I don’t identify with my ultra binary name and I haven’t gotten the courage to change it. If it were up to me I’d just throw caution to the wind and start introducing myself as something more neutral, more comfortable, more me.

I know that I’d end up going by two different names, because my family would never call me something else. The dilemma will probably never cease.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 10th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Up on the Roof


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Posted by on September 9th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Matt


Gforkmatt

You can call me… Matt

I identify as… Genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Them/their/they

I’m attracted to… Ladies

When people talk about me, I want them to… To talk about my personality and not so much as what I identify as

I want people to understand… That gender has nothing to do with personality and that everyone is unique!

About Matt

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on September 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Unisex skirt from Minneapolis


“Submitted by Joe, the model.”

“This is a unisex skirt I’ve designed. The photo was taken by my spouse on the Stone Arch Bridge in Minneapolis, Minnesota. I started getting interested in skirts for men and unisex/androgynous clothing in general a couple of years ago. After not finding too many skirts out there that fit what I was looking for – heavy fabric, lots of pockets, modern – I began creating one.
I’m working under the name Skirtcraft, and am hoping to have a crowd-funding campaign for the first production run later this year.”

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Posted by on September 8th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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To Cherish


Someone wrote…

My gender used to be very private. A warm secret I liked to keep to myself and pull out in the quiet, dark of my person. It was something I cherished, holding it near me and wanting no one else to see.

Now, I feel as if I want to tell the world. So I can be perceived in the way I want to be, while still keeping my true gender all to myself.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 8th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: K


You can call me… K

I identify as… an agender person who presents themself as masculine

As far as third-person pronouns go, … ‘they’ please :)

I’m attracted to… a nice personality? what i find attractive varies with each individual. otherwise i dont really define my sexuality

When people talk about me, I want them to… not make a big deal over my gender/sexuality. i just want to do my own thing.

I want people to understand… that i prefer not to be gendered. also, to not base my worth on my appearance. i think what a person does is more important than what they look like.

About K
I’m an artist about to leave art school to go to art college. While away from home, I want to further explore my gender identity, especially in my art. Making art is a huge aspect of my life and has helped me express my viewpoints in a way that I cant with words. Maybe by making art about my gender identity, i could reach out to others who are going through the same thing. Hope that doesnt sound too corny ^^”

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Posted by on September 7th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Wilder Brighter


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Posted by on September 6th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Melting


Someone wrote…

I’m a male-bodied human who has been wearing about 75% women’s clothes for about 9 months. For the most part, my tastes are pretty ambiguously gendered. (If I could have it my way-and I know, I can-I would be a tomboy-ish female.) So nobody really even recognizes what I’m doing so far. There’s one girl at work who always comments on the way I dress, and the other day she said, “Oh my gosh, WHERE do you shop?? You know, I just want to be you…but like, a girl version.” I just froze for a few seconds, thinking, “Yeah, you and me both.”

And then pretty much felt like just melting all over the floor.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 6th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Layered Black Dresses


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“I am slightly disappointed because at first I thought this was Patrick Stewart.”

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Posted by on September 5th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Tear Down the Wall



Fun gender anthem by Kieran Strange.


Posted by on September 5th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Smiles


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Posted by on September 4th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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My philosophy


Someone wrote…

I’m on this journey of exploration in gender and sexuality. Sometimes, I don’t feel like I fit in anywhere. My gender expression is my own, and I hate that I feel this need to fit into a label. I am masculine, and I am feminine. I enjoy sometimes being seen as a man and other times as a woman. That middle ambiguous area really makes me feel comfortable with myself – strong, confident, and more like who I really am. I guess I am gender queer.

But, where does sexuality fit into that? Can someone who is gender queer be gay, or straight? How can you say with any certainty who you are interested in? I envy those people who are so sure of their sexuality that they completely know who they are attracted to. It leaves me feeling inadequate and confused.

My philosophy is to live my life being who I am – never lying to anyone about myself ever again. When I find someone who lights my fire, I am confident that the physical will fall into place. Whoever I fall in love with will win my heart, regardless of gender. I only hope that someone will love me for me like that – for me and not my sexual organs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 4th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Loki


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“Reposted from Just Here.”

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Posted by on September 3rd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: Chest Reconstruction Surgery


Question: Breast Removal Surgery

WolfieKate asks…

I am a 45 year old lady who is, in the main, happy with my lot in life! I am happily married and have 2 great kids. However my life has been affected for the last 30 years in that I have suffered dysphoric reactions to my breasts since puberty. I am OK with being female, just not a very clear female. I think the lines here are vague, I am happy being female but I don’t identify with much that is female culturally or physically especially my chest. Since they grew they have felt completely wrong, like alien objects grafted to me.

I have had counselling galore and I take medication to make me less unhappy. But none of it works. I am so tired of my chest affecting my life so much. It would be so nice to be free. At 45 I feel as if I deserve a break!

I want to find UK surgeon willing to do a chest reconstruction to remove my breasts. If I were looking for a full FTM change it appears this would be possible eventually but as a woman who wants to stay a woman but no breasts apparently it’s just tough. I feel so frustrated. As if society has decided for me that if I am female I must have breasts! I do not know what to do and at my age I am not willing to back down. Does anyone have experience of how I can start approaching this with surgeons or the NHS. Thanks!

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Posted by on September 3rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Fringed


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Posted by on September 2nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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