Don’t Assume


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Posted by on June 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Silent Reassurance


Someone wrote…

I’m genderfluid, born female, and I have very bad luck. Once, for the entire week of having my period, I identified as male. I cried almost every night, just out of sheer frustration and dysphoria, and I had to remind myself that men can have vaginas, too.

“Besides,” I silently reassured myself, “One thing about periods is that they temporarily boost your levels of testosterone, so technically I’m even MORE of a man.”

It helped. A little. But the dysphoria didn’t vanish for quite some time…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Should I Pretend to be cis for Job Interviews?


Z asks…

I’m having a very hard time trying to find a job.

I’m ftm and pre-T and very short so I definitely don’t pass as male. I’ve been out of work for 3 months, I’ve had 4 interviews, and no offers. I’m considering just pretending to be a cis female next time I have an interview so I can hurry up and get a job before I starve.
That’s how I got my last job but I had to deal with being called the wrong name and pronouns (which is why I don’t have that job anymore, I kind of had a mental breakdown and walked out in the middle of a shift).

I don’t want to deal with that again, but I need money like right now….

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on June 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Starting Points


Someone wrote…

I recently discovered a celebrity whose work I really enjoy, and she happens to be trans. Empowered by this celebrity’s self-acceptance and LGBT pride, I later came out to my family as gender-fluid. It didn’t go well. My mom rejected my identity and told me I was “just too obsessed” with the aforementioned celebrity.

People need to learn the difference between obsessively absorbing someone’s identity and having a starting point for finding YOUR OWN identity…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Pickapon


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You can call me… Pickapon [or Pick, for short.]

I identify as… Bigender [Male/Genderqueer]

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/They pronouns please! I might try other ones, but for now, use the ones I just said 5 seconds ago.

I’m attracted to… Males/Masculinity, although if you’re not any of those, but you’re cute, go for it!

Bonus if you give good hugs

When people talk about me, I want them to… use my pronouns. Like, Gosh, it’s almost like nobody knows that she pronouns make me feel literally sick from dysphoria!

I want people to understand… that there are more than 2 genders i s2g the number of times i get misgendered sucks

About Pickapon [or Pick, for short.]
im homestuck trash bye

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Posted by on June 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Red Hair Dye


Someone wrote…

A friend of mine, who is trans female, told me about her medical transition:

“It’s a bit like dyeing your hair red,” Marcella explained. “You have to constantly keep up with it; it racks up one hell of a maintenance bill; only assholes point out if you obviously just started; and while there are certain things that this process alone won’t give you, you still look in the mirror and go ‘Damn I look fiiiiiine!’ “

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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You Deserve LOVE



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Posted by on June 15th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Cyd


You can call me… Cyd

I identify as… pansexual polyamorous kinky cis bear

As far as third-person pronouns go, … regular male pronouns are fine

I’m attracted to… people across the gender spectrum

When people talk about me, I want them to… be gentle and understanding

I want people to understand… that my sexual and gender idea are not limited to what you see

About Cyd
I’m married to a ciscender woman and we’ve been monogamous for 17 years. I have two daughters, 4 and 8. I’m a professional therapist and a life time geek. I love RPG’s, comics, animation, science fiction, fantasy, something of a cinephile (though I don’t get the chance to see many movies these days)

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Posted by on June 15th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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You got us. We love you. Just be who you are.


Reposted from We Are The Youth.

“THIS wonderful profile from our 2012 Midwest trip!

“I came out at school in eighth grade when I had a crush on this girl and she told everyone, and I was ashamed of it because it was embarrassing. But I had supportive friends that helped me through it. My friends said, “If those other people don’t accept you for who you are, then fuck them, you know. You got us. We love you. Just be who you are.” – Mai, 17, St. Paul, MN.”

Photo by Laurel Golio, interview as told to Diana Scholl.

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Posted by on June 14th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Supportive Families


Someone wrote…

One of my absolute favourite things in the world is hearing about trans kids in supportive families. It makes me very happy, knowing that people can be themselves out in the open. I guess I’m also a bit jealous, too, since their families are more supportive than mine will ever be…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 14th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Fierce


Submitted by Chris, the model.

“I grew sick of shaving to present non-male… and after much self-hatred of it, today I learned to love my facial hair thanks to a good friend.”

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Posted by on June 13th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: What’s my gender? Who am I?


Annie Anonymous asks…

I was born female. I’ve never really been a girly-girl, but I’ve never been a boy either. I hate my breasts, and want them removed as soon as possible. I don’t like being a girl. I fit no stereotypes of being a girl, but I fit few stereotypes of being a boy. I heard the term non-binary a few months ago, and I immediately knew that I connected with that. I’ve heard multiple terms that I know don’t sound like me. Genderfluid, for example. I know that’s not me. I don’t identify with either gender.

The thing is, I’m terrified to transition. I know I want top surgery, but I don’t think I want hormone replacement surgery. I don’t know how to talk to my parents, let alone my friends. I know how much I’d be judged at school, though that doesn’t really matter to me. I don’t really mind pronouns. They don’t really bother me, though I like the sound of they and them and their more than he and she.

I’ve heard the term third gendered, and I think that’s who I am. I feel that I have a gender, but it’s not male or female. I feel like there isn’t a name for it. I hate that I have to go into women’s toilets, or buy clothes from the men’s section, (Girl’s clothes are too pink and frilly, so I wear boys’). I hate that society is so binary.

How did you transition, anyone with similar experiences? Slowly, or all at once? Is there any advice you can give me?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on June 13th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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When I’m at my Best


Submitted by Diana Gottschalk, the model.

“Gave the biggest presentation of my PhD career so far that day. Still had the professional hair, but changed into street clothes. It was a good day.”

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Posted by on June 12th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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I Think I Might be Genderfluid


Someone wrote…

I think I might be genderfluid. I’m a female from birth, but my whole life, people have always thought that I’m a boy. I usually laugh it off when people misgender me, but in truth, I don’t know how to feel about that, especially since I’ve deliberately grown my hair out and started wearing skirts so people assume I’m a female. People have thought I was a boy upon meeting me when I had makeup on and my hair in pigtails, because of my face.

I sometimes think I should let my masculinity show, because people already think I’m a guy, but I’m scared, and I’m not sure what I’m scared of.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Gender Non-Conforming


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Posted by on June 11th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Blue is the Warmest Colour



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“Another painting for my solo art show, “MOMENTS II,” which opens on June 12th at Bottleneck Gallery! One of my personal favorites to come out of it!!”

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Posted by on June 11th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Gardens



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“Guess who went to the Bronx Botanical Gardens today. ”

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Posted by on June 10th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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I Hope to


Someone wrote…

I am a genderfluid pansexual (Female at birth) and I recently
came out to a few people.. I’m happy because most* of them accepted me for who I am (I AM the same person as before, after all) and tried to learn more about me.

I haven’t told the whole world about myself yet but I hope to, soon enough. I want to just be able to express myself freely without anyone giving me weird looks… I want a short haircut, I wanna wear “boy’s” clothes, I wanna walk how I want, talk how I want… I can’t explain it in words. I hope I can do this soon. I’ll be a lot happier then. :3

*One of my friends couldn’t accept this fact and tried to convince me that I am most definitely a girl…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 10th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Vintage



Reposted from Dangerous Minds.

“A collection of historical “drag queens” dating back to the 1800s and then onwards. The reason I’m using “drag queen” in double quotes is because I’m not entirely sure if these people were transgender, cross-dressers, dressing up as women for theatrical purposes or just for the of fun it. The information is very limited for each image. Either way, they’re all gorgeous and seem quite comfortable with themselves in front of a lens during a time when society looked down on such self-expression. ”

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Posted by on June 9th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Remembering Marsha P. Johnson


Reposted from itsjessegurl.

“I was watching the Stonewall Uprising documentary and the name Marsha P. Johnson was not mentioned once considering she was a leader of the 1969 Stonewall Riots. So I felt like posting these Polaroids of her taken by Andy Warhol to show remembrance of her as the significant trailblazer that she was in making the Stonewall Riots happen. It’ll be 46 years since the riots on June the 28th and 45 years since the first gay pride march took place in New York City as a result of the Stonewall Riots. Thank you Marsha. RIP.”

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Posted by on June 9th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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