You can call me… 7Kim

I identify as… a twilight dweller of the border forest.

But that’s not right, not at all. I don’t really “identify as” anything at all. I can describe myself as an “intersex chimera,” as “transsexual,” as “a submissive,” as “grey-asexual,” as “Catholic,”  as “a nurse’s aide,” as “a twilight dweller of the border forest” — and all these things are true — but I don’t feel these are labels of identity, just descriptors of various parts of my being.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … The ones in most common usage all boil down to something pronounced /tsee/, and the differences seem to be in spelling. I’ve always preferred “xie,” but your spelling may vary and it’s okay. I’m accustomed to female pronouns (I don’t care to spend my life educating everyone I meet, only the people who mean enough to me, and so I usually wear a female mask), so those are all right, but “xie” feels good when I can get it.

I’m attracted to… whoever inspires my limbic system to sit up and take notice, and THEN I work out what it was my limbic system liked.

When people talk about me, I want them to… discuss what’s relevant about me … how well I cook, what my opinions and outlook are, how lovely or miserable I look on this or that day, and so on. I want them to be as open about my gender as I am … but only if it’s relevant.

I want people to understand… That I don’t belong to anybody’s tribe; if I am not fully “one of us,” I am also not fully “one of them.” Understand this and we can meet as equals; reject this and I will be incomprehensible.

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