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Beautiful in Pink and Purple


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Posted by on May 30th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: How do I ask not to be referred to in this way?


someone asks…

Lately, some of my coworkers, when addressing another female coworker and I, have been addressing us as “ladies”.

Some days I don’t even notice but other days it gets on my nerves. I’m not really “out” with my gender and don’t want to be. How do I ask not to be referred to in this way?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 30th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Blue Lipstick


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Posted by on May 29th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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What I am


Someone wrote…

I am a female. Born and bred.

But: I am a farm girl. Taught that my only worth in life in bearing sons. I have: shoveled manure, killed chickens, fixed cars and shot skeet.

I have fixed: cars, houses, tractors, lawnmowers, plumbing, gutters, shingles, paving, and people.

I have cooked anything and everything for any person who needs it. I have canned preserves, and planted gardens.

But, to my family, I am not entirely female. Because I am gay. Because I don’t want children of my own.

And to my friends, I am not entirely gay. Because I have dated men. Because I like to wear dresses and heels and aprons.

There is nowhere I’ve ever fit in more than with my family, more than with my LGBT family. And yet, I am not like them.

I am me. Not you. Not them. Not us.

And I love you for it.

And I love them.

And I love me.

Because I, we, them: are the ones who will change the world.

Not today. And not tomorrow.

But soon. And forever.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 29th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Two Sides


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“I’m a boy, I love being a boy. Sometimes I love feeling the girl that there is in me. I’m an actor, have different sides and feel good in each.”

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Posted by on May 28th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Dominic/Zunny


zunny

You can call me… Dominic or Zunny

I identify as… I.. I’m not sure. I’m really not sure. I wish to be a male. When I look in the mirror I see a stranger. I think “I wish those lumps of fat weren’t there,” and press my chest in. Then I feel slightly more comfortable with myself.

But at the same time, I’m unhappy with my body. Weight, structure. Those common things.

I am terrified of not being recognized as a male. Losing the attention my “femininity” gains me. Which is incredibly vain.

But, reading a few profiles here, and really thinking about this, I recognize that I would very much prefer this. To be a Dominic, or a Constantic, a Balthazar, Salazar or such. I want this.
I wear skirts. I wear make-up at times. But as we do know, gender identification and gender expression aren’t the same thing.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I have grown up as a she for 17 years. I’ve worn dresses. I’ve acted as a female. But that doesn’t mean I feel like one.

If people feel more comfortable calling he a “she” or anything like that, go ahead. It won’t kill me.
I would still very much prefer if you saw me as a feminine male.

I’m attracted to… Kind souls, no matter the sex. It could be an 43 year old transexual male, or an asexual 20 year old person in between.

As long as our personalities click, I’ll like you.

When people talk about me, I want them to… See me as me. As the 17 year old, slightly autistic, kind, hot-tempered, caring, unselfish, confused, freaked out little boymangirllady I am.
I want them to look at ME, give ME a chance, and not my gender.

I want them to be honest with me. And I want them not to be scared or feel like they can’t share things with me.

I want people to understand… That although I’m doing my best with what I’ve got, I’m still torn about this. I don’t know how to handle it myself, and until I can be two hundred percent sure with myself, and although I don’t want them to, people’s opinions matter.

I can tell myself that they don’t, I can laugh it away. But they’ll still be there when the day ends. My insecurities being fueled by comments from the outside.

About Dominic or Zunny
If I don’t like someone, I’ll let them know. But if I do like you, I will be like a dog. Loyal, caring and ready to treat your issues and insecurities as my own.
I have a clear view on what I want in life. Well, for most part.
I don’t know what I want to do in life. I don’t know how I’m going to handle my gender. Do I try it out? Will people recognize my feelings and treat me as a man? Will people still view me in a similar way, even though just one detail has changed?
I have so many questions and no one to ask. No one who can actually relate and give me straight answers.

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Posted by on May 28th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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In Which the Waistcoat Miraculously Fits


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“Here I am, taking photos of probably the new best outfit I own.”

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Posted by on May 27th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Soft volume


Someone wrote…

I’ve found that men assume I am a man and women see past the clothes and hairstyle. That being so, when I’m walking by myself and am approached by a man, and I think I can pass I find myself using my “male” voice, speaking in low toned, soft volume, clipped sentences. It makes me feel much less vulnerable and in control of the situation.

What’s stranger to me is that I do this regardless of how nice or rude the person is.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 27th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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High Fashion


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Posted by on May 26th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: Flying Cups & Saucers


Joss/Ame recommends…

Book cover of "Flying Cups & Saucers - Gender Explorations in Science Fiction & Fantasy".

Flying Cups & Saucers
A science fiction anthology book

I found this gem of a collection whilst wandering through my university’s library — in particular, the few shelves tucked away on the seventh floor containing science fiction anthologies by women and queer people… The short stories it contains are all winners of the James Tiptree, Jr. Award for science fiction and fantasy that explores the boundaries of gender and sexuality. Some are old favorites like Ursula K. Le Guin’s “The Matter of Seggri”, while some I had never heard of before and instantly fell in love with, like Eleanor Arnason’s “The Lovers”. All of the pieces play with gender roles and expectations in settings at once fantastical and exquisitely human. If you like speculative fiction, I would highly recommend this book.

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Posted by on May 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Freedom in my own body


Someone wrote…

Some days I want to be female. Some days I want to be masculine. I don’t think I ever want to be male. Most days I just want to be androgynous. All days I just want complete freedom in my own body.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 25th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Anne DeBulle


You can call me… Anne DeBulle

I identify as… pansexual Transgender m to f

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “please use the female ones when you describe me.

I’m attracted to… people

When people talk about me, I want them to… be real

I want people to understand… it is ok to be yourself

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Posted by on May 24th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Never Out Of Style


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Posted by on May 23rd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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To be seen


Someone wrote…

I don’t want to modify my body or bind my breast, but I sometimes feel like that’s the only way people would understand how I want to be seen.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 23rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Pastel


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Posted by on May 22nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: Nipple Piercings and Binding


someone asks…

I’m contemplating getting a nipple piercing, but I also wear a binder on and off, and I’m concerned that I won’t be able to do so while it’s healing. Does anyone know if this is possible/have any experience of what wearing a binder with a piercing is like?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Circle Specs


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Posted by on May 21st, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Fluid with in its own parameters


Someone wrote…

I’ve never been very good at gender expression. Only recently did I finally get a haircut I actually liked. Then one day I decided to try on make-up. Just because. In the past I’ve fooled around to see if I could still look like a woman. But that day, I found eye liner and lipstick struck me masculine.

I don’t dislike labels for myself, but I don’t like to slap on the ones that exist. Transmasculine, sometimes man/lad/masculine, but mostly third gender. After years of convincing other people I am male, how can I qualify that statement? My sex should be male, but my gender differs, fluid within its own parameters.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 21st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Crop Top


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Posted by on May 20th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Theo


Theo

You can call me… Theo

I identify as… a genderqueer guy

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I go by he

I’m attracted to… I’m still figuring this one out, but I think I’m most attracted to androgynous people?

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect me as the gender I identify as, and be able to inspire others to be themselves

I want people to understand… that the world is full of aaaaaaaaaaaaall kins of different people, and that everyone is just as much human as the next one, and everyone got both negative and positive sides, so people should focus on others and their own positive sides, not the negative sides. And keep their mouths closed if they only got negative things to say about someone else. :)

About Theo
I was born with a female body, but I’ve never been very comfortable with it, but I was never very tomboyish as a child, and it was first when puberty hit that I started noticing that something felt really off.

So when I found about hormonal treatment and sex change operations, then I immediatly knew this was the answer to why I had been feeling off since puberty. Though it took me a few years to get to where I am today (March 15, 2014) but I have finally been approved to start hormone treatment, and will in a few days go to my doctor so I can get my first shot of T (testosterone) :D

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Posted by on May 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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