Archive for January 2017


Jem(ma)


You can call me… Jem(ma)

I identify as… a polypanromantic, greysexual feminine man

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He and They in equal measure

I’m attracted to… kind and physically affectionate people

When people talk about me, I want them to… not describe me as “masculine”

I want people to understand… that I wear a beard because I think it looks good on my face, not as an expression of gender

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Posted by on January 27th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Skylar or Sky


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You can call me… Skylar or Sky

I identify as… Transgender ftm and im proud of it

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he him they them NOT IT I AM NOT AN OBJECT

I’m attracted to… mostly girls and non binary

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that i wont change bc of who they want me to be

I want people to understand… my genitalia will NEVER define who i am i am the person who defines who i am

About Skylar or Sky
im a 15-year-old singer and writer…
im proud of my gender and sexuality if u dont like it u can fight me
im falling for someone so hard i dont think i can stop

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Posted by on January 24th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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On My More Male Days


KC wrote…

I’ve recently come to the realization that I am genderfluid and experience slight to major dysphoria about my breasts on my more male days. I enjoy having them on my more female days though. I was wondering if that feeling of dysphoria ever really goes away. I’m considering saving up for top surgery only I fear that if I did get it, I’d regret it on my female days.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 22nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Classic Autumnal Style


Jomo Autumnal Style

Submitted by Jomo, the model and photographer.

“My classic casual style, with no preoccupation of gender codes.”

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Posted by on January 20th, 2017 at 10:00 am

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My World


Someone wrote…

I love that I live in a world where I can bind and wear skirts and there are people out there who will accept me for me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 18th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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The Balls


Someone wrote…

i just feel like screaming and crying because i dont have the balls to tell any of my friends or family that im trans… its so frustrating

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 16th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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TCTE Study Findings



A shout out to the 6000+ who participated. A third of you all identified in the survey as non-binary! Way to go, visibility! Ready the report in English or the executive summary in English or Spanish.


Posted by on January 13th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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I am a boy. I am a muslim girl.


Someone wrote…

I am 29 years old. From childhood I never feel that I am a girl: I always feel that I am a boy. I am a muslim girl.
That’s way I never get any chance to express my true self. Right now my family will force me to marry but I can’t accept any man in my life. I never feel any attraction for men, but feel attraction to women.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 10th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Holiday Cheer



A playful dance routine from M’y.


Posted by on January 3rd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Labels are for Stretching


Here are 35 clever ways that readers “Described Your Gender Presentation On the Autostraddle Reader Survey

1. Stoner Femme, Gender Confused
2. Insufficiently organised to have a consistent presentation
3. Exhausted college chic/professional physics human
4. Uh. Librarian? What’s the one with no makeup and just regular clothes?
5. Whatever Brandi Carlile is
6. Glitter Queen
7. Fancy Pony Boi
8. Cozy femme
9. I just like docs and dresses ok
10. Hypermasculine camp
11. Softest of butches
12. Executive dysfunction closeted makeup-scared femme?
13. So uncomfortable
14. Femme in the Summer, Butch in the Winter: A Seasonal Fluidity
15. A small cluster of stars
16. 14-year-old boy
17. Leg hair don’t care but actually cares a lot
18. Sloth femme
19. Gay adjunct professor/goth librarian
20. Aunt Dad
21. Granola, self-sufficient, utilitarian, rural spinster
22. Laid-back lesbian farmer
23. DOIN MY OWN FUCKIN THING
24. Athleisure meets sea-witch
25. Comfortable baggy-clothed person
26. My girlfriend likes to (very accurately so) describe me as “pastel butch”
27. Bunny dyke
28. Muppet
29. Low Femme
30. Lab Chic
31. Geek? I don’t know, I’m wearing a Wonder Woman shirt and Mickey Mouse shoes, so make of that what you will
32. Exhausted
33. FUCK I HAVE NO IDEA? USUALLY PEOPLE DON’T RECOGNIZE ME AS GAY, SO FEMME?
34. Lesbarian
35. This whole labeling thing is very American, isn’t it. I’m a woman who owns pants, chucks, skirts and mascara. Now what?

 


Posted by on January 3rd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: “Not Trans Enough” Excerpt


Xylophone Gender recommends…

this will not define me
An excerpt from the zine “Not Trans Enough”

The entire zine is available here on Etsy. The excerpt is posted on the blog janitorqueer.

genderqueerness appealed to me because it meant that i no longer had to live like a man. it meant that i no longer had to fall short of the ideal of being a man. it meant that i could start to reject the masculinity that is toxic and violent. it meant that i could be this tiny five foot one and a half tall person trying to live a just life in an unjust world. one thing it didn’t mean was that my male privilege just disappeared once i started to identify as genderqueer.

yes, i still benefit from male privilege even though i identify as genderqueer. this male privilege is complicated and contextual. it’s something i never really thought about or ever needed to consider. i feel genderqueer on the inside but i know that most people read me as a dude. being a genderqueer tomboy femme feels right. although my gender identity challenges gender expectations, i still live in this world that genders people as men or women. as de from my interactions with people that are close to me, i get gendered as a man. even though i identify as femme, i do not experience constnt sexual harassment, gendered or sexual violence.

in my early 20s and before i ever identified as queer in any way, i used to wear women’s pants by goth brands like lip service and tripp. the pants were skinny enough to fit my slim petite figure but were really tight around the crotch area. i also used to wear cyber goth platform sneakers. i had a pair of “swear alternative” shoes that had a 4 inch platform. i only wore them out once. i stopped it all. i couldn’t deal with the looks and i didn’t feel comfortable or confident in what i was wearing so i stopped. i was scared. i stopped expressing this femme aspect of myself to feel safe. i traded aesthetics for security.


Posted by on January 1st, 2017 at 08:00 am

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