John Skillpa, a quiet bank clerk living in tiny Peacock, Nebraska, prefers to live an invisible life. This might have to do with John’s secret: he has another personality no one knows about, a woman who each morning does his chores and cooks him breakfast before he starts his day. Then, in a moment, everything changes…
Just take a listen to the lyrics. It describes three sexes — the children of the sun (“that looked like two men glued up back to back”), the children of the earth (“looked like two girls rolled up in one”), and the children of the moon (“they was part sun, part Earth, part daughter, part son”). It’s something of a sad song, but so beautiful.
Based on the true-life story of a Thai who wishes to have a sex change operation. To pay for this, she enters the brutal world of Thai boxing, unnerving her opponents by performing a makeup application ritual before each fight.
Fariba Tabrizi seeks asylum in Germany from persecution due to sexual identity in Iran. A fellow refugee commits suicide, so Fariba assumes his identity. Jasmin Tabatabai gives a wonderful performance as Fariba. You can watch Unveiled instantly on Netflix.
Kill Your Darlings is a film that has that incredibly rare thing: a gender-variant character who is treated like a human being, and whose identity, just like those of the cisgendered characters, is of entirely no consequence whatsoever.
The film itself is a bit of a twist on the typical American road-trip thing, and it took me a couple of watches to understand it, but it left me feeling rather happy for no particular reason, which is always a plus (and it has Alexander Skarsgard in it, which is an even bigger plus…).
Ma Vie En Rose A French film about a young boy who expresses homosexual and genderqueer feelings and thoughts.
I went to a very small alternative elementary school, and one day, one of the parents brought this in to an assembly to educate us all about homosexuality and transgender issues. I have not watched it since then, but I remember it being very beautiful and sad. There was a lot I couldn’t understand then, because I was quite young and couldn’t follow the subtitles very easily, but I think it is a very suitable film to share on this website, and you should all watch it if you have the time. The quality of the link I attached is poor, but do rent it if you can.
This film is interesting because it’s told from the straight younger sibling’s perspective, and really shows how one person’s struggle with gender identity can affect the whole family.
I discovered this film while prescreening titles for my History of Sexuality professor in the spring. In the end, this one couldn’t be shown in class because it has too much explicit sex in it, but I would highly recommend it to anyone who wouldn’t be bothered by that. It’s made up of unstructured conversations with nine transmen and their partners where they talk about body issues, sex and romance issues, and everything else. The director does a really good job of smoothly integrating the candid discussion scenes with the candid sex scenes (which can get rather kinky). I found this film really moving; while it may only represent a small segment of the trans community, it felt very personal and true to the lives of the people it portrays.
Play in the Gray a documentary coming out this fall by Planted Seeds Productions
Play in the Gray is Planted Seeds’ first feature-length documentary. The film confronts the gender binary by following the work and individual identity struggles of the members of ALL THE KINGS MEN, a drag-based theatre troupe based out of Boston.
This trailer shows how gender policing and anti-LGBTQ attitudes affect all types of people, including straight persons who feel pressured to avoid certain types of clothing. Several teens mention having fun while bending gender roles, too!