I identify as… an androgynous bigendered pansexual/asexual queermo. In other words, I’m a feminine male androgyne who happens to have the wrong junk. Like someone else said, they’ll have a surgery for it eventually.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Most people take it upon themselves to use “she” and its family, and I can’t say I blame them, what with my huge rack. I do love the “hir” family, but when it comes down to “he” or “she” the former’ll win any day.
When people talk about me, I want them to… become thoughtful and feel a fondness that has nothing to do with their perception of my gender.
I want people to understand… that I’m not antisocial because I dislike interaction with other people, its just that so many people make me uncomfortable about my own ideas regarding gender, I’d rather not bother. This doesn’t mean I’m callous! I’m just tired.
About Ren
Ren is a weird sort who obsesses over the color purple and the thought of being a Prince. Living life for his daughter is the name of the game. The world revolves around that child now.
I totally fell in love with this girl’s music, & was even more delighted when I discovered that she has a song about someone who lives as a man but has always known that he’s really a woman. Danielle can clearly empathise with the feelings that come with being genderqueer, & she’s written this beautifully sensitive song about it.
The lyrics can be accessed here.
I identify as… Female, simple as that. I’m not letting the fact that I was born in a male body get in the way of my choice of style and appearance.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She, Her. I love the ze/hir stuff, as long as you use it generally, not just for me.
I’m attracted to… Anyone. Not everyone, but anyone. I cannot identify as bisexual because I have a slight weakness for people “bending the binary.” I love anybody who is individual, who demands to be loved because they are the only one of their kind, and if you don’t love them now there is nobody else on earth like them and you have missed them.
When people talk about me, I want them to… love and respect me, my identity, themselves and everybody else in the world. Other than that, I ask nothing of anybody.
I want people to understand… Your neat little boundaries and boxes are useless. Only love can save you now.
About Lily
19-year-old British (trans)girl. Standing on the brink of transition, I’m now at the crazy psychotic phase. I’m an aspiring musician, singer, songwriter, composer, writer, soon-to-be-director… when it comes to anything from gender to art, I love to mix it up and blur lines that probably shouldn’t exist.
You can call me… Erin, though Sydney would work as well.
I identify as… a boy with boobs, or sometimes a shemale in less-than-polite company. I’d like to take that one back for all of us.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … don’t bother. Perhaps you should try nailing a bowl of Jell-O to the wall instead. But if you insist, the female ones are less likely to make me wonder who you were referring to. I also have a perfectly good name. It is amusing to hear people craft sentences to avoid pronoun usage.
I’m attracted to… transgirls and tomboys, and a straightforward but pleasant disposition.
When people talk about me, I want them to… gather the wit to ask me themselves. I’m more than happy to explain or clarify myself, or just talk like normal folks do.
I want people to understand… life is too short to worry about, quantify, and define everything. Hugging is a good way to resolve misunderstandings.
About Erin
I write software and am a motorsports enthusiast. I am also coming to terms with the fact that I am more than a little insane. I’d rather be eating peaches and drifting on an eiderdown. I suspect the name of this site is based on a technical term. I resemble spiky-headed video game protagonists with big swords more than many humans.
I identify as… a collaboration of many attributes and interests that have lent meaning to my being. A writer, a resident of the West, skier, climber, whitewater enthusiast. A capable, strong, and vocal feminist. A perpetual student of life.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like ‘em female, please.
I’m attracted to… Confidence, wholeness, acceptance and creativity. Musculature, passion, intelligent eyes and articulate health.
When people talk about me, I want them to… feel comfortable and be candid. When they talk to me, I want them to just talk, without feeling the need to manipulate their words.
I want people to understand… who they are, and that they matter, regardless of what shape, size or circumstance they find themselves in.
I identify as… androgynous, genderqueer, dyke, boi(ish), very queer, anarchafeminist, cunt warrior, pokemon master
As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her, they, sir/mister…varies by the day.
I’m attracted to… genderfuckery, queerness, people of all genders, genderqueer people, people who like sex, queer radicalism, anarchists, transmen, honesty, feminists, creativity, complicated people, skateboard bros… Strength and intelligence.
When people talk about me, I want them to… not dismiss me. I want them to wonder. And when they talk to me, I want people to tell me what they think and what they want to say instead of what they think i want to hear.
I want people to understand… that ambiguity is a good thing and language is always hard. And that some boundaries should be crossed. And just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it’s evil or bad.
About Ali
i’m a student in chicago. i like street art, skateboarding, classical music, theatre, and dinosaurs. i study language and power and gender. i do a lot of theatre and model united nations and i co-publish a queer(ish) zine called “que(e)ry.”
“Describe an outfit you’ve worn that expressed the complexity of your gender.”
Someone wrote…
I generally wear “men’s” clothes, no shoes and have a shaved head. I don’t mind which third person pronouns people use for me, and I don’t always think the same about my gender. Today I had an exam, and when I needed the toilet and I was escorted out of the room, my escort pointed down the hall, “the ladies’ is the second door on the right (pause) or the men’s is the first door.” Brilliant.
Kit is a transgender artist who does slam poetry — “aka talking,” as he likes to call it. He performs alone and with musician Melissa Li as the Good Asian Drivers. I love how Kit can talk about gender in a funny way, but also address the rough parts of our gender-diverse lives.
Another video full of trans and androgynous genders is the Good Asian Drivers’ version of I Kissed a Girl.
This was one of the earlier videos on YouTube to be tagged as genderqueer. It’s a little longer, but a speaker this captivating deserves a post. It continues here more explicitly, as part of RedHandedPorn.
“Describe an outfit you’ve worn that expressed the complexity of your gender.”
Someone wrote…
I’ve never felt more like myself than when I’m wearing combat boots. In fact, I refused to wear any other kinds of shoes for much of my junior high/high school years. And, though I generally don’t do skirts, this becomes more true when I’m wearing a nice, sturdy pair of black boots and a skirt. Weird.
I identify as… Queer, currently very distraught, but a proud owner of an XX chromosome.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Usually he, but people see different things when they look at me and I understand and am okay with that. I get he or she about 50-50.
I’m attracted to… Glasses, librarians. Nerds. Dirty geeky art people who look like they fell in a bucket of paint. Shyness. Trustworthy friends. Other people who like to talk about logic and life. Short cute people and tall gangly people that have my nerdy goodwill fashion sense. Because they probably ride crappy old bikes, too. Stubble, and nipples. And great hair. Someone who’s not afraid to hold me.
When people talk about me, I want them to… treat me like a person and not an object or an assumption.
I want people to understand… that someone’s sex probably doesn’t matter unless you’re trying to get into their pants.
About Art
Art can be found writing down too much brain vomit on Livejournal, or making cute and weird things on Etsy.
Wow — a genderplay-friendly kids’ coloring book! I am impressed. And even if you’re not interested in buying it, you gotta admit that the cover is pretty sweet. I hope we one day live in a world where every child can be exposed to materials like this.
