I’m going out tonight in the clothes that I now find ‘normal’. I’m going to go shopping for groceries in the hope that when my ‘normal’ meets life’s ‘normal’ something extraordinary will happen… I’ll feel free!
So, the title should explain it all. I am a gender-fluid guy-to-girl (don’t know if that’s the correct expression) and have yet to come out to my family. This puts me in a bit of a tight spot, because I enjoy to crossdress when I am Melisa, but only get to when my sister isn’t home (although if she was listening she’d already know but whatever).
My mother, while religious, is okay with the LGBTQ+ group, but I don’t know how they’d react to a binary gendered son. Currently I’m on the brink of coming out, like it was a long jump off a cliff I can’t climb back up and my toes are off the edge. Can anyone provide that final push?
Human being have the right to wear what they wish and gender has no place in clothing or fashions. Something happened when we, as a culture, created the mandate to put sex on the birth certificate the moment the baby was born. As much as I understand the purpose of it, we’ve confused that genitalia is always the same as gender. We’ve been led to believe gender is binary — either you’re just a rigid male or female … The transgender experience is a bridge that will connect the understanding of struggles and suffering of the rigid gender binary. Gender and gender expression is fluid. We should be Unisex.
The Binary must go and both genders wearing what the wish, not just woman but guys as well, it’s a two way street.
Wearing formally female made clothes is completely normal, they are just pieces of tissues that were cut and sewed in some forms that have no relativity with the sexual gender of the wearer. To wear make-up is similar to wearing a tattoo. Remember, there are no rules for judging your appearance, there are only closed (small) minds, too afraid of everything that breaks down the formalism, the conservatory views, in any aspects.
The future looks forward, not backward. Be part of the future. End the binary dress code.
I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.
It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.
My first ever Underworks binder arrived in the post today. When I put it on, it felt like it was hurting my actual breast tissue. I’ve seen a lot of talk about chest pain, back pain, breathing trouble, etc. But nothing much about pain in breasts themselves.
Is this just inevitable? Or does it mean something is wrong?
My chest is really small already, so it feels like there is almost no fat around to spread out the pressure. The pain is concentrated in the middle of the breast, where the nipples are (but it’s internal pain, not surface/skin pain).
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them/their
I’m attracted to… I’m sexually attracted to any gender besides female
I’m romantically attracted to any gender, or panromantic
When people talk about me, I want them to… My intelligence and humor.
I want people to understand… That if they misgender me on accident it is okay and they are still learning.
Hey! I’m August or Augie. I’m still deciding on a gender neutral name though and I’m floating between August and Avery. I identify as heterosexual, panromantic Non-binary person who loves video games(mostly nintendo!) and music. Music is one of the most important things to me and I wouldn’t be here without artists like Lana Del Rey or the Front Bottoms. Please use they/them/their pronouns when describing me but if you use he/him/his pronouns on accident it’s okay! Just please try to use they/them :)
Gender is a strange thing to think about. Intuitively it really is just what it is…unfortunately there are those that tell you how it ‘should’ be. For me this has always been a stumbling block. Even though I am transgender I feel so much pressure taking this label. I mean…even the label itself has expectations attached to it.
I have found recently that the term genderqueer seems to fit better…there is less pressure.
I’ve heard dysphoria defined as “discomfort or distress” at one’s assigned gender, but is that a prerequisite for being genderqueer? I’m beginning to think that I might not be 100% the gender I’ve always thought I was, but I’m not really “distressed” about it. I’m not uncomfortable with my assigned gender–but I’m also becoming less and less uncomfortable with exploring other gender identities in addition to it.
I haven’t had these feelings for very long, but could they be legitimate clues to me not being the gender I thought I was?
So in a few days I will get my first shot of testosterone. And now I can’t sleep and I find this little four year old girl inside me, that cries and screams “please don’t destroy me!!!”
She is scared and I am also. I thought I got rid of the girl in me a long time ago. Now she is there. And I am surprised and scared to death with what I am about to do. I can’t figure if this girl is just this, a girl that wants to stay a girl… or is it just the fear from all that will happen… all I know is I need sleep, but I can’t stop thinking…