Profile: Jacki


You can call me… Jacki

I identify as… Part female but not completely. I feel the rest is ambiguous or non gendered. I’m not huge on labels, I’d rather just be Jacki, but the label I closest identify with is demigirl.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m not really out regarding my gender to very many people in real life so my pronouns used are currently female. I can tolerate it to a point but I much rather perfer no pronouns, just my name.

I’m attracted to… I came out as a lesbian at 14. But now as I’m realizing my gender identity I feel I am more polysexual meaning I am attracted to some but not all genders. In my case this means females, demigirls, agender people and more feminine or neutral non binary and genderqueer people. Beyond gender, I am attracted to outdoorsy, geeky, sensitive people with a sense of humor who enjoy romance and aren’t afraid of deep, personal conversations.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not speculate or spread rumors. I’ve had problems in the past with that and it hurt.

I want people to understand… Gender is not just male and female! I can “look like a girl” but not identify as one. I’m not making this up. I’m not abnormal. This is not a phase or something college turned me into.

About Jacki
I’m 19 and a Computer Science major. I love to hike and I’m a self proclaimed geek.

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Posted by on May 31st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Embrace


@UnexpectedAmy wrote…

Embrace trans folk who don’t take hormones or get surgery, because they represent thousands of years of lived trans experiences.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 31st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Shawn


You can call me… Shawn

I identify as… genderqueer or non-binary.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use they/them pronouns.

I’m attracted to… women and non-binary folk. I call myself polysexual.

When people talk about me, I want them to… use my pronouns and resist cisplaining.

I want people to understand… that learning about yourself and your gender is a process and I’m still figuring out who I am.

About Shawn
I am a Women’s and Gender Studies student, an actor, and a writer.

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Posted by on May 30th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Parents


Someone wrote…

Currently, I am thinking about my genderfluid partner, Sam and how they will tell their parents that they’re with someone of the same biological sex.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Georgia


You can call me… Georgia

I identify as… genderfluid and pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her, as I am still in the closet.

I’m attracted to… all genders

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that my gender doesn’t define me, my personality does.

I want people to understand… that most people don’t always fit gender structures, and just because I’m pansexual, I’m not going to start trying to sleep with my friends of the same sex.

About Georgia
Hi, I’m Georgia, and I just watched Gabrielle Burton tak about gender fluidity on YouTube. As, this is the first time I’ve ever openly stated my gender and sexuality to people that I know won’t judge me, I feel utterly fabulous!

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Posted by on May 28th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Ocean-y


@elfhybrid_ wrote…

Genderfluid. You know what, it fits. Maybe non-conforming is a better, more accurate term, but fluid sounds very..ocean-y. I like it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Mel


You can call me… Mel (although, some of my friends call me Michael. It’s an inside joke.)

I identify as… A crazy, nerdy, synesthetic, music-loving, introverted male(trans).

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him/his pronouns are much appreciated! :)

I’m attracted to… All genders(or lack of gender). I’m pansexual and demiromantic.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Use correct pronouns, respect my identity and hopefully not call me a dick(even though that kinda makes sense, given my gender and all).

I want people to understand… That being trans(or any other gender for that matter) is NOT a choice and that people are people, regardless of their identities. Unless they identify as a penguin. Then they’re a penguin.

About Mel (although, some of my friends call me Michael. It’s an inside joke.)
I am a 15 year old transgender male. I recently came out to my mom, and she’s been mostly supportive. I know it’s hard for her, but it still bothers me that she doesn’t use my preferred pronouns, or really make an attempt. And she hasn’t ordered my my binder yet, even though I had enough money and gave it to her to order one about a month ago, but whatever. Greg, her boyfriend, doesn’t seem as supportive though. He’s kind of a jerk, actually, but he’s not bad all of the time. I have a good group of friends who have helped me as I discovered who I was and came out. One of them, who identifies as pangender, has been my “mentor” when it comes to orientation and gender identity. They were pretty much the only person to help me during the period of time when I wasn’t “out”. Nyx, if you’re reading this, I just wanted to say thank you and you’re awesome! Also, my friends Alexia and Jay have been a huge help. If you guys see this, just know that you’re awesome too! Honestly, it’s kind of a miracle that I filled this out, because I often feel very unmotivated and tired. Not sure if it’s due to my insomnia, depression, or a combination of the two. Oh well, it’s no big deal. I don’t really care if I end up staying up late, sleeping through my alarm, and missing the bus, because it means I get to miss school. Well, the first little bit of it anyways. My mom’s boyfriend comes home from work around nine, so I only miss first period and part of second, but yeah… Anyways, I realize that I’m rambling now, so I’ll go. If you have questions, or just want to talk, my email is mellawliet1031@gmail.com.

Have a good day/night/morning/evening/noon and stay who you are, because you are the only you, and you are awesome! :)

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Posted by on May 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Don’t Get It!


Someone wrote…

I don’t get it! Its too confusing. Boy or girl or neither or both I have absolutely no clue.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Maya


You can call me… Maya

I identify as… An androgynous/Genderfluid person/woman, often shifting between Demiboy and Demigirl but always leaning more towards the androgynous side (and I can very occasionally rock a skirt or a dress!) :)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them but I’m also cool with she/her

I’m attracted to… Mostly women and other non binary people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect that I didn’t choose to be androgynous and I’ve been attempting to express this side of me since I was 14. Also to realise that just because I’m in a dress or a skirt it doesn’t devalidate my androgynous/genderfluid identity – maybe this is more how I feel about it than how other people do. Overall I want people to be brave and be kind and I will do the same for them.

I want people to understand… That I am not my gender/androgynous presentation. My gender is me.

About Maya
Guitars, tattoos, bars, coffee and friendly people. Also any sort of music production and a lot of gigs and festivals are always good :) oh yeah and cats!

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Posted by on May 24th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Mikaela


You can call me… Mikaela, or, I’ve been thinking about Blue

I identify as… Agender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them – though I let my close friends use she/her because it’s more familiar and I know they respect my identity. For people I don’t know as well, though, I’m more strict.

I’m attracted to… Mostly girls, but I have a penchant for sweet, pretty boys.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be respectful, even when I’m not there. To not think of me as a girl just because my body is gendered by beauty standards both in society at large and the queer community itself.

I want people to understand… That even though I look like a girl and sometimes call myself one, you don’t get to. I’m just as trans as anyone else.

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Posted by on May 23rd, 2016 at 10:00 am

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The Pieces


Someone wrote…

I’m 31 and just beginning to figure out who I am. I’ve been living as a woman my entire life but I’ve never been completely comfortable with that and only recently started to put the pieces together. I’m married to an awesome guy that I love so much, and he’s very open minded but I’m terrified that if it turns out I’m trans he won’t stay with me. I don’t know what to do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Leo


You can call me… Leo

I identify as… masculine agender/ genderflux

As far as third-person pronouns go, … my pronouns are he/they

I’m attracted to… romantically: all genders,, sexually: Im demigraysexual

When people talk about me, I want them to… be able to use my pronouns comfortably, and categorize me based on my personality rather than my gender

I want people to understand… I dont do this for fun, Im willing to be patient as long as youre willing to be understanding, and you can relax,, my life doesnt revolve around my gender

About Leo
@omegajellybeans on tumblr ;)

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Posted by on May 22nd, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Aspen


You can call me… Aspen

I identify as… Bigender (demigirl + demiguy, usually at once)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m fine with they/them, along with he/she. No pronouns seem to fit me so I’m really just fine with whatever to be completely honest!

I’m attracted to… No one sexually bc I’m super ace, but I’m demi/panromantic :) (i also rly loved short/brightly coloured hair)

When people talk about me, I want them to… NOT PERCEIVE ME AS ONE GENDER!! I know that pretty much everyone I will ever meet will see me as either female or male, but I still like to hope!

I want people to understand… That it is completely possible to feel more than one gender at once, and that its just as, if not more, confusing than it sounds. Also, I want people to understand that there is not such thing as being “not trans enough”.

About Aspen

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Posted by on May 21st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Media


@parkermolloy wrote…

So, media outlets: whether you be print, digital, video, podcast, etc., if you’re going to discuss trans people… consult some trans people

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Posted by on May 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Mimi/Em


You can call me… Mimi/Em

I identify as… Genderfluid Unicorn. Or your supreme overlord, whichever :)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Ey/Em are preferred, but They/Them are also accepted :)

I’m attracted to… All genders, but none sexually

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not see me as what my body shows, but what my personality shows! And to not call me ‘miss’. I hate that.

I want people to understand… This is not a joke! I am serious about being genderfluid! So please respect my pronouns!! And if you do mess up, don’t get so huffy about it! Please!

About Mimi/Em
I never really knew who I was, until my brother suggested that I might be genderfluid. I was repeating that over and over to myself for the rest of that day, and every time I heard it, it felt so right! I never felt like a complete girl anyway, and sometimes I felt like a boy, but I knew I wasn’t transgender. It was the best feeling to figure out who I was! And when I changed my pronouns, I couldn’t be happier! I have yet to come out to my parents, since they’d say it wasn’t real, or that it was just a phase. It really is awesome! And I realized that I was also panromantic, which felt right as well! And Asexual as well! This has been a great year for me, since I am finally realizing who I am at 15. After 10 years of questioning, I have the answers.

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Posted by on May 20th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Grey


You can call me… Grey

I identify as… Agender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/Them/Their

I’m attracted to… Men sexually, males and females romantically

When people talk about me, I want them to… Recognize who I am inside rather than who I am outside.

I want people to understand… It hurts to be recognized as female just because you can’t understand who I am.

About Grey
I’ve always loved art and individuality, and never thought of myself as a girl or boy. It was just recently, however, that I realized I was agender(or at least, could put a name to myself)

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Posted by on May 19th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Gender Relationships


Someone wrote…

I’m tired of people assuming I identify as a demigender. I’m in my mid-30s, present as female (my birth sex), and I make no claims to the sort of oppression that binary trans people/visibly gender non-conforming people face – I have it easy by comparison. I’m not trying to co-opt that struggle. But that being said, I mentor trans kids, have always been trans inclusive, and have spent my whole life trying to find a way to more easily describe my complicated relationship to my gender. Why do people have to diminish that?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jaycee


You can call me… Jaycee

I identify as… Panromantic queer demigirl

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her

I’m attracted to… Men, androgynes, non-binary people, some women as I meet them (so much depends on who you are, not what you are; I feel the most immediate physical attraction towards men and nb individuals, but attraction can grow towards anyone if they are the right person)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Speak fondly and admiringly of my creativity and my kindness first and foremost

I want people to understand… Being a mom doesn’t mean I’m cisgendered, heterosexual/romantic, pro-life, or any number of other things. Please, please don’t use my child-bearing status as a means of assuming literally anything about my life.

About Jaycee
mid-30s, writer, blogger, high school Special Ed teacher. Married to a cis-man, I’ve got a young son at home (born at the end of 2014).

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Posted by on May 18th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Question: Pronouns


Mars asks…

Hey, I’m afab agender who’s having problems with pronouns. I’m currently using she/her pronouns because it’s what I’m used to and what most people default to anyway, but the truth is I hate it. Unfortunately, I also seem to hate he/him and they/them pronouns. I’ve looked into neopronouns, but while I can use them for other people, they don’t feel right in relation to myself either. Does anybody have any advice to offer about what I should do?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Aidan


You can call me… Aidan.

I identify as… male, but I don’t really think certain items of clothing belong to either gender. It sounds confusing, but moving on.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t normally use them. He/Him is the usual.

I’m attracted to… people who can put up with me, people with open minds, people who love music or just have huge passions.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Look beyond gender. Look beyond me. And buy me some Starbucks. (Kidding, sort of.)

Overall just be polite and not weird around me. I’m sensitive about things and I get nervous super easily.

I want people to understand… that every aspect of a person is complex, and you will never fully understand a person’s view unless you are them.

I want people to understand that I do have anxiety and depression, and more. And that I’m easily manipulated by words. Don’t tell me I can’t pass as a male. Or that if I’m this, I must do that. Being myself doesn’t require a guidebook.

I’d also like people to understand the difference between your and you’re.

About Aidan.
Hello! I’m Aidan, and I’m literally turning seventeen in four days. I’m a musician, artist, writer, and photographer who probably doesn’t have any talent within me. However, I love these things and they keep me going.

I live in a small town, which isn’t too fun.
I enjoy metal music. Rock music. All music.
I like reading a lot.
I’m not interesting.
It’s almost 2:30 in the morning, what am I doing?

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Posted by on May 17th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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