Profile: Zie


You can call me… Zie

I identify as… non-binary trans* or gender queer/fluid or third gender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/their/them

I’m attracted to… men both cis/trans* curious around cis women and trans* women

When people talk about me, I want them to… recognize that i am a human being first and foremost, that making a genuine effort to use correct pronoun and rectify their mistakes (practice make persistence) whether you are talking about me or to me

I want people to understand… the correct pronouns and names are vital in respect of social transitions

About Zie

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Posted by on May 1st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Shayne


You can call me… Shayne

I identify as… Non-binary, asexual, panromantic, and an utter nerd.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them is best, but she/her is also ok. I don’t get called he/him much because I usually present as feminine. No neo-pronouns please!

I’m attracted to… People (romantically) and nothing (sexually)

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that my orientation does not define who I am.

I want people to understand… all orientations lie on a spectrum, and no one is better than any other. Just because you like purple and someone else likes red doesn’t mean the bottom of the rainbow is better than the top.

About Shayne
English nerd, Killjoy, Potterhead, Whovian, Sherlockian, bookworm

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Posted by on April 30th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Aidan



You can call me… Aidan.

I identify as… male, but I don’t really think certain items of clothing belong to either gender. It sounds confusing, but moving on.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t normally use them. He/Him is the usual.

I’m attracted to… people who can put up with me, people with open minds, people who love music or just have huge passions.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Look beyond gender. Look beyond me. And buy me some Starbucks. (Kidding, sort of.)

Overall just be polite and not weird around me. I’m sensitive about things and I get nervous super easily.

I want people to understand… that every aspect of a person is complex, and you will never fully understand a person’s view unless you are them.

I want people to understand that I do have anxiety and depression, and more. And that I’m easily manipulated by words. Don’t tell me I can’t pass as a male. Or that if I’m this, I must do that. Being myself doesn’t require a guidebook.

I’d also like people to understand the difference between your and you’re.

About Aidan.
Hello! I’m Aidan, and I’m literally turning seventeen in four days. I’m a musician, artist, writer, and photographer who probably doesn’t have any talent within me. However, I love these things and they keep me going.

I live in a small town, which isn’t too fun.
I enjoy metal music. Rock music. All music.
I like reading a lot.
I’m not interesting.
It’s almost 2:30 in the morning, what am I doing?

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Posted by on April 29th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Sage



You can call me… Sage

I identify as… pansexual genderqueer transgender man

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he and him

I’m attracted to… Intelligent open minded people and androgynous people

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me not just my gender and sexuality

I want people to understand… Just because I am a transgender man that doesn’t mean I can’t like wearing dresses and traditionally female things

About Sage

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Posted by on April 28th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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The Living Room Project


Find out more about how The Living Room Project has grown since this video was made four years ago: “Located in West Oakland, Ca The Living Room Project is a Healing Justice and Community space whose primary purpose is to serve Black & Brown Queer and Trans communities.”


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Profile: Bella


You can call me… Bella

I identify as… Female with a genital issue

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer the she set, even though my “shell” is male

I’m attracted to… Energy. Intelligence. Power. Emotion. Especially the punk femme nerd lesbian sort. Coffee houses. Bars. Tattoos. Lovers that truly love each other.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not be derogatory

I want people to understand… that I don’t have to explain myself to anyone to make myself feel good and neither does anybody else. I just am. So are they. So are you. So it is. Now lets live free.

About Bella
I was married once to a beautiful woman whom I truly loved with every cell of my being. I never lived as me, I lived as the MAN she wanted. I loved her but hated the moment. I lived as a man in a mans world but just wanted to feel pretty. To be appreciated as the woman I am. Because I wasn’t honest about my true self I couldn’t live up to the idea she had of me, because she didn’t know me. She knew a lie. And I lost the love of my life. If I would have been honest from the start would this have ever worked? Probably not, but 4 souls would not have endured the torture of divorce. Yes we had 2 children together. So be honest with yourself, with your partner, buck up and live your life on your terms.


Posted by on April 27th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: August Truman Pratt


You can call me… August Truman Pratt

I identify as… a male, but trans man on all dating sights. I don’t want to mislead anyone.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he. of course I don’t mind slips ups every once in a while.

I’m attracted to… everyone, especially other trans men. I have no idea why.

When people talk about me, I want them to… think I’m a good person, despite being heated and awkward, depending on the day.

I want people to understand… that this is not a phase and that there are a lot of things I consider more important than remaining quiet about my gender.

About August Truman Pratt
Tastefully… I like politics, but only one sided politics. I love my cat, but not many others. I run. I breath. I music… I’m working on building up the courage to correct people when they call me the wrong name or use the wrong pronouns. I have been allowing it so long after I came out that I am scared to say anything now.

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Posted by on April 26th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Question: Gender Identity


Adrian asks…

Hey, I’m 20 years old, currently female. However, though I’ve always felt neutral/cis about my gender, only recently have I felt like perhaps I’d be happier as male.

I don’t really have /dysphoria/ about my body, exactly, but there isn’t really any love their either. I suppose I was taught to accept what I have before even stopping to think about the possibility that I might not be female after all.

I like feminine things, but growing up, as well as recently, I’ve never really been /feminine/, you know? I’ve always seen myself as more gender neutral, but I’ve only just now stopped to think that maybe I could be trans? Like, it’s only really hit me recently that just because I can be feimine, doesn’t mean that I’m female.

But I feel like I’m too old to only just be figuring this out now. Is there anyone here that only discovered themselves at an older age?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Heart-Beats


HEART-BEATS.CA began talking about clothing and fashion in 2013 as a way to also discuss bodies seldom represented in popular culture and online communities; bodies that are fat, bodies that are brown and bodies that are queer—bodies like ours.”


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Holiday


Someone wrote…

I am going to Disney soon. I just got a swimbinder for the first time and I can’t wait to use it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming Out


asks…

How did you come out to your parents and loved ones?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 22nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Wish the World Could Have Known Me


Someone wrote…

I’m a married mother in my thirties. But I know in my heart that I am not a woman. I have known since I was a young child. I secretly called myself a masculine name, and dressed as unfeminine as possible. But I’ve never come out. I will never come out. No one will ever know. It is not an option. I am too scared. I just wanted to tell someone.

I’m a man.

My name is Caleb.

I wish the world could have known me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Whatever you’d like


You can call me… Whatever you’d like

I identify as… I don’t really know if I “identify” at all.
I’m biologically male, and I accept that, but I’ve never “felt” a gender one way or another.
So, agender, I guess.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … What does it matter what you use when referring to me when talking to someone else? As long as you both know who you’re talking about, the pronouns are doing their job. I don’t really care.

I’m attracted to… People who are loving, accepting, and cute (and preferably have a penis).

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be honest and not fear the repercussions of the truth.

I want people to understand… Humans have a need to sort, label, and group but there is much more to truth than can be found by imposing restrictions.

About Whatever you’d like
I’ve been going nameless for about three years now; allowing others to choose what they want to call me.
I try not to label myself and don’t define myself by those that others give me.
I have hopes, dreams, and aspirations like anyone else but, truly, all that I wish to be is “me”.
So much stress is caused by trying to be “something” – I take pleasure in the joy of simply being.

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Posted by on April 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Old Pronoun


Someone wrote…

I flinch every time my family uses my old pronoun, which happens like five times a day. Every single time. I’ve gotta stop that but I don’t know how to have that conversation and I know they’ll complain. I don’t know if I can deal with that. But I can’t deal with this either.

I think they try to be supportive of me, or they wanna be supportive, but they’re bad at it, basically. I wish they were better.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Christopher


You can call me… Christopher

I identify as… a male pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer male pronouns, but they/them works.

I’m attracted to… people, regardless of sex or gender identity, although I have a female preference. A large part of my attraction to someone is based on personality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… refer to me as male, not female, and focus more on my personality and interests.

I want people to understand… even though it might seem strange, your gender doesn’t determine things like your role in society, and it doesn’t have to be the most important part of you.

About Christopher
I love animals, art, books, and gaming.
My life also happens to revolve around music (Bring Me The Horizon in particular at the moment).

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Posted by on April 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Languages


Someone wrote…

Growing up with languages that have no gender options outside the binary made it really difficult for me to discover my identity (non-binary/agender).

The lack of words for who/what I am in my native tongue still makes is hard to get a proper sense of self, and I struggle with feeling unreal. I spent a lot of years during my teens and early twenties wondering whether I was transgender, simply because this was the only viable option or explanation for what I was experiencing, yet it never fit properly.

I have spent decades of my life trying to conform sufficiently to my assigned gender to pass as invisible. And invisible is what I became, not just to others, but to myself. If there is no word for you, if no one ever talks about you in language that actually includes you, it is difficult to feel like you are actually present in the world. In order to be seen, you need to be named.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: How to help a genderfluid friend


F asks…

What can I do to help a friend who realized they are genderfluid and don’t really know how to cope with it?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Ambiguity


Someone wrote…

For a long time I was really comfortable with the ambiguity of saying, “I’m just me.” Now, though, I have no clue what I am and I wish I could figure it out.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Danny


You can call me… Danny

I identify as… Agender and asexual. Maybe Demiromantic too?

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/Them or Xe/Xem, thank you!

I’m attracted to… Girls I think? It’s very complicated. I know I find girls attractive and that’s all I know.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Understand that words can hurt me a lot, even when they’re just said in error.

I want people to understand… That gender isn’t strictly binary, and singular they is definitely grammatically correct.

About Danny
I like space and cartoons, and am often anxious for no reason. I’m not good at talking a lot of the time, but I try my best, and I appreciate it when people listen. I’m a bit of a nervous noodle, aha. Uh, that’s all I can think of to say here, so uh… I hope everyone reading this has a really great day!

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Posted by on April 14th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Walking Down the Street


Someone wrote…

Walking down the street, and meeting eyes with a stranger just long enough to see them give you a once-over and look confused.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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