Fringed


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Posted by on September 2nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Assumptions


Someone wrote…

I wrote an article recently and was asked to include a short bio about myself. I chose my words carefully and supplied a bio without using pronouns. For some reason, the editor changed it anyway and the published result identified me using gendered pronouns.

I decided not to raise it with the editor, but I’ve been thinking about it ever since. How do I really want people to see me? I don’t like the assumptions that come with being assigned/presumed female, but if it wasn’t for the assumptions … maybe I wouldn’t mind being identified as female? I guess it’s impossible to know, since gender roles are so deeply ingrained in our culture and how people treat each other. And on top of that, I guess I still feel apprehensive about being very public about identifying as genderqueer, hence my circuitous route of trying to avoid pronouns rather than just choosing ‘they’ or similar.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 2nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Question: Halting Biology


Monster asks…

I’m a FAAB gendermixed/transqueer and I just can’t deal with getting periods anymore. I can’t keep this up, the regression back into a depressed pit of gender dysphoria every month, then re-learning how to build myself back up.

Going on T isn’t an option.

Going on pills or shots that will trick my body into thinking I’m pregnant isn’t an option. (because enhanced feminine features is the last thing that will make the dysphoria go away)

Are there other alternatives?

Thanks so much. So greatly appreciated! :D

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on September 1st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Missing


Someone wrote…

I’m sick of falling asleep to feel whole, only to wake up and find parts missing.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 31st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The Right to be Handsome



Clothing makers breaking barriers. See more at Marimacho, The Handsome Butch, and our sibling site, Genderplayful.


Posted by on August 30th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Rockin’


Someone wrote…

I saw a little boy at a concert on Sunday – probably 5 years old – wearing this rockin’ teal and white chevron ankle-length skirt. Made me remember that I want to dedicate my life to making sure that that’s okay no matter where you live.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 29th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Val


You can call me… Val

I identify as… Bisexual & Gender-Fluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … At the current moment, I don’t have a preference, but if I had to chose one pronoun, then female.

I’m attracted to… All genders&sexes.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect me

I want people to understand…

About Val

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on August 28th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Restroom


Someone wrote…

I like being able to use the female restroom and not get clocked for being a male in a past life. I never take it for granted because I know others do not have it as easy as I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 27th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: A Map of Gender-Diverse Cultures


Someone recommends…

A Map of Gender-Diverse Cultures

Cross Cultural Gender Deviance
Interactive World Map

This is in promotion of the documentary Two Spirits, about the Navajo Two Spirit gender identity and other non-binary gender identities in the world. The map has blurbs on various identities from all around the world.

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on August 26th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Pretty Boi


You can call me… Pretty Boi

I identify as… agender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/she/they. I can’t be bothered to insist.

I’m attracted to… perceptive men, hard women, politically radical people, queerness that deviates from the queer norm, hairy bodies, quiet people, style, openness, confidence and also people who are working on their confidence, simplification, complexity. Artists without an art form.

When people talk about me, I want them to… stop assuming they know anything about who I am and where I come from. I’m guilty too, though.

I want people to understand… you can work hard to get places.

About Pretty Boi
Dog walker, weight lifter, student, ADHD, too many goals, confused, getting there.

» Define yourself. «

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Posted by on August 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Born Slippy


Someone recommends…

Genderbent recasting of an already gender-bending techno song originally written and performed by Underworld.

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Posted by on August 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The slightest alteration


Someone wrote…

It’s interesting how even the slightest alteration to one’s appearance can mean the difference between being read as male or female.

I recently purchased a small messenger bag to carry my phone, wallet, etc., and I am finding that I’m now being read as female. I suspect it’s because the strap goes right down the middle of my chest, accentuating my biological figure. It’s also not much bigger than a purse, but was advertised as a men’s bag. I usually pass as male about 90% of the time, but adding this bag to my ensemble has tilted the scales in the other direction. I feel compelled to get rid of it and continue putting things into my pockets.

I’m sad. I loved that bag. Any suggestions for bags that don’t divide one’s chest would be greatly appreciated. Sometimes backpacks are too bulky.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Drive


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Posted by on August 18th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Micah


Micah

You can call me… Micah

I identify as… genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Ze

I’m attracted to… feminine women

When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on who I am rather than my gender

I want people to understand… it is hard to understand gender overall so I am extremely compassionate with everyone (doesn’t matter what gender you are or where you’re from)

About Micah
Early 30′s genderqueer identified individual. I’m learning myself and exploring myself each day at a time.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on August 18th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Sight Seeing


Someone wrote…

For the first day ever, I sent a day out sight seeing and was never gendered female. It was a wonderful feeling.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 17th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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New Binder


Reposted from pistachiou

“Soooo my binder came in!!!!! And I’m extremely happy with it!”

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Posted by on August 16th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: Carrington


KC recommends…

It’s the unusual and true love story between writer Lytton Strachey, a gay man, and a gender-nonconforming woman, the artist Dora Carrington. When first meeting Carrington, Strachey mistakes her for a boy and asks “Who is this ravashing boy?” It’s a very touching movie that you won’t forget about any time soon.

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Posted by on August 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Hella Great


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“Feeling hella great.”

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Posted by on August 15th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Mirror


Someone wrote…

It’s not that I don’t like who I see in the mirror. It’s just not me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Beautiful Big Smile


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Posted by on August 14th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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