Profile: Theresa


You can call me… Theresa

I identify as… gay, and whatever gender is socially perceived by those witnessing what I’m most comfortable wearing and sitting like

As far as third-person pronouns go, … feminine!

I’m attracted to… girls and boys, people who understand the world and things beyond their own selves and beyond their own experiences

When people talk about me, I want them to… just say I’m pretty

I want people to understand… you know who you are when you can describe yourself without a label – it took me years and then it hit me that suddenly it was true, and that’s been a lifeline!

About Theresa
I have 17 year old neuropathways, a 2nd level infant soul, and a disordered personality. I wouldn’t want to be anyone else, no matter how many years I spent forcing myself to want that. I’m proud to write this.

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Posted by on June 26th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jane


You can call me… Jane

I identify as… Situational Genderfluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/he is cool

I’m attracted to… girls

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk more about my accomplishments than gender related things.

I want people to understand… You got this

About Jane
Jane, 17.

Interests:
-Engineering (Mechanical Design)
-Jazz
-City lights at night
-Piano

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Posted by on June 25th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Fro


You can call me… Fro

I identify as… a genderless human being.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I go with feminine pronouns mostly because I look feminine and it is the easiest for my surrounding. Maybe I’ll change that in the future. Wow. That actually gives me something to think now.

I’m attracted to… crazy, reliable and romantic people (mostly men but also women)

When people talk about me, I want them to… be nice because words can cut deeper than knives. Believe me… I’ve been through that several times.

I want people to understand… that gender and sexuality is more than male/female and being a homo- or heterosexual. The world ain’t all black and white, you know? It’s colourful!

About Fro

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Posted by on June 24th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Liz


You can call me… Liz

I identify as… queer punk (bisexual, gender questioning, currently settled on androgynous)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … whatever you got suits me just fine. Though most people see female, I’ve been referred to as he/they and that is perfectly fine too.

I’m attracted to… guys in crop tops, Shannyn Sossamon-type weird gals and anything inbetween.

When people talk about me, I want them to… drop the ‘for a girl’ suffix, and just accept who I am.

I want people to understand… that I want to pursue a predominantly male profession, I can hold my own when doing hard labour and I wish people would stop assuming I’ll be no good at manual tasks. And also that just because I’m growing my hair back out doesn’t invalidate my queerness. Just please be open and accepting.

About Liz
Like nigh on everyone else in the world, I’ve always felt different. From a young age music was there for me, and in my late teens I found punk rock. I’ve always dressed like the people I admire, be it male or female. I’m lucky in that only once or twice in my life has my Mum uttered the words ‘you look like a boy’ with the implied translation of ‘be more girly’, but my parents have never told me not to be myself or tried to stop me even if they didn’t personally like it.

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Posted by on June 23rd, 2016 at 10:00 am

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The Pain & Empowerment of Choosing Your Own Gender



An interview with Alok Vaid-Menon


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Profile: Eli


You can call me… Eli… that is the name i feel comfortable with for me

I identify as… Genderfluid Pansexual, i dress like a man but and still have a girl-ish tendency at times and i get called a girl pretty much all the time. But im not entirely sure if I’m Genderfluid, or Transgender… something about having my chest have no boobs and looking in the mirror to see that, having my hair all up in a beanie so it looks like i chopped it all off finally, sitting like a man, acting like one, being called a guy when someone first met me once and that making me unbelievably happy, confuses me… because i still have moments were i act a little a girl-ish… but when ever someone says “she” when talking about me.. it seems kinda weird.. i guess..?

As far as third-person pronouns go, … At this point… I’m fine with anything.. “she.” “he.” “it.”
I mostly get female pronouns, and i don’t expect people to keep up with it or understand, because i don’t either… but one of my friends sometimes asks who i am and that’s really nice.

I’m attracted to… Every gender. nice, funny people that are accepting of who you are and don’t degrade you or others for being themselves.

When people talk about me, I want them to… i don’t really know.. male?… female?…
male…??? it??????? i have no clue

I want people to understand… that even if you don’t understand something don’t automatically think its something that’s wrong and should be torn down to nothing. I know that it might be confusing but just bear with them and let them explain it in there point of view and how they see themselves.

About Eli… that is the name i feel comfortable with for me

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Posted by on June 22nd, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Lindsey


You can call me… Lindsey!! :D

I identify as… agender, I present more feminine, pan romantic asexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/he/she really anything? I prefer they but it just depends on the day.

I’m attracted to… Cute people? which is like everyone? Lots of people. friendliness

When people talk about me, I want them to… Know who I am, be comfortable with me.

I want people to understand… There are more than two genders

About Lindsey!! :D
my tumblr is jubgirl215.tumblr.com if you wanna check that out haha? I’d put a picture but I dont have a good one on this computer, sorry!!

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Posted by on June 21st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Hannah


You can call me… Hannah, I guess. Idc. Whatever you want.

I identify as… Genderfluid, but mostly just Agender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’ve gone by she/her all my life, so that’s fine I suppose. It won’t always be correct, but whatever floats your boat.

I’m attracted to… Male/Female/No One. Depends how I’m feeling at the time.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be polite, but honest. But people don’t usually talk about me. I’m not very interesting.

I want people to understand… I’m an extremely sarcastic, pessimistic and nihilistic person by nature. Don’t be offended if I accidentally offend you. It wasn’t on purpose.

About Hannah, I guess. Idc. Whatever you want.
I’m 17 now. Mum was diagnosed with PTSD when I was 8. She’s pretty much lived in the hospital since then, but she has her own place. I was bullied all my life, but it didn’t really get to me since I always had my head in a book. On the outside I’m a really boring person, but that’s cuz I like my own company much more than I’ll ever like the company of others. Who’s had three existential crises in as many years? Me!! Woo. Um, I’m pretty good at singing, I guess. I play piano and violin. Uh… That’s it.

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Posted by on June 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Pronouns Matter



From Callen-Lourde in New York.


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Profiles: Kristen


You can call me… Kristen

I identify as… demiwoman (?)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her (but I feel like I would be fine with gender-neutral pronouns too)

I’m attracted to… I’m asexual (so don’t feel sexual attraction) but I am romantically and aesthetically attracted to more than one gender (bi). I’m not sure if I am attracted to people despite gender, so I don’t identify as pan.

When people talk about me, I want them to… speak as effortlessly as they do about someone more conventional, while respecting my identity.

I want people to understand… that most of us probably do not fit in the binary options we’re generally taught as the only options for gender, and that gender has been and continues to be used as a tool for oppression and marginalization.

About Kristen
I struggle with some mild anxiety, and have lingering issues as a result of childhood abuse and neglect at the hands of a narcissistic parent. I am struggling to explore my sexuality and gender identities, but feel fairly confident that I am asexual and biromantic. I’m not yet sure about my gender identity, but I think I might be a demiwoman.

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Posted by on June 13th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Ellie


You can call me… Ellie

I identify as… My body says it’s female, although most of the time I don’t really feel female or male or I just feel both at the same time.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Mostly she/her/they/them, but I’m not offended if people use he/him.

I’m attracted to… Open-minded, unique human beings, mostly androgynous, as far as looks go.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about my achievements or character traits, without reducing me to my gender or sexual orientation or saying that I’ve done something impressive, considering that “I’m a girl”.

I want people to understand… that gender roles are mostly concepts created by society and they can’t force everybody to appeal to them, the world is much too diverse for that.

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Posted by on June 12th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Mikhail


You can call me… Mikhail

I identify as… A man in a woman’s house who is asexual and demiromantic.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer They/Them
but not many people listen

I’m attracted to… people who use my correct name, people who don’t care that I don’t look like a traditional “male”, people who can love me back.

When people talk about me, I want them to… use my pronouns and remember that what they can hurt me.

I want people to understand… that I’m a man even if I can’t express it right now.

About Mikhail
I’m Mikhail born name is Marissa…
I live in a house that would hate me if I told them the truth about who I am, dysphoria is alive in my home.
I want to be accepted but I know it will take awhile.

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Posted by on June 11th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Dana


You can call me… Dana

I identify as… asexual, agender, possibly demiromantic who’s still hiding out in their closet.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her in public especially if my family is with me. I tried they/them pronouns among friends but it never really stuck that well.

I’m attracted to… well….I guess aesthetically men, women, non binary people, transpeople you name it. I like intelligence as in wanting to have deep, intense conversations about everything with people. I also have a strong “cuddle drive” directed at primarily men.

When people talk about me, I want them to…

I want people to understand… that this isn’t a stage or some kind of late bloomer thing happening with me. I’m also sick of coming off to people as a rather prudish straight cisgender girl who’s too afraid to get involved with anyone. There’s nothing wrong with me, ok? I most certainly do not require admittance to a psychiatric hospital.

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Posted by on June 10th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Akaiya


You can call me… Akaiya, or Tia if you’re not as familiar with me.

I identify as… More female than male, but I feel like that’s been slipping away. The only reason I ever thought I was female was because a) a vagina and b) what everyone told me I was. Now I’ve become a bit more of my own person and I don’t feel as though I am male or female. Make of that what you will, but I have no label for it currently.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I really like “they/them”, though I tend not to correct people when they use “she/her” since I look more feminine than masculine.

I’m attracted to… Well, it fluctuates… a lot. And, to be honest, I’m not afraid of that. I’m attracted to a lot of characteristics, and therefore a lot of people. :)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not to mock me for my religion (Christianity), my sexuality (pan), and of course, my gender. I am more than just these things. And not don’t say “somethink”, because that really gets on my nerves.

I want people to understand… That though labels are not that important to me, my gender and sexuality still make up a large chunk of my life.

About Akaiya, or Tia if you’re not as familiar with me.
Hi there! I’m @sseptum on Instagram, I’m a Christian, 14 year old Australian and a complete try-hard perfectionist. I’ve known I wasn’t straight since I was about 11 and began to question my gender last year. If you have any questions of any kind, don’t be afraid to message me here or on Instagram!! <3

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Posted by on June 9th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Emory


You can call me… Emory

I identify as… Androgynous, genderqueer, ftm, boyish feminine boy, polyamorous, nerdy, hipster hippy, cat

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he him his and they them their

I’m attracted to… girls, boys, in the middle, and outside. NOT PANSEXUAL! Romantically attracted to: girls, non-binary,and trans guys

When people talk about me, I want them to… I want them to respect my point of view on how I perceive my gender and use the pronouns I have chosen. And please realize opinions can affect me not always in a negative way.

I want people to understand… That I don’t fit the gender norms and I am scared and awkward about. I have found out the terms that feel right when referring to me but I still can be confused or nervous if other people judge me for it or I am in a situation were I have to defend my identity. I hope we can all be kind to others and understand more about people so we avoid any unwarranted conflicts.

About Emory
I am quiet, shy, anxious, silly, funny, kind, quirky, and caring. Yeah…… I don’t know what else to say about myself. I’m so weird.

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Posted by on June 8th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: I wish I knew


You can call me… I wish I knew.

I identify as… Neutrois, possibly with some occasional fluid tendencies towards the feminine area of the spectrum? Usually only when I’m very happy with childlike wonder or when I feel fairly frightened, so I’m not sure if that’s gendery stuff or just how those emotions feel…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … In a perfect world, I’d go by ‘ze/hir’ without hesitation. For now, I’m just trying to make the tentative mental transition from she/her to those.

I’m attracted to… Anyone with a wonderful personality that’s a wonderful friend to me first- demiromantic ace spec ftw, amirite?

When people talk about me, I want them to… Just be polite, and not shittalk me behind my back. I need better friends…

I want people to understand… What it’s like not to fit in, to not relate to either of the public majorities, to feel like you *have* to be an activist in some way, shape, or form just to carve out a tiny space in the world for you.

About I wish I knew.
I’m Puppys, though that name only works in virtual communities… I’ve been contemplating my gender off and on for years, and exploring it since late 2014. I have a lot of insecurities about my gender, and I’m terrified of going to community college this semester to study game programming/design. It’s the best decision for me, though; so I look forward to it.

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Posted by on June 7th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Lily


You can call me… i haven’t decided yet, honestly. Lily works for now

I identify as… genderqueer as hell.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them pronouns, please

I’m attracted to… i’m attracted to everyone. don’t really have a type. (besides awesome)

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that my identity is valid and that being anxious doesn’t mean i hate life. :)

I want people to understand… me. also, pie is a totally valid breakfast, thank you very much.

About i haven’t decided yet, honestly. Lily works for now
welp. i like comics and cinnamon rolls, and live in NYC. i also like bears and Bernie Sanders. i am super awkward and no sense of dance, but i’ll still try. i hate capital letters and never use them in my poems. so..um…yeah? have fun, and eat your vegetables.

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Posted by on June 6th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Dee


You can call me… Dee

I identify as… Genderfluid, demiromantic, and pansexual. Also a gender nonconformist.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer they/them but I’m also okay with she/her.

I’m attracted to… Great personalities. Your gender doesn’t really have a factor in if I’m going to date you or not. How attractive you are does lol.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not automatically assume I identify as female.

I want people to understand… That I am who I am. I will not change or fit the mold you put me in. I will not change because that’s the way the rest of society is. I will not conform.

About Dee

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Posted by on June 5th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Halle/Elliot


You can call me… Halle/Elliott

I identify as… Genderfluid,Pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he/him but they/them works too.

I’m attracted to… Beautiful people, inside rather than out.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Use the right pronouns rather than using she/her to spite my wishes

I want people to understand… I am open for chats basically 24/7

About Halle/Elliott
I’m athletic, I enjoy Football and Rugby, yes I’m British, yes I drink tea.

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Posted by on June 4th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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My Presentation of Myself


Someone wrote…

I definitely feel like a male inside. but i always feel like people don’t take that seriously, because my presentation of myself is more ambiguous. I never really pay attention to society’s gendered clothing restrictions. I have to remind myself there are cis men who wear skirts too.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


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