My 18 year old child wants to have breast removal surgery, and has no interest in anything further. They have been wearing a binder for several years. They want to have the surgery before starting college in the fall. I want to support them, and at the same time I worry that maybe as a parent I ought to have them wait in case they may later change their mind. I can use any input. Thanks.
I identify as… Heterosexual, biromantic, bigender…usually presenting as a woman
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her
I’m attracted to… Masculine men, athletic women, kindness and passion
When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of my personality without having to include a specific gender as a part of that identity
I want people to understand… That my feminine appearance doesn’t tell the whole story…it’s hard to express my masculine side with thick hips
Really struggling to define myself. I want to allow myself to be more authentic about the identity I want to have, but I am afraid of the consequences of moving away from the gender binary. I hate feeling like I have to choose one or the other.
How do you figure out who you are? I would very much like to figure out who or what I am. I’m a mature male, gay, but feel very feminine at times. It used to be a 50/50 feeling, but know its more 80/20 feminine. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated on where to start looking for a definition.
I am 54 and non-binary long before “that” existed. I tried to fit in the TV and/or the TS world when I was younger but was just as alone there as I am now. I’m scared to continue and to lose the life I have now as a rural, red state, grandparent with a spouse I love.
Can you reach eighty & realize that you were meant to be a boy not a girl? It is a little late to realize this, but when I consider my life, I realize that unconsciously I was meant to be a boy. I have always loved fast cars, wanted to sky-dive & perhaps fly a plane. I have never really fallen in love with a man or been madly attracted to them, nor them to me, which has made me ponder now.
I would have liked to have driven fast cars, sky-dived or flown a plane. Perhaps joined the military & risen to a senior staff member position.
It is a little late to discover this & unfortunately, you can’t turn back the clock.
I have just wondered if other males or females have wished they were the other sex.
I identify as… a 30-something cysgender female straight tomboy that doesn’t like being called either sir nor madam
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m fine with and used to she/her but I prefer being refered to as they/them.
I’m attracted to… socially awkward, gentle, non normative, open minded people of any gender
When people talk about me, I want them to… not mention my gender unless explicitly asked about it, and answer that question with another question : “Why does it matter to you ?”
I want people to understand… their behavior and words have an impact on others. I’m home in my female body, but I’m not female in my mind and I feel estranged to the definition of female others impose on me without thinking about it.
You can call me… By birth: Tesia By Culture: Tesiava/Takoda
I identify as… Genderfluid.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them please.
I’m attracted to… pansexual, currently attracted to a genderqueer demiboy with great sense and flawless poetry.
When people talk about me, I want them to… appreciate my inner qualities and who I am as a person. If they don’t know me, they can say “that short person who talks a lot about math and then does the splits.”
I want people to understand… That gender isn’t all of what defines a person, I’m forgiving about mistakes , and I want to be seen for who I am, not what gender I am. In a science profession this is incredibly daunting.