Profile: Jeri


You can call me… Jeri

I identify as… Trans Femme/Agender/Genderqueer and polyromantic or queeer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer “they” and “them”

I’m attracted to… Cis men who have shed their toxic masculinity, feminine men, trans men, non-binary femme/agender

When people talk about me, I want them to… Focus on the total package, and no not THAT package the real me in totality

I want people to understand… I’m not offended by mistakes that are dealt with nicely. I love open ended questions and revealing the real me.

About Jeri
I have chronicled my gender journey through various posts on my blog. This link lists them in chronological order from my decision to call myself Agender through my coming out as Trans Femme/Agender to all my Facebook friends, Here’s the list of posts about me:
https://jerbearinsantafe.wordpress.com/2017/04/15/my-gender-journey-posts-in-chronological-order/

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Posted by on August 18th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ormi Fay


You can call me… Ormi Fay

I identify as… A genderfluid pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her is fine. My gender expression has been mostly female, for the sake of keeping my job and not confusing the hell out of people. It doesn’t feel right about a third of the time. Maybe one day I will be brave enough to demand neutral pronouns.

I’m attracted to… Kind, thoughtful, beautiful souls. It doesn’t matter what parts they have on the outside.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Stop qualifying my achievements, behavior, or aspirations within their perceived gender limitations. Don’t tell me I am doing great for a “woman.” That’s offensive and wrong. I am doing alright for a human being.

I want people to understand… I can’t relate to the cis female experience, anymore than I can relate to the cis male experience. I’ve never been just one or the other. I am both and neither.

About Ormi Fay
A 31-year old who started their career in art and graphic design, only to gravitate years later to talent management. Because the most important part of any business is its people. Still loves art, music, tattoos and all manner of self-expression. Hopes to one day see a world free of gender bias.

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Posted by on August 16th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Alyssa


You can call me… Alyssa

I identify as… Agender Non-Binary

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them

I’m attracted to… people

When people talk about me, I want them to… Acknowledge the fact that I’m not a girl but more importantly know that being trans isn’t who I am. I am Alyssa who just so happens to be trans. Just like I just so happen to have a size 8 1/2 shoe.

I want people to understand… I’m forgiving and won’t get mad if misgender me as long as you know you made a mistake. Also that being trans is not the only thing about me.

About Alyssa
I’m Alyssa. I’m 15 years old and I’m currently a Freshman living in Southern California. I’m starting to write blogs about transitioning and also might have a patreon soon. :)

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Posted by on August 6th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ty


You can call me… Ty

I identify as… Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Nonbinary…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She is fine because I can’t be bothered to correct others every five minutes… But They/Them is fine too, It, Ze, pretty much whatever.

I’m attracted to… Kindness, loyalty, humor, dark, goofy, or otherwise. I am attracted to people who understand, people who see beyond the facade of a face and body. That sounds weird but whatever, I like personality, not body…

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk from a good place, a kind place, with love or affection.

I want people to understand… That I don’t really know anything and I’m still confused and searching and sometimes it’s hurtful, but sometimes it’s exciting.

About Ty
Life is difficult and I write to sort through my own crazy thoughts.
I’m still super confused about myself and what I’m feeling and who I am and that’s okay.
Giant nerd.

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Posted by on August 4th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Jordan



You can call me… Jordan

I identify as… A transgender nonbinary boy ? I use He/Him pronouns

I’m attracted to… All female identifying people and some transgender people

I want people to understand… That even though I am nonbinary, myself liking to be referred to and seen to as a boy doesn’t invalidate my identity

About Jordan
I’m a fairly feminine boy who likes to paint his nails and skateboard occasionally. I like most sports and I would like to learn guitar

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Posted by on August 2nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ruby


You can call me… Ruby

I identify as… FTM (I’m not sure yet)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Them/they

I’m attracted to… Guys

When people talk about me, I want them to… Say I’m a guy but people refer to me as a girl and I hate it.

I want people to understand… Even though I’m young I still know that I’m different. Age is just a number.

About Ruby
I’m an eleven year old who was assigned to be female at birth but I feel and want to be a guy.

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Posted by on July 31st, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Becca


You can call me… Becca

I identify as… gender curious/queer. Closet cross-dresser

As far as third-person pronouns go, … any of them at this point, although she/her sound good

I’m attracted to… female, femme, androgynous

When people talk about me, I want them to… my gender doesn’t change my personality

I want people to understand… that I’m just as confused as they may be

About Becca
Father of one, married. My wife if aware of my “proclivities.” She is understanding to a point, but I’m not allowed to dress in public.

I tried on my mother’s clothes when I was a child. One time when I was 11 I let a girl put makeup on me and it felt really good to feel pretty. I’m not brave enough to come out right now and I don’t know if I would go through trans surgery but it’s good to know I’m not alone.

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Posted by on July 29th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Lorenzo


You can call me… Lorenzo

I identify as… erm…well, I’m really unsure about my gender. I mean, I was born male but I have never really felt that much of ‘connection’ with this definition. I had never asked myself if being ‘male’ for me was right because I didn’t really care since me was me and not the gender assigned to me. Then, not too long ago, I started wondering again about my gender and I honestly don’t know how to define myself because I think I’m agender but I also have difficulties to completely abandon the current definition I have of myself because I’ve never felt a very gender dysphoria. (ps: I also tried to define myself as a demiboy but I don’t think this gender totally represents me -I don’t know how to explain it lol-). Pratically I think I’m agender but maybe I’m not yet ready to totally accept this?

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t have a real preference, maybe because in Italian (my native language) we haven’t pronouns to define ourselves in other ways than male or female. However, if I had to choose, I would prefer ‘he/him’, ‘they/them’ or ‘ne/nem’ (I’m not even sure about my gender but I probably would prefer one of these pronouns if i would recognize myself as agender).

I’m attracted to… men. I’ve also made coming out with some of my class mates and my best friend. (Actually I’m wondering even about my sexual orientation, but the explanation would be too long lol)

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that even if I seem all happy and smiling and even a little stupid (basically all the people I know think I’m stupid lol) I have emotions too. Even if they believe I’m kinda indifferent to others’ opionions, this isn’t true (just the opposite lol. To my misfortune, I use to care a lot -maybe too much- about others’ opinions about me)

I want people to understand… that gender (like sexuality) isn’t just made of two choices (male/female or straight/gay). We have plenty of them, we only have to find ‘right one’ for us.

About Lorenzo
I’m 15, I’m Italian and I’m UGLY (and I know it lol). I’ve watched a lot of TV series and Anime and I’ve also read a lot of manga and books. My favourite genres are:
books: Fantasy, Romance and also Literature
TV series: Action, Comedy, Fantasy, Supernatural and even Romance
Anime: Basically every genre, maybe Action and Comedy (?)
Manga: Yaoi (*COFF COFF* YAOI IS LIFE *COFF COFF*), Shounen and Seinen.

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Posted by on July 27th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: shelby


You can call me… shelby

I identify as… genderqueer?

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them for now, I’m still working on this one

I’m attracted to… girls

When people talk about me, I want them to… avoid talking about my gender identity before they have asked me and try to understand

I want people to understand… that just because I don’t want to transition doesn’t mean that I am not a boy..

About shelby
I’m a gender-queer college freshman just trying to find a place where I can fit in…

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Posted by on July 25th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Emerson or Em


You can call me… Emerson or Em

I identify as… Gender-fluid and pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … At this point in time, I´m fine with they/them/their pronouns OR she/her.

I’m attracted to… People regardless of their gender identity. :)

When people talk about me, I want them to…

I want people to understand…

About Emerson or Em
Hi everyone! My name is Emerson (actually, my real name is Emily, but I´m gonna go by Emerson or Em because those are gender neutral names:) I love Harry Potter, Pentatonix, and I’m obsessed with Dove Cameron.

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Posted by on July 17th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Adrian



You can call me… Adrian

I identify as… agender and transmasculine

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him or they/them. i like he/him most.

I’m attracted to… i’m grey-asexual / kinda demisexual and panromantic.

When people talk about me, I want them to… use masculine honorifics like ‘sir’, ‘man’, ‘mister’ etc instead of neutral terms. mr. / mx. are interchangeable, but i don’t like datefriend, sibling, child, etc for me… i want my parents to call me ‘son’, i want my brother to call me ‘brother’, and i want my s/o to call me their ‘boyfriend’.

I want people to understand… – rule 63 fanworks and cis-swapping is disgustingly cissexist and transphobic and it’s so violently invalidating so keep it away from me…
– i define agender for myself to mean ‘gender neutral’ like neutrois, not me lacking a gender
– i’m from iowa and i go to school for cinema!
– i’m autistic and i have bpd
– i’m a virgo sun, cancer moon, libra rising

About Adrian
hi, i’m adrian, i’m nineteen at the moment, i sometimes go by my middle name, james, or my pseudonym, virgoe bex. i’m a cinema student and an aspiring screenwriter and director.

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Posted by on July 15th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Getting a Job in Bristol



Additionally, in the description, the vlogger adds: “…although I don’t identify as Trans in the conventional sense, in an interview context I would because it’s a more commonly known term that most understand, rather than getting into a debate about what is gender queer.”


Posted by on July 13th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Hala


You can call me… Hala

I identify as… FTM transgender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him/his or they/them/theirs please!

I’m attracted to… Mostly girls, but also some boys!

When people talk about me, I want them to… Acknowledge that I am human

I want people to understand… That I’m just trying to make things work.

About Hala
I’m a female to male transgender who’s just now finding this site and trying it out.. Not very much else to say about me.

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Posted by on July 12th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sam


You can call me… An Agender Potato. Just kidding, let’s do Sam.

I identify as… In case you couldn’t tell, an ADHD-cursed agender couch potato who likes to roll itself with a blanket on the floor so it becomes a burrito. Or a strange nerd who is weird and apparently smart and funny (I couldn’t tell if they were joking) and always sarcastic.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer ‘it’, but because my parents don’t know about me coming out, I’ve just stuck with ‘she/her’ (congrats, you now know I have a vagina .-. )
But honestly, I don’t want to risk the bullying so I’m just hiding in my closet with a bag of chips.

I’m attracted to… I love anyone who is near-ish my height (5′ 7″) and who has a nice personality. Must be humorous. I also love pretty eyes! <3

When people talk about me, I want them to… say nice things! ;-;
And maybe actually care about me since most people only use me for help with math. And remember my gender but don’t treat me oddly.

I want people to understand… I’M HUMAN! And just because I’m pansexual does not mean I have a crush on you (facepalm). Also, just because I call you a friend doesn’t mean I don’t secretly have a crush on you (wink!). Lastly, I’m me. If you don’t like it, fuck you.

About An Agender Potato. Just kidding, let’s do Sam.
IMMA POTAYTO! (misspelling on purpose there, folks!)
Okay I don’t actually like potatoes but y’know, sometimes you need something quirky to use to make you sound as weird as you are. I’m more of a celery person ;)
And I’m kinda ugly but I think I make up for it inside. Hence the lack of ID picture XP

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Posted by on July 10th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Ask Me



” ‘Ask Me’: What LGBTQ Students Want Their Professors to Know.” Some great students taking a stand and being vulnerable in order to educate.


Posted by on July 6th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Luca


You can call me… Luca (or Max)

I identify as… Transmasculine androgyne

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Them/they (experimenting with he/him)

I’m attracted to… Men, women and fellow enbies

When people talk about me, I want them to… Consider my feelings.

I want people to understand… That this is who I am, and that it is a good thing.

About Luca (or Max)
Writer,singer/songwriter, artist. star wars fan, sci-fi nerd. Reinventing myself in many ways. Finding the person I’ve always been, but was afraid to be in the sunlight.

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Posted by on July 4th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Soren/Sarah


You can call me… Soren/Sarah

I identify as… An androsexual genderfluid

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Any pronouns are fine as long they are used with kindness <3

I’m attracted to… Men and masculinity as I am androsexual, but I’m mostly attracted to the masculinity side whether male or female

When people talk about me, I want them to… Remember that I’m a human being as well

I want people to understand… That no one is perfect and I’m definitely not perfect so that means I’m actually normal :)

About Soren/Sarah
15 year old genderfluid. I don’t care if you call me Sarah or Soren. I want to go into Computer Science. I love reading and writing in my free time. I’m always on the lookout for new friends.

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Posted by on June 26th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Chogiwa


You can call me… Chogiwa

I identify as… Female (cisgender)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her, they/them, that crazy activist,

I’m attracted to… People,
70% Male
20% Female
10% Other

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be honest, and speak fondly

I want people to understand… That my sexuality is just another thing about me. I’m American, like artichoke hearts, and am into different types of people.

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Posted by on June 24th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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One Year


One Year
Dani talks about how it has been since coming out as genderqueer and pansexual.
“I’m a lot more appreciative of life, of my life, as difficult as it’s been and will be. I’m thankful to have all these opportunities, to have the support I do.”


Posted by on June 22nd, 2017 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Eliza


You can call me… Eliza

I identify as… Not sure? Somewhere around Demifemale-Agender.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them would be great! If you won’t use those, then she/her is…fine. Sorta.

I’m attracted to… Short hair, good senses of humor, kindness, people who don’t mind me hugging them or playing with their hair, respectful people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be kind? I’m really just trying to get by, and even though some people don’t understand me I hope they won’t speak ill of me.

I want people to understand… That I’m still questioning my gender, and that I will probably never come out even if I settle on a label I’m comfortable with.

About Eliza
Young and unsure. Social anxiety and stress, but trying to keep it up and not doing so bad!

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Posted by on June 20th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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