Comfort


Someone wrote…

I was getting really hung up on struggling with what’s true for me, what’s a product of societal programming, and the incessant binary thoughts of “wait if I’m not cis then I must be trans, right?” grinding away in my head. Then I got a piece of advice that almost instantly quieted it all down and helped it all make sense for me. I go back to it frequently.

“Stop thinking of it terms of gender and start thinking of it terms of comfort. Do the “women’s” clothes you wear make you feel comfortable? Then wear them!

Does looking more femme make you feel more comfortable some days more than others? Then look femme!

Same goes for your body, the way you talk, the way you move, the way you express yourself. It doesn’t have to be about any notion of gender binary. It can just simply be about physical manifestations of what makes you feel good.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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How do I discourage being wrongly gendered without being confrontational?


Someone wrote…

I am an FTM. I work in the public school system. I applied to the job and was hired as male…I wear a name tag that clearly reads “MR.” I conform to many male stereotypes (I bind, I have short hair, I wear mens clothing exclusively) Oftentimes, however, I am either referred to with female pronouns among co-workers or they include my presence in terms like “ladies” referring to a group.

How do I discourage these types of experiences without being rude or confrontational?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 21st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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As a child.


Someone wrote…

As a child, I was led to believe that being a girl meant that you had to like dolls, dresses, hair, and pink. I didn’t like any of these things, so I figured I was not a girl. If I was not a girl, I had to be a boy. Now I know that not fitting into a socially constructed “girly” mold does not diminish my identity as a woman.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Moon Raver


You can call me… Moon Raver, or Moon

I identify as… I’m not sure yet. Right now im just letting my gender do whatever it wants. I feel genderless, but female presenting.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer female pronouns. Most people call me by them anyway because I often present as such.

I’m attracted to… Every gender.
But more intimately, my amazing girlfriend of three years. <3

When people talk about me, I want them to… I want to be loved by everyone. I know, that isn’t possible. But it’s a dream right?

I want people to understand… That just because I have a mental illness, doesn’t mean I’m not intelligent, or capable of forming informed opinions.

About Moon Raver, or Moon

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on July 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Free Me


Submitted by Nick, who is both the model and photographer.

 

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Posted by on July 18th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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All of us


Someone wrote…

Whenever I come here and read and see you all, it makes me feel fantastic. I get courage, I get inspiration, I hear questions that I can really ask myself. I wouldn’t be me without people like you!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 18th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Chains


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Posted by on July 17th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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KUMU HINA



“KUMU HINA is a powerful film about the struggle to maintain Pacific Islander culture and values within the westernized society of modern day Hawai’i. It is told through the lens of an extraordinary Native Hawaiian who is both a proud and confident mahu, and an honored and respected kumu, or teacher, cultural practitioner, and community leader.”

Learn more about the film here or check for updates on Facebook.


Posted by on July 17th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Sad Babe


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“The only face i’m capable of in pictures is “sad babe”.

 

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Posted by on July 16th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Society


Someone wrote…

I’m what society would deem a transman and my partner is what society would deem a homosexual man, though neither is true as we are both more complex than this.

Yesterday my cousin asked how we defined our relationship. It’s amazing how many people feel the need to ask that question.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Who am I?


Submitted by Jamie, who is both the model and photographer.

“Still trying to figure myself out. I’ve known I was really a boy all my life even though I was born a girl. Everyone always assumes I’m a ‘tomboy’ rather than transgender but now that I’m almost 20 I’m no so sure that that is who I am.”

 

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Posted by on July 15th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Recommendation: 10 Myths


Erica (photo curator emeritus) recommends…

Raising My Boychick - Parenting, privilege, and rethinking the norm

Stormy isn’t the only baby being raised gender neutral. Blogger Arwyn debunks ten common objections to gender neutral parenting, showing the reasoning behind many of the decisions she makes while raising her male-assigned at birth “boychick”.

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on July 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Very much together


Someone wrote…

Society tells us that we are all alone in our gender non-conformity, yet here we are all, very much together :)

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Question: Longer hairstyles for Genderqueer people


Sophia/James asks…

Hello! I have been considering getting my hair cut short to look more, well, genderqueer. It’s pretty difficult trying to convince others that I don’t identify as one gender, and I still haven’t succeeded, but I probably won’t be respected like that so easily since I’m only thirteen.
I’ve noticed that a lot of genderfluid individuals have short hair, and I’m sure anyone can see why that is convenient.

However, I’m curious to know if there are any longer hairstyles out there that would show me to be more visibly genderqueer? I’m not opposed to having it cut short to look more androgynous, but I still want to know what’s best for me.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on July 13th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Twitter


Someone wrote…

I am in love with the fact that I don’t know the gender of many of folks I follow on Twitter.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Jayden/Jay


jay

You can call me… Jayden or Jay.

I identify as… a transmasculine genderqueer asexual person.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer ‘he’ or ‘they’, please.

I’m attracted to… cuddling and empathetic people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… remember that we are all born to die, so they should appreciate the times I share with them instead of belittling me.

I want people to understand… I’m uncomfortable with my body, but I don’t hate my inner self.

About Jayden or Jay.
Each year I age, I absorb people’s youth. I can’t dance to save my life or endangered species, but I can smile to brighten days and nights.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on July 11th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Three names


Someone wrote…

I have three names: my birth name, my adoptive name and my trans name. I kinda like it that way.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 10th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Is Anatomy Destiny?


Someone recommends…

Is Anatomy Destiny?
TEDxNorthwesternU: An Educational Video

Alice Dreger works with people at the edge of anatomy, such as conjoined twins and intersexed people. In her observation, it’s often a fuzzy line between male and female, among other anatomical distinctions. Which brings up a huge question: Why do we let our anatomy determine our fate?

There is also a transcript of the talk.

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Posted by on July 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Dream


Someone wrote…

I had a dream last night. I was making out with what I thought was a boy and turned out to be a girl. I was attracted to her in both ways and I woke up happy that I subconsciously had the same response as I claim to consciously.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 8th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Happy Accident


Reposted from the-unfeminine-female

“Honestly, this was supposed to be a “bummy” outfit but it turned out looking cool.”

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Posted by on July 7th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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