Question: Parent is unsure


A parent asks…

My 18 year old child wants to have breast removal surgery, and has no interest in anything further. They have been wearing a binder for several years. They want to have the surgery before starting college in the fall. I want to support them, and at the same time I worry that maybe as a parent I ought to have them wait in case they may later change their mind. I can use any input. Thanks.

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «


Posted by on April 30th, 2017 at 08:00 am

questions | 1 comment »

Shoe bump


via 500px

Androgynous Explorations of Time - The 70s by Shotby Femo on 500px.com

 

“Androgynous Explorations of Time – The 70s” by Shotby Femo

Models: Yvonne Chibueze & Antwon Williams

Hair and Make-Up: Misty Mosharrafa

Styling: Brad Simpson at Body Style UK

Photography: www.shotbyfemo.com


Posted by on April 29th, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Being a GNC Parent



Even BuzzFeed is starting to show GNC people as multi-dimensional.


Posted by on April 28th, 2017 at 08:00 am

video | Comment »

Three Hats and a Smile


via 500px

Reggaetoneros by Alfonso José Venegas on 500px.com

 


“Reggaetoneros” by Alfonso José Venegas

“Black and white genderqueer portrait.”


Posted by on April 26th, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Profile: Dre


You can call me… Dre

I identify as… a gay searching woman with a disability

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use she/her/hers

I’m attracted to… Loving, unique female-bodied people

When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect my privacy

I want people to understand… Names and language are important; if I tell you how to refer to me, it’s important that you respect that.

About Dre

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 26th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Boa & Knit


via 500px

Andrógino by Camilo Palacios on 500px.com

 

“Andrógino” by Camilo Palacios


Posted by on April 24th, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Profile: Paige or Arty


You can call me… Paige or Arty

I identify as… Non-binary/Agender

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/Them/Theirs, please!

I’m attracted to… Everyone! If I’m attracted to you, I’m attracted to you!

When people talk about me, I want them to… not assume what I identify as. I may present a certain way, but you are probably wrong.

I want people to understand… that I have enough trouble with myself internally, I don’t need you to voice your opinions of me.

About Paige or Arty
Hey there, pals! I’m 20 and fabulously queer. If you’d like to be friends or know more about me, hit me up on my tumblr: cockapoodle-doo

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 24th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Profile: Lily


You can call me… Lily

I identify as… Heterosexual, biromantic, bigender…usually presenting as a woman

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her

I’m attracted to… Masculine men, athletic women, kindness and passion

When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of my personality without having to include a specific gender as a part of that identity

I want people to understand… That my feminine appearance doesn’t tell the whole story…it’s hard to express my masculine side with thick hips

About Lily
Really struggling to define myself. I want to allow myself to be more authentic about the identity I want to have, but I am afraid of the consequences of moving away from the gender binary. I hate feeling like I have to choose one or the other.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 22nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Question: How do you figure it out?


Kevyn asks…

How do you figure out who you are? I would very much like to figure out who or what I am. I’m a mature male, gay, but feel very feminine at times. It used to be a 50/50 feeling, but know its more 80/20 feminine. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated on where to start looking for a definition.

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «


Posted by on April 22nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

questions | Comment »

Shiny Crop


via 500px

Overexposed Androgynous by Anders James on 500px.com

 

“Overexposed Androgynous” by Anders James

“Just me…really.”


Posted by on April 21st, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Long before “that” existed…


Someone wrote…

I am 54 and non-binary long before “that” existed. I tried to fit in the TV and/or the TS world when I was younger but was just as alone there as I am now. I’m scared to continue and to lose the life I have now as a rural, red state, grandparent with a spouse I love.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 21st, 2017 at 08:00 am

your voice | Comment »

Within The Binary


via 500px

Gender by Polly Thomas on 500px.com

 

“Gender” by Polly Thomas

“Self portrait.

“Exploring and questioning divisions and connotations associated with the majority of society’s idea of stereotypes within the gender binary.”


Posted by on April 20th, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Unbuttoning My Boy Shirt



Posted by on April 20th, 2017 at 08:00 am

video | Comment »

Question: What if you’re 80?


Galatea asks…

Can you reach eighty & realize that you were meant to be a boy not a girl? It is a little late to realize this, but when I consider my life, I realize that unconsciously I was meant to be a boy. I have always loved fast cars, wanted to sky-dive & perhaps fly a plane. I have never really fallen in love with a man or been madly attracted to them, nor them to me, which has made me ponder now.

I would have liked to have driven fast cars, sky-dived or flown a plane. Perhaps joined the military & risen to a senior staff member position.

It is a little late to discover this & unfortunately, you can’t turn back the clock.

I have just wondered if other males or females have wished they were the other sex.

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «


Posted by on April 19th, 2017 at 08:00 am

questions | Comment »

Wig in Hand


via 500px

DSC00005.jpg by blackstar media on 500px.com

 

DSC00005.jpg by blackstar media


Posted by on April 18th, 2017 at 10:00 am

faces | Comment »

Profile: Jem(ma)


You can call me… Jem(ma)

I identify as… A feminine, male person.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He and They in equal measure. She would be lovely but I don’t present as a woman and I likely won’t.

I’m attracted to… Kindhearted, beautiful, and nurturing people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not identify me as masculine just because I am male. I want them to not think of my size as intimidating. I hope they think I’m pretty.

I want people to understand… That I have a beard because it looks good on my face, not because it’s a part of a masculine gender performance.

About Jem(ma)

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 18th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Profile: Andy


You can call me… Andy

I identify as… I guess I identify as a male…? I was born female and I’m currently thinking about transitioning.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he/him/his pronouns but they/them/their is okay too.

I’m attracted to… All genders. It doesn’t matter what you are or what you have in your jeans it matters on your personality.

When people talk about me, I want them to… I want them to be respectful and be kind.

I want people to understand… That even tho I change my name and gender I’m still the fluffy little ball if awkwardness I was before.

About Andy
Idk what to say… I guess just I’m a ball of fluff and I like dogs.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 16th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Profile: Khonsu


You can call me… Khonsu

I identify as… a 30-something cysgender female straight tomboy that doesn’t like being called either sir nor madam

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m fine with and used to she/her but I prefer being refered to as they/them.

I’m attracted to… socially awkward, gentle, non normative, open minded people of any gender

When people talk about me, I want them to… not mention my gender unless explicitly asked about it, and answer that question with another question : “Why does it matter to you ?”

I want people to understand… their behavior and words have an impact on others. I’m home in my female body, but I’m not female in my mind and I feel estranged to the definition of female others impose on me without thinking about it.

About Khonsu

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 14th, 2017 at 10:00 am

profiles | 1 comment »

Profile: Tesiava/Takoda


You can call me… By birth: Tesia By Culture: Tesiava/Takoda

I identify as… Genderfluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them please.

I’m attracted to… pansexual, currently attracted to a genderqueer demiboy with great sense and flawless poetry.

When people talk about me, I want them to… appreciate my inner qualities and who I am as a person. If they don’t know me, they can say “that short person who talks a lot about math and then does the splits.”

I want people to understand… That gender isn’t all of what defines a person, I’m forgiving about mistakes , and I want to be seen for who I am, not what gender I am. In a science profession this is incredibly daunting.

About By birth: Tesia By Culture: Tesiava/Takoda

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 12th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Profile: Sascha


You can call me… Sascha

I identify as… Non-binary

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them/theirs

I’m attracted to… People without beards (insert any gender)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be aware of my identity. Not “sir” me all the time.

I want people to understand… That just because someone looks “masculine”, they don’t have to identify with that word.

About Sascha
Sascha. 25. The Netherlands. Student Social Work. Single.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on April 9th, 2017 at 08:00 am

profiles | Comment »

Back to top