Category: your voice


Restroom


Someone wrote…

I like being able to use the female restroom and not get clocked for being a male in a past life. I never take it for granted because I know others do not have it as easy as I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 27th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The slightest alteration


Someone wrote…

It’s interesting how even the slightest alteration to one’s appearance can mean the difference between being read as male or female.

I recently purchased a small messenger bag to carry my phone, wallet, etc., and I am finding that I’m now being read as female. I suspect it’s because the strap goes right down the middle of my chest, accentuating my biological figure. It’s also not much bigger than a purse, but was advertised as a men’s bag. I usually pass as male about 90% of the time, but adding this bag to my ensemble has tilted the scales in the other direction. I feel compelled to get rid of it and continue putting things into my pockets.

I’m sad. I loved that bag. Any suggestions for bags that don’t divide one’s chest would be greatly appreciated. Sometimes backpacks are too bulky.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 19th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Sight Seeing


Someone wrote…

For the first day ever, I sent a day out sight seeing and was never gendered female. It was a wonderful feeling.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 17th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Mirror


Someone wrote…

It’s not that I don’t like who I see in the mirror. It’s just not me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 15th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Glitter and bow-ties


Someone wrote…

Some days I am all glitter and sparkles, and others I am all flannel and bow-ties.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 13th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Bathrooms


Someone wrote…

I’ve always been comfortable using women’s bathrooms when there aren’t any gender neural ones around. It’s a few other people who get uncomfortable.

They look at my hair and clothes, superficial details about me as a person, and assume I’m a man using the wrong bathroom. Some even get aggressive and yell at me as if I’m a predator. I feel that they should notice my comfortable demeanor and realize that I’m not in the wrong bathroom.

It gets old having to explain to strangers that sometimes women look masculine, every time I have to use the bathroom but, on the bright side, their exposure to me is a lesson on gender. Eventually I won’t have to deal with women who think they know my anatomy more than I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 11th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Matches


Someone wrote…

When I have clothes and a style that matches where I am at with my gender I feel more available, open, and loving.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 9th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Expressions


Someone wrote…

I’m so nervous about expressing myself to my family and community. Most of my family understand binarily trans people just fine, and so do a fair number of people where I live, but a lot of people are prejudiced against them – how are they going to react to someone who’s some third gender?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 7th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Pass


Someone wrote…

I feel like I pass the most on days when my gender hasn’t crossed my mind and therefore I am not trying to pass.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 5th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Groovy tights


Someone wrote…

As a trans person, I spend all my time trying to present as a guy. But lately, I long more and more to dress in skirts, with combat boots and groovy tights.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 3rd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Lines and scales


Someone wrote…

I feel stuck between thinking that because I’m female-bodied, everything I do is inherently feminine because I use my body and myself to express and be who I am. But then I also think that most of how I express myself and feel would fall under a normatively masculine umbrella.

Where does one draw the line between masculine and feminine? What tips the scales? Is my gender even related to my body?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 1st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Body positive


Someone wrote…

An unexpected benefit of starting an exercise routine to boost energy and combat anxiety: I’m starting to love my body for the first time in my life. My heart and lungs are getting stronger, and I’m proud of my little weight lifting muscles!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 30th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Radiant and full of life.


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I’ve had dreams where I was female, and I had long colorful hair, and I was radiant and full of life. It was amazing, really.

Most cis people take their gender for granted and might tell me, “you’re not missing anything,” but when you struggle with dysphoria the very idea of being who you are — inside and out — is like that tingly feeling you get when falling in love. It’s a place of peace and we just want to finally arrive.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 28th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Waking up.


Someone wrote…

There are days when I wake up and know I am a girl, and days when I wake up and know I am a boy. The majority of days though, I just know I’m me – regardless of what is or isn’t between my legs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 24th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Comfort


Someone wrote…

I was getting really hung up on struggling with what’s true for me, what’s a product of societal programming, and the incessant binary thoughts of “wait if I’m not cis then I must be trans, right?” grinding away in my head. Then I got a piece of advice that almost instantly quieted it all down and helped it all make sense for me. I go back to it frequently.

“Stop thinking of it terms of gender and start thinking of it terms of comfort. Do the “women’s” clothes you wear make you feel comfortable? Then wear them!

Does looking more femme make you feel more comfortable some days more than others? Then look femme!

Same goes for your body, the way you talk, the way you move, the way you express yourself. It doesn’t have to be about any notion of gender binary. It can just simply be about physical manifestations of what makes you feel good.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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As a child.


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As a child, I was led to believe that being a girl meant that you had to like dolls, dresses, hair, and pink. I didn’t like any of these things, so I figured I was not a girl. If I was not a girl, I had to be a boy. Now I know that not fitting into a socially constructed “girly” mold does not diminish my identity as a woman.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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All of us


Someone wrote…

Whenever I come here and read and see you all, it makes me feel fantastic. I get courage, I get inspiration, I hear questions that I can really ask myself. I wouldn’t be me without people like you!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 18th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Society


Someone wrote…

I’m what society would deem a transman and my partner is what society would deem a homosexual man, though neither is true as we are both more complex than this.

Yesterday my cousin asked how we defined our relationship. It’s amazing how many people feel the need to ask that question.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Very much together


Someone wrote…

Society tells us that we are all alone in our gender non-conformity, yet here we are all, very much together :)

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Twitter


Someone wrote…

I am in love with the fact that I don’t know the gender of many of folks I follow on Twitter.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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