Category: your voice


Holiday


Someone wrote…

I am going to Disney soon. I just got a swimbinder for the first time and I can’t wait to use it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Wish the World Could Have Known Me


Someone wrote…

I’m a married mother in my thirties. But I know in my heart that I am not a woman. I have known since I was a young child. I secretly called myself a masculine name, and dressed as unfeminine as possible. But I’ve never come out. I will never come out. No one will ever know. It is not an option. I am too scared. I just wanted to tell someone.

I’m a man.

My name is Caleb.

I wish the world could have known me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Old Pronoun


Someone wrote…

I flinch every time my family uses my old pronoun, which happens like five times a day. Every single time. I’ve gotta stop that but I don’t know how to have that conversation and I know they’ll complain. I don’t know if I can deal with that. But I can’t deal with this either.

I think they try to be supportive of me, or they wanna be supportive, but they’re bad at it, basically. I wish they were better.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Languages


Someone wrote…

Growing up with languages that have no gender options outside the binary made it really difficult for me to discover my identity (non-binary/agender).

The lack of words for who/what I am in my native tongue still makes is hard to get a proper sense of self, and I struggle with feeling unreal. I spent a lot of years during my teens and early twenties wondering whether I was transgender, simply because this was the only viable option or explanation for what I was experiencing, yet it never fit properly.

I have spent decades of my life trying to conform sufficiently to my assigned gender to pass as invisible. And invisible is what I became, not just to others, but to myself. If there is no word for you, if no one ever talks about you in language that actually includes you, it is difficult to feel like you are actually present in the world. In order to be seen, you need to be named.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Ambiguity


Someone wrote…

For a long time I was really comfortable with the ambiguity of saying, “I’m just me.” Now, though, I have no clue what I am and I wish I could figure it out.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Walking Down the Street


Someone wrote…

Walking down the street, and meeting eyes with a stranger just long enough to see them give you a once-over and look confused.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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In Other News


@shelbytwest wrote…

In other news: people still stare at me like I’m anomaly. Or simply fabulous. #noAutographsPlz #genderQueer

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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One of Those Days


sheena_bandy wrote…

It’s one of those days where I feel like I shouldn’t have my femme body but I also want to wear a fancy dress #genderfluid #resultsmayvary

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Yourself


Someone wrote…

Sometimes the most dangerous thing in the world is being yourself.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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History


Someone wrote…

Gender is always shifting, even if it isn’t noticed throughout history by everyone. Trends, attraction, personality. What was considered feminine ten years ago is a sign of masculinity now. Who we can love, and who we can be; that has become something we are allowed to strive for now.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Find Out Myself


Someone wrote…

I don’t know what sexual orientation I am. I feel like I’m straight then I’m bi and then I’m lesbian. It depends what mood I am…I feel like I’m attractive straight, bi and lesbian. I’m confused..also then I’m sometimes not attractive with anybody.

But It’s okay…I want to find out myself what sexual orientation I am.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Bedtime Stories


@marxalot wrote…

My body is a bedtime story I tell myself: a little different each night, and parts of it not finished yet.
#genderqueer

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Keep People Questioning


Someone wrote…

I like to dress very androgynously, and like to keep people questioning if I’m male or female. I would feel very flattered if someone mistook me for a male, and I would feel understanding if someone mistook me for female, but anyone who straight up said “You are a man” or “You are a woman”, would make me feel uncomfortable.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Cover Up


Someone wrote…

I hear transphobic comments from my co-worker’s and management weekly. HR doesn’t have sensitivity training, so I feel like I have no recourse.

My boss doesn’t understand that the things he says and does could be offensive. And I feel like corporate management is trying cover it up; I suggested some changes (that were also suggested last year by another Trans* employee) and they were dismissed out of hand, I then received a pay cut.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 9th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Demigender


Someone wrote…

Today I found the word demigender, and for the first time in years I feel visible.

I never felt comfortable being called a girl. A lot of typical girly things make me uncomfortable, and cutting off my hair was the most liberating experience in my life. But I have never been able to reject the girl label either, because there are parts of me that are undeniably girl.

So demigender. There it is. Its perfect.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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All These Things


Someone wrote…

Gender……
Scary. Complicated. Stupid. Important. Painful.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 5th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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To Strive For


Someone wrote…

Gender is always shifting, even if it isn’t noticed throughout history by everyone. Trends, attraction, personality.
What was considered feminine ten years ago is a sign of masculinity now. Who we can love, and who we can be; that has become something we are allowed to strive for now.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 3rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Living in a Cage, or Living in Pain


Someone wrote…

Should I?

Who should I tell? Should I tell anyone?

If I tell them, I’ll be able to live the way I want. I won’t have to hide anymore. I could just be who I am and open up this bonds I’m trapped in. I will be free to express myself, to be me. But telling them would just mean I would have more room to move, there is no guarantee everyone will understand. Some people will hate me for who I am. I will either be seen as something people should cherish, or should throw away. Not someone, something. The cage will just get bigger, it would not go away.

If I don’t tell them, I could just carry out my life in a cage. I’ll be able to live a life, but the cage would always be there. It would follow me around, becoming chains. Becoming tighter with each passing second until the pain becomes unbearable. I will be seen as normal, but I would be the one hurting myself. I would resent myself for not escaping when I had the key.

Tell me, which is better? Living in cage, or living in pain.

Tell me, should I?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 1st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Wonder


Someone wrote…

I am male assigned at birth and identify as genderqueer. I got some estrogen from a friend. I wonder if I just opened something I can’t undo. I wonder if I can transition to a more non-binary body. I wonder.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 28th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Pronouns


Someone wrote…

My coworker of 6 months still misgenders me in conversation, he says because none of the other trans* people he knows care about pronouns. Just me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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