Someone wrote…

I just want someone to see me for me, I cannot define myself any more than that and I wish other people would stop trying to.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I think it would be nice if EVERYONE was able to be first judged on their character, not what might be under their clothes. I think that androgyny might sometimes be a blessing, that some people should be forced by an absence of gender presentation to consider the PERSON standing before them.

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Someone wrote…

Genderqueer to me today means feeling sensual and gentle enough to shave and wear a cute skirt, yet strong enough to take on the world and tell off anyone who has a problem with it as I go proudly about my day.

Loving the freedom of the middle ground; it’s not either-or, it’s both-neither, and damn it feels beautiful.

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Someone wrote…

I’m pretty sure gender doesn’t exist anyway, so why would I limit myself by saying I am only am one gender and I only like one (or two) genders when there are so many!?

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Someone wrote…

It’s difficult to want a penis of your own without making your vagina feel shame. I want to love it too, but sometimes it’s so alien. I want to love myself.

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Someone wrote…

I’m not a woman with facial hair and neckties, and I’m not a man with breasts and a vagina. I’m a little more complex than that, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Someone wrote…

I find that the more I learn about gender and how I feel about mine, the stronger I become.

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Someone wrote…

Sometimes I feel like an androgynous person. Not knowing which side to choose. I don’t want there to be any border between the sides.
Where I live, the people are not so open-minded. They do not understand things like this. They are old-fashioned.
I feel like I cannot be myself without drawing major attention.
I don’t really know what to do. I hope that, sometime, people don’t have to use a body to live. They should have an avatar. Customizable: their own body, their own representive image.
I hope, by posting this message, I would find people with the same problem that I have.

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Lytche wrote…

Gender confuses me, when it’s presented in binary opposition. My body might be male, but I don’t feel inclined to act masculine, nor do I feel the need to change my sex. I am me and this is my gender – A mixture of psychical strength, compassionate heart, empathy, smiles, kind words and self-reliance. If I could pick my gender, I want it to be pink.
Why people are so obsessed with that box which is being used only to limit one’s choices and to restrain one’s abilities is well beyond me.

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Someone wrote…

I gave in….when they told me I looked better in skirts and make-up than jeans and a loose T-shirt. They like it when I straighten my hair. They like my hair long, not buzzed. They don’t like my gauges. My mother told me I was a bad catholic, and I should go to confessions…and then a therapist. I gave in when they said I look better as a size two than a 9. I gave in…I gave in.

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Someone wrote…

Years ago it would bother me when I read as male while trying to present as female. Now I get frustrated when I pass as cisfemale while trying to present femme drag. Why does it sometimes feel so important to be read “correctly”?

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Someone wrote…

I have long hair. I go by a girly name. I have girly mannerisms. Yet all it takes is a glance at my beard shadow for someone to gender me male.

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Someone wrote…

Pronouns make more of a difference than I ever thought they would…I guess you don’t realize how much you need things until you get them.

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Someone wrote…

Everybody else I know, whether cis or trans, seems to know very strongly which gender they would like to be perceived as. I have no idea whether I’m happy being cis or whether my life would be better if I were to transition or express my gender confusion.

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Someone wrote…

They told me I was born between sexes and my gender slipped into that gap. People seem to want me to find that again, but it’s gone now.

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Someone wrote…

I don’t like “living as male” and “living as female,” I’m living as me. People just seem to see that differently than they used to.

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Someone wrote…

I’ve begun seeing my genitals as not quite *right* on my body, but I’m also sure that I’ll have the right body in Heaven. Meanwhile, I’ll focus on others’ needs and work on accepting the bodily gifts I already have.

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Someone wrote…

Petrified and ecstatic all at the same time! Yesterday I made an appointment for a breast augmentation consultation. This is something I have wanted for almost 30 years, yet I am scared to death to finally be complete.

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Someone wrote…

Anybody looking for nice, clear-cut gender expression is going to be disappointed in our household.

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Someone wrote…

It took me years to be able to look at my naked body in the mirror. Now that I’m beginning to understand that I’m queer, my slender frame and marks from years of illness aren’t taboo or undesirable. They’re powerful, beautiful, and dangerous. They show that I wasn’t made to fit the boundaries of masculine or feminine, but to blend them. I can love the power of being male and femme and whatever else I discover without feeling shame.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?