Category: your voice


Going Out


Someone wrote…

I’m going out tonight in the clothes that I now find ‘normal’. I’m going to go shopping for groceries in the hope that when my ‘normal’ meets life’s ‘normal’ something extraordinary will happen… I’ll feel free!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The Future Looks Forward.


Someone wrote…

Human being have the right to wear what they wish and gender has no place in clothing or fashions. Something happened when we, as a culture, created the mandate to put sex on the birth certificate the moment the baby was born. As much as I understand the purpose of it, we’ve confused that genitalia is always the same as gender. We’ve been led to believe gender is binary — either you’re just a rigid male or female … The transgender experience is a bridge that will connect the understanding of struggles and suffering of the rigid gender binary. Gender and gender expression is fluid. We should be Unisex.

The Binary must go and both genders wearing what the wish, not just woman but guys as well, it’s a two way street.

Wearing formally female made clothes is completely normal, they are just pieces of tissues that were cut and sewed in some forms that have no relativity with the sexual gender of the wearer. To wear make-up is similar to wearing a tattoo. Remember, there are no rules for judging your appearance, there are only closed (small) minds, too afraid of everything that breaks down the formalism, the conservatory views, in any aspects.

The future looks forward, not backward. Be part of the future. End the binary dress code.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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To be Able to Talk


Someone wrote…

I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.

It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Wish….


Nini wrote…

I wish I knew where to find all the other gender-queer people around this place… I want to spend time with just them, so I won’t have to feel so alone anymore.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Label Expectations


Someone wrote…

Gender is a strange thing to think about. Intuitively it really is just what it is…unfortunately there are those that tell you how it ‘should’ be. For me this has always been a stumbling block. Even though I am transgender I feel so much pressure taking this label. I mean…even the label itself has expectations attached to it.

I have found recently that the term genderqueer seems to fit better…there is less pressure.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Can’t Stop Thinking


Someone wrote…

So in a few days I will get my first shot of testosterone. And now I can’t sleep and I find this little four year old girl inside me, that cries and screams “please don’t destroy me!!!”

She is scared and I am also. I thought I got rid of the girl in me a long time ago. Now she is there. And I am surprised and scared to death with what I am about to do. I can’t figure if this girl is just this, a girl that wants to stay a girl… or is it just the fear from all that will happen… all I know is I need sleep, but I can’t stop thinking…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Don’t Need…


Someone wrote…

I don’t need a penis to be a man.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 14th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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To Make Sure


tgpunkpoet wrote…

I wish that I looked like my gender. But then sometimes I feel bad for conforming to the binary. I think, more than anything, I just need to make sure I look like MYSELF.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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A Palette for Gender Expression


Someone wrote…

I would like to share a little. I’m a non-binary person. Any honest gender expression of who you are is valid. There is never a need to justify, explain, or apologize for who you are. All that matters is that you are a decent human being and that you treat others with decency and respect. If dressing femme is not your thing, that’s valid. It’s just as valid as another wearing a blouse, sparkly purple skirt, and tights.

A big problem for the good majority of us is that we were forcibly crammed into one gender box. Some of us are feeling the pressure to conform to a new one. Others of us said f* it, I’m going to be me and not worry about what others think. I am personally in the last category. I wear what I want and what I like. I don’t wear femme things. It isn’t because I see femme things as lesser – it is simply because the things designated as femme are not my thing. I hope this makes sense. Clothes do not a gender make. They should be treated as a palette for gender expression.

All gender expressions are valid. The most amazing thing is that even the clothing that people gender, such as the aforementioned blouse, tights, purple sparkly skirt and business suit are not inherently feminine or masculine.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 10th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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We Never Stop Learning


Someone wrote…

Society is adverse to change, adverse to anything outside of the cultural “norm”, but that doesn’t mean you’re not normal, it just means that more people have yet to learn about you =) It’s okay to be confused, to still be working things out. Everybody is working something out, we never stop learning.

I suspect that people feel a lot of things that they bury or aren’t willing to admit for the sake of “fitting in”, and our feelings and experiences aren’t as unheardof as we think. So don’t be afraid to talk to about it! People might be a lot more receptive and interested than you think. You’re the one that has to deal with you every day, so make yourself happy!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Being Unsure


Someone wrote…

I feel pretty confused. I kind of really want society to see me as a male (I was born female), but I know that will never happen because I’ve been female my whole life.

It isn’t that I’m very uncomfortable with being female (it’s fine besides that having these things on my chest is kind of uncomfortable to me socially and it always has been that way). I don’t know. I’m not really sure what I identify as, and I kinda want someone to tell me.

All of the things I’ve read about say that only I can tell me what gender I am though. I also haven’t discussed these thoughts with anyone because it might just be my mind making stuff up…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Expressions of Gender


Someone wrote…

Sometimes when I was younger, I’d want to be a boy.
Like, I’d dream of getting breast reduction surgery when I was older so I could go out looking like a man (I was young and slightly clueless then) but I’d still act quite girly, because that was what I was brought up as/brainwashed to be.

Then when I discovered gender identity, I initially thought of being genderfluid, because the idea of sometimes being a boy and sometimes being a girl really appealed to me. But I didn’t sometimes feel like a boy and sometimes like a girl inside; I felt neither. So I came to the conclusion (after doing some research) that I was neutrois, but could express myself as genderfluid (although I am currently unable to express myself looking like a boy, because of my long thick hair). But I’m still in the habits of referring to myself as female, and automatically going about my daily life as though I was a cis female.

Is this just because I’m so used to ‘being’ female? Or am I mistaken about my gender identity?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The day.


@neonsigh wrote…

I’m looking forward to the day when today’s genderqueer tumblr teen generation is out of their parents houses and running the world.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I dress how I want to dress.


Someone wrote…

I lived eighteen years of my life as “Shanyss” a girl who dressed how society told her to, conformed to people expectations, however for my eighteenth birthday a close friend brought me to a drag show.

From then on the concept of transgender was planted in my brain and I began seriously questioning my identity, I am more comfortable living now as “Frankie” and I dress how I want to dress, which depending on how I feel could be more like a boy or more like a girl.

I play bass guitar, write poetry and I like girls, and I have long since recognized that this is my life to live and I really don’t care what other people say about my choice.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 31st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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What I needed.


Someone wrote…

I want to live in a world where the gender I’m born isn’t the gender I have to be. So, when the world couldn’t become what I wanted, I made it into what I needed.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 29th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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One place


Someone wrote…

I’m genderqueer for the same reason I keep moving from city to city; Being in one place for too long feels unnatural.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Last night I had a dream


Someone wrote…

I had a dream last night that I had a vagina. It felt… good, weirdly familiar, considering I’ve never actually had one in real life.

I missed it when I woke up. Not sure how to feel about that.

I’ve thought for a while that I must be some stripe of gender-different, but what if I’m just straight up trans after all? I mean, it would mess up my life, a lot, but when I imagine it, I feel… relieved, I guess.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 25th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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To date everyone and be everything.


Someone wrote…

The more I think about it, the more I want to PRESENT as an effeminate gay man who is sometimes a drag queen. This really confused my therapist. I don’t know that I want to BE a gay man in the respect that I want to be a man that dates men: I definitely feel queer, and I feel like I don’t want to be man NOR woman. I want to date everyone and be everything.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 23rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I don’t understand my gender, but I don’t want to change


Someone wrote…

Age and gender are things that are ever on my mind. I appear to most people as a high school boy, and I’m about 10 years past that point. I pass as male most of the time, but there are those occasions 30% of the time where people read me as a really butch lesbian.

I realized that I don’t want to transition. I like my body, and I don’t want to change my voice. It does cross my mind sometimes because I don’t like being misgendered, and every so often, I do wish I had the physical traits of a man, but that changes day to day.

If I were to transition, I feel like it would be only to make it easier on others to read my gender correctly. It would be to make it so there was no ambiguity in my appearance. This doesn’t feel like the right reason to transition. I would resent the permanent changes in my body. This means I have to “come out” often as trans by requesting the correct pronouns and explaining my gender. I don’t mind it most of the time, but sometimes it can get tiring.

All in all I’m me, and sometimes even I don’t understand my gender, but I don’t want to change. :)

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Label Limits


Someone wrote…

I’m not sure about my gender, I’m really not. It’s been 20 years and I still don’t really know. I’m AFAB and have always felt okay with the idea of being seen as a woman, but I feel like that label limits me in many ways. I don’t really feel like a woman, but not like a man either. A mix of the two?

But I’m okay with being seen as a woman, and I look and dress femme. So though I feel like my gender is very mixed inside, I don’t know if I’ll ever admit to my feelings that I may be genderqueer because it’s just simpler for other people this way.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 15th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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