Someone wrote…

I am 54 and non-binary long before “that” existed. I tried to fit in the TV and/or the TS world when I was younger but was just as alone there as I am now. I’m scared to continue and to lose the life I have now as a rural, red state, grandparent with a spouse I love.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

I have no idea how a woman feels, and I don’t identify with the way a man supposedly feels. I suppose I am an androgyne, because a woman at an old job once remarked that I was androgynous. I accepted that label. It feels ok. Maybe I just enjoy being ambiguous.

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Someone wrote…

As a 63 yr old man that wishes he was female instead of male, I need a way to meet other people like me. What a task! I feel overwhelmed and am very afraid most of the time. Someone please talk to me.

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Someone wrote…

I’m AFAB and can’t express my being nonbinary to anyone because I enjoy some woman-coded things and they just think I am and should be a girl.

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KC wrote…

I’ve recently come to the realization that I am genderfluid and experience slight to major dysphoria about my breasts on my more male days. I enjoy having them on my more female days though. I was wondering if that feeling of dysphoria ever really goes away. I’m considering saving up for top surgery only I fear that if I did get it, I’d regret it on my female days.

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Someone wrote…

I love that I live in a world where I can bind and wear skirts and there are people out there who will accept me for me.

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Someone wrote…

i just feel like screaming and crying because i dont have the balls to tell any of my friends or family that im trans… its so frustrating

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Someone wrote…

I am 29 years old. From childhood I never feel that I am a girl: I always feel that I am a boy. I am a muslim girl.
That’s way I never get any chance to express my true self. Right now my family will force me to marry but I can’t accept any man in my life. I never feel any attraction for men, but feel attraction to women.

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Someone wrote…

Finally figured what I should have said when a person asked if I was a man or a woman and wouldn’t take ”no” for an answer, asking what I was born as.

”I was born blue-eyed.”

See, it might have worked, cos they were close enough to kind of see that my eyes are green or grey now.

Thanks, brain, but next time I’d like the delivery time to be somewhere under two weeks, if it’s all the same with you.

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Someone wrote…

Why do clothes mean so much? I want to wear a dress and be called a boy. Is that ok?

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Someone wrote…

Gender is confusing. It doesn’t really matter, but people put so much weight on it. I never understood people’s obsession with gendered concepts and I grew up as a child who just did whatever I wanted to do,wore whatever I wanted, played with whoever I wanted. I imagined that everybody else thought the same way, but apparently not. Gender got blown up in my face during puberty when physically and hormonally and socially everything started changing around me as well as within me, and I was not comfortable. Even though the world around me hasn’t changed, my understanding of myself has and hey, I’m comfortable without having a gender and I like where I am in this world.

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Someone wrote…

I’m 16 and i feel like i have to come out to my all the time. I first came out explaining what i feel and all the information i researched. It has been a year and they still do not get it. I have to “come out” all the time but they dismiss it as a “phase” or a “rebellion” and keep calling me their daughter. It makes me feel rejected or like i don’t know what i am talking about. It makes me feel like a fake or to young to know that I am transgender.

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Someone wrote…

They told me I was a girl, but I wasn’t a girl. They told me I was a lesbian, but I wasn’t a lesbian. They told me what to think, but I thought other things.

When I started asking questions, I was told I thought too much. When I started finding answers, they smiled, and waited for me to change my mind. When the answers didn’t change, their smiles faded. When I stood firm with my new definitions, they told me I was wrong.

They tell you so many things about yourself, and expect you to listen. But when you open your mouth, and speak your self, their ears are closed, and they do not hear you.

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Someone wrote…

I’ve been using a binder for almost ten years now. Living in a small country in the north, this means that I have to buy them online from faraway places.

For the first time ever, I’m having to pay some sort of customs duty or whatever for a binder, so I set out on the national customs webpage and check out the product categories they have there.

… they categorise men’s and women’s clothes separately. That’s all the clothes categories they have.

I’m not sure where the injury is here, but I feel like this is adding insult to something.

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Someone wrote…

I was born a female but I have a very very strong desire to transition to male. I feel so uncomfortable in a feminine body! My sexual identity is Pansexual, and I feel sexually attracted to any gender. I feel more sexual desire for other females and have often wondered if I was gay, straight, or bi. After settling with Pansexual and feeling a whole lot more at home, my only wish is to learn more about my dream of transitioning to the male gender and the facts of life of it. Thank you so much!

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Someone wrote…

I’ve almost exclusively used non-gendered terms to refer to myself for years and no one’s ever noticed.

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Someone wrote…

I definitely feel like a male inside. but i always feel like people don’t take that seriously, because my presentation of myself is more ambiguous. I never really pay attention to society’s gendered clothing restrictions. I have to remind myself there are cis men who wear skirts too.

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Someone wrote…

“Openly queer” is a funny expression, because you can’t really be openly queer. Every time you meet someone new, you would have to say “Hi, I’m name, I’m queer.”

Like, how about just not assuming people are straight/cis?

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@UnexpectedAmy wrote…

Embrace trans folk who don’t take hormones or get surgery, because they represent thousands of years of lived trans experiences.

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Someone wrote…

Currently, I am thinking about my genderfluid partner, Sam and how they will tell their parents that they’re with someone of the same biological sex.

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