Someone wrote…

My boyfriend wrote my name on my leftovers from the restaurant. But he didn’t use the name my parents assigned me at birth. It’s the first time he’s used the name I adopted as I transition to a more masculine-presenting person. I feel like he saw, loved, and accepted the me I want to be. I want to weep for the joy of it.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

After much confusion, I’ve come to realise something about myself. I’m not he. Or she. I’m ME. I am a person, and that’s enough. That’s perfect.

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Someone wrote…

Sometimes I feel so confined with what I am supposed to be that I don’t know what I am meant to do with what I feel inside.

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Someone wrote…

I’m a male-identified genderqueer and a feminist, and I have mixed feelings about personally going on hormones. I’ve learned to accept and love several things about myself, such as my short stature and being overweight, but at the same time, I sometimes wish that I had more of a male look, and that I could pass better and be taken more seriously as the person I am. Is comfort a less worthy goal than fighting the fight?

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Someone wrote…

Recently I have realized I am female but I am not a woman. I don’t hate my body, even though I’ve been teased by my entire life for being too “masculine” or too big or too loud. I’m not really sure what this makes me, but I am perfect in the context of my own existence.

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Someone wrote…

I feel like I’m in drag when I wear a dress, makeup and heels just as much as I do when I wear a suit and tie. I have fun either way, though!

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Someone wrote…

There doesn’t really seem to be a name for my gender identity, so I call myself different things on different days. I wish I could find an actual name so I’d know where I fit in.

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Someone wrote…

I like my voice, even though it’s feminine, but I don’t like being assumed as female. I wish I could sound more androgynous and somehow still not change how I sound.

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Someone wrote…

“What I need is a gender-neutral make-over.”

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Someone wrote…

If I dress the way I’m comfortable, I end up feeling uncomfortable anyway. I’m female-bodied and attracted to women, and every time I go out wearing masculine clothes I feel like I’m deliberately coming out to random people on the street. What’s worse, I feel like I’m being a stereotype and affirming people’s assumptions of what a lesbian looks like. I wish clothes came without implications.

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Someone wrote…

I hope to be a visible reminder that “girl” does not necessarily mean “girly”.

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Someone wrote…

I’ve been binding for a while now, and yesterday my boyfriend helped me make a packer. I’ve never felt more comfortable with how I look. Or more comfortable with another person as with him.

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Someone wrote…

For the last three years, I’ve thought of myself as a gay man. Now I’m confronted with the possibility of it being something more, something else. And the thought of having to confront it, of having to rediscover myself for a second time, and then to share that discovery, scares me half to death.

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And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Someone wrote…

No matter how I attempt to present myself, I always feel like a liar to some degree. Nothing ever seems close enough to my identity to not make me feel deceptive in some way. The only time I feel that I am myself is when I’m not thinking about my gender at all.

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Someone wrote…

I’m trying to find a hair cut I can rock as a girl, and transform into a rockable boy hair style too!

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Someone wrote…

Being able to pencil “genderqueer” into the “other” section for gender was like having an anvil lifted off my stomach. I didn’t even know that I felt the weight until it was gone.

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Someone wrote…

I just want to be accepted for being myself. Is that too much to ask?

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Someone wrote…

I feel like I have a public gender and a private gender, and neither one is more or less true than the other.

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Someone wrote…

I feel so comfortable wearing a binder and a skirt.

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Someone wrote…

One often hears “she is a beautiful woman” or “he is a handsome man”. I, however…I want to simply be a beautiful, a handsome, an attractive, a fascinating, human being.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?