Category: your voice


Belonging


Chie wrote…

Recently, I was forced into a four-month stretch without internet. so I used it to do something I’d been doing off and on for the past two years: question my gender, without dismissing the topic in frustration.

And even though I’ve found answers, I feel alone and frustrated, because I don’t know where I fit in; what label suits my non-binary gender. the closest are agender and neutrois, but they’re just wrong.

I feel like I’m staring in at them through a window, those who’ve found their community and like-gendered people, and I’m out here, on the streets, an outcast with no rad people to get sodas with or w/e. it’s very frustrating, and it seems like the internet really has no good resources for helping me to any further understanding.

I just wish I felt like I belonged somewhere.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Boyish Clothes


Someone wrote…

Recently I’ve been feeling really confused about my gender.
I’ve always been a bit of a tomboy but I’ve started get dysphoric about my boobs and wear more boyish clothes and I’m not so sure I’m actually a girl. However, I don’t think I’m a boy either and I know you don’t have to be binary but I just wish I could be one or the other – it would make things a lot easier.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The Environment


Someone wrote…

I’m not out to anyone at the moment, but I’m so glad to have the family and friends that I do. As far as I know they’re all accepting of different genders and sexualities and I feel like as soon as I’m sure of who I am they’ll accept me for who I am. I’m just so happy I have the environment that I do.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Our Bodies


Someone wrote…

Sometimes I feel like we should just ditch gender altogether, call ourselves by what our bodies have (or what we want our bodies to have), and act/dress/love however we want, without worrying whether it somehow conflicts with our biology…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Support and Answers


Parker wrote…

I was assigned the female gender upon birth and it’s just never…felt right. And when I was younger I understood that I really wasn’t a girl but a boy trapped in the wrong body. Over the years I have experimented with different things and found that I’m way more comfortable with myself when I’m posing as a male rather than female. Ive been labeled as “Gender fluid” and “Gender queer” which is partially right I guess. In the future I’d like to make the transformation from Female to Male, but I’d need my family’s support.

My sister’s the only one I’ve ever told about my true identity and have no clue as to even come out to both sets of parents. My mother has made hints for me which I’ve picked up on and once she asked me if I was really a boy, but I didn’t think she was serious.

Right now I just really need some support and answers to how I can come out to my family about this.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Coming to Terms


Someone wrote…

Something I’m coming to terms with:

My childhood gender conformity does not invalidate my current transgender identity.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Seeing You


Someone wrote…

I see you. Not the “you” that your parents, your culture, or society envisioned. I see the you that you are, and I respect and care for that person. Don’t ever give up.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 14th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Instinctive Compassion


Someone wrote…

I saw someone today who I learned is transgender. It was the first time I saw this and I smiled as a first reaction. Part of it was I was surprised and because her beauty (that I failed to recognize) looked different.
I am sorry I did that and wish my instinctive reaction had been compassionate.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: PFLAG Call for your stories


XylophoneGender recommends…

Submit Your Transgender/Gender Nonconforming Journey Story

PFLAG National is looking for your journey with gender identity and/or gender expression. These stories are for possible use in PFLAG National’s most popular publication for the parents, family, and friends of people who are transgender and gender nonconforming, and will be re-released later this year in a brand-new, updated edition.

Quotes will be run anonymously!

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on March 11th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Every Now and Then


Someone wrote…

Some days, I really want to be a boy so I can dress like a girl a little more comfortably. Some days, I just want to be a boy in general. And every now and then, I’m okay with my female body.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 10th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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A World Where I Belong


Someone wrote…

I envision a world when who I love and how I dress are not viewed as fringe or something in the minority, something to fear or shun. I want a world where I am embraced as a human being, as an artist, teacher, and philosopher.

I see a world where I belong.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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To be Free to Express Myself


Someone wrote…

I’ve been thinking of coming out as genderfluid to most of my family on my 16th birthday and I don’t know what I want to do/say when I come out, I know I want to get my message across and get people to start using my pronouns (they/them) and for the people to use my preferred names instead of just my female name. but I’m not sure how to do this and I really want to come out and be free to express myself…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 6th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Handsome and Sexy


Someone wrote…

I was assigned female at birth, but identify as genderqueer or genderfluid. I have a condition called pcos, a hormonal disorder that causes more masculine traits as side effects. One of these is facial hair. My case is slightly more than moderate.

I can’t grow a full beard, but can get a good chunk of stubble. Shaving it off, with a pro-glide, makes me feel so handsome and sexy. It feels right.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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A Real Gender


Someone wrote…

I am a real gender, I don’t need to pass and I am completely valid.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Going Out


Someone wrote…

I’m going out tonight in the clothes that I now find ‘normal’. I’m going to go shopping for groceries in the hope that when my ‘normal’ meets life’s ‘normal’ something extraordinary will happen… I’ll feel free!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The Future Looks Forward.


Someone wrote…

Human being have the right to wear what they wish and gender has no place in clothing or fashions. Something happened when we, as a culture, created the mandate to put sex on the birth certificate the moment the baby was born. As much as I understand the purpose of it, we’ve confused that genitalia is always the same as gender. We’ve been led to believe gender is binary — either you’re just a rigid male or female … The transgender experience is a bridge that will connect the understanding of struggles and suffering of the rigid gender binary. Gender and gender expression is fluid. We should be Unisex.

The Binary must go and both genders wearing what the wish, not just woman but guys as well, it’s a two way street.

Wearing formally female made clothes is completely normal, they are just pieces of tissues that were cut and sewed in some forms that have no relativity with the sexual gender of the wearer. To wear make-up is similar to wearing a tattoo. Remember, there are no rules for judging your appearance, there are only closed (small) minds, too afraid of everything that breaks down the formalism, the conservatory views, in any aspects.

The future looks forward, not backward. Be part of the future. End the binary dress code.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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To be Able to Talk


Someone wrote…

I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.

It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Wish….


Nini wrote…

I wish I knew where to find all the other gender-queer people around this place… I want to spend time with just them, so I won’t have to feel so alone anymore.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Label Expectations


Someone wrote…

Gender is a strange thing to think about. Intuitively it really is just what it is…unfortunately there are those that tell you how it ‘should’ be. For me this has always been a stumbling block. Even though I am transgender I feel so much pressure taking this label. I mean…even the label itself has expectations attached to it.

I have found recently that the term genderqueer seems to fit better…there is less pressure.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Can’t Stop Thinking


Someone wrote…

So in a few days I will get my first shot of testosterone. And now I can’t sleep and I find this little four year old girl inside me, that cries and screams “please don’t destroy me!!!”

She is scared and I am also. I thought I got rid of the girl in me a long time ago. Now she is there. And I am surprised and scared to death with what I am about to do. I can’t figure if this girl is just this, a girl that wants to stay a girl… or is it just the fear from all that will happen… all I know is I need sleep, but I can’t stop thinking…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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