Posted by jakk on February 28th, 2009 at 10:00 am
Archive for February 2009
Posted by jakk on February 28th, 2009 at 10:00 am
Even though I identify as androgynous and want people to treat me that way, I still examine angrogynous people for cues as to whether they’re male or female “underneath.” How do I stop looking for clues that even I don’t think matter?
How does one overcome a lifetime of conditioning by society to seek out gender in other people, even when intellectually or consciously we don’t “look” for clues?
Posted by julian on February 28th, 2009 at 08:00 am
You can call me… Ganymede
I identify as… A lesbian, I’m in a monogamous relationship with a girl, but I do appreciate beauty in all packages.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Definitely ‘she’, but recently I’m so infected with genderfuck, androgyny, drag kings and ‘boi’s, it’s under my skin, I lie awake at night trying to split the atoms of my passion into the ‘want’ and ‘want to be’ categories, that so many others on here have mentioned.
If I could choose every morning whether I wanted to be a boi or a girl today that would be my idea of true freedom.
I’m attracted to… Butch, boi’s. I need a girl to be a man. Do other girls find they get criticised for this? Mostly by straight people but also lesbians. ‘If you want masculine, go out with a guy’. Isn’t there something so much more erotic about a woman making a better man than a man?
When people talk about me, I want them to… Say I’m brave about my sexuality, maybe that I’ve made it a little easier to be a gay girl in our small town by wearing my heart on my sleeve. I hope this is the case.
I want people to understand… That wardrobe can be fluid, that although it may concern the individual deeply, does what we wear concern anyone else? I’m proud and envious of my sisters who are brave enough to wear what they want in the face of ‘tranny’ stigma.
I guess I’ve got my own issues there, fear of people’s reactions obviously, but maybe the real reason I don’t wear boys’ clothes because I know clothes have power to change how we feel, right into the dark middle of us, and that it could send me falling into deep hole of gender confusion, like Alice tumbling down the rabbit-hole…
Posted by Kate on February 27th, 2009 at 04:00 pm
Posted by jakk on February 27th, 2009 at 10:00 am
I’m thinking there aren’t enough words in any language to describe differences we feel from the accepted mainstream. Perhaps instead of having more words, we all need less. One word to describe everyone. Maybe the word should just be “us” and/or “we.” Lovely, constant, unflappable ambiguity, that reflects just how we feel, just who we are, but is generous and kind in its goal and ability to encompass everyone.
If you could pick one word to describe everyone, what would it be?
Posted by julian on February 27th, 2009 at 08:00 am
You can call me… Ryan Radclyffe-Hall
I identify as… genderqueer, a tg butch, a transvestite, radical faery, a boi, a fagdyke, a bigendered androgyne, an invert, a queer.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … use ‘ze’ and ‘hir’, ‘they’ or ‘their’, anything really, I don’t mind, so long as you aren’t using them to box me in.
I’m attracted to… a person’s mind. I find gender transgression hot, so it’s no surprise that more than half my partners have been queer or trans.
When people talk about me, I want them to… remember I’m a human being, and a real person. Don’t reduce me to my genitals, or the body I was assigned at birth. That body is long gone now.
I want people to understand… that no matter how much you love the gender binary, you and no one else can really fit its ideals… why bother defending it?
About Ryan Radclyffe-Hall
By day I’m a mild mannered IT tech, and by night I’m a trans and gender rights activist in Australia. I also co-founded an art project called Tranny Panic. Hopefully the world will hear more about that in the near future!
Posted by Kate on February 26th, 2009 at 04:00 pm
Posted by jakk on February 26th, 2009 at 10:00 am
The really funny thing about gender issues is the fact that they are a contemporary problem. If you look back through history many of the things that we would consider gender variant were at one time completely normal and sometimes even seen as important to society.
We don’t so much need to create a new lifestyle as much as we need to undo the damage from the dark ages that still lingers on in our sense of morality and social responsibility. In this case, as in many, the ancients were smarter than we give them credit for.
Can you think of examples of historical figures and people who gender-bended? Do you agree with the above statement? Or do you think that gender has always been a problem?
Posted by julian on February 26th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Genderfork is no longer a solo curation project; it’s now being run by a team of ten! I can’t even begin to tell you how grateful I am for the presence, wisdom, and consistent ass-kicking these amazing, beautiful volunteers who’ve stepped up in the last few months are bringing to the project.
And I really want you to meet us all. Here we are:
Posted by Sarah Dopp on February 25th, 2009 at 06:12 pm
Posted by jakk on February 25th, 2009 at 10:00 am
Do I like “she” because I actually like it, or because I’m used to it? I look like a “she,” but I don’t really know that that’s who I think I am.
How does your physical representation match up (or not) with your internal gender presentation?
Posted by julian on February 25th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Hi Beautiful People,
I’m going to be in Portland, Oregon next week (March 4 – 10) and would love to meet up with some of you if possible. Who’s around? Wanna take over a nice corner of a cafe with me and tell stories with each other?
p.s. it’s okay if we’ve never said hi to each other before. i still want to meet you. i don’t bite. (well, not at first anyway.)
Posted by Sarah Dopp on February 24th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Posted by jakk on February 24th, 2009 at 10:00 am
It’s horrible to put someone in a box. Let them choose.
If you have a choice, do you still choose a box? Or do you choose no box?
Posted by julian on February 24th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Posted by Erica on February 23rd, 2009 at 10:00 am
I’m male bodied but I hate that the criteria for that and qualities associated with that are defined by forces beyond my control.
Are those qualities really controlled by outside forces, or can we create our own criteria?
Posted by julian on February 23rd, 2009 at 08:00 am
Posted by jakk on February 22nd, 2009 at 10:00 am
I wonder if we’ll see less of people caring about gender as imposed gender roles weaken. Do you bother questioning your plumbing when it no longer implies anything except whether you’re the one who gets pregnant?
How long do you think it will be before we can see this happen?
Posted by julian on February 22nd, 2009 at 08:00 am
Posted by Erica on February 21st, 2009 at 10:00 am
I bought men’s underwear for the first time today. I even stood there and made myself browse through my options. I kept thinking, “Someone’s going to say something.” But you know what? No one did, not even the cashier.
When have you expected resistance for your gender anarchy/presentation and received none?
Posted by julian on February 21st, 2009 at 08:00 am