As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/their but I get she/her a lot to because I look more feminine
I’m attracted to… Well being demisexual so I don’t have sexual attractions unless I am really emotionally connected to them. The andro part means I am attracted to men.
When people talk about me, I want them to… realize people like me actually exist
I want people to understand… what I feel is real
I am 21, a social work major who is interested in human rights advocacy. I have a awesome pansexual boyfriend who respects the fact I am demisexual and have not experienced that attraction to him yet. But he is a really fun, goofy guy.
“I’m Agender, but I like to look this way. I believe that everyone should have the freedom to wear long hair, dresses, cosmetics, and flower crowns, regardless of their gender, or in my case, a lack thereof.”
I just (finally) got my first binder, a 988. I’m not sure whether I’m wearing it wrong, or it’s the wrong size, or my expectations were out of line but it doesn’t seem to work.
But all the pictures I’ve seen of people wearing one show it really flattening their chests. Even with pushing down and out I either feel like I’m wearing a pushup bra, or I get weird bulges all over the place.
” In July 2013, dapperQ published their first ever list of 100 Most Stylish dapperQs. This was by far one of their most popular posts, but was by no means exhaustive. Since the original post was not comprehensive enough to capture all of the amazing dapper that exists in our community, their team decided to compile an annual list of 100 most stylish dapperQs.”
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use prefer they/them pronouns, but I don’t mind if people use male or female.
I’m attracted to… Any gender- I’m pansexual!
When people talk about me, I want them to… Try and understand that I’m not pretending or whatver, I don’t feel comfortable always being a girl and I don’t feel comfortable always being a boy-i want people to use the names and pronouns I ask them to and not make assumptions about my gender.
I want people to understand… I didn’t choose to feel this way and I wish that I was cis but I’m not and I’ve accepted that- the people around me need to try and accept it too.
About Laura Luka
My names Laura Luka and I’m genderfluid. I’m 15years old and I’m also pansexual?
“A new photo book has just been released and it examines the power of identity, desire, and connection through the art of portraiture in 2015.
Every Breath We Drew is a striking collection of images from photographer Jess Dugan, who sought out subjects that exhibit, in her words, a form of “gentle masculinity.” Through this work, Dugan complicates traditional notions of masculinity by photographing individuals in intimate spaces as meaningful exchanges took place.”
“Every day, trans and gender non-conforming people face overt and subtle discrimination as they try to go about their lives. As part of Transgender Awareness Week, GLAAD created a photo essay to highlight the more subtle forms of oppression trans people experience – often called microaggressions. Microaggressions are subtle verbal or behavioural slights that invalidate a person’s identity or experience.”
I’m not quite sure what I’m feeling currently and it’s really stressful. I have 2 friends that are trans and they recently got binders. I support them 100% but when they told me about getting binders, I got EXTREMELY jealous of them and I don’t know why. I’ve been born a girl and have always been one but after feeling that jealous, I’ve been questioning myself. My gender and sexuality. I’m not sure if maybe I could be trans or what but this feeling won’t leave me alone and I don’t know what to do…
“I sat patiently waiting in Bryant Park, camera in hand, and perfect weather outside.
Jacob walked up from the Subway in their tall black heels and the perfect LBD, looking effortlessly chic. Sure, Jacob is an accomplished writer, public speaker, and advocate but before that, they are the type of person that you immediately want to be best friends with.
Stylish, funny, and charming; Jacob made me feel as if I had known them my whole life when I had only spent five minutes with them.”
I mean, it does. Obviously. We like to have labels, they make us feel affirmed, and like part of a group.
For the past five months, I’ve been riding the Struggle Bus trying to figure out if I’m trans/genderfluid/asexual/an idiot (well, I’m definitely the last one :) ) but to no avail. I want the body of the opposite sex, and that role, and all that, but I still have my doubts and wonder every day if it’s a phase and worth telling le parents.
But why all the bother? Aren’t I myself, an awesome, funny, sarcastic, annoying, athletic, smart, stupid, boring, fun, contradictory person before I’m a boy, girl, or anything in between? Why does gender matter? Why is it that when you go on Omegle the first thing they ask you is your sex? (It’s cos they’re perverts, but do you feel me?)
Isn’t whether you’re a person more important than what’s between your legs? Why do I even give a flying f**ck?!
The most amazing moment is when someone asks you how you identify, and after 5 gruelling, awful years of searching for a word, you are at a loss for words because you have moved on from needing a word.
I remember the first time I went to get pants from the men’s section. I was at TJ Maxx and had talked to my mom about getting guy pants “For the sake of REAL pockets” “Because Comfort” and “I’m tall, so finding pants that are actually measured instead of assigned a random number will be easier.” All things I was currently telling myself. Not just my folks.
It was odd because I had never gone to the men’s section before. I had no idea what ANY of the numbers meant. And I had no idea where to look and I was really self conscious entering the Men’s section in front of a father and his son when I was so obviously female. But as I was sifting the racks, finally fonding my way around, I was getting strange looks from a totally different guy.
And I could feel myself thing, deep down, a thought I (at the time) refused to acknowledge say “Yeah. I am a girl in the Men’s section at TJ Max. Whachya gunna do ’bout it? What if I’m not cis? Huh??”
And it was just this overwhelming sense of… victory. And I had no idea why… well. I refused to accept why. Now here I am, owning three pairs of guy pants.
I identify as… Genderqueer. Not gender neutral. No bigender. More of third gender to it.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir, ze/zir, ey… whatever around those lines, but avoid all masc. and fem. ones.
I’m attracted to… Other genderqueers, androgynous looking people, woman, and veeeeery rarely to men
When people talk about me, I want them to… try to understand my situation
I want people to understand… It’s not only confusing for them, it was confusing for me, too. They weren’t the only ones raised to see just two genders, I was, too. I abandoned many things to be honest about myself. I’m not doing this cause it’s “easier”, I’m doing this, even though it’s harder, because I know hiding the truth never works.