Archive for May 2015


I am Genderqueer


Someone wrote…

I recently came to realise that I am genderqueer – it clicked with me very suddenly.

It felt as if every confusion and unexplainable feeling I had in the past suddenly made complete sense. I am male, and accept my male body as it has always been more feminine, and it works with how I feel comfortable dressing. Throughout my teens and into my early adulthood I have always had a discomfort and difficulty in participating as and with other males, I thought it would change after I came out but it didn’t. I have since realised that, as a person, I do not identify myself as purely a male, but at the same time I don’t feel that it means I am female.

I have strong characteristics of both genders, but I do not feel that I identify more so with either one. I do not want to have a label, and to be categorised before someone gets to know me, I just want to be seen as a human and for my various characteristics and behaviours to not matter.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 31st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Mav


You can call me… Mav

I identify as… Agender or Male

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them or He/him

I’m attracted to… no one really, but the occasional other non-binary or femme will cause some romantic feels to flare up (Grey-Aromantic Asexual represent!)

When people talk about me, I want them to… just respect my pronouns and name.

I want people to understand… that gender expressions and gender identity don’t always match up.

About Mav
Hi I’m Mav and I’m a Scorpio/INTJ who just doodles around (on the internet, on my drawing tablet, and sketchbook). I really like baking, reading, and sometimes I just like to sleep.

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Posted by on May 30th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Trans Pin-up


Submitted by Rachel May Rose, the model and photographer.

” I’m on my way to my first modelling shoot since transitioning”

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Posted by on May 29th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Mother’s Day


Someone wrote…

I identify as a transgender woman. This year was the first year I was able to go out on Mother’s Day as myself. In a daring moment, I participated in a circle of hugs with other moms. It was one of the most emotional moments of my life, a mixture of so many different feelings.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 29th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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The Best Tee


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“They/Them or He/Him”

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Posted by on May 28th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: How to Change my Voice Pitch


Eli asks…

so I’m 15 and dfab (designated female at birth) and I’ve been having trouble with my gender for a year or two now. at first I thought it was like some internalised misogyny going on but sometimes I really feel like I’d be happier being a boy but other times I’m pretty chill with being a girl.

The problem is, while I don’t have a super high voice, it’s recognisably feminine, I can make it go down a pitch or two of I try but it’s still pretty high. I wanted to know if there’s any way I can make my voice deeper or have the ability to go deeper without testosterone.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Open Flower


Submitted by Leni, the model.

” I just wanted to express to like-minded people online about my idiosyncratic expression and construing of gender. Honestly, I don’t really know where to identify myself on the gender spectrum, but I’d like to see myself more as a unisex or a “genderpunk”, and also, if I’m permitted to say, pansexual.
I do not like it how gender norms have been my whole life imposed on me and even enforced on me either by others or by lack of choice in the circumstances.

Quite frankly, I don’t feel all that comfortable in the traditional, antiquated, masculine, hetero-normative, and sexist role. I am way too free-spirited, punk, liberated, artsy, and rebellious minded for that kind of stuff. I’m also a person with an invisible disability, and am a proud supported for people with disabilities, social services, and lgbtq activism.

I am comfortable in my body and in my “unisex”/genderqueer identity and will continue to embrace myself and pursue what I love and fill the role I feel most emotionally fulfilled in: philosophical, poetic, artsy, feminine, light-hearted, fun-loving, dancer, writer, cook, gardener, and an amazing homemaker.”

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Posted by on May 27th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Laying Claims


Someone wrote…

I’ve claimed so many things over the years…bi girl, bi androgynous girl, androgynous lesbian, straight transman, bi transman, pansexual androgynous transman….and every time I claim something I feel like I have to erase the rest or else I’m being phony or something. Everybody already thinks I’m confused. Now I’m confused and feel like I shouldn’t be. I don’t even know anymore. If I am how I was born, then why can’t I just be that? I have no idea what to do or think…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Transman Power


Submitted by Drew, the model and photographer.

“I am a man. That’s it.”

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Posted by on May 26th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jay


You can call me… Jay

I identify as… Genderqueer or transexual (Still getting used to all the terminology!), biological male.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He

I’m attracted to… Men sexually, women as close friends

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not think any different of me should they find out. Regarding those people who know me but haven’t known this particular facet of me, to remember i’m the same person I have always been.

I want people to understand… That those of us who have different sexual preferences or gender identifications are people too-just like them.

About Jay
I’m a 43 year old male who works in the medical field. I’ve been married to a woman for 17 years (that’s a whole other story) and only came out to her about a year ago. That was tough enough but it was made a little easier by the fact that I have always been faithful to her (though temptation has been very hard to resist.) Anyway, thats a big reason I’m here-to be able to communicate with others who might actually understand what I’m going through.

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Posted by on May 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Oliverrrrrrr


You can call me… Oliverrrrrrr (or O-Liver) (or just Oliver works too I guess)

I identify as… round up to man. I’m sure there’s an actual metric out there for gender already, but if you take the Kinsey scale and alter the parameters so that 0 = totally and completely binary cisgender and 6 = totally and completely binary transgender, I’m probably… a 4? ish?

Also nerd, queer, gay, bi, man, Quaker, weirdo, dog crazy, somewhat non-binary, feminist, son, future/aspiring dad, terrible punner, intellectual, armchair linguist, and someone who has a love-hate relationship with labels.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, him, his, himself, and his (this pronoun performs two functions! I think. For example “that is his jacket” aka “that jacket belongs to him” vs. “that is his” aka “that belongs to him” – ask a real linguist about this, I just enjoy the taste of upholstery. And also wordplay. Anyway I think it’s sort of similar to the difference between “that” in “that is a table” and “the tables that turn.”)

I’m attracted to… Attracted mostly to men in gay/queer porn, and also Tom Hardy, these days. Sometimes women and other individuals. Especially if they’re super muscular and queer looking, oh god. I swear, lesbians ruined me for straight girls. (Life ruined me for straight guys, womp womp.)

IRL? I don’t even know anymore. I feel like it comes and goes. I haven’t really been into anyone for the last year and a half, despite my libido shooting way the hell up once I started testosterone. It’s very strange for me!

When people talk about me, I want them to… be kind? I’m a work in progress.

I want people to understand… 1. that we are all born into systems of oppression and therefore inevitably shaped by them; that we all participate in systems of oppression, including those that oppress us specifically; and that this is actually helpful, because it means that we all have the power to change and subvert these systems, and rebuild better systems.

2. that neither humanity as a whole, nor any individual human, is perfectible; not just that we’ll never reach perfection, or that our imperfect minds are incapable of conceiving of any kind of perfection that isn’t somehow flawed – both true – but that the entire paradigm of perfection and perfectibility is flawed and missing the point of existence. I guess I’m mostly talking to myself here?

3. that labels, categories, and generalizations are both useful and limited.

4. nuance. I guess that’s the underlying theme here.

About Oliverrrrrrr (or O-Liver) (or just Oliver works too I guess)
Clearly I’ve rambled enough already. But you can find me at jabez-dawes.tumblr.com – and if you play Fallen London (which you shoulddddd), I’m The Jabez Dawes and I check my messages on the reg because I’m supes addicted.

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Posted by on May 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Venus de Mars


Someone recommends…

venusdemars

Venus de Mars
Music album

Tender and heart-breaking, yet fierce. Venus de Mars is a star more people should know about. Love that Laura Jane Grace of Against Me! features on one track. Inspirational.

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Posted by on May 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Utterly Floored


Finn wrote…

I am basing my whole career path of the study of how gender is lived in the world, but sometimes I think about the concept of “gender” and am utterly floored by how little it makes sense to me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binding for bigger people?


Lee asks…

How well does binding work for heavy people?

I’m 5’3 208 lbs and unfortunately carry all of my weight in my tummy and breasts.

I’m just starting to explore my gender fully and I really want to start binding but binders are pretty expensive and I want to make sure I splurge and get a really good one instead of buying and sampling a bunch that don’t really work for bigger people.

Any suggestions?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on May 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I’m Just a Person to Myself


Someone wrote…

I’m just a person to myself, but other people see me as female. When that happens enough I start feeling like I’m trapped in that box of what other people think being female is, and I start feeling icky all over.

I don’t think *being* female is icky, at all! But it’s not a thing that works for me, and I wish I could ask for it to stop happening, but I’m honestly not sure that most people are able to respond to other people without perceiving/assuming gender.

I would really like for people to not assume either that I’m female or that I’m all the things that are expected to go along with being female. Gender feels like an external thing that’s placed on me without my consent.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Arms Folded


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Posted by on May 18th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Pax


You can call me… Pax

I identify as… a genderflux bisexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … female or ce/cir/cirs/cirself

I’m attracted to… All genders

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be nice

I want people to understand… That gender roles are outdated

About Pax
Heya people!

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Posted by on May 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Thinking


Someone wrote…

I’ve been thinking about Testosterone a lot more these days. I really want to be perceived as male, even if my true gender is somewhere in the middle. The consequences of starting a physical transition scare me so much!

Any advice on how to get past the fear of people judging and having those dreaded conversations?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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See Me


Reposted from Buzzfeed.

So few people, once you put the homeless label on them, are able to see [the youth] in any other way. But there’s power that comes with being the survivor of abuse, the survivor of homelessness. Having to assert your sexual orientation and gender identity makes you a really powerful person.

Photo from See Me, a book/project by Alex Fradkin, an award winning photographer, and Taz Tagore, co-founder of the Reciprocity Foundation, a not for profit organization serving the needs of homeless youth in New York City.

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Posted by on May 16th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Other people’s Perceptions


Reposted from hazelnutfilling.

“Finally someone said it .”

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Posted by on May 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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