Archive for December 2015


Profile: Ember


You can call me… Ember

I identify as… Genderfluid and pansexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them

I’m attracted to… All genders

When people talk about me, I want them to… Refer to me as they or them. Or he/him. And use my new chosen name Ember

I want people to understand… That I’m not a girl just because I am AFAB.

About Ember

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Posted by on December 28th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jaden



You can call me… Jaden

I identify as… I was born a girl but have always felt I didn’t fit in, I’ve become more aware as I’ve got older about there not just being 2 genders. So I’m now searching and discovering who I am and what I identify as under the “genderqueer umbrella”. I might only be 13 but there’s no age restrictions on genders.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer they/he pronouns

I’m attracted to… Females but sometimes males, depending on their personality, style and interests.

When people talk about me, I want them to… I have not come out as genderqueer to my family or friends, I plan to do so soon. But in my mind I want them to respect that I’m not just a girl and I’d want them to see me as just as ordinary as they are, just because my gender is different doesn’t mean I should be thought of as abnormal.

I want people to understand… That who I am or anyone is, shouldn’t affect their lives, were the ones going through the disphoria and bullying. Respect that other genders do exist and not everyone is cis, respect everyone.

About Jaden

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Posted by on December 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Lyric


You can call me… Lyric… or Morgan but mostly Lyric (Nicknames are fine too)

I identify as… part femme/ feminine boy, part androgynous? and part… something else??
I kinda wanna say part butch girl but I have this revulsion to being called female. Kinda questioning and going to a gender therapist…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … In the order of the MOST TO LEAST preferred: they/ them, he/ him, ze/ zir, nounself pronouns or other gender neutral pronouns, she/her

I’m attracted to… people I can stand being around that aren’t family or strangers. Also fictional characters if I know their personality well enough. Romantically attracted to people I can stand of any gender :)

When people talk about me, I want them to… Like and respect me and my views. I’d rather they not gossip, just talk if there’s news about me (actual news like being in the hospital etc and not private stuff).

I want people to understand… That gender isn’t an entirely binary concept.
That ovaries do not mean I will develop a desire to give birth (I’m a bit pregnancy repulsed).
That my sexual organs, chromosomes, and personal taste/ preferences do not invalidate my gender.
How dysphoria feels to a trans person, as well as gender euphoria.

About Lyric… or Morgan but mostly Lyric (Nicknames are fine too)
I’m artistically inclined, not very social but like being active, and passionate about social justice. Maybe I should join a debate team (I can debate well, I think? Personal tumblr: darkestrainbowdreamer

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Posted by on December 27th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jacques or Kelsey


You can call me… Jacques or Kelsey

I identify as… Non-binary

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/Them

I’m attracted to… People of any gender, but I call myself bisexual

When people talk about me, I want them to… Use correct pronouns, and to be nice

I want people to understand… What it is to be transgender, and that gender isn’t limited to “male” and “female”

About Jacques or Kelsey
I like music and drawing; come and find out more at deathofsaintyourmum.tumblr.com

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Posted by on December 26th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Dilemma!!


Katie asks…

Ok.. so my names Katie and. I think I might be trans??

I’ve always been known as ‘acting like a dude’ and stuff, and in the past year my closet has been filling up more and more with guys clothes too! I like looking and feeling masculine. I really don’t like having boobs either. Sometimes if say, I’m wearing a swimsuit and it flattens my chest it makes me feel a lot more confident. I’m still sort of confused because I might just be an confused tomboy. To be honest I’d much rather be a guy, cis-passing and everything. The one thing I’m not interested is surgery and proper realignment (excluding top surgery!). I’m worried that because of that I can’t be a ‘real’ trans guy, or a guy at all for that matter.

(Also I don’t think I could ever fit a masculine name for myself!) I’m only 13. So is it just better to wait and just see what happens?

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Posted by on December 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: jack


You can call me… jack

I identify as… tomboy

As far as third-person pronouns go, … whatever works and isn’t offensive*

*i’ll decide what is or isn’t offensive

I’m attracted to… smart, confident, very femme women who can drive a riding lawnmower like a boss.
she gets the mani/pedi, but she’s not afraid to break a nail.

When people talk about me, I want them to… smile and be filled with unicorn love

I want people to understand… fear and anger have been my world for nearly a year.
i have lost so very much.
sarcasm is my only coping mechanism, at present.
i’m workin’ on it.

About jack
apparently, forever broken-hearted.

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Posted by on December 24th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Alan


You can call me… Alan

I identify as… an ‘out, loud & proud’ gay man for most of my adult life, though I’m more comfortable calling myself a butch queen and thinking of myself as genderfluid.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male or female pronouns are welcome, as are ‘they, their, them’. Sometimes, according to mood or situation, i’ll prefer one set over another but I don’t get offended at others’ usage of any of them unless they’re using them derisively.

I’m attracted to… butch gay men & transmen almost exclusively; but in the remote past i’ve occasionally been attracted to butch or strongly assertive women.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be kind and realize that i’m a work in progress, often confused, but trying hard to be my authentic self.

I want people to understand… that although i currently tend to present as more masculine than feminine it’s almost entirely due to choosing to suppress my effeminacy because of a few years of peer abuse that started when i was eleven. At 52, i’m only now just starting to express my genderfluidity without crippling fear & shame.

About Alan

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Posted by on December 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Yasmeen


You can call me… Yasmeen/Yazz/Yazzie

I identify as… Still trying to figure this out, but I (currently) am a genderfluid, DFAB.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/they

I’m attracted to… “Males” and “females” both sexually and romantically. Some more than others, depending on how I feel.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Never judge my sexual and gender identity.

I want people to understand… I do not believe in labels. If there are days I want to dress androgynous, I should not be judged. And most importantly, it is not somebody else’s call to identify someone ESPECIALLY IF THEY DO NOT KNOW THEM OR THEY ARE JUDGING BASED ON APPEARANCE!

About Yasmeen/Yazz/Yazzie
If you want to talk or have any questions about me, my tumblr is qu-icksilver.tumblr.com. Anonymous or not :)

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Posted by on December 23rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jaidan


You can call me… Jaidan

I identify as… a genderfluid person

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them please

I’m attracted to… the entire spectrum of gender

When people talk about me, I want them to… not switch my pronouns around based on how masculine or femme they think I look

I want people to understand… that I am not their resource for everything under the nonbinary umbrella
everyone has their own voices and experiences to contribute

About Jaidan
just a nonbinary person in norcal

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Posted by on December 22nd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Am I just settling?


Taylor/Emma asks…

So, I decided I am a transgender male about a year or two ago. I also came to the conclusion that transitioning is not for me.

I’m married to an amazing wife, and I also decided to hang up wearing dresses for her. I really loved it, but may have came up with a better solution.

Instead of my constant dialogue of “oh, I wish I were a woman.” I now tell myself that I actually am I woman. I’m male too, but most importantly I am female.

But I was just wondering, is this silly? Am I just fooling myself into being happy or something?

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Posted by on December 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Agender??


Lunar heart asks…

Hello! So I was confused for a while about my gender identity. I went through thinking I was Demi-girl, to gender fluid but I’ve come to realise I don’t ever fluctuate in my feelings or masculinity and femininity, or lack thereof. I feel as though I’m in the middle not attached to either binary gender. Does this sound as though I am agender?

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Posted by on December 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sven


You can call me… Sven.

I identify as… an asexual genderfluid or polygender (still not sure what the difference is)person.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer “he” and “she”.

I’m attracted to… men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect my gender expression.

I want people to understand… that my gender identity exists and is not a mental disorder.

About Sven.
I’m from Bulgaria and I love music – my favorite singers are Avril Lavigne and Kate Miller-Heidke, my favorite bands are System of a Down and Seether. In general I enjoy alternative metal, alternative pop and post-grunge. I’m 17.

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Posted by on December 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Who Said My Name? (Nobody Yet)


Riley Aiden Alexandr asks…

Ok so I’ll be starting my junior year of high school in the fall. I’m genderfluid and I’ve figured out my preferred name – so happy! – but I need advice on dealing with people.

How do I ask people to call me Riley if they’ve known me as Sarah for two years already?

Also, is there a way for me to ask teachers to call me Riley, without them mentioning it to my parents? I don’t want my parents to know; they don’t even believe in genderfluidity.

And any advice on coming out to my boyfriend would also be appreciated.

Hugs, kisses, and pronouns! xx Riley

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Posted by on December 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Tristyn


You can call me… Tristyn

I identify as… Androgynous, fluid, agender. Sometimes I’m more feminine, sometimes fairly masculine. The rest of the time I’m nothing … or realistically I’m some degree of both but still feel like nothing.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … It doesn’t matter so much as long as you’re polite. My pronouns would change so often that even I have trouble figuring out which is correct today. I wouldn’t ask anyone else to try to keep up.

I’m attracted to… Male bodies generally. Sometimes masculine presenting women. Kind eyes, compassion, intelligence.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Sound like they aren’t judging me as harshly as I see myself and all my faults. Just accept me as human, flawed but doing my best.

I want people to understand… I know I can be difficult to figure out, I get lost there too. But I am not my hormones or my physical characteristics. I am mind and soul and heart. My gender is fluid but the person I am doesn’t change.

About Tristyn

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Posted by on December 15th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ariel


You can call me… Ariel.

I identify as… genderqueer, and part of our human species.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I feel confident with “he/his”, but I don’t mind “she/her”.

I’m attracted to… intellectually challenging people, with amazing hearts and eyes that see the world and do not hide from it.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realise that I’m not only a gender, if a gender at all. I want them to see me as an extension of humankind, and feel good with with me. Also it’s cool if they have a sense of humour.

I want people to understand… that life is about acceptance and that there is nothing less to expect than tolerance.

About Ariel.
I’m an awesome shark.

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Posted by on December 13th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Narrowing It Down


Someone wrote…

I am 14. Can someone who knows a bit more about gender and sexuality narrow this down for me? If so, much appreciated. So…

I am transmasculine (I feel slightly male, but not wholly), but also identify as another gender. Labelling myself as also Agender sounds incorrect to me. I feel as if I DO have a gender, but it is not male nor female, but yes, I DO feel like I’m teetering on the edge of the male-side of things.

So, maybe third-gendered, or I’m a Demiguy?

Also, I like to dress very androgynously, and like to keep people questioning if I’m male or female. I would feel very flattered if someone mistook me for a male, and I would feel understanding if someone mistook me for female, but anyone who straight up said “You are a man” or “You are a woman”, would make me feel uncomfortable.

And, lastly, since I am not male or female, I would not refer to myself as straight or gay. Though rare, I can be attracted to a cis, straight male, but I strongly prefer an androgynous person: Long hair, soft spoken, feminine features, but still born a male, and with a shapeless, male-like body. Preferably, someone like early 1970’s Robert Plant. Haha.

Anyway, is this a type of sexuality?

So, sorry for the rambling. Many thanks to whoever decides to help.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: What would you call me?


androgynous indie rock weirdo asks…

Hello Genderfork Community,

I am pretty confused about what I ‘am’ and would love some feedback on this. I was born a male and have mostly just dated females. Most of these women have been mostly identified as lesbian. I have had a few relationships with trans women mtf and or androgynous to the butch side of women. I am very attracted to masculine women ftm, or just butch ness in general. In 99% of all of my relationships with people I’ve often been considered the more feminine caretaker of the two of us (a few times 3) but am not interested in dressing femme although I have a few times for partners as they were more into it than me – I’m willing to play with that but I’m not so much into chasing that particular individual gender role. Make sense? Sometimes I feel like a female mentally but would not like to visually look like one as androgyny is more who I am.

As an artist I’m mostly into female identified and created work as an influence on my own. I don’t have very many male friends and or influences.

What would you label me? Some of this I have not told anyone else and am a bit (very) confused.

Thanks for listening to me,

Androgynous indie rock weirdo

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Posted by on December 11th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Drew Wozencraft



You can call me… Drew Wozencraft

I identify as… Transman.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … male pronouns please!

I’m attracted to… im attracted to what my heart wants. my heart has no boundaries

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about who i am not what i am

I want people to understand… i wont get mad as long as your respectful

About Drew Wozencraft
I am 20 years old and i am all for the rave life! i love meeting new people and making friends!

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Posted by on December 9th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Can Choose


Someone wrote…

I’m 16, and I’m currently dealing with my abusive mother and her ramblings about college and how I’ll never survive and how I’m too selfish and all this crap. I am genderfluid and pansexual, and I tend to mix all my problems together, resulting in a snowballing effect (which often leads to panic attacks, yay me).

My mother and my identity questionings are some of my many problems. Having been stuck in an abusive relationship for so long, especially one where I am called selfish, thoughtless, and over-dependent, I am very bad at separating my problems and dealing with them individually. This is not a healthy mindset, you see.

I’m gradually recovering, however – if you can recover while something is ongoing.

I’m learning how to separate my problems, and I’m learning that I can take time and ponder my gender and orientation. I can revel in my identity, AND I can rant and rave to the Internet. And. That’s the important part. It’s not a dichotomy, and it’s not a dictatorship. I can choose what I want to do to deal with my life, and my mother can’t change my mind.

Mostly.

Hey, gimme a break. I’m still learning.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 8th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Kay



You can call me… Kay

I identify as… a femme/androgynous demigirl geek and polyromantic asexual cuddlebunny. Still figuring out how gender identity works.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … she/her/hers

I’m attracted to… dweebs, cleverness, funny dorks, cuties

When people talk about me, I want them to…

I want people to understand… gender and sexuality are complex and fluid and I have no idea what’s up.

About Kay
Geeky cuddly linguistics student with talents for sleeping in, random enthusiastic research, and spending money I don’t have. Bad puns, clever jokes, and discussions about gender and sexuality keep my heart beating. Also Skyrim and Assassin’s Creed.

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Posted by on December 7th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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