Archive for October 2015


Cosplaying Rick Grimes


Submitted by Sam, the model.

“Me as The Walking Dead’s Rick Grimes in a recent cosplay video. I love acting male characters.”

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Posted by on October 31st, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Parenting. Done. Right.


Someone wrote…

I just came out to my dad, who tends to follow the opinions of my homophobic mom, and I explained to him that gender is a spectrum. Now, I’m terrible at explaining things, but he said that what I told him made perfect sense. Apparently, he had known some gender-defiant kids when he was my age, but he had simply shrugged it off.
When I actually told him about being pansexual, he said, “Because of how much I respect you, I respect your identity.”

Parenting. Done. Right.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 31st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming Out to the Gender Police


Guerino asks…

My name is Guerino. I’m genderqueer, and I’m nearly sixteen. I want to come out to my parents, but they’re, erm, not the best parents around. They’ve infantilised every single nickname I’ve ever had, ever since I can remember. They refuse to believe that they/them is a legit non-plural pronoun. And they refer to being transgender as “or whatever.” This hurts, and it makes me feel like I can’t trust them with my identity.

How do I come out to them?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on October 30th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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True Gender


Someone wrote…

I want to share my true gender with people but I’m finding it really hard. I did wear a shirt not meant for my assumed gender on non- school uniform day and it made me feel great about myself. Though no one seemed to notice and I couldn’t find the words to tell many people myself. I came out as ‘not straight’ a year ago now. I just wish I could show people my gender. I guess I’m afraid history will repeat itself. My family aren’t acceptive at all. Why do people have to be so judgemental?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 29th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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oh, the places you’ll go! (inner, outer)


Submitted by Sage, the model.

” a )genderqueer( forest creature in my natural habitat.

they/them/theirs is rad. she/her/hers is okay.”

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Posted by on October 28th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Chest Dysphoric during Puberty


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I’m a gender questioning teen that is currently going through female puberty.

I am dysphoric about my chest, especially since at my age the boys have relatively flats chests with rare prominent pectorals. It makes me feel better having two sports bras on, but my parents (being partially aware of my questioning) have warned me that by constricting my chest it may not develop well. I’m perfectly fine if that means my chest will develop into a small pectoral resembling chest, but I don’t know if it would increase the rates of diseases or disabilities. I am also going swimming soon.

Anyhow, is there anything that I could do that is safe for my stage of development and can also make me feel better about my chest?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on October 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Me


Someone wrote…

I just want to be me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Logan


You can call me… Logan

I identify as… Agender, transmasculine, bisexual, polyamorous, birthing dad, hippie-punk

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He/him/his

I’m attracted to… Women, non-binary people, effeminate men

When people talk about me, I want them to…

I want people to understand… That my body, my clothes, my pronouns, etc don’t belong to any particular gender.

About Logan

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Posted by on October 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Mixed Feelings


Someone wrote…

I’m genderqueer, predominantly agender and dmab. I’m having mixed feelings about coming out and what that even means for someone like me. I’ve always viewed coming out as a way of owning a marginalised identity, but I don’t really feel like my identity is marginalized, other than being invisible. I’m don’t mind at all whether I’m gendered male, gendered female or gendered anything else by others – they all feel equally abstract and unreal when applied to me. I’m fine with any and all pronouns, and I never feel misgendered. Therefore I benefit from most of male privilege, without feeling any attachment to male gender norms or masculinity.

I feel like if I was to come out I would be taking up space that would benefit more marginalised genderqueer and non-binary people more than it would benefit me. I think for the moment I want to support other genderqueer and nonbinary people as an ally without being explicitly out and visible myself.

The one area I do feel restricted in is in my gender expression, but that doesn’t relate directly or simply to my identity and, well, you don’t need to “come out” as gender non-conforming: it’s pretty obvious when you’re rocking both a beard and nail polish.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 25th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Alaaniel Davis


You can call me… Alaaniel Davis

I identify as… Non-binary androsexual

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, she, they, ze, xe, and other pronouns are acceptable.

I’m attracted to… Men

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not assume that I am a man just because my presentation isn’t as androgynous as I’d like, nor to group me in with stereotypes of men.

I want people to understand… That I’m still figuring myself out. Let me use what words and descriptions make me feel comfortable in the moment. I also want people to understand that who a person is does not often correlate with what you see with your eyes.

About Alaaniel Davis
I am an intuitive energy therapist pursuing my arts and passions in modeling, acting, and music <3

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Posted by on October 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Conquering the World


Someone wrote…

I’m starting school tomorrow, and I’ve spent all summer contemplating my gender. In the start of the school year, I consider myself officially genderfluid. I’m going to introduce myself to all my friends by my new name, I’m going to dress how I want, and I’m going to tell people who I am and remind them when they forget. I’m going to wear a tie and nail polish on Picture Day. I might even use the boys’ bathroom. Who knows what I’m going to do?!

Oh yeah, me. AND I’M GONNA CONQUER THE WORLD!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 23rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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One Word: Pronouns



Word association with a group of people and the word “pronouns.”


Posted by on October 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Something Different


Someone wrote…

It’s not that I don’t like using she/her. I just need something different.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Am I Transgender?


Kat (Forest) asks…

I don’t really know how to phrase it but I guess the simple version is am I transgender? Only a couple years ago did I realize I was jealous of men, that they got to be called he, sir, him. I question who I am everyday, I don’t feel like I am who I am supposed to be, I feel it so deeply it hurts. But I also like my make-up and cute pretty things.

I told my parents I might be trans they just laughed and said I wasn’t because as I child I liked pink, and dresses. . I am so lost right now…

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on October 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Lar


You can call me… Lar(like lair)

I identify as… Born a female but am a more masculine genderqueer person.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/his or they/their, really anything masculine or gender neutral

I’m attracted to… Men, masculine genderqueer people and adgender people

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect my pronouns and name
remember I am a person just like them

I want people to understand… my parents didn’t cause this
it is not a choice
it is not okay to make fun of/mock me or other genderqueer people

About Lar(like lair)
I am 20, a sophomore economics major, a electric guitar player who is in a great relationship with my incredible boyfriend.

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Posted by on October 19th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Insert Gender Here


Someone wrote…

Genderfluid person here! Let’s be honest, I’m terrible at passing. I never will be able to completely present as a boy, or anything besides a girl. But enough negativity!

On days where I feel like a boy – where sensible people would put on pants and a binder – I feel most comfortable dressing in a skirt and blouse, or as my family calls it, ‘like a girl.’ I guess I do this because I look awesome in skirts anyway, so why not wear one? And I feel like I’m fooling people, breaking major gender barriers in my life. I’ll say to myself, “Hehe, all these people think I’m a girl, but the joke’s on them! Because I’m really a boy! Haha, I’m so good at disguises.”

I guess that’s one healthier way to look at it, my nonbinary lovelies – you’re disguising yourself as your birth sex. If people misgender you, that’s a good thing, because it means your disguise is really convincing. And also that they’re too blind to see you’re really [insert gender here].

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Ken or Karen


You can call me… Whatever you want Ken or Karen

I identify as… Gynosexual Genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Whatever you want, it doesn’t affect who I am.

I’m attracted to… Women although transwomen, well Hell, so am I, so why not?

When people talk about me, I want them to… Understand me and let me be me and focus less on labels and shit.

I want people to understand… Gender is fluid. And I don’t feel comfortable either on First nor Second Base. I just want to be me without people judging me. I’m not allowed to even know WHO I AM because I always have to conform to everyone else’s notion of what a “Man” or a “Woman” should be. I’m not THAT. That’s MY best definition of myself.

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Posted by on October 18th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Not a boy, not a girl



Note: Some aspects may be considered NSFW.


Posted by on October 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Sam


You can call me… Sam

I identify as… Genderqueer

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them

I’m attracted to… Positive Attitudes, Tasteful Humor

When people talk about me, I want them to… Do unto me as they would have done unto them.

I want people to understand… I am not broken.

About Sam
I’m 32 and wishing I had questioned myself much, much earlier. I’m finally beginning to find myself and what makes me happy.

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Posted by on October 17th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Safe


Someone wrote…

I live in a pretty open minded location and I’m on vacation in a more conservative place. Today had made me really count my blessings and feel thankful that I can feel safe at home.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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