I’m attracted to… Intelligence. (Pansexual) Masculinity, andryogyny and femininity are beautiful in their own way as long as they’re not over the top.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Stop trying to change me. I am special I am me. Stop treating me like a weirdo and acting like I don’t know you about me.
I want people to understand… That the world is still unequal but you can help by not shoehorning us into boxes.
I identify as… A panromantic demisexual cisgendered female
As far as third-person pronouns go, … she, her… etc?
I’m attracted to… I’m romantically attracted to any gender, and I can be sexually attracted to any gender whom I have an emotional connection with of some sort.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about me as any other person. Rather about my personality than my sexuality. But if you are to talk about my sexuality, make sure that you know what you are speaking of and tell me about it personally if its something negative/rude etc.
I want people to understand… I am nothing different than you, and I accept you if you accept me.
I’m a female makeup artist, who thinks I’m like 70/30 female to male. Maybe less male, maybe more. Maybe labels like Female and Male don’t matter and are a contrived notion. But I love being female, I love my curves and my girls and giggling with them about men and sex…but I also feel there’s a healthy side order of male living in here too. Maybe everyone has that but I’m not so I’ve yet to find a label I think fits my situation, and I guess that’s why I’m here, to learn more from you beautiful enlightened people about gender and what I am.
I’ve been openly bisexual since 18 with my friends, haven’t told my family because I’ve never had to, it’s none of their business and they wouldn’t care. If and when I fall in love with a woman I’ll tell them. My mum brought me up to believe love is love so I know it wouldn’t be an issue. “Mum I occasionally like to sleep with women” isn’t really a conversation I’ve felt the need to have though. If I ever feel the need I will.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … Xe/xyr/xem or they/them
I’m attracted to… Romantically-People I have a strong emotional bond with (demi-romantic)
Sexually-Very few people (gray-asexual)
When people talk about me, I want them to… Use the correct pronouns, understand where I’m coming from, be respectful of my identity, and be aware of their privilege over me, them being cis.
I want people to understand… I still deserve respect and my identity is real.
About Orion
High school student, witch, nature lover, disabled, mentally ill
My kiddo is 13 and would like to get a binder. I’m completely supportive of all of the gender non-binary expression that they’ve explored so far. And I want to support them in this physical way too, however, I’m deeply concerned about the intersection of their developmental age and the long term repercussions. All input is helpful!
Pronouns are hard. You can say you don’t have a preference. You can say you prefer some but not all. But the one thing you can’t do is say, “Any pronouns are fine, but please use different ones every now and again. Please change it up.” I guess people feel awkward with that. Like they’ve got a limit, like ‘refill account by using he/him’. Or they feel pressured to call me what I look like, which is mostly feminine, and therefore they use she/her. I can’t quite call it misgendering, but it still feels that way. It’s more like limitation. Pronoun limitation. Maybe that’s what we can call it – Pronoun Limitation! That’s it!
Restless Year, by Ezra Furman
“Gender fluidity is very much a part of my life offstage, though I am still exploring what it means. I’ve not quite decided on a gender identity, I may never decide, and that’s all right with me. I am proud to exist in an ambiguous, undecided state.”
I can be hard. I can be soft. I can love pink, and get a little sick of it. I can wrestle with guys. Even when I want to cuddle. I can fix a car. I can save a bug from being killed. I like horror movies. I like watching Care Bears. Sometimes I feel like a guy. Sometimes I wish I had a dress. Sometimes I love being me. Sometimes I wish I was someone else. I can defend myself. Sometimes I look for a fight. Sometimes I want someone to protect me. I love being me. I wish I was me. I wish I knew who I am.
I am starting to find out who I am and I like how that makes me feel.
When people talk about me, I want them to… respect my pronouns and talk about me in an uplifting, positive way
I want people to understand… that I’m not confused, I’m not a “tomboy” I’m a nonbinary individual who knows who they are. I’m an androgyne and proud of it.
About Hans or Hannah
Professional TV junkie who likes food and animals
Talk to me about comics, anatomy or psychology
I am neutrois and this is rarely acknowledged by strangers and people in my life. I can’t bind when I’m at home because I am closeted, but the Fall semester just started and I’m back in school!
Today I wore a unisex t-shirt with a sloth on it and floral print jeans. For the first time in months, I put on my best binder because it was finally cool enough to wear it. My hair was tied up in a ponytail and I wore a new beanie. Lipstick is the best thing to happen to my face, so of course I wore my favorite shade.
After months of presenting as female, I look like myself. Today is a good gender day.
I went to a music festival with a friend and classmate named Kevin. He is a very friendly and talented artist who rarely falters on my pronouns. He is aware of my sensory processing problems and was willing to leave early because the concerts got very loud after the sun went down. There was a cool ally guy who supported my queerness and didn’t misgender me. We went out to eat at a nice cafe. I painted a quick painting of a cat I had who passed away this year on a wooden panel and placed it with other beautifully sloppy drawings made by festival attendees. I pet lots of dogs and met a cute pitbull puppy.
Today was a good day, enhanced by the positivity I felt about myself, my body and how kindly I was treated. Everyone deserves days like this.
