I identify as… A non binary Latinx who floats somewhere in the space between female and gender less
As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/them but occasionally she/her. In Spanish, I use ella, the feminine pronoun only because no gender less pronouns exist in that language.
I’m attracted to… Nobody sexually, men as well as masculine people romantically
When people talk about me, I want them to… Use my name and pronouns, recognize my identity as legitimate, do not use my culture and heritage as a way to invalidate me.
I want people to understand… I can believe in God and have the gender identity and sexuality I do. They do not have to be mutually exclusive
I’m 24 years old and I have only recognized my gender identity and sexuality in the last couple of years. I have an amazing cat named Dulce who I adore and I am a hair stylist who works with the local queer POC youth
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She, Her, Maam, Ms,
I’m attracted to… Kindness and Humor.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Smile
I want people to understand… That I conform to societal standards out of need not want. I know I will never be able to be the real me but I can better help people of our community by using the platform that has provide to me.
Father (Mother) of two, Married 32 yrs, corporate executive, on Hormones for over 20 yrs but still living as a male. Don’t want to but it isn’t just about me. Wish I could have the bottom surgery but can’t without RLT. I life as a woman when I can, it truly is the only time I am comfortable with me. I grew up poor and more than anything unwilling to risk my career. My position allows to me to insure that our company does not discriminate against GLBT team members.
I identify as… A polyamorous genderqueer/-fluid. I am physically a male, but I carry my strong feminine side with me every day. There are days when I feel like a woman and days when I feel like a man.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t know. I have had several times, when I have found myself confused when referred as a male, when I have been feeling feminine. Guess a feminine man would be somewhat correct, even though it doesn’t cover it completely through.
I’m attracted to… Women, especially tall and feminine ones, even when I have my female days/times. When it comes to sex, in my female times I don’t want/need intercourse at all, because it would feel weird.
When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on my personality, rather than gender. The people around me know that I act very feminine from time to time, but that’s only half the truth and I’d like to keep it that way.
I want people to understand… that my style of dressing up and my taste about culture are a mixture of my both sides. I’ve always talked up how men can like feminine things, but I don’t want most people around me to know how I actually feel about them inside.
An academic genderqueer with a family.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m not particular, really. Weird to say, but I think I would prefer “it”, if it were completely up to me. I realize how “it” can seem insulting, or like you’re a “thing” and not a person, but it just feels neutral, to me.
I’m attracted to… Women. I have a definite tendency towards a more tomboyish vibe, but it’s not a strict rule or anything.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Trust that I know me more than they do. I will in turn trust the same for everyone else.
I want people to understand… The “just want to/trying to be different” thing is the worst kind of catch-22. If you don’t argue against it, they get to stick with their assumptions and misunderstanding, but if you do try to argue, it’s treated as proof that you “just want attention”. You can’t win against this dismissal.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … please just use the male ones to describe me.
I’m attracted to… both genders. I don’t care about the Gender of the other person. When its Love its Love.
When people talk about me, I want them to… focus on my personality rather then my gender. Just because I have boobs, doesn’t mean i like to have ’em and of course doesn’t give you the right to touch ’em.
I want people to understand… that i’m a person too and if they say i’m disgusting because I’m Transgender that i can get hurt too.
I identify as… Demi-woman. Discordian, vegan, lefty, ginger.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/They/FURBY DESTROYER OF THE INNOCENT
I’m attracted to… Girly people, with some exceptions!
When people talk about me, I want them to… Respect my identity.
I want people to understand… That I’ve changed a lot in the last few years. That I’m serious about those changes. That my sense of humour doesn’t mean I’m not serious about my beliefs. That we’re all learning.
About Jess (or Furby)
I’m a 25 year old programmer who dabbles in activism and music. I work with a UK organisation called Action For Trans Health which advocates for trans healthcare justice and runs a solidarity fund.
I go by HodgePodge a lot online, including in the Genderfork comments- I’m finally ready to post a profile :)
I identify as… genderfluid.
My gender changes from time to time. In general I am one of the following: Male, Female, unclear mix of Male and Female and Space Marine. The last one is a bit tricky. When I am traveling or working I am focused on something during that time, and I only see the task and noting else. Even if a person I find attractive would walk past me I would not notice it. This goes to the point of not even feeling part of the same species.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I find pronoun difficult. When I am a male a male pronoun is good, but as a female I would feel hurt since that would mean I am not a Women just a Guy in disguise. Since my gender switches and even I do not know from time to time which pronoun would be correct, I prefer the use of no pronoun. Luckily the English language allows the replacement of pronouns with my name.
Instead of: “How is he/she doing?”
you can use:”How is Haru doing?”.
I’m attracted to… Everything feminine. From feminine men over transgender and gender fluid to cis women.
When people talk about me, I want them to… not talk about me. I am very self conscious and always expect them to talk bad about me.
I want people to understand… that, despite me being gender fluid and having problems expressing and reading emotions I am person who can be loved.
I am 28 years old and am currently finishing my master degree.
I come from a traditional home: man is man and man loves a woman.
I started to embrace my female side 3 years ago when I moved away from my family. Even before I was always a weird person, which man does know how to sew and knows which colors work with each other. Now I can be who ever I want to be.
I identify as… A neutral/fem-presenting trans woman
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/Her, please and thank you!
I’m attracted to… Everyone? I think? I don’t tend to be sexually or romantically attracted to any one gender in particular, but that could mean I’m ace/aro or pan. I’ve never really had an interest in relationships before, though I think it could be fun.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about something other than my appearance. I know I look funny. I know I talk funny. I know I act funny. I know, I know, I know, I’ve heard it all a thousand times, so please for Christ’s sake talk about something else about me. And please, use my pronouns.
I want people to understand… Words hurt. I was born with only one hand, and my face was disfigured in a car accident. On top of that, I’ve got frizzy orange hair, I’m too tall for a girl, I can’t pass for crap, and I’ve got any other number of flaws that people are all too willing to point out. My self esteem was in shambles for most of my life. Of course, I’m learning to love myself, but there have been times where one cruel ableist joke has set me back months in terms of my progress. Just, be careful what you say. If it’s easy for you to insult someone, chances are it’s just as easy for everyone else to insult them too.
A movie trailer for Three to Infinity. “Three to Infinity: Beyond Two Genders is the first feature documentary entirely focused on people who are neither male nor female. Agender, gender queer, non-binary and more, they’re redefining gender, challenging the ways we think about masculinity and femininity. This insightful documentary takes you deeply into a provocatively new gender frontier.”