You can call me… Ishmael. Just kidding. Chelsea, Kitty, or Dolly all work for me.

I identify as… Gay, straight, nothing, everything, asexual, pansexual, polysexual. I am simply a human being who is most days neither, some days both, and occasionally one or the other with varying sexual preferences.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I accept both feminine and neutral ones. (She, her, Ze, Her) But for some strange reason, unless I’m a man that day, masculine pronouns rub me the wrong way.

I’m attracted to… Men who are like women and Women who are like men. Metrosexuals, transgender, transexual, androgyne, intersex.

As Proust so accurately puts it, in women I adore frankness and comradeship and in men, feminine charm.

And to further this, I love wit and long, serious conversations about absolutely nothing.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be absolutely truthful. When you tell me the whole truth I know I can trust you and therefore give you all of me.

I want people to understand… that I am simply and above all else, a human. I breathe as other humans do. I fall ill as other humans do. I sleep as other humans do. I wear a mask as other humans do. I have feelings as other humans do. I bleed as other humans do. To label me by the clothes I wear, the color I dye my hair, the make-up I put on my face would be to mark me inaccurately.

About Chelsea
I am a very small young “lady” with a rather morbid sense of humor. I have a great amount of pride in my personality as well as my artwork. I am an aspiring artist who strives for the best in criticism. I am an avid reader, devouring numerous books in a week. I have an addiction to tea and interesting conversation.

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You can call me… Logan.

I identify as… genderqueer, queer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I use: they, them, their, theirs…

I’m attracted to… femininity, flair, honesty, humility, intelligence, kindness, loyalty, openness, passion, personality, queerness, sensitivity, strength, talent.

When people talk about me, I want them to… think about my feelings.

I want people to understand… that no one is in any place to tell someone else what they are.

About Logan
I was born in Montreal, and still live here. I DJ and produce electronic music. One of the reasons I love music is it allows us to communicate beyond the limitations of language.

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You can call me… Renae Ann or Annie. :)

I identify as… someone who just recently came to understand that, despite my male body, deep inside I’m female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … for here, I’d like being addressed as “she” or “her.”

I’m attracted to… Men and women, but especially funny, intelligent people.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see that, even though I may be coming from a different place than many other people, I am still a person, a person who loves, and cares, and feels.

I want people to understand… I know that it may be difficult to accept me in the way I’ve discovered, I would hope that they can find room for me to allow me to be myself.

About Renae Ann
I’m an older person (it’s been 30 years since I was 25 :) ) who is just now coming to terms with my gender issues.
I’m a father with three adult children and a wife that I love very much…and they know nothing about what I’m going through.
I thought I had dealt with this stuff long ago, but only recently I’ve begun to understand my place in all this…and I have a very long way to go. :)

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You can call me… Yulan.

I identify as… genderqueer, but I identify as lesbian to make things easier for people. Jamaican trying to interpret life and, above all, a Human being with feelings.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … teachers usually call me she/her, but my Spanish teacher called me senor on several occasions and it made my day, also small children tend to mistake me for a boy. I find it cute. But as far as pronouns go, it doesn’t matter but a male pronoun tends to cheer me up.

I’m attracted to… artistic girls who look like they could be a boy. Genderqueer/fluid peeps. Honesty, laughs and joy all around. Hip Hip Hoorayyy!

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize I am who I am and say “my oh my wasn’t that just fabulous?”

I want people to understand… that life isn’t black or white and neither is gender. So buckle up kids!

About Yulan
I’m a junior going to school in New York. I’m an immigrant with a Jamaican accent that people still mistake for British/Irish or on the rare occasion German. I WILL attend SVA and major in Graphic Design and most of all I’ll be happy doing it. Oh, and I have a tumblr!

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You can call me… Rae

I identify as… Genderqueer butch boi

As far as third-person pronouns go, … anything that shows a combo of male/female instead of strictly in one realm or the other.

I’m attracted to… queer femmes and MTFs—basically I really like girly-girls; intelligence, a good sense of humor, a laid back attitude, and a love of animals, books, and the arts.

When people talk about me, I want them to… understand and respect my gender identity and not try to put me in a box with other women just because I’m a bio female, that really pisses me off.

I want people to understand… that I’m open enough to talk to people if they have questions and not to assume shit about me instead of asking outright.

About Rae
I’m a 23-year-old college grad with a bachelors in Psychology. I’ve been partnered to a wonderful queer femme for the past 3.5 years, and we live together in our tiny little apartment with our two cats.
Three years ago, my mother disowned me for being a ‘freak’ and kicked me out of her house. I lived with my in-laws until we got our own place. I’m done with the tears and the sympathy—if you don’t accept me, then I don’t need you in my life, period. I can choose my own family.

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You can call me… Victoria, V, Toria, whatever you’d like.

I identify as… Pansexual. Genderqueer. Gender fucker. Sometimes dyke. Mosty myself.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I like my name. No need for pronouns, please.

I’m attracted to… Sense of humor. Androgyny. Good grammar. Everything. Usually female bodies and gay men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know I can hear every word they say.

I want people to understand… that the idea of binary gender is strictly for government use only.

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You can call me… anything at all; I turn my head no matter what name has been called.

I identify as… genderqueer, soft-butch, androgynous, queer, trans, dyke.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer the singular “they,” but most people refer to me using feminine ones (it’s my birth-defect, missing the y-chromosome). I would love to be referred to by hir, but it doesn’t bother me really.

I’m attracted to… generally those of the feminine variety, but I’m not going to let gender come between love.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that I am more than just a girl, or a guy; that I am who I am; that my gender does not concern them.

I want people to understand… that a human is a human, regardless of gender, sexuality and race.

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You can call me… Crystal.

I identify as… a fiercely feminist lesbian who is always comfortable with whatever gender she happens to wake up as.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “she” and “her” are fine by me.

I’m attracted to… the female body. Women of all sorts, and the occasional quiet man with a beard. Above all, an impressive vocabulary.

When people talk about me, I want them to… know that I am sensitive to their opinions, even if I’d rather not be.

I want people to understand… that even though I present as female and I am comfortable in my female body, that does not mean I cannot have as complex a gender identity as the next person.

About Crystal
Crystal is a college freshman living in Virginia.
She loves pizza, poetry, and girls with guitars.
She is proud to have a ladyfriend who knows how to effectively employ the word “acrimonious” <3.

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You can call me… Leo.

I identify as… Female-to-genderqueer-to-confused-to-male-to-genderqueer-to-nothing-boi-to-myheadisgonnaexplode, etc., etc., etc..

As far as third-person pronouns go, … choose your own adventure! I’ve been using male pronouns lately, but I kind of like the idea of letting trans-friendly people that know me choose the pronouns they that feel are most fitting for me.

I’m attracted to… outside-of-the-box thinking, voices of reason, absurdity, kindness, tolerance, outcasts, freckles, and charmingly crooked teeth. Sometimes I have difficulty discerning whether I’m actually attracted to someone or whether I want to be them. Is that creepy?

I want people to understand… my gender identity is somewhat fluid, and I don’t know if I’ll ever figure it out.

About Leo
Leo is an introverted 24-year old kid residing in Brooklyn, NY. He works as a speech-language therapist at an elementary school and often exists in a haze of sleepiness. He spends way too much time on the internet, especially via Livejournal.

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You can call me… Jim.

I identify as… myself; queer in the most literal sense. I’m a born male who can’t identify. I’m not straight, gay, or bi.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … try some out.

I’m attracted to… I’m very much attracted to men and women, but find myself most strongly attracted to others who can appreciate a floating libido and lost persona – because that is me.

When people talk about me, I want them to… think of me as a straight male. But that’s not who or what I am.

I want people to understand… that I am quite different than they might perceive. That in conversation, at work, in public/social situations my attitude and persona would be little different if they really knew how I wanted to live my life.

About Jim
Tasteful self-promotion? How do I go about this?
I like Troma movies, rockabilly and country music. I can’t dance. I have a cat. I’d rather a dog. My sex life is, as you can imagine, confusing, and for that reason tough to define. I’m not here to discuss sex, or look for it, but in hopes of speaking to like-minded people.

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You can call me… Robin, the boy wonder

I identify as… An androgynous, girly-boy. Hehehe.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Call me by the boyish ones! Eeee.. you know what I mean.

I’m attracted to… super-duper tall men. OoOoh yeah, baby!

When people talk about me, I want them to… tell me! Then afterwards, we can go get some ice cream & cotton candy.

I want people to understand… that the future is so bright, I have to wear shades!

About Robin, the boy wonder
I’m just your average 4′11″ guy who just has an insatiable appetite for everything that is sweet. Not to mention how I’m addicted to love songs (and the 1920s, ’30s, ’40s, ’50s). Aaahh, Barry White.

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You can call me… Charley

I identify as… an androgynous, intersexed, male-dressing gynephile who has no quabbles with using female bathrooms.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … who cares? I am so ambiguous, depending on who the other person referencing me is. Some think I easily pass off as a man; others think I’m a woman; and most people who know me use either pronoun set. I honestly don’t care what people use. While semantics are a necessity in terms of linguistics, I don’t care.

I’m attracted to… Mostly to very hot ladies, but I also find very feminine gays and bois cute, too.

When people talk about me, I want them to… speak the truth about me, and their honest opinions about me. If they do it behind their backs, though … they’re cowards. Tell me as well, please, about what you think?

I want people to understand… that I ***want*** to engage in discussions about gender, sexuality, orientation, gay marriage, gay adoption, religion’s views, all that stuff. I also want people to understand that not all peoples see the world in dual genders — there are many others that allow for transgenderism as well.

About Charley
I am a blogger, barista, a parent, a Hindu who writes with a British spelling online. There are labels and classifications more important to me than my sexuality and my gender.

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You can call me… taylor…

I identify as… genderqueer…

As far as third-person pronouns go, … i prefer he, bro, dude, him…

I’m attracted to… spiritually, mentally and physically beautiful women such as my wife.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about me as myself, my person, my being, my personality not what is or isn’t in between my legs…

I want people to understand… that gender identity and expression has nothing to do with body parts. my expression encompasses mental & spiritual capacities. it’s something i identify with, it’s something that defines me.

About Taylor
i’m a creative person always looking towards self-preservation, improvement, growth. i am happily married to a beautiful woman. i identify as genderqueer though society will label me otherwise. i fear a lot and nothing all at once. i’m completely intrigued with those who dare to venture past the norm or the accepted.

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You can call me… Activist247

I identify as… FNG – Female-Non-Gendered

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, his, she, hers… depends on what I’m wearing and how short my hair is…

I’m attracted to… People who take the time to listen and understand me…and those they interact with. Right now, my loving partner…

When people talk about me, I want them to… Talk about my personal strength, kindness, lovingness and will to journey forward despite the troubles that life throws up sometimes. I want them to talk about the leadership I have shown on my campus, and the support I have given to students. I want them to say that I am a friend, a partner, a child and a human who is happy to be alive.

I want people to understand… That I love clothing, and only when I wear it do I feel gendered. I deeply feel genderless, and am freed emotionally by this self understanding, I understand that many people will never take the time to listen to my explanation. I accept that…I wish they could accept me…I have hope that more people will down the road.

About Activist247
I am a student in upstate NY who is an active leader on campus. I have served on the executive board of our Pride Alliance for two years, and helped out as an intern the year before planning our yearly LGBT conference.

I love writing music and LGBT thought-provoking focused stories… spending time watching crime shows on tv in the evenings and my trips to CANADA to see my partner…

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You can call me… whenever you like, but expect to get my voicemail.

I identify as… a Cancer. a man. a woman. a girl. a boy. but mostly, a goddess.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … call me Madam.

I’m attracted to… chests (boob-free, please). brown eyes. pushy hands. smiles.

When people talk about me, I want them to… remark on my fabulous do, drag, or derrière. I don’t care what people say, as long as it isn’t true.

I want people to understand… themselves.

About Sheman Marcus
Sheman Marcus is a Southern Belle from Dallas, Texas. She enjoys music, needle craft, and making bad decisions. He is currently a full time procrastinator at the University of Texas. She spends most of his time smoking, learning the piano, and deciphering the myriad of sexuality references in Family Guy.

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You can call me… Ian

I identify as… an omnigendered, autonosexual faggot.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I won’t bite your head off over it, but do stick to the masculine.

I’m attracted to… brilliant, damaged people with male genitalia.

When people talk about me, I want them to… do it to my face, and in depth.

I want people to understand… that I’m not a defective version of someone else, I’m a pretty fucking fabulous version of myself.

About Ian
I’m an aspiring writer/actor/director/singer/poet/porn star, currently devoting at least a fraction of my attention to my queercore/autrock/punkcabaret band, pencil!Trick, publishing Lessons from a Slow Learner, my anthology of poetry, finishing two screenplays and a novel, and starting an independent website for fully-clothed porn.

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You can call me… Narcissa

I identify as… an innately butch person who is stuck in a femme body.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … lesbian, softbutch, dyke, genderqueer. But who needs labels? “I am I and you are you.”

Oh, and my all time FAVORITE… “Lesbionic dog handler”!!!! I just love it!

I’m attracted to… the drag-queen in anyone. Beautiful women. I don’t mean women who are just pretty, women with a strong will and a golden heart. A rockin’ personality and caring heart are the biggest turn-ons.

When people talk about me, I want them to… gossip about who I really am and not gossip about who I’m not. There really is a difference.

I want people to understand… that no matter how much pink and lace you put on me I will always be the same inside. Just because my body is wanted by men doesn’t mean that I’m femme at heart. No matter how much makeup I put on, I’m still butch underneath.

About Narcissa I really do love people, despite my anti-social nature, and will do just about anything to help out. If you’re my friend I’ve got your back no matter what.

I’ve always known I was different. When I was a kid I was mistaken for a boy quite a bit. It always made me feel nice to be identified that way. Unfortunally little tomboys have to grow up to be young ladies in the Midwest and are supposed to take on that role. Ptsh! That didn’t work out too well…

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You can call me… Evelyn.

I identify as… A genderqueer feminist bio-boy gender anarchist.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … male pronouns are appropriate, but my wonderful man calls me his girlfriend, so the female ones are great, too.

I’m attracted to… people who are physically male; androgyny in any gender.

When people talk about me, I want them to… learn something, or teach me something.

I want people to understand… that minds that don’t open are like parachutes that don’t open. They don’t quite get the job done.

About Evelyn.
I have lived near Philadelphia my whole life and go to school in West Chester. I’ve always had a supportive LGBT community which is great. I’m currently a student and interdisciplinary artist pursuing life.

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You can call me… Danny

I identify as… a genderqueer trans man. My sense of gender fluctuates from androgynous male to femme male to who knows what depending on what side of the bed I wake up on, or something else arbitrary like that. I’m a polyamorous and pansexual queer boy with a pink mohawk who likes goth and nerdy boy styles. Oh yeah, and baby, I’m an anarchist.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … They is how I usually think of myself. Some people call me he. I hate anything else.

I’m attracted to… nerds and gingers and people with curly hair. Gender-variant people and femme or androgynous queer boys. Those with a good sense of humour (which usually means they’ve watched way too much British comedy too…) and who are kind and caring and willing to listen to me. Intelligence is a plus, and if you have a pretty voice I’ll probably melt. I like plenty of other people too, though!

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect me. I don’t seek anybody’s approval, but that doesn’t mean I want them to be rude to me either.

I want people to understand… that just because I paint my nails doesn’t make me “still a girl.” As if I ever was!

About Danny
I like top hats.

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You can call me… anything you want, though my given name is hard to pronounce.

I identify as… a butch genderqueer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I couldn’t care less. Although sometimes, when I’m trying to pass as male, I cringe a little when my sister calls me “she” to other people.

I’m attracted to… intelligence, humor, bright eyes, and tattoos. A little feminine attitude is good too, even if the person is butch.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be honest.

I want people to understand… that I’m not having a gender-identity crisis. I just am in between. I feel very male some days, and very female other days. I like having a flat chest, just because it feels more comfortable — but I like my girl parts, too.

About –
I am merely a 20-year-old starting to figure out what’s really important, and what isn’t.

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