My 18 year old child wants to have breast removal surgery, and has no interest in anything further. They have been wearing a binder for several years. They want to have the surgery before starting college in the fall. I want to support them, and at the same time I worry that maybe as a parent I ought to have them wait in case they may later change their mind. I can use any input. Thanks.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … They/Them/Theirs, please!
I’m attracted to… Everyone! If I’m attracted to you, I’m attracted to you!
When people talk about me, I want them to… not assume what I identify as. I may present a certain way, but you are probably wrong.
I want people to understand… that I have enough trouble with myself internally, I don’t need you to voice your opinions of me.
About Paige or Arty
Hey there, pals! I’m 20 and fabulously queer. If you’d like to be friends or know more about me, hit me up on my tumblr: cockapoodle-doo
I identify as… Heterosexual, biromantic, bigender…usually presenting as a woman
As far as third-person pronouns go, … She/her
I’m attracted to… Masculine men, athletic women, kindness and passion
When people talk about me, I want them to… Think of my personality without having to include a specific gender as a part of that identity
I want people to understand… That my feminine appearance doesn’t tell the whole story…it’s hard to express my masculine side with thick hips
About Lily
Really struggling to define myself. I want to allow myself to be more authentic about the identity I want to have, but I am afraid of the consequences of moving away from the gender binary. I hate feeling like I have to choose one or the other.
How do you figure out who you are? I would very much like to figure out who or what I am. I’m a mature male, gay, but feel very feminine at times. It used to be a 50/50 feeling, but know its more 80/20 feminine. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated on where to start looking for a definition.
I am 54 and non-binary long before “that” existed. I tried to fit in the TV and/or the TS world when I was younger but was just as alone there as I am now. I’m scared to continue and to lose the life I have now as a rural, red state, grandparent with a spouse I love.
Can you reach eighty & realize that you were meant to be a boy not a girl? It is a little late to realize this, but when I consider my life, I realize that unconsciously I was meant to be a boy. I have always loved fast cars, wanted to sky-dive & perhaps fly a plane. I have never really fallen in love with a man or been madly attracted to them, nor them to me, which has made me ponder now.
I would have liked to have driven fast cars, sky-dived or flown a plane. Perhaps joined the military & risen to a senior staff member position.
It is a little late to discover this & unfortunately, you can’t turn back the clock.
I have just wondered if other males or females have wished they were the other sex.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … He and They in equal measure. She would be lovely but I don’t present as a woman and I likely won’t.
I’m attracted to… Kindhearted, beautiful, and nurturing people.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Not identify me as masculine just because I am male. I want them to not think of my size as intimidating. I hope they think I’m pretty.
I want people to understand… That I have a beard because it looks good on my face, not because it’s a part of a masculine gender performance.
I identify as… a 30-something cysgender female straight tomboy that doesn’t like being called either sir nor madam
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m fine with and used to she/her but I prefer being refered to as they/them.
I’m attracted to… socially awkward, gentle, non normative, open minded people of any gender
When people talk about me, I want them to… not mention my gender unless explicitly asked about it, and answer that question with another question : “Why does it matter to you ?”
I want people to understand… their behavior and words have an impact on others. I’m home in my female body, but I’m not female in my mind and I feel estranged to the definition of female others impose on me without thinking about it.
You can call me… By birth: Tesia By Culture: Tesiava/Takoda
I identify as… Genderfluid.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … they/them please.
I’m attracted to… pansexual, currently attracted to a genderqueer demiboy with great sense and flawless poetry.
When people talk about me, I want them to… appreciate my inner qualities and who I am as a person. If they don’t know me, they can say “that short person who talks a lot about math and then does the splits.”
I want people to understand… That gender isn’t all of what defines a person, I’m forgiving about mistakes , and I want to be seen for who I am, not what gender I am. In a science profession this is incredibly daunting.