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Question: How do you figure it out?


Kevyn asks…

How do you figure out who you are? I would very much like to figure out who or what I am. I’m a mature male, gay, but feel very feminine at times. It used to be a 50/50 feeling, but know its more 80/20 feminine. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated on where to start looking for a definition.

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Posted by on April 22nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Question: What if you’re 80?


Galatea asks…

Can you reach eighty & realize that you were meant to be a boy not a girl? It is a little late to realize this, but when I consider my life, I realize that unconsciously I was meant to be a boy. I have always loved fast cars, wanted to sky-dive & perhaps fly a plane. I have never really fallen in love with a man or been madly attracted to them, nor them to me, which has made me ponder now.

I would have liked to have driven fast cars, sky-dived or flown a plane. Perhaps joined the military & risen to a senior staff member position.

It is a little late to discover this & unfortunately, you can’t turn back the clock.

I have just wondered if other males or females have wished they were the other sex.

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Posted by on April 19th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Question: fluid? demigirl?


Someone asks…

I need help. I’m a 15 year old biological female and have gone by that all my life but for the past couple of months I’ve been questioning my gender. I’ve been doing research and I think I may be genderfluid. Even long before I questioned my gender, there would be days where I felt way more boyish and days where I felt more girly than normal but most of the time I just did my own thing. But now that I’ve looked into it, I’m more confused than ever. I’m trying to keep track of it but it becomes very frustrating, especially when most of the time I don’t feel particularly any way. I’m also fine with just using female pronouns, but haven’t experimented with male or neutral pronouns. I’ve also seen demigirl and think I could be that along with fluid but I’m not sure if that makes me “less” fluid. Could I just be a girl who’s overthinking this? I honestly don’t know.

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Posted by on March 22nd, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Question: Pant Sizes?


Ben asks…

Okay, so I’m finally beginning to feel comfortable with myself, I’m finally deciding to buy whatever clothes I like no matter if they are “mens” or “womens”. I have a problem with confidence in buying clothes when I am by myself, though. Anyway, that not what this is about. I have some questions concerning women’s pants size.

I know my waist which is a 6-8 but my leg length I am very unsure of. And when I am shopping by myself I get scared of asking what pants I should buy and what sizes fit me best. I would shop online, but with out knowing my leg size I cannot. my only question is, is this: if I am a mens 30 waist and 34 leg length, what does that make my leg length in women’s? I’m lost and very confused as to what to do in this matter and because of my shyness i am afraid to ask people in the store. please help. Also, these are U.S. sizes, if that matters.

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Posted by on March 10th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Question: Older but genderfluid


Sophie asks…

I recently (last year) identified as genderfluid, but here’s the thing – I’ve just turned 61! I’d love to know how many ‘older’ genderfluid people you have on this site, as I have so many questions. As much as I love hearing from and about the many beautiful younger non-binary people in the world, for those of us who only got here later in life (although recognising now that we’ve always been that way), it can feel pretty confusing. I was born male, and have presented as male throughout my life, so one of my big questions is how I can ‘feminize’ myself, so that the half of me that is female can show herself a bit more?

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Posted by on February 28th, 2017 at 08:00 am

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Question: Is my gender fluid or flux??


Ryan asks…

A while ago I started identifying as agender or greygender. I definitely feel that a part of me is neutral and has an absense of gender. Some days or for a series of days, I feel more feminine and more connected to being a girl, but not completely. Then other days that feeling is absent. I recently found the terms “demifluid” and “demiflux” and I’m trying to understand those terms further. Any help would be very appreciated!

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Posted by on July 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Should genderqueer people apply for free binder programs?


Ellie/Eli asks…

I’m never sure as a poverty stricken genderqueer person if I’m eligible for some of the free binder programs I’ve seen. I want a binder – I have serious dysphoria on my male days – but they tend to say they’re for transmen only. I don’t want to take anything from my transmen bros – at least I feel comfortable in my skin sometimes – but I also feel really hurt by my physical state every time I’m a male with crazy huge breasts. What are your thoughts?

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Posted by on July 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Passing as Genderless


A.Nonny.Mouse asks…

Hello. So, I’m Agender (Genderless) as I would like to be perceived that way. I don’t know how to ‘pass’ for genderless, as I’m afraid I will be seen as masculine. (I was born female.) I thought binding might help, but I’m unsure. Any tips/suggestions would be amazing! Thank you!

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Posted by on July 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: I might be a transgender male and I have no idea what to do


Kris asks…

I’m 19 and I was born a female. I’ve always had this feeling that I would of rather been born a boy. But, I kind of pushed it back and went on with my life. But lately, I’ve been depressed.

For about a year now, I’ve been really caught up the fact I might be trans and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t think my mom would accept me, or my sister for that matter. But, I think my dad and my brother would be okay with it.
That being said I don’t even know if I want to “come out” or “transition” because I feel ashamed and embarrassed to be honest. I did tell my dad I was depressed about a month or two ago, and when he asked if I knew why, I just told him I don’t know. We talked about it a bit, I cried the whole time I told him and the rest of the day after.

I just feel like such a disappointment, and he was so supportive. He asked if I wanted to see a therapist or anything, and I told him no at the time, however, I think I should tell him I’ve changed my mind. That being said I would go to a therapist for depression. Will the therapist be able to tell I’m having gender identity issues?
Should I tell them?

I’m really unsure of how to approach any of this and all I’m feeling is upset, stressed and depressed about this situation because I know that transitioning is hard and I know that I would of rather been born a boy, but I don’t know if I would want to transition.

Also, I’m pretty much just attracted to guys, so would that make me gay, as well if I identified as a ftm? And if that’s the case wouldn’t it make sense to just be a female and straight?

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Posted by on July 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: How can I be butch in my body?


Charlotte asks…

I am a curvy woman. I have huge boobs (which I wish I didn’t have at all) and huge hips and a shapely body.

My whole life I’ve never wanted to present feminine. I feel like I only suit women’s clothes, but I hate myself in them. They just feel like they don’t belong to me. It freaks me out if people say they would consider me femme.

I haven’t presented butch since I was a child and I don’t know how to make my gender presentation feelings fit with my adult body. I work in an office and I need to look presentable. How do I do this? Please help me!

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Posted by on July 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Pronouns


Mars asks…

Hey, I’m afab agender who’s having problems with pronouns. I’m currently using she/her pronouns because it’s what I’m used to and what most people default to anyway, but the truth is I hate it. Unfortunately, I also seem to hate he/him and they/them pronouns. I’ve looked into neopronouns, but while I can use them for other people, they don’t feel right in relation to myself either. Does anybody have any advice to offer about what I should do?

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Posted by on May 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binding help?


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Is it normal for your nipples to get extremely swollen/puffy after binding? I’ve been binding since late July last year and it’s been an issue since about September.

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Posted by on May 2nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Gender Identity


Adrian asks…

Hey, I’m 20 years old, currently female. However, though I’ve always felt neutral/cis about my gender, only recently have I felt like perhaps I’d be happier as male.

I don’t really have /dysphoria/ about my body, exactly, but there isn’t really any love their either. I suppose I was taught to accept what I have before even stopping to think about the possibility that I might not be female after all.

I like feminine things, but growing up, as well as recently, I’ve never really been /feminine/, you know? I’ve always seen myself as more gender neutral, but I’ve only just now stopped to think that maybe I could be trans? Like, it’s only really hit me recently that just because I can be feimine, doesn’t mean that I’m female.

But I feel like I’m too old to only just be figuring this out now. Is there anyone here that only discovered themselves at an older age?

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Posted by on April 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming Out


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How did you come out to your parents and loved ones?

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Posted by on April 22nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: How to help a genderfluid friend


F asks…

What can I do to help a friend who realized they are genderfluid and don’t really know how to cope with it?

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Posted by on April 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: questioning gender


Sarah asks…

I’m new to this whole thing.. The other day I started to question my gender.

There’s been times when I thought I wish I could grow a beard. Especially when I was younger. That’s all I wanted was to pee standing up, grow a beard, and be able to shave my face like my dad.

I went out in full boy’s clothes binder and all the other day. I didn’t feel better or worse. I do plan on doing it again next time I leave the house just to keep on getting a feel for it.

I’m just trying to figure out where I belong. I remembered how happy I was when I first came out as pansexual, and I want to find that sense of fulfillment again and figure out where I stand gender wise. Part of me loves being feminine and wearing dresses, but I’ve always felt comfortable in guy’s clothes as well. I don’t know if that’s just because they tend to hide more of my insecurities, or if there’s more to it. I’ve never liked being called by my name either. Like my name is something you’d call me only if I did something bad.

I would really appreciate it if someone could help me find where I belong..


Posted by on March 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Packing


Someone asks…

I identify as Androgyne and Genderfluid and I bind at times and have recently started to consider packing. (I don’t want to be male as I feel very androgynous, if I’m pushed leaning a little more towards the female side).

Where can I get a really small packer from so that it wasn’t too noticeable that I was packing? I want to be VERY discreet about it and I only really want to use a packer so that I know I’m doing it if that makes any sense?

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Posted by on February 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Testosterone


E. asks…

As an AFAB who wants to appear androgynous, I am considering taking testosterone one day. But some things about it just seem pretty risky to me…

Can I possibly get some views on it, or some personal experiences?

Thank you!

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Posted by on February 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Surgery without T in Germany


LordValdi asks…

Hello. (Here is the excuse for bad English)

I’m a fifteen year old person from Germany. I say person, because I had much confusion and denial with my gender identity. I came out in my school as a ftm, but now I am questioning.

It’s not that I want to be female, but that I feel somewhere else in the spectrum, like agender for example.

My therapist isn’t a great help and since I’m desperate I wanted to ask for advice here.

The main problem is, that here in Germany you can’t undergo any surgery at all without

1.Straightly identifying as male/female
2.Going on T.

Transsexuality is seen as a disease here, and if you identify as anything else, it’s seen as unnecessary to get any medication.
Not that these identities aren’t respected, they sure are, but for people like me, who experience (for example) breast dysphoria, it is kind of a problem. I own a binder, but it presses to strong on my heart, where I have health problems (more below).

I could simply go on T and get the surgery later on, since I came out as ftm, but that (for now) just feels wrong, like a betray to the community even. Also Testosterone would be a danger for my health, since I already have a disease to be taken care of, not to mention all the side effects of the medication I am taking.

In 2017, there is supposed to be a change in law, that changes the law around seeing Transsexuality as a disease but right now my main goal is to get breast surgery, and nothing else. For years I just want them to go away. But how can I get surgery here?

Is this a question anyone can answer?

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Posted by on February 11th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Trying To Be Fem at Seven A.M.


Joel asks…

I am gender fluid. Slowly (but surly) coming out to people. Over the summer I decided to take some big leaps, such as cutting 16 inches off of my hair and donating it. And then shaving one side. I love the hair cut, especially how on my more masculine days I can flip it and look like a flipping male model.

My parents are really liberal (Thank the god I don’t believe in) so I know that when I come around to coming out to them, it’ll be no big deal. So that is not what I am here to ask about.

Seeing as I am gender fluid, some days I feel girly. But with short hair…. well, lets just say it would be cool if I could switch the length at the snap of a fingers every now and then.

I know of plenty of ways to look more feminine on my feminine days, but it all takes a lot of effort. I don’t do well at waking up on time for school the way it is. Let alone 2 hours early for make up and clothes. So what this really long rant really comes down to, is if anyone know of some really easy, quick ways to look more girly with short hair when I have 10 minutes to get out the door and can hardly stand?

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Posted by on February 3rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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