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Question: Pronouns


Mars asks…

Hey, I’m afab agender who’s having problems with pronouns. I’m currently using she/her pronouns because it’s what I’m used to and what most people default to anyway, but the truth is I hate it. Unfortunately, I also seem to hate he/him and they/them pronouns. I’ve looked into neopronouns, but while I can use them for other people, they don’t feel right in relation to myself either. Does anybody have any advice to offer about what I should do?

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Posted by on May 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binding help?


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Is it normal for your nipples to get extremely swollen/puffy after binding? I’ve been binding since late July last year and it’s been an issue since about September.

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Posted by on May 2nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Gender Identity


Adrian asks…

Hey, I’m 20 years old, currently female. However, though I’ve always felt neutral/cis about my gender, only recently have I felt like perhaps I’d be happier as male.

I don’t really have /dysphoria/ about my body, exactly, but there isn’t really any love their either. I suppose I was taught to accept what I have before even stopping to think about the possibility that I might not be female after all.

I like feminine things, but growing up, as well as recently, I’ve never really been /feminine/, you know? I’ve always seen myself as more gender neutral, but I’ve only just now stopped to think that maybe I could be trans? Like, it’s only really hit me recently that just because I can be feimine, doesn’t mean that I’m female.

But I feel like I’m too old to only just be figuring this out now. Is there anyone here that only discovered themselves at an older age?

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Posted by on April 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming Out


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How did you come out to your parents and loved ones?

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Posted by on April 22nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: How to help a genderfluid friend


F asks…

What can I do to help a friend who realized they are genderfluid and don’t really know how to cope with it?

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Posted by on April 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: questioning gender


Sarah asks…

I’m new to this whole thing.. The other day I started to question my gender.

There’s been times when I thought I wish I could grow a beard. Especially when I was younger. That’s all I wanted was to pee standing up, grow a beard, and be able to shave my face like my dad.

I went out in full boy’s clothes binder and all the other day. I didn’t feel better or worse. I do plan on doing it again next time I leave the house just to keep on getting a feel for it.

I’m just trying to figure out where I belong. I remembered how happy I was when I first came out as pansexual, and I want to find that sense of fulfillment again and figure out where I stand gender wise. Part of me loves being feminine and wearing dresses, but I’ve always felt comfortable in guy’s clothes as well. I don’t know if that’s just because they tend to hide more of my insecurities, or if there’s more to it. I’ve never liked being called by my name either. Like my name is something you’d call me only if I did something bad.

I would really appreciate it if someone could help me find where I belong..


Posted by on March 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Packing


Someone asks…

I identify as Androgyne and Genderfluid and I bind at times and have recently started to consider packing. (I don’t want to be male as I feel very androgynous, if I’m pushed leaning a little more towards the female side).

Where can I get a really small packer from so that it wasn’t too noticeable that I was packing? I want to be VERY discreet about it and I only really want to use a packer so that I know I’m doing it if that makes any sense?

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Posted by on February 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Testosterone


E. asks…

As an AFAB who wants to appear androgynous, I am considering taking testosterone one day. But some things about it just seem pretty risky to me…

Can I possibly get some views on it, or some personal experiences?

Thank you!

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Posted by on February 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Surgery without T in Germany


LordValdi asks…

Hello. (Here is the excuse for bad English)

I’m a fifteen year old person from Germany. I say person, because I had much confusion and denial with my gender identity. I came out in my school as a ftm, but now I am questioning.

It’s not that I want to be female, but that I feel somewhere else in the spectrum, like agender for example.

My therapist isn’t a great help and since I’m desperate I wanted to ask for advice here.

The main problem is, that here in Germany you can’t undergo any surgery at all without

1.Straightly identifying as male/female
2.Going on T.

Transsexuality is seen as a disease here, and if you identify as anything else, it’s seen as unnecessary to get any medication.
Not that these identities aren’t respected, they sure are, but for people like me, who experience (for example) breast dysphoria, it is kind of a problem. I own a binder, but it presses to strong on my heart, where I have health problems (more below).

I could simply go on T and get the surgery later on, since I came out as ftm, but that (for now) just feels wrong, like a betray to the community even. Also Testosterone would be a danger for my health, since I already have a disease to be taken care of, not to mention all the side effects of the medication I am taking.

In 2017, there is supposed to be a change in law, that changes the law around seeing Transsexuality as a disease but right now my main goal is to get breast surgery, and nothing else. For years I just want them to go away. But how can I get surgery here?

Is this a question anyone can answer?

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Posted by on February 11th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Trying To Be Fem at Seven A.M.


Joel asks…

I am gender fluid. Slowly (but surly) coming out to people. Over the summer I decided to take some big leaps, such as cutting 16 inches off of my hair and donating it. And then shaving one side. I love the hair cut, especially how on my more masculine days I can flip it and look like a flipping male model.

My parents are really liberal (Thank the god I don’t believe in) so I know that when I come around to coming out to them, it’ll be no big deal. So that is not what I am here to ask about.

Seeing as I am gender fluid, some days I feel girly. But with short hair…. well, lets just say it would be cool if I could switch the length at the snap of a fingers every now and then.

I know of plenty of ways to look more feminine on my feminine days, but it all takes a lot of effort. I don’t do well at waking up on time for school the way it is. Let alone 2 hours early for make up and clothes. So what this really long rant really comes down to, is if anyone know of some really easy, quick ways to look more girly with short hair when I have 10 minutes to get out the door and can hardly stand?

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Posted by on February 3rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binder bulges: this binder doesn’t work?


Elliot asks…

Hi!
I just (finally) got my first binder, a 988. I’m not sure whether I’m wearing it wrong, or it’s the wrong size, or my expectations were out of line but it doesn’t seem to work.

But all the pictures I’ve seen of people wearing one show it really flattening their chests. Even with pushing down and out I either feel like I’m wearing a pushup bra, or I get weird bulges all over the place.

What am I doing wrong? Help?

Yours dysphorically.

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Posted by on January 28th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Is it Okay?


Someone wrote…

Is it okay to get angry after dealing with people not going with your prefered** gender for a long time?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Confused and feeling alone


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I’m not quite sure what I’m feeling currently and it’s really stressful. I have 2 friends that are trans and they recently got binders. I support them 100% but when they told me about getting binders, I got EXTREMELY jealous of them and I don’t know why. I’ve been born a girl and have always been one but after feeling that jealous, I’ve been questioning myself. My gender and sexuality. I’m not sure if maybe I could be trans or what but this feeling won’t leave me alone and I don’t know what to do…

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Posted by on January 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Will binding effect breastfeeding?


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If I bind will I still be able to breastfeed in the future?

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Posted by on January 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Androgynous CIS?


Shortstack asks…

So I have a strong wanting to be androgynous. But like I don’t want cosmetic surgery or anything like that. I just like the idea of wearing male clothing, but I can’t really try that because of my mom and the money. I’m female, and I’m happy being female, but I still want to look male sometimes…I don’t like feel male, I always feel femme and I’m perfectly fine with that. I just don’t know what I am if I’m happy being a female and identifying cis, but yet still wanting to possibly look and dress like a male? My sexuality isn’t in question, but I guess my gender? I just don’t know and am very confused as to what I classify as. Androgynous Cis girl???

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Posted by on January 6th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Dilemma!!


Katie asks…

Ok.. so my names Katie and. I think I might be trans??

I’ve always been known as ‘acting like a dude’ and stuff, and in the past year my closet has been filling up more and more with guys clothes too! I like looking and feeling masculine. I really don’t like having boobs either. Sometimes if say, I’m wearing a swimsuit and it flattens my chest it makes me feel a lot more confident. I’m still sort of confused because I might just be an confused tomboy. To be honest I’d much rather be a guy, cis-passing and everything. The one thing I’m not interested is surgery and proper realignment (excluding top surgery!). I’m worried that because of that I can’t be a ‘real’ trans guy, or a guy at all for that matter.

(Also I don’t think I could ever fit a masculine name for myself!) I’m only 13. So is it just better to wait and just see what happens?

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Posted by on December 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Am I just settling?


Taylor/Emma asks…

So, I decided I am a transgender male about a year or two ago. I also came to the conclusion that transitioning is not for me.

I’m married to an amazing wife, and I also decided to hang up wearing dresses for her. I really loved it, but may have came up with a better solution.

Instead of my constant dialogue of “oh, I wish I were a woman.” I now tell myself that I actually am I woman. I’m male too, but most importantly I am female.

But I was just wondering, is this silly? Am I just fooling myself into being happy or something?

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Posted by on December 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Agender??


Lunar heart asks…

Hello! So I was confused for a while about my gender identity. I went through thinking I was Demi-girl, to gender fluid but I’ve come to realise I don’t ever fluctuate in my feelings or masculinity and femininity, or lack thereof. I feel as though I’m in the middle not attached to either binary gender. Does this sound as though I am agender?

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Posted by on December 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Who Said My Name? (Nobody Yet)


Riley Aiden Alexandr asks…

Ok so I’ll be starting my junior year of high school in the fall. I’m genderfluid and I’ve figured out my preferred name – so happy! – but I need advice on dealing with people.

How do I ask people to call me Riley if they’ve known me as Sarah for two years already?

Also, is there a way for me to ask teachers to call me Riley, without them mentioning it to my parents? I don’t want my parents to know; they don’t even believe in genderfluidity.

And any advice on coming out to my boyfriend would also be appreciated.

Hugs, kisses, and pronouns! xx Riley

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Posted by on December 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Narrowing It Down


Someone wrote…

I am 14. Can someone who knows a bit more about gender and sexuality narrow this down for me? If so, much appreciated. So…

I am transmasculine (I feel slightly male, but not wholly), but also identify as another gender. Labelling myself as also Agender sounds incorrect to me. I feel as if I DO have a gender, but it is not male nor female, but yes, I DO feel like I’m teetering on the edge of the male-side of things.

So, maybe third-gendered, or I’m a Demiguy?

Also, I like to dress very androgynously, and like to keep people questioning if I’m male or female. I would feel very flattered if someone mistook me for a male, and I would feel understanding if someone mistook me for female, but anyone who straight up said “You are a man” or “You are a woman”, would make me feel uncomfortable.

And, lastly, since I am not male or female, I would not refer to myself as straight or gay. Though rare, I can be attracted to a cis, straight male, but I strongly prefer an androgynous person: Long hair, soft spoken, feminine features, but still born a male, and with a shapeless, male-like body. Preferably, someone like early 1970’s Robert Plant. Haha.

Anyway, is this a type of sexuality?

So, sorry for the rambling. Many thanks to whoever decides to help.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 12th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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