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I’m Queer he Says, Simply


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“I’m queer,”he says, simply. “I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular.”
– Ezra Miller

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Posted by on July 4th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Finding my Place


Someone wrote…

I’m genderfluid, moving from being neutrois almost all of the time, to every now and then male/female. There’s no pattern to the changes. No rhyme or reason to my gender expression. My sexual orientation is difficult to explain without saying pansexual (which I’m not).

I haven’t met anyone like myself before, and so many people on the net seem so much more ‘stable’ in their fluidity than me. Trying to find my place amongst the binary, non-binary, or sometimes in the LGBTQ community, seems so hard. I just don’t fit in a category. And if I every did, I wouldn’t be in it for very long.

I can’t be alone in this, can I?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 4th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Outdoor Support and Healing


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“[Description: a range of queer & trans black, indigenous, and/or people of color sit together in the sunlight. They range in gender, style, size, ability, & spirit.]”

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Posted by on July 3rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Affordable Jeans


Affordable Jeans for Trans Men and Friends.

“Looking for Jeans to fit trans male bodies? Check this article on Qwear out!”

A reader wrote in asking about recommendations for affordable jeans for trans men. We surveyed our staff and the community about their favorite mens* jeans. It can take a lot of trial and error to find the perfect pair of jeans, but I promise they’re out there. Everybody is shaped differently, so these are just good starting places.

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Posted by on July 3rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Aromantic Asexual Agender


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“Aromantic Asexual Agender.”

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Posted by on July 2nd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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I Just Want to be Me


Someone wrote…

I may be genderqueer, but I’m still not sure. I was born female, but every time I say “I’m a girl” I feel almost like giggling, as though I’m saying a lie, and often I feel completely comfortable saying “I’m a guy”.

One of my friends was recently very rude to me and told me I should be dressing more feminine, and she and her girlfriend actually laughed about the subject of more existing genders other than male and female, which made me die a little inside, so I never told them about my doubts. I just wish I could be me, I feel pushed into a little box labeled “girl” and I just don’t wanna be there.

I just want to be ME.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Sharp Self


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Posted by on July 1st, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: If I’m a demigirl am I still a woman?


asks…

I’ve basically just begun my journey of seriously exploring my gender identity and trying to figure who I really am. I’m dfab and I’ve always identified with being a girl/woman, but I guess being just a woman always felt like it was an incomplete definition, like I always felt some kind of otherness in my gender too that was separate?

The label demigirl seems to mesh with a lot of what I’m feeling, but I’m just confused because because I’m trying to acknowledge the part of myself I haven’t before, without denying the part of me that identifies with womanhood.

Has anyone else struggled with this?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on July 1st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Could not be Cuter!


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“COULD NOT BE CUTER! #LGBTQ #pride #PrideTO #revelandriot”

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Posted by on June 30th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Freaky Friday


Someone wrote…

I am genderfluid and often feel dysphoric because I appear very female: high voice, hourglass figure (or so I’ve been told), and an unnecessarily-large chest.

My friend, however, is a cisgender female yet appears very gender neutral: low voice, slim hips, and a small, flat chest. She complains about her body, wishing she had mine, while I complain about my body, wishing I had hers.

We joke about the movie “Freaky Friday,” because if that happened, we would never want to go back.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 30th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Good Enough


Someone wrote…

I am a male/neutral-identified, female-bodied person and that should be good enough.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Just Me


Submitted by M, the model and photographer.

“Trying out some new androgynous ear jewellery without having to permanently change my ears!”

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Posted by on June 27th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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You. Have. Options.


Someone wrote…

Being genderfluid is…difficult. You have to constantly explain it, and you have to pass perfectly so people know you’re not just a tomboy or tomgirl. There’s a lot of pressure to prove that you’re legit.
But you also get a lot of freedom, I guess. You don’t feel like a guy today? Cool, you have other options. Maybe you’re a chick. Maybe both. Maybe neither. Who knows? You. Have. Options.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Ferret


Someone wrote…

My gender/orientation is like a ferret: all over the place, not caring if it’s “normal,” and somewhat threatening when people don’t understand it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Makeup Doesn’t Mean I’m A Girl


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“I’m expected to wear makeup around family because I have boobs. Poor reasoning, I know.”

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Posted by on June 23rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: Mum of transgender child needs advise


Slinky asks…

Hi – I’m the mother of a 15 year old daughter. My daughter only 8 weeks ago was in bikini’s on the beach wearing make up and hanging with her boyfriend – all fitting the gender stereotype.
My daughter now has discussed that she may be transgender, quickly followed by a very dramatic hair cut and the borrowing of her brothers clothes and refusal to shave leg or armpit hair.

My response was that we love her no matter what gender she is now or in the future, but that she should take a bit more time before she makes any more sudden changes to her look as she needs to process the feelings she is having. ( I also need some processing time but I didn’t say that to her ) She has linked with school counsellor and met once.

I would be really interested from anyone on this site who can inform and educate me so that I can be supportive to my daughter but also reassured that she isn’t jumping forward to quickly.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on June 23rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Don’t Know What Gender I will be When I Wake up


Someone wrote…

I don’t know what gender I will be when I wake up.

I don’t know if I am okay with my penis today, if I want to ignore it, if I wish that I had no genitals at all or that I could have a vagina.

I don’t know if I will freeze inside when somebody calls me “sir” or can just accept it.

I don’t know if I can enter a restroom and just pick the male door or if I have to stand there and convince myself that I should really pick the mens door because I would be socially awkward if I didn’t.

I don’t know if I can just wear what I feel like or if I am just wearing something to pass and not attract too much attention and hate it every minute.

I don’t know if I can live through the day and just pass as a man without hating myself.

I know that people can’t see me. They see what they understand and they wouldn’t understand me. I don’t even understand myself.
And all I can think is will I ever be looked at again and feel that someone gets me. Like they understand me and they like me for who I am. or even love me for who I am.

Seems so far away.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 22nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Don’t Assume


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Posted by on June 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Silent Reassurance


Someone wrote…

I’m genderfluid, born female, and I have very bad luck. Once, for the entire week of having my period, I identified as male. I cried almost every night, just out of sheer frustration and dysphoria, and I had to remind myself that men can have vaginas, too.

“Besides,” I silently reassured myself, “One thing about periods is that they temporarily boost your levels of testosterone, so technically I’m even MORE of a man.”

It helped. A little. But the dysphoria didn’t vanish for quite some time…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Should I Pretend to be cis for Job Interviews?


Z asks…

I’m having a very hard time trying to find a job.

I’m ftm and pre-T and very short so I definitely don’t pass as male. I’ve been out of work for 3 months, I’ve had 4 interviews, and no offers. I’m considering just pretending to be a cis female next time I have an interview so I can hurry up and get a job before I starve.
That’s how I got my last job but I had to deal with being called the wrong name and pronouns (which is why I don’t have that job anymore, I kind of had a mental breakdown and walked out in the middle of a shift).

I don’t want to deal with that again, but I need money like right now….

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on June 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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