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There’s Been Enough of a Pattern…


Someone wrote…

I’m a girl, I think. AFAB for sure, but maybe not quite a girl, per se. I dunno. Anyway.

When I was a kid, like 5 or 6, I dressed up as Cinderella for Halloween. Blue fluffy dress, sparkly tiara, the works. I even had that plastic button on the dress that says what princess dress this is. Girly as all get-out.

A couple years later, I became Jessie from Toy Story. The typical movie tomboy, of course. And I was redhead, with the perfect hair for Jessie’s braid. I even had the hat.

Then, when I was twelve, I dressed as Jack Sparrow – or rather, *Captain* Jack Sparrow – from Pirates of the Carribean. A fem!Jack, but Jack nonetheless. My friend Kevin did the braids.

Last year – age fourteen – I dressed as Dr. Spencer Reid, a character from my favourite TV show, Criminal Minds. I was nowhere near as handsome, nor did I pass at all, but still. I was a cute Spencer.

This year… I don’t know. I’m fifteen, and identify as genderqueer or genderfluid. All I know is, my parents don’t believe me because “[me coming out] is too sudden for this to be real.”

Why, though? There’s been enough of a pattern…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on September 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Traits


Someone wrote…

Yesterday I realized that I’m okay with dating people who are sexually attracted exclusively to members of my birth sex even if I am uncomfortable identifying under it.

I’ve come so far to know that no matter how their hormones and subconscious sees me, the love they have is, in the end, unrelated to my identity and more related to the traits I possess that make me embody that identity and embody my imposed ones. I’m good with that.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 31st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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A selfie of me


Submitted by Annica, the model and photographer.

” I am just sitting at my computer.”

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Posted by on August 29th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Closets


Someone wrote…

After 4 years of being out of the closet as non-binary, I’m going back in. I feel proud that I have become confident enough to know that my identity doesn’t have to be out there to be legitimate.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 29th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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My Journey – As Told Through Bras


Submitted by Celina / Cedric, the model and photographer.

“This collage is part of my finals art project. I chose gender roles as my topic, especially so, as I’m trying to find out if I’m trans or genderqueer right now.
You can see me wearing all bras I ever owned in pretty much the chronological order I bought them in. What I wanted to enact was a a transformation from typically female to typically male traits but it occurred to me in the making, that that’s exactly my own transformation and my own journey, that I seem to have been on longer than I realized.”

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Posted by on August 27th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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What’s Real is What I Want to be Called


Someone wrote…

I go by the initials of my chosen name, and because I work with little kids, a lot of them ask my “real” name. They clarify with “the name your parents gave you when you were born.” It was hard to figure out at first – how much of the truth should I give?

I’m a horrible liar – but I’ve learned to say that my chosen name is my “full name” and my initials are my “real name.” This makes sense to them, and is true! What’s real is what I want to be called, and my birth name doesn’t even have to be part of it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming out genderfluid


Aelin asks…

I’m genderfluid and 15 but I’m in the process of coming out. I’ve come out to some of my close friends and my 11-year-old brother, but not my parents. My parents are supporters of the LGBT+ community, but don’t believe genderfluidity exists and is ultimately a form of gender-questioning.

I’m unsure how to come out to them, but as I’ll be living with them for a while longer, I feel somewhat uncomfortable keeping it from them. Any advice?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on August 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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My name is Emily!


Submitted by Emily, the model and photographer.

” I’m transgender, I’m Native American (Chickasaw and Cherokee), I’m 17-years-old, and I’m a proclaimed politician in the United States.”

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Posted by on August 25th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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What is Gender Even??


Someone wrote…

What is gender even?? Pink and blue?? Makeup??? Smelling like sweat and tears if you’re feeling manly and a flower meadow when you’re feeling feminine?????

What mental differences do men and women have, and where do genderqueer folk fall?? What is the difference between penne pasta and ziti??? Is it really so random or like are there actual answers???

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 25th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Exploring


Someone wrote…

I think exploring my gender identity is exciting, but sometimes it seems pointless since I don’t know anyone I could ever express it to.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 23rd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Preferred Names


Someone wrote…

The struggle is so real. I recently figured out my preferred name (all I knew was that I couldn’t stand my birth name). However, I have ADHD, which sometimes makes me a bit absent-minded, to the point where I’ll refer to myself by my birth name, even in my head. Totally on accident, of course, but still:

…I literally forget my own name. *Single tear*

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Hello


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Posted by on August 20th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Cool


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Posted by on August 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Christine and the Queens


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Posted by on August 19th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Changes in Latitude


Someone wrote…

I’m woking on my podcast ChangesInLatitudesPodcast.blogspot.com and in doing it for almost a year now I’ve come to realize that I’m not a TransWoman, but more of a genderqueer/genderfluid person. Since this is a “large grey area” of description I’ll narrow it down by describing myself as a “feminine male”.

I feel more in tune and in touch with myself and more grounded.
Today I feel a bit more feminine as I’m waking up, but that may change as I start to move and get out of bed.

Thanks for being here.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 19th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Amandla Stenberg


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Posted by on August 18th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Question: How do I stop feeling stuck?


Liam asks…

Just out of high school, starting to transition from female to male. I have a new name, and I’ve come out to my parents (and close family). I can’t reasonably start therapy since I’ll be moving away to college in August.

But since I’ve told myself that, my dysphoria has been getting worse, and every misgendering instance at work has been driving me insane. I feel like I’m stuck – I can’t do any hormone therapy for another 2-3 years (singing is getting me scholarship money and I can’t risk that). In the meantime, I have no clue on how to feel as though I’m progressing in my transition. I’m caught between barely-supportive parents and college expenses, and I’m completely helpless.

Can anyone offer some advice?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on August 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Tattooed Arms


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Posted by on August 17th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Just Between you and me


Someone wrote…

My best friend started using my preferred name today! *squeals in delight* My family has no clue about any of it, though, so it’ll be our little secret, Internet. Just between you and me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on August 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Testosterone for genderfluid dysphoria?


K. Julian asks…

I am a genderfluid person with a very obviously “female” body (ie. big hips, large breasts, hourglass figure, high/soft voice, small shoulders, short). I have accepted that the world will always see me as a woman who occasionally cross dresses, as I can’t change my height, bone structure and don’t want to commit to top surgery (though I do think about it sometimes). I am lucky to work for an LGBTQ organization that accepts and acknowledges my identity, but I still experience occasional dysphoria about my features.

My question is about Testosterone. If I could begin to grow facial hair that might be enough. I would love a drop in voice but I am a trained singer and I’m afraid it would ruin years of work I’ve put into learning about my specific voice. Could someone with experience and/or knowledge about taking T give me a rundown of treatment options, general cost, pros/cons? I’d really appreciate it.

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on August 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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