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Question: Gender Identity


Adrian asks…

Hey, I’m 20 years old, currently female. However, though I’ve always felt neutral/cis about my gender, only recently have I felt like perhaps I’d be happier as male.

I don’t really have /dysphoria/ about my body, exactly, but there isn’t really any love their either. I suppose I was taught to accept what I have before even stopping to think about the possibility that I might not be female after all.

I like feminine things, but growing up, as well as recently, I’ve never really been /feminine/, you know? I’ve always seen myself as more gender neutral, but I’ve only just now stopped to think that maybe I could be trans? Like, it’s only really hit me recently that just because I can be feimine, doesn’t mean that I’m female.

But I feel like I’m too old to only just be figuring this out now. Is there anyone here that only discovered themselves at an older age?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 26th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Holiday


Someone wrote…

I am going to Disney soon. I just got a swimbinder for the first time and I can’t wait to use it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coming Out


asks…

How did you come out to your parents and loved ones?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 22nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Wish the World Could Have Known Me


Someone wrote…

I’m a married mother in my thirties. But I know in my heart that I am not a woman. I have known since I was a young child. I secretly called myself a masculine name, and dressed as unfeminine as possible. But I’ve never come out. I will never come out. No one will ever know. It is not an option. I am too scared. I just wanted to tell someone.

I’m a man.

My name is Caleb.

I wish the world could have known me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Old Pronoun


Someone wrote…

I flinch every time my family uses my old pronoun, which happens like five times a day. Every single time. I’ve gotta stop that but I don’t know how to have that conversation and I know they’ll complain. I don’t know if I can deal with that. But I can’t deal with this either.

I think they try to be supportive of me, or they wanna be supportive, but they’re bad at it, basically. I wish they were better.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Languages


Someone wrote…

Growing up with languages that have no gender options outside the binary made it really difficult for me to discover my identity (non-binary/agender).

The lack of words for who/what I am in my native tongue still makes is hard to get a proper sense of self, and I struggle with feeling unreal. I spent a lot of years during my teens and early twenties wondering whether I was transgender, simply because this was the only viable option or explanation for what I was experiencing, yet it never fit properly.

I have spent decades of my life trying to conform sufficiently to my assigned gender to pass as invisible. And invisible is what I became, not just to others, but to myself. If there is no word for you, if no one ever talks about you in language that actually includes you, it is difficult to feel like you are actually present in the world. In order to be seen, you need to be named.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 17th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: How to help a genderfluid friend


F asks…

What can I do to help a friend who realized they are genderfluid and don’t really know how to cope with it?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on April 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Ambiguity


Someone wrote…

For a long time I was really comfortable with the ambiguity of saying, “I’m just me.” Now, though, I have no clue what I am and I wish I could figure it out.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Walking Down the Street


Someone wrote…

Walking down the street, and meeting eyes with a stranger just long enough to see them give you a once-over and look confused.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on April 13th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Deer/Queer


Reposted from glitter.queers, on Instagram.

“thiS IS TOO CUTE ”

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Posted by on March 30th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Wheat Paste Art


Reposted from The Identity Project.

“Wheat Paste Art Project by Nathan (a sophomore in Gender and Women’s Studies and minoring in Social Justice) at The University of Minnesota that was done to fulfill a requirement in a class that would bring focus to queer identities that are marginalized by the mainstream gay movement. These posters were put up around campus for his final project. ”

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Posted by on March 27th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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In Other News


@shelbytwest wrote…

In other news: people still stare at me like I’m anomaly. Or simply fabulous. #noAutographsPlz #genderQueer

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Break the Binary


Reposted from ca_queer on Instagram.

“I can’t wait for this shirt! @selfmadecollective has these and many more! ”

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Posted by on March 24th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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You Know


Reposted from lgbtgivesmehope.

“[Image shows various LGBTQ* flags with a hand pointing forward and the text, ‘YOU know who you are, not society.’]

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Posted by on March 23rd, 2016 at 10:00 am

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One of Those Days


sheena_bandy wrote…

It’s one of those days where I feel like I shouldn’t have my femme body but I also want to wear a fancy dress #genderfluid #resultsmayvary

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 23rd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Something New


Reposted from Girls in the Men’s Room.

“Tried something new”

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Posted by on March 21st, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Yourself


Someone wrote…

Sometimes the most dangerous thing in the world is being yourself.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Woods


Reposted from notsobadboi_official, on Instagram.

“Keep walking!!
#andro #androgynous #androgyne”

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Posted by on March 20th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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office neutrois


Submitted by alyx, the model and photographer.

“myself in office, [sans coffee]
really enjoying today’s look.”

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Posted by on March 19th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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History


Someone wrote…

Gender is always shifting, even if it isn’t noticed throughout history by everyone. Trends, attraction, personality. What was considered feminine ten years ago is a sign of masculinity now. Who we can love, and who we can be; that has become something we are allowed to strive for now.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 19th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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