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Question: Is my gender fluid or flux??


Ryan asks…

A while ago I started identifying as agender or greygender. I definitely feel that a part of me is neutral and has an absense of gender. Some days or for a series of days, I feel more feminine and more connected to being a girl, but not completely. Then other days that feeling is absent. I recently found the terms “demifluid” and “demiflux” and I’m trying to understand those terms further. Any help would be very appreciated!

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Posted by on July 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Should genderqueer people apply for free binder programs?


Ellie/Eli asks…

I’m never sure as a poverty stricken genderqueer person if I’m eligible for some of the free binder programs I’ve seen. I want a binder – I have serious dysphoria on my male days – but they tend to say they’re for transmen only. I don’t want to take anything from my transmen bros – at least I feel comfortable in my skin sometimes – but I also feel really hurt by my physical state every time I’m a male with crazy huge breasts. What are your thoughts?

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Posted by on July 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: Passing as Genderless


A.Nonny.Mouse asks…

Hello. So, I’m Agender (Genderless) as I would like to be perceived that way. I don’t know how to ‘pass’ for genderless, as I’m afraid I will be seen as masculine. (I was born female.) I thought binding might help, but I’m unsure. Any tips/suggestions would be amazing! Thank you!

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Posted by on July 21st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Blue Eyed


Someone wrote…

Finally figured what I should have said when a person asked if I was a man or a woman and wouldn’t take ”no” for an answer, asking what I was born as.

”I was born blue-eyed.”

See, it might have worked, cos they were close enough to kind of see that my eyes are green or grey now.

Thanks, brain, but next time I’d like the delivery time to be somewhere under two weeks, if it’s all the same with you.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 20th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Clothes


Someone wrote…

Why do clothes mean so much? I want to wear a dress and be called a boy. Is that ok?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 18th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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The World


Someone wrote…

Gender is confusing. It doesn’t really matter, but people put so much weight on it. I never understood people’s obsession with gendered concepts and I grew up as a child who just did whatever I wanted to do,wore whatever I wanted, played with whoever I wanted. I imagined that everybody else thought the same way, but apparently not. Gender got blown up in my face during puberty when physically and hormonally and socially everything started changing around me as well as within me, and I was not comfortable. Even though the world around me hasn’t changed, my understanding of myself has and hey, I’m comfortable without having a gender and I like where I am in this world.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 16th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Question: I might be a transgender male and I have no idea what to do


Kris asks…

I’m 19 and I was born a female. I’ve always had this feeling that I would of rather been born a boy. But, I kind of pushed it back and went on with my life. But lately, I’ve been depressed.

For about a year now, I’ve been really caught up the fact I might be trans and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t think my mom would accept me, or my sister for that matter. But, I think my dad and my brother would be okay with it.
That being said I don’t even know if I want to “come out” or “transition” because I feel ashamed and embarrassed to be honest. I did tell my dad I was depressed about a month or two ago, and when he asked if I knew why, I just told him I don’t know. We talked about it a bit, I cried the whole time I told him and the rest of the day after.

I just feel like such a disappointment, and he was so supportive. He asked if I wanted to see a therapist or anything, and I told him no at the time, however, I think I should tell him I’ve changed my mind. That being said I would go to a therapist for depression. Will the therapist be able to tell I’m having gender identity issues?
Should I tell them?

I’m really unsure of how to approach any of this and all I’m feeling is upset, stressed and depressed about this situation because I know that transitioning is hard and I know that I would of rather been born a boy, but I don’t know if I would want to transition.

Also, I’m pretty much just attracted to guys, so would that make me gay, as well if I identified as a ftm? And if that’s the case wouldn’t it make sense to just be a female and straight?

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Posted by on July 15th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Coming Out


Someone wrote…

I’m 16 and i feel like i have to come out to my all the time. I first came out explaining what i feel and all the information i researched. It has been a year and they still do not get it. I have to “come out” all the time but they dismiss it as a “phase” or a “rebellion” and keep calling me their daughter. It makes me feel rejected or like i don’t know what i am talking about. It makes me feel like a fake or to young to know that I am transgender.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 14th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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They


Someone wrote…

They told me I was a girl, but I wasn’t a girl. They told me I was a lesbian, but I wasn’t a lesbian. They told me what to think, but I thought other things.

When I started asking questions, I was told I thought too much. When I started finding answers, they smiled, and waited for me to change my mind. When the answers didn’t change, their smiles faded. When I stood firm with my new definitions, they told me I was wrong.

They tell you so many things about yourself, and expect you to listen. But when you open your mouth, and speak your self, their ears are closed, and they do not hear you.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 12th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Customs


Someone wrote…

I’ve been using a binder for almost ten years now. Living in a small country in the north, this means that I have to buy them online from faraway places.

For the first time ever, I’m having to pay some sort of customs duty or whatever for a binder, so I set out on the national customs webpage and check out the product categories they have there.

… they categorise men’s and women’s clothes separately. That’s all the clothes categories they have.

I’m not sure where the injury is here, but I feel like this is adding insult to something.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 10th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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My Dream


Someone wrote…

I was born a female but I have a very very strong desire to transition to male. I feel so uncomfortable in a feminine body! My sexual identity is Pansexual, and I feel sexually attracted to any gender. I feel more sexual desire for other females and have often wondered if I was gay, straight, or bi. After settling with Pansexual and feeling a whole lot more at home, my only wish is to learn more about my dream of transitioning to the male gender and the facts of life of it. Thank you so much!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 8th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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casual outfits


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“my look, my style”

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Posted by on July 7th, 2016 at 10:00 am

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Question: How can I be butch in my body?


Charlotte asks…

I am a curvy woman. I have huge boobs (which I wish I didn’t have at all) and huge hips and a shapely body.

My whole life I’ve never wanted to present feminine. I feel like I only suit women’s clothes, but I hate myself in them. They just feel like they don’t belong to me. It freaks me out if people say they would consider me femme.

I haven’t presented butch since I was a child and I don’t know how to make my gender presentation feelings fit with my adult body. I work in an office and I need to look presentable. How do I do this? Please help me!

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Posted by on July 7th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Noticed


Someone wrote…

I’ve almost exclusively used non-gendered terms to refer to myself for years and no one’s ever noticed.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on July 6th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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My Presentation of Myself


Someone wrote…

I definitely feel like a male inside. but i always feel like people don’t take that seriously, because my presentation of myself is more ambiguous. I never really pay attention to society’s gendered clothing restrictions. I have to remind myself there are cis men who wear skirts too.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 4th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Openly Queer


Someone wrote…

“Openly queer” is a funny expression, because you can’t really be openly queer. Every time you meet someone new, you would have to say “Hi, I’m name, I’m queer.”

Like, how about just not assuming people are straight/cis?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 2nd, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Embrace


@UnexpectedAmy wrote…

Embrace trans folk who don’t take hormones or get surgery, because they represent thousands of years of lived trans experiences.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 31st, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Parents


Someone wrote…

Currently, I am thinking about my genderfluid partner, Sam and how they will tell their parents that they’re with someone of the same biological sex.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 29th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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Ocean-y


@elfhybrid_ wrote…

Genderfluid. You know what, it fits. Maybe non-conforming is a better, more accurate term, but fluid sounds very..ocean-y. I like it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 27th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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I Don’t Get It!


Someone wrote…

I don’t get it! Its too confusing. Boy or girl or neither or both I have absolutely no clue.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on May 25th, 2016 at 08:00 am

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