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Oscar


Reposted from Esther Moliné on Flickr.

“Oscar at the Pride.”

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Posted by on November 24th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Me is the only label I need


Someone wrote…

I wish that I could just be me – not my gender expression. I wish that I people would see me for me – not my clothes, my shoes, or hair. Why do I need to be labeled as anything other than myself? It has taken me so long to get here that I am happy being me – no matter what stares and dirty looks I get. “Me” is the only label I need.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 24th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The sunlight catches my side


Reposted from Non-Binary Selfies.

” <3 ”

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Posted by on November 22nd, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Pinpoint


Someone wrote…

I am having difficulty pinpointing the differences between genders.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 22nd, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Prideparaden


Reposted from Magnus Fröderberg on Flickr.

“Prideparaden, Stockholm, 2010″

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Posted by on November 21st, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: Recent Trans* male realization. Looking for some insight and advice.


Jay asks…

So this is all kind of new to me so I’m going to try do this in a way that’s easy to understand I guess…

I am currently 16 and I was born female.

Recently though I’ve felt really conflicted about my gender, I feel very male on the inside and I keep asking comparing everything to “If I was a guy”

This was actually brought on by my sexual preference, it’s very hard for me to explain but the best way for me to explain it is to say “I’m gay for guys but as a guy.”

Over the time I’ve been thinking about all of this, it’s the best way I can think of to explain how I’m feeling.

I’ve read up on trans* gender and gender dystopia to try gain understanding but I feel like I’m faking it, almost like I’m lying to myself but it feels right at the same time. I don’t know if the feeling is just because of my recent discovery or because I might be wrong but I didn’t even know trans people (besides transvestites) were a real thing until I googled my feelings on this.

I just want to know if this is normal or not because I’m starting to panic about this and I feel gross in my own skin and bras freak me out all of a sudden.

I don’t know if this is some sort of self realization but please any advice or help. ANYTHING at all will be greatly appreciated

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on November 21st, 2014 at 08:00 am

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A Free World


Someone wrote…

I wish for a world free of stereotypes. I can hardly even imagine how wonderful it would be if we could all just be the people we were born as, not the people we’re expected to be.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 20th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Waking Up


Reposted from Raised by Savages.

“I’ve started this thing where I take pictures as soon as I wake up no matter how terrible I feel or where I am. I plan on doing this for a month or so. I feel like this will be interesting.”

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Posted by on November 19th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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The skates are on!


Reposted from Monica Montecchi de Oliveira on Flickr.

“London Pride 2014″

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Posted by on November 18th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Somewhere in between


Someone wrote…

I’ve dealt with eating disorders for the past 7 years, and due to this I didn’t really hit puberty until very late, so the last year all of a sudden I got boobs. And it’s one of the most terrifying things I’ve ever experienced.

I hate them, it’s just not me. I’m not supposed to have boobs. It’s not who I am. Yet I have no problem at all with my female genitalia. And no one understands it, I’m somewhere in between.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 18th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Question: Coping with the wrong pronoun?


minefloozle asks…

I’m really sorry to be a downer, but I’m looking for some coping strategies. In the past couple of months I’ve begun slowly telling people that I’d like gender-neutral pronouns (I don’t want to come out on facebook because I’d like to get a job in science research), and while they’ve all been lovely about it, everybody keeps forgetting.

I’m too uncomfortable to correct them–I don’t want to be annoying, and it happens so much!–but it’s gotten to the point where some days I can’t hear the words “she,” “ladies,” etc. at all without feeling sick, no matter who the words are directed towards. How do you deal with casual misgendering?

(I’ve also just recently realized my gender identity, so there’s a lot of internalized doubt there already.)

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on November 17th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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The mostly female core


Someone wrote…

I’m starting on a quest and, wherever I find myself each day, a picture pales into insignificance next to where my soul is at. I have no picture that reflects my mostly female core.

It matters that she isn’t seen, although I think I’m genderfluid in terms of expression. You need to look into my eyes and try to see me – so few take the time. Having found her, I feel whole… and sick, for having her in me is impossible to express, and some will shun me if I try. But I love her… and, by extension, I love myself!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 16th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Who Do You Think I am


Submitted by Kai, the model and photographer.

” Me trying to understand what one may be thinking when they look at me …is he a boy a girl, is she a boy or girl. what is he/she?”

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Posted by on November 14th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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It hurts to be who I was born as


Someone wrote…

I don’t understand how I can be born into a body and reject the total thought of it being mine, but being unable to change it other than for a short time frame because soon enough I’ll want it to be mine again. How come I can’t just be male or female? Why cant I just decide on a gender instead of playing this weird flip flop thing with it?

I don’t want to have to scout out the only gender neutral bathrooms at the mall in order to feel comfortable peeing!

I just want to be normal but it hurts to be who I was born as. It hurts everytime I’m told “So you were only pretending to be trans” or every time the people I love introduce me as “she” as if “they” is an inconvenience. Even genderfluid people forget my pronouns and I just can’t correct them.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 14th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Riley, 21, Philadelphia


Submitted by Diana Scholl, via We are the Youth. Photo by Laurel Golio.

“I went and I tried to stay in a homeless shelter and hated it. It was really difficult with my gender or lack-there-of expression. The shelter wasn’t individualized for different gender expressions. And in order to apply for a job you had to go to these job classes, and I already knew how to do those skills. They wouldn’t see me at the place I was at. I was like, ‘this is dumb.’ I wanted to go back on the streets.”
Riley, Age 21, Philadelphia”

More about Riley’s story can be found here.

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Posted by on November 13th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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Question: Clothes Stores


Monster asks…

Do you have a favorite place to buy gender-neutral clothes? Somewhere that isn’t a hundred dollars for a shirt?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on November 13th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Paws


Reposted from attaboy-tomboy.

“This is my bff. But we can be friends too. :)”

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Posted by on November 12th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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My gender is me


Someone wrote…

I identify as Genderqueer. A lot of people tell me that I ‘look like a girl’ or I get the ‘but you’re a girl.’

The other one I got the other day after I’d explained my gender was ‘do you feel like a boy or a girl?’

Just because I look, dress, or act in a certain way it doesn’t mean that I’m not Genderqueer, not female, and not androgynous. My gender is part of me, but I am not my gender. My gender is me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 12th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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Suit Jacket and Feather Earring


Submitted by Wryly Tender, the model and photographer.

“I really enjoy mixing subtle gender cues/markers. My masculinity is super flamboyant and my femininity is pretty ferocious, so I try to dress in a way that reflects that.

It’s a tough balance to strike, but one that best communicates my non-binary genderqueerness.”

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Posted by on November 11th, 2014 at 10:00 am

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To track how I feel


Someone wrote…

Sometimes I want an app to track how I feel. Do I have patterns? When my body is getting ready to expel its uterine lining, am I closer to the feminine end of the spectrum? When I’m ovulating, am I more likely to bind my chest?

I just want a slider on the my phone so I can definitively look at how I feel, instead of just… feeling it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on November 10th, 2014 at 08:00 am

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