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The Ring


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Posted by on March 3rd, 2015 at 10:00 am

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A Real Gender


Someone wrote…

I am a real gender, I don’t need to pass and I am completely valid.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on March 2nd, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Going Out


Someone wrote…

I’m going out tonight in the clothes that I now find ‘normal’. I’m going to go shopping for groceries in the hope that when my ‘normal’ meets life’s ‘normal’ something extraordinary will happen… I’ll feel free!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 28th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: How do I Come out to my Family?


Matthew/Melisa asks…

So, the title should explain it all. I am a gender-fluid guy-to-girl (don’t know if that’s the correct expression) and have yet to come out to my family. This puts me in a bit of a tight spot, because I enjoy to crossdress when I am Melisa, but only get to when my sister isn’t home (although if she was listening she’d already know but whatever).

My mother, while religious, is okay with the LGBTQ+ group, but I don’t know how they’d react to a binary gendered son. Currently I’m on the brink of coming out, like it was a long jump off a cliff I can’t climb back up and my toes are off the edge. Can anyone provide that final push?

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on February 27th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Androgynous Style


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“Black and white photo of my androgynous style”

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Posted by on February 26th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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The Future Looks Forward.


Someone wrote…

Human being have the right to wear what they wish and gender has no place in clothing or fashions. Something happened when we, as a culture, created the mandate to put sex on the birth certificate the moment the baby was born. As much as I understand the purpose of it, we’ve confused that genitalia is always the same as gender. We’ve been led to believe gender is binary — either you’re just a rigid male or female … The transgender experience is a bridge that will connect the understanding of struggles and suffering of the rigid gender binary. Gender and gender expression is fluid. We should be Unisex.

The Binary must go and both genders wearing what the wish, not just woman but guys as well, it’s a two way street.

Wearing formally female made clothes is completely normal, they are just pieces of tissues that were cut and sewed in some forms that have no relativity with the sexual gender of the wearer. To wear make-up is similar to wearing a tattoo. Remember, there are no rules for judging your appearance, there are only closed (small) minds, too afraid of everything that breaks down the formalism, the conservatory views, in any aspects.

The future looks forward, not backward. Be part of the future. End the binary dress code.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 26th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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And the Day Came…


Submitted by Puk, the model and photographer.

” …and then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ANAIS NIN”

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Posted by on February 24th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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To be Able to Talk


Someone wrote…

I want to be able to talk to someone about not having a gender without worrying they’ll look at me and wonder why I’m dressed like a female! I’ve spent so much time figuring out how to present like I’m doing female okay, instead of failing at doing female, that I don’t have any energy left to figure out how to present in some other way that will match someone’s expectations of what I “should” look like.

It’s frustrating and confusing. I want a home, a place where I’m comfortable, but I don’t want to have to pass more presentation barriers to be accepted into it, to be seen as someone who “really” belongs.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 24th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binding Pain


Someone asks…

My first ever Underworks binder arrived in the post today. When I put it on, it felt like it was hurting my actual breast tissue. I’ve seen a lot of talk about chest pain, back pain, breathing trouble, etc. But nothing much about pain in breasts themselves.

Is this just inevitable? Or does it mean something is wrong?

My chest is really small already, so it feels like there is almost no fat around to spread out the pressure. The pain is concentrated in the middle of the breast, where the nipples are (but it’s internal pain, not surface/skin pain).

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on February 21st, 2015 at 08:00 am

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I Wish….


Nini wrote…

I wish I knew where to find all the other gender-queer people around this place… I want to spend time with just them, so I won’t have to feel so alone anymore.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 20th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Label Expectations


Someone wrote…

Gender is a strange thing to think about. Intuitively it really is just what it is…unfortunately there are those that tell you how it ‘should’ be. For me this has always been a stumbling block. Even though I am transgender I feel so much pressure taking this label. I mean…even the label itself has expectations attached to it.

I have found recently that the term genderqueer seems to fit better…there is less pressure.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 18th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Question: A Lack of Discomfort


Kass asks…

I’ve heard dysphoria defined as “discomfort or distress” at one’s assigned gender, but is that a prerequisite for being genderqueer? I’m beginning to think that I might not be 100% the gender I’ve always thought I was, but I’m not really “distressed” about it. I’m not uncomfortable with my assigned gender–but I’m also becoming less and less uncomfortable with exploring other gender identities in addition to it.

I haven’t had these feelings for very long, but could they be legitimate clues to me not being the gender I thought I was?

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Posted by on February 17th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Leanings


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Posted by on February 16th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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I Can’t Stop Thinking


Someone wrote…

So in a few days I will get my first shot of testosterone. And now I can’t sleep and I find this little four year old girl inside me, that cries and screams “please don’t destroy me!!!”

She is scared and I am also. I thought I got rid of the girl in me a long time ago. Now she is there. And I am surprised and scared to death with what I am about to do. I can’t figure if this girl is just this, a girl that wants to stay a girl… or is it just the fear from all that will happen… all I know is I need sleep, but I can’t stop thinking…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 16th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Haircut Day


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Posted by on February 15th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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Griot


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Posted by on February 14th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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I Don’t Need…


Someone wrote…

I don’t need a penis to be a man.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 14th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Braced


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Posted by on February 13th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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More Than Just the Binary.


Half of young people believe gender isn’t limited to Male and Female. (via Fusion.)

” 57 percent of female Millennials believe that gender falls on a spectrum, according to the poll, compared with 44 percent of men. And Millennials in the Northeast were even more likely to say so, at 58 percent. (In the South, that number fell to 42 percent.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on February 13th, 2015 at 08:00 am

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Street Style


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Posted by on February 12th, 2015 at 10:00 am

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